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tumblr friendships are hard to maintain like im sorry i know i havent talked to you in 5 months but you’re still super rad and i still consider us friends im just dumb

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Hey gang what’s up my name is Ste and I HAVE FINALLY RETURNED TO SELF SHIP TBLR! Please read THIS!!!!!! Before interacting with me.

Shares are really appreciated, thank you I love u have a day. (And sorry for the long wait x)

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i hope im a positive influence on somebody’s life

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Sorry to bother, is To My S/I still a thing? Or ANY selfship events? I’m trying really hard to find shippers in my fandoms and am having such poor luck!! :((

Hi there, anon!! It's so rare to see people mention To My S/I nowadays, so this made me smile!! Thank you for sending this ask!! :D

Unfortunately, I stopped hosting To My S/I a few years back due to my chronic illness deterioating, thus I got very inactive in the self shipping community and on Tumblr in general. I know there are some self ship events here and there, like for example F/Ovember created by @cherry-bomb-ships! There also used to be weekend events called F/O Takeover where people would RP as their own F/Os and people could send asks to eachother as some sort of AMA about their self ships! However the original host, myrainydayloves, seems to have left the community a few years back.

That being said, that doesn't mean those events can't be revived!! A couple of years back I said that if anyone wanted to start hosting their own To My S/I event, they have my full permission to do so!! The reason I started making To My S/I a thing is simply because I didn't see an event like that before and I knew that a lot of happiness and joy could be shared and could bring people together!! The self shipping community has become a lot more secluded and anxious in the recent years because of multiple reasons, and it's such a shame because this community is all about our shared love for fictional characters and storytelling!! And seeing how many people wish it was more open and welcoming again, I say be the change you wanna see in the community!! Start treating others how you want to be treated!! Change can happen, but it has to start somewhere, y'know?

Other than that, there are some Discord servers dedicated to self shippers in a specific fandom being promoted here and there, but I can't point to anything specific atm, sorry :(( Best of luck, anon!!

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Reblog to give prev a fucking break holy shit y’all

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Self shippers.

We need to relearn the balance between not wanting to share your f/o and accepting that there will be other people out there who also ship with your f/o. I've been around a long time and I'm seeing people slipping back into this mindset of hating "doubles" (tbh I don't even like the use of that word for people who share an f/o) and not only that, but getting upset at others who may support that ship as well. You may not want to hear this, but it is selfish to expect a friend to cut ties with one of their other friends only because that other friend of theirs has the same f/o as you. Self ship "doubles" are not out to take away your f/o or be more popular than you, they just want to enjoy themselves as much as you do.

Block and move on, put tags and urls on your filtered content, write out your angry thoughts in a word doc or to a close friend. But please try to be a bit kinder. This is a community based on love. Remember that.

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the dash is in tatters. please say something nice to the person you reblog this from. it's so sad to see you all so sad

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I know I'm still struggling to stay active here, but I promise you guys I'm not dead!! I'm still vibing with f/os and all!!

Also off-topic it's my birthday today, wahoo!! :D

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imagine your f/o celebrating your birthday with you! they're more than happy to do something special for you if you want them to! or, if you'd rather keep it lowkey, they're also happy to do that.

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Okay redid this poll a little to be clearer about what I was asking

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ok. because my whole like mutual group is all different interests rn. reblog and tag what interest/fandom/media you associate with prev that you've never been into, but know some about because of them

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thinking about the people who vanished without a trace. The mutual who reblogged something as usual and never came back online. The friend on discord who just disappeared, and when you go to check on them their account is deleted and theres no other way to contact them

I look out of my window and hope you are okay, I wish you well and Im sorry I didn't get to say goodbye.

I hope we meet again someday but until then. Stay safe. Stay alive. Be well.

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Happy Juneteenth!

As your resident black self shipper, here's some stuff to remember this day:

Stop using simp as a description for yourself and you faves.

Stop fetishizing your black and brown faves (stop making them hypersexual and objectified and angry all the time.)

Either write more black and brown traits into your reader inserts OR stop writing EXCLUSIVELY white traits onto your reader inserts (Or do both. Both is good.)

Artists! Erasing your faves black traits (Shrinking their nose, straightening their hair, lightening their skin) is racist !

And most importantly: Support your local black and brown self shippers.

ALL of your black and brown self shippers in the community! Wlw, mlm, t4t, disabled, and so much more!

But that's all from me! Have a great day!

[White people can reblog but don't comment. Freaks will be blocked and survivors will be shot.]

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I’m sure someone’s asked this before, but...

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im being so fucking for real and i need you guys to boost and reblog this you nonblack selfshippers have got to stop using "simp." you have to. its african american vernacular english (aave) which in colloquial terms means its not for you to use. in a space already hostile towards shippers of color, youre just making it more inhospitable to black selfshippers by appropriating our language. say youre crushing. say youre obsessed. say youre head over heels, say youre a sucker, say youre infatuated, just stop saying simp. for the love of god

{nonblack shippers [even other shippers of color] i do NOT want to hear your opinion on this post or hear about how you "didnt know" or are "changing it right now." just be an ally and LISTEN instead of needing to add your piece.}

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A person is still harassing my friend in this community!

Remember this post I made about @selfshipbeware?

Well they're back under a new burner! @harasspatrol is their newest account made to harass Steorra and they're just as disgusting and rude as ever.

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Why, here's their post so far!

And here's them already trying to come after me again!

And here's asks they sent to Steorra!

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Everything I said in my last post applies to this post here.

@harasspatrol is just another burner made by a vindictive person to harass Steorra and continue to spread baseless accusations that they refuse to give any sort of proof for.

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A person in this community has been harassed for years now and I am tired of it.

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I have a friend @waymorehandsome who has been being harassed and alienated for years now by someone who has had an unhealthy and disgusting grudge against them that started over a fictional character. It spiraled into disgusting and unsubstantiated claims of pedophilia, abuse, harassment, and other things.

My friend has been dealing with this constant abuse for years now, and I'm so sick and tired of it because never once have I seen any proof of these claims.

Do you remember the @selfshipbeware account that was up recently and only existed to to harass Steorra?

I had a conversation with them, that they initiated, and saved the whole thing. Plus their awful replies in one of their posts.

Link here to an Imgur album also

This is obviously a burner account but I firmly believe this to be the person who has been harassing Steorra for years now, especially with how quickly they admitted to not having proof and doing this because they hate them. I don't have absolute proof on that though, so I will not say their username because I cannot fully prove it.

If you still want to block Steorra after reading this, fine. Please just at least see how this person is acting when I ask for even a tiny bit of proof and just their attitude in general.

If you want to block me or whatever after reading this, fine I guess. I'm only here showing what happened when this account spoke to me and if you don't like me standing by my friend that is your decision.

Also, if there's actual proof of this person's claims, show it to me. I can admit I'm in the wrong if that's the case, but until then I am standing by my friend.

Thanks for your time in this awful matter.