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[aspecmemesdaily]

Source | Day 122

[starsthewitch]

to all the aphobes who think that asexuals cant masterbate or at least enjoy sex, i’m going to recite a quote from ace youtuber, David J Bradley because he said it way better than i could.

“Attraction and Libido are two different things. I can masterbate for the pleasure-able, physical experience of that and still not feel sexual attraction towards other people.”

ace people aren’t broken or they haven’t found the right person yet. sometimes, people just want to enjoy pleasure

whether it be with themselves or someone else that they don’t necessarily have sexual attraction to, and that should be something thats completely normal

but to some allos, its not

why are you mad that WE aren’t getting laid or not feeling sexual attraction for the people we ARE laying with??

as an ace girlie myself, i don’t want sex. do i masterbate? yes! the only real time i think i would actually have sex with someone is if we have known each other for a long while. like long. then never have sex again

and so i can get to say “at least i didn’t die a virgin” on my death bed

that’s it, and thats all

[beepbeepmfkr]

The "why do they need their own word?" Debate is just repackaged "ace/bi people are just spicy het" & "nonbinary people are just cis but a little to the left" & etc. etc. etc. like my brother in Christ we are a Queer Community our whole Thing is making up words and going "yeah that feels good. That feels like me" THATS IT.

If you don't like someone's words Who Cares lmfao just talk to someone else and quit being a fucking Weirdo 😂

[aedilonline]

Be Careful ace kings and queens, a witch is after you

[abcwordsurge]

are you ever so obsessed with something that it makes you feel physically ill. like it gets harder to breathe. butterflies in my stomach. the name of my favorite character makes my heart beat faster. is this what attraction feels like for you allo people

[ok18mii]

you don't have to have sex in your relationship for it to be successful <3

[aroaceqoutes]

Aroace culture is not knowing when someone is dating even though to others its "very obvious"

[pawfulofwaffles]

Found this gem in my camera roll

[thebluekid-underyourbed]

I just saw a post on my Tumblr feed. It's overarching argument was "love is what makes us human, but everyone experiences some kind of love. There's lots of types of love, ex. Love for family, friends, pets, food, hobbies, etc and everyone experiences love for something in some way"

Okay. So. No ! Like I understand the full point that you're trying to establish, but I think it's wrong (and ofc, no hate to OP).

(Large rant under the cut)

Firstly, some people simply do not experience love. Some people quite literally cannot/will not ever experience love. That's okay. It's something that lots of people are comfortable with, and nobody should feel like their lack of love needs to be supplemented with other things that they enjoy

Second, you can't define people's very own experiences of love for them. Lots of people (myself included) reject the word love. That being said, I personally do use the word love to describe some aspects of my life. I use the word love towards my family, my hobbies, towards random passive objects, whatever I want. HOWEVER, other people may not. Other people might feel exactly the sensation that an allo person feels, but they don't need to call it love. That's how platonic attraction works for me: I feel what people normally describe as friendship, but it feels wrong for me to call that love. That doesn't change what I feel, I just don't want to call it love.

Last, and in my opinion most importantly, is that it's not the point. That's never been the point. It's not about whether someone feels love or not. The real question is why is anyone trying to impose their own opinions of humanity on anyone else. It shouldn't matter either way, and I don't need love to justify my humanity - I am inherently human because I am human. I refuse to define anyone's humanity for them, with or without love, and I refuse to be defined by others. Love does not make us human, our humanity makes us human. Anyone who can't understand the value of inherent humanity shouldn't be talking about anyone else's.

So the next time you feel like someone just "isn't admitting that they love" and that "all people love something, so that is what makes us human", remember that it's not up to you. Who are you to define me. Who are you to tell me that I'm human because I don't feel love. Who are you to tell me that I'm human because I do feel love.

I know what I am, and don't need anyone's permission to be human.

[vanity-boy]

Being acespec and also a sub is so silly goofy to me sometimes cuz you could go and call me a faggot and slap me across the face a few times and I’d be like “yes sirr my dicks hard <33” but if you place actual porn in front of me it invokes no reaction I’m just like “okay.. they’re having sex?” like if you take ur clothes off without any foreplay idc how romantically involved we are Im just sorta gonna be like “ight you want a cookie? Congrats on being naked”

[aspecmemesdaily]

Source | Day 121

[logicaldelta]

"You wouldn't understand because

You've never been in love,"

Not in a traditional sense, no,

But is it not love that flows through me?

The way I'd once viewed you as my sun,

The others being my stars

Is that love not enough for you?

"Of course it's not"

I speak to myself

As I hold her in my trembling arms

The dark room empty

Yet suffocating

Is it not love,

how I nursed you back to health?

When you couldn't move or stand?

"Not enough for them,"

I speak once more,

To the child in my grasp

"Why can't they see that I do know love?"

She whispers into the dark

"It's not your fault,"

I reply simply, as tears run down her cheeks

"Love is complex, they don't know themselves,"

The words fall on deaf ears

A shattered soul

Lost in the dark

I hope someday she'll see,

And I know that she is me

Love isn't that one thing,

A wedding with a ring

It's all around us,

Flourishing, blooming

In the winds that spread pollen,

The stars that shine at night

In the arms that hold us closely,

When nothing seems quite right

I know there's love within me,

Though maybe not your kind

And I hope one day you'll see me

When you stop being so blind

Love is the laughter shared,

The tears we shed together

It's the moments that we think of

When we can't stand the weather

I love all and none,

And sometimes too much

Never nothing

And it helps me see

Though you'd never agree

That I am love,

And love is me

[pinkspacevampire]

How do you like KNOW if you're on the aromantic or asexual spectrum because I think I might be but like how do I KNOW for sure.

[perfectlyfadingmusic]

Being the extra friend is so depressing. There are times where I feel like my friends bring me along out of pity or because no one else was available. Even more depressing or awkward is being asked to be a bridesmaid. I've been a bridesmaid 5 times and been to so many bachelorette parties and it feels so sad and awkward. And I cant say no! Always the bridesmaid never the bride. I think I'm aro or aroace...im somewhere on that spectrum so marriage probably ain't in the cards but still :-/

Thank you for coming to my ted talk vent on loneliness and being greysexual or maybe demi? I just don't know.

Hi babes i just wanna let you know you're so valid.

Despite having rb-ed that last post and feeling over 90% confident in my asexuality and aromanticness, I get sad thinking that I'll probably never find anyone I want to marry. Though I would love to be single the rest of my life, I can't deny the aspects of loneliness and fomo.

I've spoken to my close friends about the importance of friendship and maintaining that importance, especially when I'm not planning to get coupled up the way they plan to. It's tough being in conversations where everyone's talking about their love interests/SOs and you don't have much to contribute, but making your friends aware of this can make a hell of a difference (it has for me!)

Finally, I'm in a stage of life where a lot of friends got engaged this summer, and even though I do have a pang of sadness looking at myself, it's definitely beat out by the overwhelming joy and happiness I feel for the newly engaged couple, my friends. And romantic love is definitely not all a person needs, despite what the songs might say. It means a lot when someone picks out their closest friends, people who are deeply important in their life, and invites them to be their bridesmaids and walk down the aisle with them. That connection is not non important and not devoid of love. Find friends and people who choose to love you and to choose you, regardless of how you can love them back.

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