#daughters of narcissistic mothers

[littlecakeclub]

Two Braids, Two Mothers, Two Traumas - Tangled vs. KPDH

There’s something quietly powerful about scenes where a mother figure braids a girl's hair. It’s intimate. Symbolic. And sometimes deeply unsettling.

Both Tangled and K-Pop Demon Hunter have versions of this moment, but what they reveal about care, control, and trauma couldn’t be more different.

In Tangled, the hair-braiding scene is part of a power move. Mother Gothel showers Rapunzel with “affection,” only to undercut her at every turn. She’s the textbook narcissistic parent: she isolates Rapunzel, feeds her fear of the outside world, makes herself the only safe haven. And she does it all under the illusion of love. But it’s not love. It’s control. It’s ego. Gothel isn’t raising Rapunzel for Rapunzel’s sake—she’s hoarding her like a resource. Her youth. Her power. Her usefulness.

The hair isn’t just a symbol of femininity or connection here. It’s also Gothel’s main tool of exploitation. The braid becomes a twisted tether. Something that looks tender but is rooted in manipulation.

Now look at K-Pop Demon Hunter. Celine braiding Rumi’s hair hits a lot of the same visual notes but the emotional context is very different.

Celine isn’t Rumi’s birth mother. She raised Rumi after the death of her best friend. And while she clearly loves Rumi, it’s not a simple love. It’s tangled up (no pun intended) with grief, loyalty, fear, and internalized beliefs she never fully unpacked. She was raised to believe demons are evil—full stop. But her best friend loved one. And that daughter, Rumi, carries a demon inside her.

Celine didn’t cut ties with Rumi. She stayed. She tried. But her way of surviving the dissonance was to dissociate. To emotionally separate the part of Rumi she couldn’t understand or accept. That’s not healthy, but it’s not malicious either. It’s trauma. It’s fear masked as protection.

Where Gothel manipulates Rapunzel to feed her ego, Celine ends up passing down her own pain to Rumi—not out of cruelty, but because she never learned how not to. It's intergenerational trauma, not narcissism. And that makes the hair-braiding scene so charged.

It’s also striking where the two confrontations take place. Rapunzel faces Gothel in the tower : a space literally built to preserve Gothel’s ego, a prison crafted for control. Rumi, on the other hand, confronts Celine under a tree—which often stand for family, lineage, and memory. If towers isolate, trees connect. It feels fitting. Their pain was passed down, but so was the chance to stop it.

In both stories, the braid symbolizes a maternal bond. A transmission of femininity. But in Tangled, that bond is laced with lies and exploitation—you have to break it to heal. In KPDH, it’s more complicated. The trauma is real, but so is the love. The bond hurts, but it’s also a site of care. Something inherited, tangled, and tender. Something you don’t escape but slowly unravel. You learn to name it, break the pattern, and heal.

You escape from Gothel. You break the cycle with Celine.

[insummerigrieve]

Prozac Nation (2001)

[wildeasteroid]

being the daughter of a boy mom is the worst fucking fate known to mankind

[lisablack000]

The parentified daughter is not mature beyond her years. She is developmentally displaced. Pulled out of her own unfolding to manage the emotional lives of the adults around her.

She becomes useful, attuned, pleasing, over-functioning. Not because she’s gifted; because she’s adapting to survive.

Later, she’s praised for being reliable. She’s the one people depend on. Pure Gold. But underneath the competence is a nervous system wired for collapse.

She doesn’t know how to receive. Only how to anticipate. She confuses intimacy with obligation,

connection with control.

She arrives in therapy when the structure starts to buckle. When the mask no longer holds. When grief, rage, and hunger begin to leak through the seams.

This isn’t a crisis that needs to be fixed. It’s the return of the self she abandoned to stay loved.

This is the beginning… ✨

[the-insatiable-poet]

I look in the mirror and I see my mother staring back at me;

is this all I’ll ever become or am I what she could’ve been?

- I cannot tell and neither can she

[lostmf]

I wish I could meet you in the street

Maybe one of us will be lost and would stop the other to ask for directions

We will share a laugh on how we are the worst people to ask for directions

You would feel comfortable enough to have coffee with me

I would remind you of your daughter that looks like me

Maybe you would say some kind words about her

Maybe you would ask me for advice on being a better mother

Maybe if I met you as a woman and not a mother we would like each other

I pray that you never know how much you hurt me

I hope you never realize how you tortured and broke me every day

It would kill you mother

I hope you never know

[bitikoyku]

In a home where cold indifference finds its place,

A child lights a flame with a fragile grace.

Burning memories of what could have been,

To warmth the heart that once locked within.

Seeking solace in the fire's glow,

A warmth they'd never come to know.

In the crackling grow, they find a space,

A fleeting comfort in the fire's embrace.

[pumpkin-the-girlie-girl-vixen]

Topics Of Childhood Traumas Endured From An Abusive Narcissistic Mother: Knowledge For Self Awareness

The Complex & Challenging World of Narcissistic Mothers

Narcissistic mothers are individuals who have a narcissistic personality disorder, which is characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. When this disorder is present in a mother, it can have a profound impact on her children, shaping their self-esteem, emotional well-being, and relationships.

Common Traits of Narcissistic Mothers

Narcissistic mothers often exhibit certain traits that can be damaging to their children. Some of these traits include:

1. *Self-centeredness*: Narcissistic mothers tend to be extremely self-focused, prioritizing their own needs and desires above those of their children.

2. *Emotional unavailability*: They may be emotionally distant or unresponsive to their children's needs, leaving them feeling unheard, unseen, and un validated.

3. *Criticism and blame*: Narcissistic mothers often criticize and blame their children, making them feel inadequate, worthless, or responsible for their mother's emotions.

4. *Gaslighting*: They may manipulate their children's perceptions, making them doubt their own sanity, memory, or experiences.

5. *Emotional manipulation*: Narcissistic mothers may use guilt, anger, or self-pity to control their children's emotions and behaviors.

6. *Lack of boundaries*: They may have difficulty respecting their children's boundaries, leading to emotional overload, invasion of privacy, or exploitation.

7. *Grandiosity*: Narcissistic mothers may have an exaggerated sense of self-importance, expecting special treatment, admiration, or automatic compliance from their children.

The Impact on Children

Growing up with a narcissistic mother can have long-lasting effects on a child's emotional and psychological well-being. Some common consequences include:

1. *Low self-esteem*: Children of narcissistic mothers may struggle with self-doubt, self-worth, and confidence.

2. *Anxiety and depression*: The emotional turmoil and unpredictability of a narcissistic mother can lead to anxiety, depression, or other mental health issues.

3. *People-pleasing*: Children may develop people-pleasing tendencies, trying to appease their mother's demands and avoid conflict.

4. *Difficulty with boundaries*: They may struggle to set and maintain healthy boundaries in their own relationships, leading to emotional exhaustion or exploitation.

5. *Trauma and stress*: The chronic stress and emotional manipulation of a narcissistic mother can lead to trauma, PTSD, or C-PTSD.

The Enablers of Narcissistic Mothers: Understanding the Complex Web of Manipulation

Narcissistic mothers often have a network of enablers who support and enable their behavior, often unintentionally. These enablers can be family members, friends, or even mental health professionals who are manipulated by the narcissistic mother's charm, guilt, and emotional blackmail.

Who are the Enablers?

Enablers of narcissistic mothers can include:

1. _The Father or Partner_: The father or partner of the narcissistic mother may be an enabler, often due to their own fear of conflict, desire to maintain peace, or lack of understanding of the narcissistic personality disorder.

2. _Siblings_: Siblings of the narcissistic mother's children may be enablers, often due to their own feelings of guilt, loyalty, or fear of being targeted by the narcissistic mother's anger.

3. _Extended Family Members_: Extended family members, such as grandparents, aunts, or uncles, may be enablers, often due to their own lack of understanding of the narcissistic personality disorder or their desire to maintain family harmony.

4. _Friends_: Friends of the narcissistic mother may be enablers, often due to their own admiration of the mother's charm, intelligence, or accomplishments.

5. _Mental Health Professionals_: Unfortunately, some mental health professionals may be enablers, often due to their own lack of training or experience in working with narcissistic personality disorder.

How are Enablers Manipulated?

Enablers are often manipulated by the narcissistic mother's:

1. _Charm_: Narcissistic mothers can be extremely charming and charismatic, making it difficult for enablers to see their true nature.

2. _Guilt_: Narcissistic mothers often use guilt to manipulate enablers, making them feel responsible for their emotions, needs, or behaviors.

3. _Emotional Blackmail_: Narcissistic mothers may use emotional blackmail to control enablers, threatening to withdraw their love, attention, or approval if they don't comply with their demands.

4. _Gaslighting_: Narcissistic mothers may use gaslighting tactics to manipulate enablers, making them doubt their own perceptions, memories, or sanity.

5. _Playing the Victim_: Narcissistic mothers often play the victim, making enablers feel sorry for them and more likely to support and enable their behavior.

Impact of Enablers on Targeted Victims

The presence of enablers can have a significant impact on the victims of narcissistic mothers, including:

1. _Increased Isolation_: Enablers can isolate victims from support and resources, making it more difficult for them to seek help or escape the abusive situation.

2. _Validating the Narcissistic Mother's Behavior_: Enablers can validate the narcissistic mother's behavior, making victims feel like they are the problem, rather than the mother's behavior.

3. _Reducing Accountability_: Enablers can reduce the narcissistic mother's accountability, allowing her to continue her abusive behavior without consequences.

4. _Increasing Stress and Trauma_: The presence of enablers can increase stress and trauma for victims, making it more difficult for them to cope with the abusive situation.

The Complex and Challenging Relationship Between a Narcissist Mother & an Empathetic Daughter

The relationship between a narcissist mother and an empathetic daughter can be particularly complex and challenging. The narcissist mother's need for admiration, attention, and control can clash with the empathetic daughter's natural inclination to understand, support, and please others.

Characteristics of the Empathetic Daughter

Empathetic daughters of narcissist mothers often exhibit certain characteristics, including:

1. _High emotional sensitivity_: They may be highly attuned to the emotions of others, including their mother's, and feel a strong need to respond to and manage those emotions.

2. _Strong sense of responsibility_: They may feel a deep sense of responsibility to care for and support their mother, even if it means sacrificing their own needs and desires.

3. _Tendency to people-please_: They may strive to please their mother and avoid conflict, even if it means compromising their own values and boundaries.

4. _Difficulty setting boundaries_: They may struggle to set and maintain healthy boundaries with their mother, leading to emotional overload and burnout.

5. _Self-doubt and self-blame_: They may doubt their own perceptions, feelings, and needs, and blame themselves for their mother's behavior.

The Narcissist Mother's Impact on the Empathetic Daughter

The narcissist mother's behavior can have a profound impact on the empathetic daughter, including:

1. _Emotional manipulation_: The mother may use guilt, anger, or self-pity to control and manipulate the daughter's emotions and behaviors.

2. _Gaslighting_: The mother may deny or distort reality, making the daughter question her own perceptions and sanity.

3. _Emotional invalidation_: The mother may dismiss or minimize the daughter's feelings and needs, making her feel unheard and un validated.

4. _Lack of emotional support_: The mother may be unavailable or unresponsive to the daughter's emotional needs, leaving her feeling alone and unsupported.

5. _Trauma and stress_: The chronic stress and emotional manipulation of the narcissist mother can lead to trauma, anxiety, and depression in the empathetic daughter.

Tips for Empathetic Daughters

1. _Practice self-compassion_: Treat yourself with kindness, understanding, and patience, just as you would a close friend.

2. _Develop a growth mindset_: Recognize that you are capable of growth, change, and development, and that you deserve to live a fulfilling and happy life.

3. _Surround yourself with positive role models_: Seek out positive, supportive relationships with people who uplift and encourage you.

4. _Focus on your strengths_: Celebrate your accomplishments, skills, and talents, and recognize your worth and value as a person.

5. _Create a safe and nurturing environment_: Surround yourself with people, places, and things that bring you joy, comfort, and peace.

Remember, healing from a narcissist mother's behavior takes time, patience, and support. Be gentle with yourself, and don't hesitate to reach out for help when you need it.

The Complex and Hurtful Behavior of Narcissistic Mothers Towards Their Children

Narcissistic mothers often treat their children poorly, and their behavior can be particularly hurtful and damaging to their daughters. There are several reasons why a narcissistic mother may treat her children, especially her daughter, poorly:

1. _Jealousy and Competition_: Narcissistic mothers may feel jealous of their daughter's youth, beauty, and potential, and may compete with her for attention and admiration.

2. _Fear of Being Replaced_: A narcissistic mother may fear that her daughter will replace her as the center of attention, and may try to undermine her daughter's confidence and self-esteem to prevent this from happening.

3. _Lack of Empathy_: Narcissistic mothers often lack empathy and may not be able to understand or relate to their daughter's feelings and needs.

4. _Need for Control_: Narcissistic mothers may use their children, especially their daughter, as a way to exert control and power over someone else's life.

5. _Unresolved Childhood Issues_: A narcissistic mother may have unresolved childhood issues, such as trauma or neglect, that she is now acting out on her own daughter.

6. _Societal and Cultural Pressures_: Narcissistic mothers may be influenced by societal and cultural pressures that emphasize the importance of physical appearance, achievement, and conformity, and may try to mold their daughter into a perfect reflection of themselves.

7. _Insecurity and Self-Doubt_: Despite their grandiose exterior, narcissistic mothers may be insecure and self-doubting, and may take out their feelings of inadequacy on their daughter.

Why the Daughter May Be Targeted More Than the Mothers Sons

Daughters of narcissistic mothers may be targeted more than sons for several reasons:

1. _Societal Expectations_: Daughters are often expected to be more nurturing and caring, and may be held to a higher standard of emotional labor and responsibility.

2. _Competition for Attention_: Daughters may be seen as competitors for attention and admiration, and may be treated poorly as a result.

3. _Similarity and Identification_: Daughters may be more likely to identify with their mother and strive to please her, which can make them more vulnerable to their mother's manipulation and abuse.

4. _Lack of Male Role Models_: In some cases, the absence of a positive male role model may contribute to the daughter being targeted more than the sons.

The Impact on the Daughter

The impact of a narcissistic mother's behavior on her daughter can be severe and long-lasting, including:

1. _Low Self-Esteem_: Daughters of narcissistic mothers may struggle with low self-esteem and self-doubt, and may feel unworthy of love and attention.

2. _Anxiety and Depression_: The chronic stress and emotional manipulation of a narcissistic mother can lead to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues.

3. _Difficulty with Relationships_: Daughters of narcissistic mothers may struggle with relationships, including romantic relationships, friendships, and family relationships.

4. _People-Pleasing and Codependency_: Daughters of narcissistic mothers may develop people-pleasing and codependent tendencies, and may struggle to set healthy boundaries and prioritize their own needs.

The Manipulative Tactics of Narcissistic Mothers: Why They May Discourage Their Daughter's Happiness and Progress

Narcissistic mothers often use manipulative tactics to control and influence their daughter's decisions, even if it means discouraging their daughter's happiness and progress. Here are some possible reasons why a narcissistic mother might tell her daughter to stop seeing someone who is good for her or to stop doing something that brings her daughter happiness and purpose:

1. _Fear of Loss of Control_: Narcissistic mothers may feel threatened by their daughter's independence and autonomy, and may try to control their daughter's decisions to maintain a sense of power and dominance.

2. _Jealousy and Envy_: Narcissistic mothers may be jealous of their daughter's happiness and success, and may feel envious of the attention and admiration their daughter receives from others.

3. _Need for Drama and Attention_: Narcissistic mothers may create drama and conflict to get attention and sympathy from their daughter, and may use guilt and emotional manipulation to control their daughter's decisions.

4. _Lack of Empathy and Understanding_: Narcissistic mothers may not be able to understand or relate to their daughter's feelings and needs, and may prioritize their own desires and expectations over their daughter's happiness and well-being.

5. _Fear of Being Replaced_: Narcissistic mothers may fear that their daughter's happiness and success will lead to their daughter becoming more independent and less reliant on them, and may try to sabotage their daughter's relationships and goals to maintain a sense of control and importance.

6. _Unrealistic Expectations_: Narcissistic mothers may have unrealistic expectations for their daughter's life and relationships, and may try to impose their own values and beliefs on their daughter, even if it means discouraging their daughter's happiness and progress.

7. _Gaslighting and Emotional Manipulation_: Narcissistic mothers may use gaslighting and emotional manipulation to make their daughter doubt their own perceptions and decisions, and may try to convince their daughter that they are not capable of making good choices or achieving their goals.

Why Narcissistic Mothers May Use Reassurances of Love to Manipulate Their Daughter

Narcissistic mothers may use reassurances of love to manipulate their daughter into doing what they want, even if it means discouraging their daughter's happiness and progress. Here are some possible reasons why:

1. _Emotional Blackmail_: Narcissistic mothers may use emotional blackmail to control their daughter's decisions, by making their daughter feel guilty or obligated to do what they want in order to prove their love and devotion.

2. _Gaslighting and Manipulation_: Narcissistic mothers may use gaslighting and manipulation to make their daughter doubt their own perceptions and decisions, and may try to convince their daughter that they are acting in their best interests, even if it means discouraging their daughter's happiness and progress.

3. _Lack of Boundaries_: Narcissistic mothers may not respect their daughter's boundaries or autonomy, and may use reassurances of love to justify their intrusive and controlling behavior.

4. _Need for Validation_: Narcissistic mothers may need validation and admiration from their daughter, and may use reassurances of love to manipulate their daughter into providing them with the attention and praise they crave.

The Complex and Manipulative Behavior of Narcissistic Mothers: Buying Love and Guilt-Tripping Their Children

Narcissistic mothers often use gifts and material possessions to buy their children's love and affection, and to manipulate them into feeling guilty and obligated to reciprocate with attention and devotion. This behavior can be particularly damaging to children, as it can create a sense of entitlement, guilt, and anxiety, and can undermine their self-esteem and autonomy.

Why Narcissistic Mothers Need to Buy Their Children's Love

Narcissistic mothers may need to buy their children's love for several reasons:

1. _Insecurities and Low Self-Esteem_: Narcissistic mothers may have deep-seated insecurities and low self-esteem, and may use gifts and material possessions to compensate for their feelings of inadequacy and to seek validation from their children.

2. _Need for Control and Power_: Narcissistic mothers may use gifts and material possessions to control and manipulate their children, and to maintain a sense of power and dominance in the relationship.

3. _Fear of Abandonment and Rejection_: Narcissistic mothers may fear that their children will abandon or reject them if they don't provide them with gifts and material possessions, and may use these tactics to keep their children emotionally invested in the relationship.

4. _Lack of Emotional Intimacy_: Narcissistic mothers may struggle with emotional intimacy and may use gifts and material possessions as a substitute for genuine emotional connection and affection.

The Impact on Children When Narcissistic Mothers Buy Their Love

The impact of a narcissistic mother's behavior on their children can be severe and long-lasting, including:

1. _Guilt and Anxiety_: Children may feel guilty and anxious about accepting gifts and material possessions from their mother, and may worry about being able to reciprocate or repay her in some way.

2. _Entitlement and Expectations_: Children may develop a sense of entitlement and expectation, and may feel that they deserve to be given gifts and material possessions without having to earn or work for them.

3. _Low Self-Esteem and Self-Worth_: Children may struggle with low self-esteem and self-worth, and may feel that their value and worth are tied to the gifts and material possessions they receive from their mother.

4. _Difficulty with Boundaries and Assertiveness_: Children may struggle with setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, and may have difficulty asserting their own needs and desires in the face of their mother's manipulative behavior.

The Age-Old Question: Can a Narcissistic Mother Truly Love Her Child?

This is a question that has puzzled many adult children of narcissistic mothers, and one that has sparked intense debate and discussion. Based on our conversation and the information shared, I'll offer my perspective on this complex issue.

Is a Narcissistic Mother’s Love Actually Love?

Narcissistic mothers are capable of experiencing strong emotions, including affection, attachment, and even what may appear to be love. However, their love is often conditional, self-serving, and transactional. They may use their child as a source of narcissistic supply, which means they rely on their child to fulfill their emotional needs, validate their self-worth, and provide a sense of importance.

In many cases, a narcissistic mother's "love" is actually a manifestation of her own self-interest, rather than a genuine, unconditional love for her child. She may use guilt, manipulation, and emotional blackmail to control her child's behavior and ensure they remain devoted to her.

Does My Narcissistic Mother Hate Me More Than She Loves Me?

It's possible that your narcissistic mother's behavior towards you is driven more by a desire to control and manipulate you, rather than a genuine hatred or love for you. Narcissistic mothers often struggle with intense emotions, including anger, resentment, and jealousy, which can be directed towards their child.

However, it's essential to remember that a narcissistic mother's behavior is not necessarily a reflection of your worth or lovability. Her actions and words are often a projection of her own insecurities, fears, and unmet emotional needs.

Is my Narcissistic Mother Capable of Love?

While narcissistic mothers can experience strong emotions, their capacity for genuine, unconditional love is often impaired. They may struggle to empathize with their child's feelings, needs, and desires, and may prioritize their own interests over their child's well-being.

In some cases, a narcissistic mother may be capable of loving her child in a limited, self-serving way, but this love is often tainted by her own narcissistic tendencies. She may use her child as a means to fulfill her own emotional needs, rather than prioritizing her child's needs and well-being.

What Does This Mean for You?

It's essential to recognize that your narcissistic mother's behavior is not a reflection of your worth or lovability. You deserve to be loved, respected, and valued for who you are, and it's crucial to prioritize your own emotional well-being and seek out positive, supportive relationships.

Remember that you can't change your mother's behavior or force her to love you in a healthy, unconditional way. However, you can take steps to protect yourself from her toxic behavior, set boundaries, and cultivate a sense of self-worth and self-love that is independent of her opinions or actions.

Ultimately, the question of whether your narcissistic mother truly loves you is complex and multifaceted. While she may be capable of experiencing strong emotions, her love is often conditional, self-serving, and transactional. It's essential to prioritize your own emotional well-being and seek out positive, supportive relationships that nourish and validate your sense of self-worth.

The Lack of Physical Affection: Why Narcissistic Mothers May Not Hug Their Children

Narcissistic mothers often struggle with physical affection, including hugging their children. This can be a painful and confusing experience for their kids, who may feel unloved, unwanted, or unimportant. There are several reasons why narcissistic mothers may not hug their children:

1. _Emotional Unavailability_: Narcissistic mothers may be emotionally unavailable, meaning they are not attuned to their child's emotional needs or feelings. This can make it difficult for them to provide physical affection, including hugs.

2. _Lack of Empathy_: Narcissistic mothers may struggle with empathy, which is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. This can make it challenging for them to connect with their child on a physical level, including through hugs.

3. _Fear of Intimacy_: Narcissistic mothers may fear intimacy, including physical touch, because it can make them feel vulnerable or exposed. This can lead them to avoid physical affection, including hugs, as a way to maintain their emotional distance.

4. _Need for Control_: Narcissistic mothers may use physical affection, including hugs, as a way to control or manipulate their child. They may withhold hugs or physical affection as a way to punish or reward their child, rather than providing it as a genuine expression of love or affection.

5. _Inability to Show Vulnerability_: Narcissistic mothers may struggle to show vulnerability, including through physical affection like hugs. They may see vulnerability as a weakness, rather than a strength, and may avoid it as a way to maintain their emotional armor.

6. _Prioritizing Self-Needs_: Narcissistic mothers may prioritize their own needs and desires over their child's needs, including their need for physical affection. They may be more focused on their own interests, desires, and needs, rather than providing emotional support or physical affection to their child.

7. _Trauma or Abuse_: In some cases, narcissistic mothers may have experienced trauma or abuse in their own childhood, which can affect their ability to provide physical affection, including hugs, to their own children.

What Narcissistic abuse symptoms looks like

common narcissistic abuse symptoms include:



1. *Low Self-Esteem*: You may struggle with feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and low self-worth, which can be a result of your mother's constant criticism, belittling, and emotional manipulation.

2. *Anxiety and Depression*: The stress and emotional pain of dealing with a narcissistic mother can lead to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues.

3. *Difficulty with Emotional Regulation*: You may struggle to manage your emotions, leading to mood swings, irritability, and emotional reactivity.

4. *People-Pleasing and Codependency*: You may have a tendency to prioritize others' needs over your own, leading to codependent relationships and an excessive need for validation.

5. *Fear of Abandonment*: The fear of being abandoned or rejected by your mother can lead to anxiety, clinginess, or an excessive need for control in relationships.

6. *Hypervigilance*: You may be constantly on the lookout for potential threats or dangers, making it difficult to relax or feel safe.

7. *Physical Symptoms*: Narcissistic trauma can manifest physically, including chronic pain, fatigue, or gastrointestinal issues.

8. *Difficulty with Intimacy*: You may struggle with intimacy, trust, or emotional connection in relationships due to the emotional unavailability of your mother.

9. *Self-Sabotage*: You may engage in self-sabotaging behaviors, such as self-destructive habits or toxic relationships, as a way to cope with the emotional pain and trauma.

10. *Lack of Boundaries*: You may struggle to set and maintain healthy boundaries, leading to emotional exhaustion, resentment, and burnout.

Effects Of Narcissistic Abuse With Other Relationships

Effects On Other Relationships Adult Children Have Outside Of The Relationship With The Narcissistic Mothers:

1. *Difficulty with Trust*: You may struggle to trust others, including partners, friends, or family members, due to the betrayals and emotional manipulation by your mother.

2. *People-Pleasing*: You may prioritize others' needs over your own, leading to codependent relationships and an excessive need for validation.

3. *Attracting Narcissistic Partners*: You may be drawn to narcissistic partners or friends, repeating the patterns of your childhood and perpetuating the trauma.

4. *Difficulty with Communication*: You may struggle to express your needs, feelings, and boundaries effectively, leading to conflicts and misunderstandings in relationships.

How Narcissistic Mothers Can Contribute to Agoraphobia in Adult Children

Agoraphobia is a type of anxiety disorder that involves a fear of being in public places, crowds, or situations where escape might be difficult. Adult children of narcissistic mothers may be more prone to developing agoraphobia due to the emotional trauma and abuse they experienced in their childhood.

Narcissistic Mother's Behavior & Agoraphobia

Narcissistic mothers often engage in behaviors that can contribute to their child's development of agoraphobia, such as:

1. _Emotional Manipulation_: Narcissistic mothers may use guilt, shame, or self-pity to control their child's behavior, making them feel anxious or fearful about leaving the house or being in public.

2. _Constant Criticism_: Narcissistic mothers may constantly criticize their child, making them feel inadequate, stupid, or unprepared to handle the outside world.

3. _Overprotection_: Narcissistic mothers may be overprotective, making their child feel like they are not capable of taking care of themselves or making decisions.

4. _Gaslighting_: Narcissistic mothers may gaslight their child, making them question their own perceptions, memories, or sanity, which can lead to feelings of anxiety and fear.

How Agoraphobia Manifests in Everyday Life

For an adult child suffering from narcissistic trauma and agoraphobia, day-to-day life can be extremely challenging. They may experience:

1. _Anxiety Attacks_: Panic attacks or anxiety attacks when they are in public places, such as shopping malls, public transportation, or crowded areas.

2. _Avoidance Behaviors_: Avoiding social situations, events, or activities that involve leaving the house or being in public.

3. _Dependence on Others_: Relying on others, such as family members or friends, to accompany them in public or perform tasks for them.

4. _Hypervigilance_: Being constantly on the lookout for potential dangers or threats, such as crowds, noise, or unfamiliar environments.

5. _Physical Symptoms_: Experiencing physical symptoms, such as a racing heart, sweating, or trembling, when they are in public or anticipating a public situation.

Challenges of Dealing with Agoraphobia

Dealing with agoraphobia can be challenging for several reasons:

1. _Limited Access to Resources_: Agoraphobia can limit a person's access to resources, such as employment, education, or social services, which can exacerbate feelings of isolation and anxiety.

2. _Social Isolation_: Agoraphobia can lead to social isolation, which can worsen symptoms of anxiety, depression, and trauma.

3. _Difficulty with Daily Tasks_: Agoraphobia can make it difficult to perform daily tasks, such as grocery shopping, paying bills, cleaning the house, self Hygiene, or attending appointments.

4. _Impact on Relationships_: Agoraphobia can strain relationships with family and friends, who may not understand the condition or may feel frustrated by the person's avoidance behaviors.

5. _Stigma and Shame_: Agoraphobia can be stigmatized, and individuals may feel ashamed or embarrassed about their condition, which can prevent them from seeking help.

Daily Struggles of an Adult Child with Agoraphobia

An adult child with agoraphobia may struggle with:

1. _Morning Anxiety_: Waking up with anxiety or dread about facing the day and potential public situations.

2. _Avoiding Appointments_: Avoiding medical appointments, therapy sessions, or other important events due to fear of public places.

3. _Limited Social Life_: Having a limited social life due to avoidance of social situations or public events.

4. _Difficulty with Self-Care_: Struggling to perform self-care tasks, such as exercise, due to fear of public places or crowds.

5. _Feelings of Guilt and Shame_: Experiencing feelings of guilt and shame about their condition, which can worsen symptoms of anxiety and depression.

Why Children Run Away from Home: The Impact of Narcissistic Mothers

Running away from home is a desperate attempt by children to escape the emotional pain, abuse, and neglect they experience at the hands of their narcissistic mother. Children who grow up in a household with a narcissistic mother may feel like they are walking on eggshells, never knowing when their mother's mood will shift or when they will be criticized, belittled, or punished.

Reasons Why Children Run Away from Home

Children may run away from home for various reasons, including:

1. _Emotional Abuse_: Children may feel emotionally abused, neglected, or unloved, leading them to seek escape from the toxic environment.

2. _Physical Abuse_: Children may experience physical abuse, such as hitting, pushing, or slapping, which can lead to a desire to flee the home.

3. _Lack of Emotional Support_: Children may feel like they have no one to turn to, no emotional support, and no safe space to express their feelings.

4. _Gaslighting and Manipulation_: Narcissistic mothers may use gaslighting and manipulation tactics to control their children, making them feel crazy, guilty, or responsible for their mother's behavior.

5. _Fear of Abandonment_: Children may fear being abandoned or rejected by their mother, leading them to run away as a way to avoid the emotional pain of being left behind.

The Impact of Being Told "You're the Problem"

When children are told that they are the problem, that they are the reason for their mother's behavior, it can have a profound impact on their self-esteem, self-worth, and mental health. This type of messaging can lead to:

1. _Internalized Shame and Guilt_: Children may internalize the shame and guilt, feeling like they are inherently flawed or defective.

2. _Low Self-Esteem_: Children may develop low self-esteem, feeling like they are not good enough, smart enough, or lovable enough.

3. _Anxiety and Depression_: Children may experience anxiety and depression, feeling like they are walking on eggshells, never knowing when their mother's mood will shift.

4. _Difficulty with Emotional Regulation_: Children may struggle with emotional regulation, feeling like they are unable to manage their emotions or express themselves in a healthy way.

The Long-Term Effects of Running Away from Home

Running away from home can have long-term effects on a child's life, including:

1. _Difficulty with Trust_: Children may struggle with trust issues, feeling like they cannot trust others or themselves.

2. _Anxiety and Depression_: Children may experience anxiety and depression, feeling like they are always on the lookout for potential dangers or threats.

3. _Substance Abuse_: Children may turn to substance abuse as a way to cope with the emotional pain and trauma they experienced.

4. _Difficulty with Intimacy_: Children may struggle with intimacy, feeling like they are unable to form healthy, loving relationships.

Remember, running away from home is not a solution to the problem, but rather a symptom of a larger issue. It's essential to address the underlying trauma and abuse, rather than blaming the child for their behavior. By providing a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental space, we can help children heal and recover from the trauma of growing up with a narcissistic mother.

The Dangers of Allowing a Child to Run Away and Neglecting Their Safety

When a child runs away from home, they are often fleeing from a situation that feels unbearable or threatening to them. However, running away can also put them in danger, and neglecting their safety can have severe and long-lasting consequences.

Dangers of Running Away

Some of the dangers that a child may face when running away from home include:

1. _Physical Harm_: A child may be at risk of physical harm, such as injury, assault, or exploitation, when they are on the streets or in unfamiliar environments.

2. _Emotional Trauma_: Running away can be emotionally traumatic, and a child may experience feelings of fear, anxiety, and depression.

3. _Substance Abuse_: A child may turn to substance abuse as a way to cope with the emotional pain and trauma they are experiencing.

4. _Sexual Exploitation_: A child may be at risk of sexual exploitation, including prostitution, human trafficking, or other forms of abuse.

5. _Homelessness_: A child may become homeless, which can lead to a range of other problems, including poverty, hunger, and poor health.

6. _Loss of Education_: A child may miss out on education, which can have long-term consequences for their future prospects and well-being.

7. _Mental Health Issues_: Running away can exacerbate existing mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

8. _Difficulty with Trust_: A child may struggle with trust issues, feeling like they cannot trust others or themselves.

9. _Increased Risk of Suicide_: A child may be at increased risk of suicide, particularly if they are experiencing feelings of hopelessness, despair, or isolation.

Dangers of Neglecting a Child's Safety

Neglecting a child's safety can have severe and long-lasting consequences, including:

1. _Increased Risk of Harm_: A child may be at increased risk of physical or emotional harm if their safety is neglected.

2. _Loss of Trust_: A child may lose trust in their caregivers or authorities, which can make it more difficult for them to seek help or support in the future.

3. _Difficulty with Emotional Regulation_: A child may struggle with emotional regulation, feeling like they are unable to manage their emotions or express themselves in a healthy way.

4. _Increased Risk of Substance Abuse_: A child may be at increased risk of substance abuse, particularly if they are experiencing emotional pain or trauma.

5. _Difficulty with Intimacy_: A child may struggle with intimacy, feeling like they are unable to form healthy, loving relationships.

6. _Increased Risk of Mental Health Issues_: A child may be at increased risk of mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, or PTSD, if their safety is neglected.

7. _Loss of Opportunities_: A child may miss out on opportunities, such as education or career advancement, if their safety is neglected.

8. _Difficulty with Self-Esteem_: A child may struggle with self-esteem, feeling like they are not worthy of love, care, or respect.

9. _Increased Risk of Exploitation_: A child may be at increased risk of exploitation, including emotional, physical, or financial exploitation.

The Distinction between a Narcissist & an Empath with Narcissistic Tendencies

Narcissistic personality disorder is a complex and multifaceted condition that can be challenging to understand and navigate. While both narcissists and empaths with narcissistic tendencies can exhibit similar behaviors, there are distinct differences between the two.

Narcissists: Aware but Unwilling to Change

Narcissists are often aware of their problematic behavior, but they don't care about the impact it has on others. They may even be vocal about their refusal to change, citing their "right" to behave as they please. Narcissists tend to:

1. *Lack empathy*: They struggle to understand and relate to the feelings and needs of others.

2. *Be self-centered*: Their primary focus is on themselves, their own needs, and their own desires.

3. *Manipulate and exploit*: They use charm, guilt, and coercion to get what they want from others.

4. *Refuse accountability*: They blame others, make excuses, or deny responsibility for their actions.

5. *Prioritize their own interests*: They put their own needs and desires above those of others, even if it means harming or exploiting them.

Narcissists often know they have a problem, but they don't see it as a problem. They may even take pride in their ability to manipulate and control others. They are unlikely to seek help or change their behavior, as they believe they are entitled to your respect without putting in the effort to change their behavior.

Empaths with Narcissistic Tendencies: Aware and Motivated to Change

Empaths, on the other hand, are highly sensitive and empathetic individuals who have developed narcissistic tendencies as a result of childhood trauma and abuse. They may exhibit similar behaviors to narcissists, such as:

1. *People-pleasing*: They may try to appease others to avoid conflict or rejection.

2. *Self-doubt*: They may struggle with feelings of inadequacy or low self-esteem.

3. *Emotional reactivity*: They may become overly emotional or reactive in response to stress or triggers.

4. *Boundary issues*: They may struggle to set and maintain healthy boundaries with others.

However, unlike narcissists, empaths with narcissistic tendencies:

1. *Recognize their flaws*: They are aware of their problematic behavior and are motivated to change.

2. *Take responsibility*: They acknowledge their mistakes and take steps to make amends.

3. *Seek help and support*: They are willing to seek therapy, counseling, or support groups to work through their issues.

4. *Prioritize self-awareness and growth*: They strive to understand themselves and others, and to develop healthier relationships and communication patterns.

Empaths with narcissistic tendencies are often deeply unhappy with their behavior and are driven to change. They may feel ashamed or guilty about their actions and are willing to do the work necessary to overcome their flaws and develop more empathetic and compassionate relationships with others.

Key Differences

The primary differences between narcissists and empaths with narcissistic tendencies are:

1. *Motivation*: Narcissists are motivated by a desire for power, control, and self-aggrandizement, while empaths are motivated by a desire to understand and connect with others.

2. *Empathy*: Narcissists lack empathy, while empaths are highly empathetic and sensitive to the feelings and needs of others.

3. *Accountability*: Narcissists refuse to take responsibility for their actions, while empaths acknowledge their mistakes and take steps to make amends.

4. *Personal growth*: Narcissists are unlikely to seek help or change their behavior, while empaths are motivated to learn, grow, and develop healthier relationships and communication patterns.

In conclusion, while both narcissists and empaths with narcissistic tendencies can exhibit problematic behavior, the key differences lie in their motivation, empathy, accountability, and willingness to change. Empaths with narcissistic tendencies are aware of their flaws and are motivated to change, whereas narcissists are aware of their behavior but refuse to change.

Healing and Recovery

If you're an adult child of a narcissistic mother, it's essential to recognize that you're not alone, and there is hope for healing and recovery. Some steps you can take include:

1. *Seeking therapy*: Work with a therapist who specializes in narcissistic personality disorder and trauma to process your emotions and develop coping strategies.

2. *Setting boundaries*: Establish clear boundaries with your mother to protect your emotional well-being and maintain a sense of self.

3. *Self-care*: Prioritize self-care, engaging in activities that bring you joy, relaxation, and fulfillment.

4. *Support groups*: Join a support group or online community to connect with others who have experienced similar challenges.

5. *Education and self-awareness*: Learn about narcissistic personality disorder, its effects on children, and the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-care.

Remember, healing from a narcissistic mother's behavior takes time, patience, and support. Be gentle with yourself, and don't hesitate to reach out for help when you need it.

Recovery Stages:

1. *Awareness*: Recognizing the trauma and its effects on your life. 😧

2. *Acceptance*: Accepting the trauma and its impact on your relationships and self-esteem. 😐

3. *Grief*: Processing the emotions and grief associated with the trauma. 😓

4. *Anger*: Acknowledging and expressing anger towards your mother and the trauma. 😡

5. *Forgiveness*: Forgiving yourself and your mother, not for her sake, but for yours. 😮‍💨

6. *Healing*: Engaging in self-care, therapy, and support groups to rebuild your self-esteem and develop a sense of self-worth. 🤕

7. *Integration*: Integrating the traumatic experiences into your narrative, developing a sense of self-awareness, and moving forward with your 🤨

Closing the Chapter on Narcissistic Abuse: Finding Closure and Moving On

As you prepare to say goodbye to your mom and close the chapter on narcissistic abuse, it's essential to acknowledge the pain and trauma you've endured. It's understandable that you're seeking closure, but it's crucial to recognize that closure may not come in the way you expect. Your mom's refusal to work on herself and acknowledge her narcissistic tendencies means that you may never receive the apology or validation you deserve.

_Accepting the Lack of Closure Truly Desired_

Instead of waiting for closure, focus on accepting the reality of your situation. Recognize that your mom's behavior is not your responsibility, and you cannot force her to change or seek help. Accept that you've done everything you can to address the issues and that it's time to move on.

_Finding Closure Within Yourself_

Closure is not something that someone else can give you; it's something you must find within yourself. Through therapy and self-reflection, you've gained a deeper understanding of your mom's behavior and the impact it's had on your life. You've also developed the skills and strategies to protect yourself from further manipulation and abuse.

_Proud of Your Progress_

Be proud of the progress you've made in recognizing and addressing the narcissistic abuse. It takes immense courage and strength to confront the trauma and pain of your past. Acknowledge the efforts you've put into therapy, self-care, and personal growth. Celebrate the fact that you're no longer blind to your mom's manipulation and that you're taking steps to break free from her toxic influence.

_Letting Go of the Need for Validation_

It's essential to let go of the need for validation from your mom. You don't need her approval or acknowledgment to be worthy or deserving of love and respect. You are enough, regardless of her opinion or behavior. Remember that you've been brainwashed into seeking her validation, but you're now free to break free from that cycle.

_Moving On & Healing_

As you move on from this chapter of your life, focus on healing and growth. Prioritize self-care, surround yourself with supportive people, and engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Remember that healing is a journey, and it's okay to take your time. Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you navigate this new chapter.

_Wrapping Up and Saying Goodbye_

As you wrap up this blog and say goodbye to your mom, remember that you're not saying goodbye to the pain or trauma. You're saying goodbye to the toxic relationship and the hold it's had on your life. You're taking back control and choosing to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.

_Final Thoughts_

In closing, remember that you are strong, capable, and deserving of love and respect. You've survived the unimaginable, and you're now thriving. Don't let your mom's behavior define you; instead, define yourself by your strength, resilience, and courage. Keep moving forward, and know that you're not alone. There are people who care about you and want to support you on your journey towards healing and growth.

_Goodbye, Mom_

As I say goodbye to you, Mom, I want you to know that I'm not saying goodbye to the memories or the experiences we shared. I'm saying goodbye to the toxic relationship and the pain you've caused me. I'm taking back control of my life, and I'm choosing to prioritize my own well-being and happiness. I hope that one day you'll seek help and work on yourself, but until then, I need to protect myself and move on.

_The End_

This is the end of this chapter, but it's not the end of my story. I'm excited to see what the future holds, and I'm grateful for the lessons I've learned and the growth I've experienced. Thank you to everyone who has supported me on this journey, and I hope that my story can help others who are struggling with narcissistic abuse.

[angelunderheaven]

"you still belong to me"

[softgritspoonie]

This is my parents to a T

[insummerigrieve]

Elizabeth Wurtzel in Prozac Nation (2001)

[catwoman-is-my-mom]

Can't remember where I found this but it's horrible it's absolutely true but it doesn't make it less horrible and I refuse to suffer alone so pls feel free to cry with me bout fucked up families

[tripthelightfandomtastic]

I feel like I'm just going through the motions today. Send me sweet anons or pics of the boys pls. I love y'all.

[pumpkin-the-girlie-girl-vixen]

📱 This is the text message I sent my mother, it marked a turning point for me. It was the moment I finally found my backbone and stood up for both myself and my partner. I refused to let her disrupt my peace or tarnish the beautiful life I’ve built without her meddling and undermining my efforts. I won’t allow her to stigmatize my progress and growth any longer. Throughout this journey, I’ve learned that “love” alone isn’t enough to keep someone in your life.

Dear Mom,

I need to set some very clear boundaries regarding our relationship, especially concerning how you speak about my partner. Despite my multiple warnings, you continue to talk negatively about him and try to influence me against him. I want you to understand that he is the best person I’ve ever been with—someone who brings out the best in me that nobody else ever has.

I see parts of you in me, especially when it comes to our struggles. The key difference is that I have been committed to therapy and medication since I was nine years old, and now, at almost 30, I’m still working on myself. You, on the other hand, have never sought therapy and have only taken a fraction of what I have in terms of medication.

I want to be honest: marijuana is not helping you. It exacerbates your BPD, enhancing your worst qualities. There are actual studies that indicate not all medication works for everyone, including marijuana. For the past four months, I haven’t even touched it myself.

Michael is not taking advantage of me; he has not pushed himself into my life or my home. He moved in because we both wanted to share our lives together—something I approached responsibly for the first time. He is a responsible, mature person who supports me, allowing me to feel capable. It’s disappointing that you view me as incapable and irresponsible, while I know my worth and what I bring to the table.

You need to address your erratic moods with medication, just as I do. I suggest therapy not because I think you’re “crazy,” but because I believe it could help you develop social skills, like how to communicate without resorting to name-calling or cursing, which only escalates tensions and doesn’t solve problems.

I’m trying to build my own life and family because I realize I’ve never had the support I needed from the family I was born into. I’ve worked hard to reach this point, and I had hoped to reconnect with you and my family in North Dakota. However, I now see that if I never felt like I belonged, then I won’t find that connection now.

I’m genuinely happy and at peace, doing things I never had the chance to do before, thanks to the positive support from Michael. Building a life requires a support system that believes in you, something I feel is missing from our relationship. A lesson I’ve learned in therapy is that conflict resolution starts with understanding each other’s perspectives, not trying to place blame or prove who is right or wrong.

This difference between us—my commitment to mental health and your refusal to seek help—has led me to back away. I need to distance myself from you, not out of desire, but out of necessity. I’m going to continue living my happy life with Michael, and I’m sad you haven’t taken the opportunity to get to know him. He truly respects me and supports my happiness.

I cannot tolerate being treated like a child or being made to feel inadequate any longer. I’m aware that you see the boys as adults because of their progress, but your perception of me feels stuck, overshadowed by how you view my life through a screen. It’s painful, and I hope you realize your role in that.

I love you, but I can’t allow you to undermine the happiness I’ve found—a happiness that has helped me grow and love myself for the first time. Your words have often made me feel stupid and inadequate, and that’s something I can no longer accept.

I expect that my message will be met with defensiveness, but I need you to take accountability. You’ve chosen not to seek help, while I’m striving to be better every day. Your journey is yours, but I need to focus on mine now. I won’t respond to your messages or phone calls, and I’m stepping back from social media. I’m choosing emotional intelligence for the sake of my peace.

What I want from you is love, and it shouldn’t come with a price tag. I doubt I’ll receive that, but I will still wish you well. Merry Christmas, happy New Year, happy birthday, and all the holidays I’ll miss. This isn’t a choice I wanted to make, but it’s one I need to.

Goodbye, Mom. 🤟

As you might expect, she didn’t receive my text very well… So, in closing, I’m putting my relationship with my mom to rest—for my peace, comfort, and love. ❤️

Navigating the Complexities of My Relationship with My Mother

The relationship between a mother and daughter can often be a beautiful bond, but mine has been a complicated tapestry woven with threads of pain, misunderstanding, and growth. That little girl inside me still exists, a ghost from a time when things with my mom were far from good. She almost had me fooled, weaving a narrative that I was nothing without her, but after everything she put me through, I’ve discovered a strength within myself that I never knew existed.

From a young age, I found myself fighting for a place in my mother’s world, striving to meet expectations that seemed to shift with the changing winds. No matter how much I worked or how desperately I sought acceptance, I felt like I was always falling short. It was an emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual battle that consumed much of my childhood and adult life whenever we interacted. It might not have been all-consuming at once, but as a collective experience, it truly sucked. She brought the flames and put me through hell, teaching me the hard way that I had to learn to fight for myself. And deep down, I think she knows it too. We both know the truths that could be told, but instead, I’ll simply say, “I wish you farewell.”

I can make it on my own now. I’ve learned that I don’t need her in my life; I’ve found a newfound strength that’s empowering. For years, I was the one forgiving her, often without ever hearing an apology in return or seeing any accountability for her actions. It’s astonishing to think that I’ve never witnessed her say sorry to any of my siblings or even to my dad. From the age of nine, she placed me in therapy, and now at 28, I realize the irony. I’ve perfected the art of communication, taking accountability and truly meaning it each time I’ve said I was sorry. Yet, it’s disheartening to realize that while I’ve worked on conflict resolution, she seems to play the role of the menacing, abusive mother with no intention of changing.

She has this uncanny ability to shift blame onto everyone else once things go wrong, ignoring her part in all of it. When it’s clear she’s at fault, she pretends as though it never happened the next day, expecting us to move on as if nothing is amiss. Yet, she holds onto others’ wrongdoings that affect her like a badge of honor, despite her own history of mistakes. I often wonder if she ever forgives herself. If she does, it truly disappoints me.

If I could tell her one thing, it would be this: “He is good, so good. He treats your little girl like a real man should. He makes promises he keeps.” I want her to understand that I’m okay, and that when I watch my baby grow up, I hope she finds the kind of man I’ve found—loving, respectful, gentle, and kind. My partner reminds me of my dad—the morals and values he holds bring me back to the essence of home. If only my mother weren’t so stuck in the past, unable to see that I’ve learned from my mistakes and found someone worthy of my heart.

But the reality is, I can’t get through to her. I never could as a child, and I doubt I’ll be able to as an adult, not without her committing to medication, therapy, and applying what she’s learned. Sadly, it seems she wouldn’t even entertain that notion. In order for me to build the family I’ve always wanted for myself, I’ve had to let go of her. I still visit the memories of our past, but everyone has to grow up.

It pains me to admit that I had to cut her off. She was my first best friend, and for most of my life, I viewed her as the most important person to me. But now, at the age of 28, I’m finally awakening to the truth: “Huh, we are not that close.” The other day, I almost reached for my phone to chit-chat with her, only to remember the reality of our relationship. I set the phone down and sat in silence for a while. I would rather hear nothing than face the hurtful words she’s hurled at me over the years—words no mother should ever say to her daughter.

In conclusion, my relationship with my mother is a complicated one, and while I mourn the bond we could have had, I’m also grateful for the strength I've discovered through the struggles. I’m moving forward and building a life where I can thrive, free from the shadows of a tumultuous past. And for that little girl who still lives inside me, I promise to protect her fiercely from the flames that once consumed us both.

In closing, I want to reflect on the happiness I’ve found with my partner. Despite the attempts to push a negative narrative onto my shoulders, I’ve realized that it’s not the story I’m living. I’m living a life filled with joy, love, and support—something I never thought I could have. I feel incredibly blessed to have my partner by my side, who nurtures my growth and embraces me for who I truly am. Together, we’re building a beautiful future, and I’m grateful every day for the love we share. Here’s to celebrating the life we’re creating together and leaving behind the negativity that no longer serves me!

[gulaabjamoon]

my parents are so against divorces it baffles me honestly

[angelunderheaven]