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[operating-system8]

People often tell me that they feel they're disrespectful when they ask questions about systems and I'm like

ITS BETTER TO ASK A QUESTION THAN BE IGNORANT FOREVER IF IM UNCOMFORTABLE WITH SOMETHING I'MMA JUST TELL YOU

[mirthlenore]

Oh, how I wish I could change my form at will.

[stormyaxolotl]

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Shadow monster

art credits: not sure, got them off of pinterest

[jabberwock-islanders]

can we call introjects that have the same source "source twins" instead of calling them "doubles"

idk i feel like saying "omg we're source twinning!" is so much more respectful to someones individuality than saying "omg youre a double!"

it helps steer away from the idea that introjects are "copies" of each other, and it helps give introjects their own sense of self that isnt 100% tied to their source

id love to hear other peoples thoughts on this term concept ^^

~Selever <3

[syscultureis]

Sys culture is

“Wow it’s been days, why hasn’t our ask been posted?”

“What ask?”

“Yknow…the ask we sent in…”

“….uhh we never sent in an ask”

“what”

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[littlest-bugz]

The Collective You

[one system's brief advice about accepting the idea of the collective you]

One of the best pieces of system advice started from a tumblr post and was elaborated by my DID specialist. I can't find the original tumblr post that started it, so I'm making a little post of my own <3 Share the knowledge. and also hope that someone can link the original post lol.

When I was REALLY going through it™ with my first diagnosis w/ DID, and a lack of integration, all of my alters felt like separate individuals, some of us feeling as distanced as a coworker or a stranger altogether. We were just getting a grasp on internal communication between all of our subsystems, and it was rough. We felt so entirely differentiated that we were our own people trapped in one body. While I don't really care about what language you use, all alters in CDDs are a part of one person [there's only one body and brain]- the collective you.

So obvs, I'm scrolling tumblr like the chronically online doomscroller that I am, and I see this post that goes along the line of not knowing who you are, but knowing you are 'you', regardless of who you are [referring to alters]. And it said something like "we're all me enough to pick up our meds"- something like that. iirc it was a half light hearted, half advice post, but that was really good advice for me. I kind of internalized it after I processed it in therapy. It's actually why I have started to love parts language lately tbh.

After further processing this idea in therapy, Identity Confusion stopped mattering in the grand scheme of things. I focused less on worrying about who I was, and just focused on the fact that I'm me. Just like the post I saw- We are all me. The example of all being me enough to pick up my medications just applied, like, everywhere. Even when it came down to the smallest things- with coping with other symptoms too.

Oh? I don't like coffee right now? I guess I should switch to something else. [differentiated alters]

Oh? I have barely any drawing skills right now? Okay, really sucks but I can work on something else and come back to it later. [skill variance between alters]

Oh? I have to go to a doctor's appointment? I know I'll forget that- Gotta write a list, and put it up on the board so I remember. [day to day amnesia]

You know what happened? My dissociation got better! Not immediately or entirely, obviously, and my memory [re amnesia] still sucks, but that's part of the disorder- plus other disorders that I have. This idea of the collective you is something that I think is really beneficial to all CDD systems, especially during the mid to later stages of recovery.

I, admittedly, credit most of my healing to conversations I have had with my DID specialist. Especially since, without her, I wouldn't have been able to process this idea of the collective me further, but the conversation wouldn't have been started if I hadn't seen that post on tumblr. This was a budding concept with us due to the separation we had. It helped with integration. GRANTED... Not every alter got the memo, obviously, but It's something that I'm still working on. Of course, being me comes with the prerequisite that I am a person with DID, and that I am made up of multiple parts.

Now for the piece of advice I got from my therapist- Though it requires a certain level of knowledge of your own system, such as a list of alters and some identifying info [fav drinks, fav colors, those type of things]. Look at the list of your alters wherever it may be. Just whatever you use for logging your system members. Look for the commonalities between alters. There will be at least some commonalities.

For example; A good 45% of us like bunnies, 45% like cats, and 10% have a liking for other kinds of animals. Using this information, I can pretty much deduce that 1. the collective me loves animals and 2. the collective me likes cats and bunnies especially.

Another example; I looked through our simplyplural, which has a favorite color thing [in ours at least]. By looking through the list, I figured out 1. wow I like literally all colors- my fav color is rainbows and 2. I especially like pink and light blue.

More examples; the list.. THE LIST... I looked through it and saw that a good 90% of us like MONSTER ENERGY DRINKS- of varying flavors, but the common denominator was Ultra Strawberry Dreams, but all of us like [or tolerate] water as a preferred drink. From there I can come to the conclusion that I prefer water over anything else and that I have a problem with monster [being light hearted but I genuinely do].

I hope you get the idea I'm going for. I used this process for nearly every aspect of our collective identity, though some had to genuinely be voted on, such as our LGBTQIA+ labels [offline, we just call ourself queer, but that's.. aside the point LMAO].

Obviously, there are going to be outliers- Having DID comes with the fun [/s] aspect of alters being differentiated from each other in some capacity. Example for the monster energy one- We have a handful of alters that HATE energy drinks- even just fizzy drinks in general. There's one guy who will only drink Black Coffee and water- nothing else. He's the guy who is always hiding away our monsters in the way back of the fridge, but guess what!! He's me!! The part of me that doesn't want me to ruin my health over energy drinks. The part of me that knows I deserve better than my unhealthy habits.

Getting to know the collective you is just like learning about your system! It is not inherently different than figuring out what an alters dislikes or likes are. The idea of The Collective You shouldn't feel scary or anxiety inducing- if it is, you may want to confront those feelings with a therapist if you have access to one. Every CDD system is the collective [or, well, system] of one fragmented individual- That is a studied and objective fact. I wanted to give advice from one recovering system to another.

No, this will not work for everyone, every system is different, but I'm hoping this post finds the right audience in knowing that it's worth a shot to try this!

[sysboxes]

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[69constellationsinatrenchcoat]

I told someone that I'm a member of a DID system, and instead of them saying or implying we're faking, their response was "are the others hot?"

[medusa-fem]

I hate that males act like the repercussions for victims of rape, violence, and other forms of abuse end when the abuse ends. They don't take these issues seriously because in their heads they think "it's over, why are you still bitching and moaning! You survived!". They have no comprehension of life after abuse, they're so blissfully ignorant that just you speaking about your experience is seen as a burden to them.

I can tell you, the aftermath is the worst part of it, because no, it doesn't just end when the action does. Having PTSD, I feel like I'm being haunted by the ghost of a man that is still alive. As a child my grandfather told me he'd kill me if I didn't let him rape me, he'd kill my cats if I told anyone, and no one would ever even care because I deserved it. Now, at 23 I'm still having paranoid thoughts that my partner will kill my cat or me because we aren't having sex. I've been in a depressed dissociative state for hours today just because I saw my boyfriend holding a saw, a tool he was buying for a project. In a perfectly average relationship where I've NEVER faced any physical or sexual abuse, I'm paranoid because I was brain washed and abused over a decade and a half ago. I will carry the ghost of what happened to me for the rest of my life, and yet that man walks free because the police and cps couldn't find enough evidence (they never do with these crimes). I pray my grandfather will die soon, I check regularly hoping he has, but reality is I will still be haunted. I will never get to have a normal relationship. I lived through being suicidal at 8 years old and all the way through highschool. THIS is part of why we say rape can be worse than murder. At least with murder suffering ends, with rape and abuse we suffer the consequences of someone else's actions our whole lives.

[kylertism]

૮ ･ ﻌ･ა ⠀bodyclaim

BodyClaim: A term in which a headmate fronts so often over a long period of time, they made the body look exactly like them, therefore claiming the body is them/using the body to represent themself. They may also be known as the body (using the same name, pronouns & terms) however, this isn't needed to use this term.

coined by us, please let us know if this term already exists. tagging @rwuffles & @seraphim-coinz

[sillystrawbtism]

I'm very tired. We've been trying to cope with a breakup that has basically ruined us, and trying to make new friends to help. I started talking to a mutual on tiktok and every interaction we've had is good and I think I'm making a friend, only to wake up and see I'm blocked. If I so something wrong say it to my face, otherwise I'M NOT GOING TO KNOW. I just want friends, is that so much to ask-?

[stormyaxolotl]

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ivory from whitepine

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[antiendovents]

I'm tired of not knowing where I stand on syscourse but not wanting to be mean by saying to a group not to dni 😭

mh.. i dont really know what to say to this.. but just know that saying 'DNI' isn't mean.. it's a boundary.. you're allowed to have those.. don't listen to anyone who says otherwise.. /gen

[syscultureis]

sys culture is feeling like you don't belong anywhere in the lgbt+ community... some alters are straight, some alters are lesbian, some alters are gay, some alters are bi, some alters are trans, some alters are cis and you just feel like you don't belong because you feel like you're picking and choosing labels based on what's "trendy" and nobody will ever take you seriously unless you have a collective identity but a collective identity is extremely distressing for you

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[system-hottakes]

Hot take: agesliders are allowed to have relationships, yes this includes teen agesliders, this includes alters who slide to young ages, this includes all agesliders, yed there might need to be different needs discussed in those relationships, but agesliders deserve to make their own choices with relationships

- a very annoyed ageslider who adores cher joyfriend

Yeah.. age sliders deserve to have a choice .. everyone deserves to have a choice

[sysboxes]

[Text: This user can't tell the difference between their introjects and delusional attachments.]

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