#Red Flags in Relationships

[sarahwriterx]

I hope he will be okay with his new wife.

[chaoscoffeeandchisme]

My Narcissistic Ex: Red Flags I Ignored Until It Was Too Late.

Alright, y’all, buckle up because this is one for the books. It’s a story about listening to your intuition, thinking critically, and learning how to spot a narcissistic ex before they flip your world upside down. Spoiler alert: back when I was 17, I had no idea what a narcissist even was. The internet wasn’t the self-help haven it is now (and TikTok therapists weren’t a thing). Or maybe it was,…

[sikapa41]

4 Relationship RED FLAGS IN MEN You Should NEVER Ignore!

4 Relationship RED FLAGS IN MEN You Should NEVER Ignore!…In this dating and relationship advice video, I will give you the relationship red flags that should not be overlooked. You may see these on first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process. Take heed to these dating tips, and be sure to watch the entire video. I don't want you to automatically run when you see these red flags…

[lucifermurdock]

Legendary Ghosting in Dating: Modern Relationship Series 02

🎬 Opening Scene: Jab We Met… and Then Didn’t! Picture this: You match on a dating app. The chats are smooth, the memes are flowing, and you both are vibing harder than an SRK-Kajol reunion. Everything is perfect. Or so you think.Then suddenly—BOOM! 🚀 They vanish. No breakup message, no closure, just… gone.Left on seen, more confused than a kid watching Christopher Nolan’s movie for the first…

[what-iz-life]

A person doesn’t have to only drain u with arguments and fights. They can drain u with lack of communication, lack of trust, lack of empathy, lack of apologizing, lack of acknowledgment and lack of fulfilling your love language. Know the red flags

[starscream-is-my-wife]

Tfw when ur ex bf turns out to be a psychopath and now you remember all of the red flags

Edit: I made a little comic on this

[susitseart]

Déjà vu.

This has happened before.

This what you do to me. This what I let happen to me.

Over and over again.

Because this is love, isn't it?

We can become so very important to each other. We to someone else. Someone else to us. So important that the other becomes the only one for us. The only one we want to keep forever.

There is nothing stronger or more beautiful than this. Not in our eyes, for whom love is everything.

That is why a chain forms between us. A chain to bind us together with love. That unites us with one common heart.

This chain we free beings choose to wear. If it only means that we get to be together with the one we love.

But what if one day the chain becomes very heavy to bear? When the other end of the chain becomes angry. When that other, who is so dear to us, chooses to hurt us.

Who cares? Mistakes happen.

For however, that other apologizes to us. Tells us they didn't mean it.

We know that. We know, because everyone makes mistakes. We may cry, discuss and make promises. That's why we say everything is okay.

What does this one time matter?

Or second time.

The third time.

The fourth time.

Who cares how many times we are hurt.

After all, our loved one apologizes to us. After all, there's this chain between us.

A sign that we love each other.

But even if we, blinded by love, can't see it, that love between us gets tarnished. Tarnished and rotten. Every time we are hurt. Because beyond our blindness, there is still this part of ourselves that loves ourselves. Part that knows that in this life, we ​​deserve only the best. Not pain disguised as love.

The love between us is tarnished. Crumbling. Until, hopefully, it breaks.

It must break. Before it's too late.

But all this pain for nothing. If only we had known that the chain doesn’t have to get tarnished and rotten first. It doesn't, because the chain can be broken at any time we want. Any time. When we are no longer good for each other.

It may be the scariest thing we ever do. But the chain can be broken.

So don’t let déjà vu happen to you.

Don’t.

Is déjà vu real to you?

[thefallenangel2008]

I have a feeling that Mabel would be that one girl who got into at least one toxic relationship in middle school/highschool and wouldn't leave the guy. Her friends and Dipper would tell her to leave him but Mabel would just try to defend him and be all "but guyssssss, I know he made a few jokes about me infront of his friends, and yeah, they kinda hurt, but he gave me these flowers and this cute teddy bear to apologize!!! :((((" When in reality it's just love bombing. The Grunkles get a wind of this on the boat. Stan is pissed- no, he's furious, because how dare that boy treat his beloved niece that way, and Ford gets alarmed because, in a way, that's eerily similar to what Bill would do to him. At some point Dipper would find the guy's phone number (he went through Mabel's phone) and gave it to them. Naturally, as the loving and caring Grunkles they are, they sent death threats to that boy. He broke up with Mabel soon after. Mabel would be sad at first and potentially cry herself to sleep, but then as she would start to distance herself from that, she would realize that "yikes, did I really not see the red flags?"

[queen-of-signs]

The Catalyst Synastry That Triggers Your Destruction (and Rebirth) 🔥💀

Note: These are just my personal observations over the years and should not be taken as absolute truth. Astrology is complex, and every connection is unique. Take what resonates and leave the rest. Lemme know in the comments!😉

Some people come into your life to love you. Others? To flip your entire existence upside down, burn it to the ground, and force you into a self-help era you never signed up for. Coincidence? Nope. It’s synastry. Let's see some relationship synastry overlays/aspects today!

Their Pluto in your 1st - They enter your life, and suddenly, you’re going through the biggest glow-up or hit rock-bottom and get existential breakdown of your life. No in-between.

Their Mars in your 8th - This person activates your deepest fears, kinks, and paranoia all at once. Either you really love them or hate them with a passion.

Their Moon in your 12th - You feel so connected to them and feel like they can read your mind. It’s because they live rent-free in your subconscious, triggering all your past-life trauma like a fever dream. You won’t realize the damage until they’re gone. And then? Good luck healing.

Their Saturn in your 7th - This one feels like a serious relationship. Until you realize that "serious" actually means suffocating, karmic, and possibly an unpaid internship. They either build you up or age you 10 years. Maybe both.

Their Venus in your 6th - They enter your life, and suddenly, you are doing their tasks like it's your part-time job. They love you. But they also love how convenient you are.

Their North Node in your 10th - Either a career change or a scandal. You will evolve, but first you will suffer. This person can either tear your public life apart and get you a bad name in the society or make you powerful. No in-between.

Their Neptune in your 5th - Love at first sight. Until it’s delusion at second sight. You were convinced they were your soulmate. Turns out, you just ignored all the red flags and created a fanfiction in your head.

Their Mars in your 4th - They feel like home until you realize it’s a home with constant fights. Your family probably hates them or vice versa. Childhood wounds are activated & parental issues are triggered. It’s not just passion, it’s war in your safe space. The relationship is either deeply healing or emotionally exhausting.

Chiron conjunct Moon - They expose every emotional wound you thought you healed. You cry. A lot. Sometimes over things you didn’t even know hurt. It might feel comforting and cruel at the same time.

Mars opposite Moon - They push every emotional button you have. Fights so devastating your ancestors feel it. The passion is insane. The emotional stability is nonexistent. You leave the relationship either stronger or in shambles. They make you feel wanted, desired, and constantly misunderstood.

South Node conjunct Sun - You know them maybe from a past life or maybe from a nightmare. They drain you emotionally, mentally, sometimes financially. You owe them something. You’re not sure what, but it’s ruining your life. You try to leave. You can’t. Not until the karma is paid. When it’s over, you’re relieved.

Uranus opposite Venus - You are both obsessed and repulsed at the same time. Passionate one day, distant the next. You never feel bored but also never feel safe.Just when you think it’s stable, BOOM. Another unexpected breakup. It ends suddenly. And you’re left wondering WTF just happened.

Moon opposite Uranus - One day, they adore you; the next, they disappear. You never know what’s coming next which is terrifying. The emotional highs are exhilarating and the lows are devastating. You’ll never be the same after this one.

Neptune conjunct Mercury - Their words sound like poetry. Until you realize it’s just well-crafted confusion. Miscommunication is a core feature of this relationship. They either gaslight you into a dreamlike state or open your mind to new realities. Maybe both. When it's over, you realize you feel in love with an illusion.

Venus square Pluto - Instant attraction or feels like you stepped on a landmine. This connection will ruin your peace and possibly your bank account. You don’t “get over” this one. You just learn to live with the emotional damage.

✨ Wanna know more about your birth chart or your relationship? DM me for a synastry or complete birth chart reading ✨ and check out my pinned post for pricing! 🌟💫

[bitchy-craft]

PICK A CARD: what red flags you should look out for

Hello and welcome to this reading! Here I will tell you what red flags you should look out for. I hope you enjoy this reading!

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Pile 1:

You have to be careful for people who are passive-aggressive, or say rude things but try to cover it up with a fake compliment. Those people do not have good intentions toward you, not at all. Those kinds of people, who make you feel a bit bad even though ‘they don’t mean it that way’ are people you should not have in your life, people you should be avoiding. Such people do mean it the way you try to convince yourself that they don’t. They do talk down on you, they intend to make you feel bad about yourself and/or the things you do but do it in such a way you feel like it’s just your insecurities talking, and that in actuality they care about you and want you to do well. Such people are jealous of you, they don’t want you to succeed.

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Pile 2:

Be wary of people who give you lots of attention in a short amount of time, people who give you a bunch of gifts and make you feel so loved you don’t know what to do with yourself. You are prone to being love-bombed due to your wish for love, due to your need of receiving it. You are a tat bit naïve when it comes to these things, and it is important for you to keep in check whether something is normal, and be aware that the moment this attention and love suddenly dies down it is an attempt of getting you emotionally reliant on them. They want you to need them, to crave and beg for their attention. They want you to be completely engulfed by them, not knowing what to do if you don’t get their attention.

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Pile 3:

You have to look out for people who ask you for things; specifically money. In general, if people ask things of you whether they are notes from a class, carrying something for someone, helping them understand things, or borrowing some money, that is all fine and you are allowed to do those things in order to help the people you care about, but be careful how much you do it and in what amounts. You need to get things in return, at least a little bit, in order to have an equal relationship with one another. You shouldn’t get taken advantage of like that, and your kindness and need to help people can get you in such situations. If people ask you for money once it is fine, but make sure it isn’t a pattern that keeps repeating; especially if they don’t give you the money back on time or at all.

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[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Normal Friend Behaviour.

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[what-iz-life]

Stop chasing people and forcing connections. No one is too busy for the person they love. No message is a message, no response is a response. Their lack of effort is their lack of interest in you. Their lack of response is your lack of importance to them. Let them go and move on.

[hualianschild]

the jade of lan clan and white lotus of xianle seems to have a type

I've been waiting to see how long it takes for others to talk abt the sqq erasure 💀

[fishnapple]

Relationship Green flags/ Red flags

This list was a part of another post but I want to make a separated one for it, to serve as a reminder, for myself, and for anyone who needs it. I will update the list if I think of anything more to add.

Green flags

When the couple is also best friends with each other

When they're genuinely curious about each other

When two people walk side by side, not one in front and one behind

They protect each other in front of other people no matter how wrong the other person is (not counting abuse or other legal crimes), but still be able to see the wrong doings clearly.

When both partners put the other's well-being at the top of their priority list

When the first person comes to your mind when you want to share something good or bad is them

When there's a spark in the eyes when they look at the other person

Listen attentively when the other is talking

Ask how you feel

When both can feel comfortable being honest (able to voice their concerns, worries, fears, hidden dreams, aspirations etc.)

Encourage and support each other towards betterment

Celebrate each other's happiness

Keeping their words

Willingness in solving problems

When both are willing to compromise and work together/to face the ugly sides of the relationship or of the self and the other person/ to communicate/ to learn

When both are proactive in the relationship, taking turn to suggest fun things to do, where to go, what to eat etc

All kinds of virtues like honesty, patience, kindness, loyalty, respect, etc. (not just towards you only, but to others in general also)

Love children

Love animal

Consistency: putting in a consistent effort, not being wishy-washy

Fun & humour

Feeling safe in each other's presence

Respect for boundaries and consent

Emotional compatibility

The feeling of being at ease with each other & trust (you can have all the above but without these two feelings, it's kind of meaningless)

and many more.

Red flags

When one is talking and the other is looking elsewhere

When one is in front while the other is behind

Being judgmental and opinionated, about all kinds of topics

Criticising the other person's taste, hobbies, habits constantly. Especially in front of other people.

Calling names (not the cute endearments)

Cruelty & Violence of any kind (obviously)

Silent treatment (refusing to communicate)

Inconsistency

Being avoidant, ghosting (at this point it's not a red flag, it's an ending)

Empty promises. NATO (No Action - Talk Only)

Condescending

Tell you what you're feeling

Unwillingness to compromise/ to understand, unequal effort, one-sided conversations

Lack of care for the well-being of the other person

Lack of appreciation for the other person's achievements and success

When you're low on their priority list ("I will have time for you after I'm done with this or that, after I met with my friends and other important people in my life")

Feeling like you have to tip toe around the other person

Feeling like you have to do something to get the other's attention

Asking the other person for permission to do something like buying something, meeting someone, going somewhere (I'm not talking about getting consent to do something with each other or getting something related to the other person, it's about decisions that normally one can make independently for oneself)

Jealousy & possessiveness (the idea can seem attractive on paper but the reality is usually not)

Demanding to know every secret, every password, getting access to every personal space of the other person

Lack of respect for boundaries and consent

Passivity (waiting for the other to initiate, never initiate anything)

"Why are you doing this to me?", victim mindset, constant blaming

Dating someone while thinking that person is not attractive or up to one's level or vice versa, thinking that person is way above one's level (the idea of "level" is damaging, both ways of thinking can bring illusions, unrealistic expectations and power imbalance)

Lack a healthy sense of self

and many more.

[atlalasassy]

I want a t-shirt that says ‘I read All For the Game and all I got was unrealistic standards for relationships’

[spaciebabie]

"THATS your man? the guy digging in his ear????"

"yeeeeeesss 😍"