#evolving mindset

[tommyexplores]

Are we peer-pressured into not changing?

Whenever I’m engaging in a conversation, an argument, a friendly banter or even a business chat, I’m always expected to be right where I first met whoever I’m speaking to. It doesn’t matter how much I advance or learn, others will always demand that I stay the same. Even when I was quitting the Organization, I was told “But you said…” – a sentence, which seemed to bring my hard work to no…

[histhoughtslately]

Shine without holding back and watch your world bloom right before your eyes.

#betterthanuimagined

[jinxie-117]

hey so you guys ever think about how master chief nearly inserted the index into the core and pulled the plug on all sentient life in the entire galaxy? you ever think about how he thought it was the right thing right up until cortana told him it wasn't? you ever think about how he stood there realising the fact he nearly killed all the people he would have died to protect? you ever think? you ever think??? you ever think????????

[beccawise7]

Thursday Thoughts.

Growth is required in this journey called life.

~beccawise7💜🖤

[ariadne-mouse]

Imogen sends her love to her father in exactly the right way: an unexpected message speaking directly into his head by arcane means from hundreds of miles away

[daziechane]

You’re Allowed to Lose Interest—Even If You’ve Poured Time Into It

At some point, we all outgrow something we once loved. Maybe it’s a hobby, a community, a show, or a career path. You used to be all in—spending time, energy, maybe even money—but now? Not so much.

The problem is, we convince ourselves we have to stay interested because we’ve already put in so much effort. (I'm lookin' at you, knitting) That’s the sunk cost fallacy talking, and it’s a load of crap.

"Marie Kondo" Your Interests

Marie Kondo says to get rid of things that don’t spark joy. Great advice for cleaning out your junk drawer or closet (ratty old hoodies, you no longer spark joy), but even better advice for your time and energy. If something no longer excites you, you don’t have to keep forcing it. You’re not obligated to stay interested in something forever just because you once were.

Sunk Costs Are Sunk—Let Them Go

The sunk cost fallacy is that little asshole voice whispering, But I’ve already spent years on this. I can’t just quit now! Except, yes, you can. Just because you’ve put time or money into something doesn’t mean you owe it a lifetime commitment. The only thing that matters is whether it still adds value to your life now. If it doesn’t, cut your losses and move on.

And yeah, we’ve all heard “Nobody likes a quitter.” But let’s be honest- nobody likes a miserable, burned-out jackwagon clinging to something out of sheer stubbornness, either. Quitting isn’t failure. It’s just refusing to keep throwing good time after bad.

Stop Making Up Dramas to Fill the Void

Here’s another thing I’ve noticed: When a steady source of content or engagement dries up—whether it’s a creator going silent, a group fizzling out, or a passion just fading—people lose their gotdamm minds. Instead of accepting the quiet, they start making up stories. And not just any stories—escalating, over-the-top, apocalyptic stories.

Did they disappear because of a scandal? Was there a secret feud? Is something awful happening behind the scenes? MIND CONTROL??!

No. Sometimes, things just stop. People move on. Not everything needs a grand conspiracy behind it. But because silence makes us uncomfortable, we scramble to fill it—even if that means manufacturing a crisis.

You don’t have to do that. You don’t have to buy into it, either. If something fades away, let it. If someone stops posting or participating, maybe they just had other shit to do. It’s not always a mystery to solve.

You’re Allowed to Change

Interests aren’t life sentences. You can be obsessed with something for years and then wake up one day and realize you just… don’t care anymore. And that’s fine. You can always pick it back up later, or not (still lookin at you, knitting). Either way, you don’t owe anyone (including past you) an explanation.

So if something no longer excites you, don’t force it. Just move tf on. There’s something better waiting on the other side of that empty space.

[iappearmissing]

so i've been here for eons, and a hot button topic that used to always come up was the usage of fanart of canon characters, with or without crediting. i'm curious to see how this topic has evolved in recent times, hence this poll.

not related to my blog, just a general curiosity of how the rpc has changed, if it has!

so--

[1introvertedsage]

Pre and post Saturn returns are two completely different people.

[tootyde]

[histhoughtslately]

When you prioritize your own life, you’re creating a fighting chance. Always show up for you.

[b0rtney]

I've come up w a new aphorism: "cockroaches in the cabinet"

it describes a moment that provides clarity that you are making/made the correct choice, and in the past-tense provides relief that there was not a lost opportunity cost by making that choice.

eg: when you were already kind of drifting apart from someone and they suddenly tell you they did something fucking bananas and awful to someone else, you can go "oh well there's the cockroaches in that cabinet" and feel alright leaving that relationship in the past

origin: as i was moving out of my apartment, which i had loved very very dearly, i suddenly started finding cockroaches in my cabinets, despite not having them the entire lease beforehand and being borderline neat-freak about my cleaning habits. they were coming in from the neighboring unit, who was... not so clean, and with whom those cabinets shared a wall. since it was the neighboring unit with the issue, there was little i could do about it other than peppermint oil and maintenance requests if it got awful, but the fact that they started showing up only in that last week meant they had never inconvenienced me during my lease, but still provided a really nice reason any time i look back to go "no, i AM glad I left though." anytime i start to think "oh fuck whyyy did I leave that apartment i loved so much!! it was so wonderful!!" i can then stop the thought with "well, cockroaches in the cabinet."

[diariesofanoldsoul]

Everyday you wake up with at least ten reasons to be grateful for. Stop giving your power away to the negative thought’s of your mind. It’s been conditioned to look for problems, even though there aren’t any.

[theblackfemininesociety]

🚨 New Look: We are evolving, are you? 💋

Hey beauties, it’s Leah, the owner of this blog. I’ve recently decided to change the logo of B.F.S again! Yes, I know what you could be thinking:

“I liked the logo before”

“Make up your mind!”

“It was fine before”

or even “I didn’t really notice”

I was afraid that changing the logo meant I would confuse my audience or even turn some of them off but I came to the conclusion that this blog and brand is evolving! Our mission is still the same and the content will always be geared towards being a safe space for Black Woman to evolve! Into the woman of HER dreams and that is what The Black Feminine Society is all about, it’s about the journey!

We wanted a bold, sleek yet elegant and sexy design. Simplicity is key, it’s Classy Tip #3 for a reason 😉

I say all this to say:

Don’t be afraid to rebrand and evolve! Embracing change can be intimidating but it’s essential for growth. On your feminine journey you’ll find that you will feel the need to make some changes and that’s okay! Do what’s best for you! Don’t worry about anyone else, your tribe will find you because of your aura. Your unique energy and essence will naturally attract the right people into your life. Like a magnetic force, your aura will resonate with those who are destined to be a part of your tribe.

Your aura is like a vibrant, colorful beacon that radiates your true self. It is a reflection of your thoughts, emotions, and intentions. When you embrace your authenticity and stay true to who you are, your aura becomes even more powerful, drawing in those who align with your values and purpose.

Your tribe may not necessarily be a large group; it could be a few individuals who share your passion, dreams, and vision. They will support and uplift you, understanding your journey on a deep level. Together, you will create a harmonious energy, inspiring each other to grow and evolve.

Thank you for all your support throughout the years!

The Black Feminine Society is just getting started ✨

Xoxo,

Leah 💋

PS. Are We Besties On Instagram Yet ? 📲

Here’s The Link 🔗: CLICK HERE to stay motivated, supported & endlessly inspired. 💓

[urloveangel]

leveling up and evolving is fun and games and then you have to face the growing pains and the discomfort of taking new actions and embodying a new identity 🥴🤣

[recsspecs]

The world is about change — often unexpected change. Change is as unavoidable as death and taxes.

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