#gendervibes

[averagenderedmanta]

Yep!

18ish months ago i hab one pair of blue Puma shoes, one pair of jeans and way to much themepark shirts. Im wearing sth. Thats enough I guess?

Fast forward and I own several pairs of converse in different colours, a few jeans in blue/black/grey, some (short) shorts and way more new tshirts which I can mix and match.

Ans more than one belt, which I have to wear so my pants wont fall down. But i really like suspenders. Its way easier to wear.

My style now is somewhere around genderfuck? Not quite masc, a bit femme, but a vibe.

Also I cant wait until the heat is over so im back in Overknees!!

Not to sound like a 90s shallow prep, but how you dress can affect your self esteem, and putting energy into wearing things you actively like and projecting an ideal of yourself through fashion instead of seeing clothes as things you have to put on out of obligation helps.

It also can give you a sense of control over your appearance that you otherwise wouldn’t have lmao

[perfettamentechic]

🌈 Si celebra l’identità, la libertà e la bellezza di chi vive oltre il binario. Buon International Non-Binary People’s Day! 💛🤍💜🖤 #NonBinary #Inclusion #Pride #BeyondTheBinary #GenderDiversity #perfettamentechic

[couldtransitionsaveher]

SEBASTIAN DEBESTE from ACE ATTORNEY: PHOENIX WRIGHT

JUSTIFICATIONS:

"how else is she supposed to join Kay's heist gang of cute girls" - Anonymous

No Justification Submitted - Anonymous

"Soooooooo many gendervibes. Grew up in the shadow of a truly wretched father + has a whole arc about learning not to follow in his footsteps. Also looks Like That" - Anonymous

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[mail-me-a-snail]

your artstyle is gendervibes to me, somehow (/pos)

EHEHEHEHEEHEH thank u kindly

[motorcide]

IF YOU'RE TRANS (OR JUST WANT A NEW NAME) YOU SHOULD TOTALLY HMU BECAUSE I LOVE NAMING FOLKS!!! GIVE ME YOUR HYPERSPECIFIC GENDERVIBES AND I WILL THROW NAMES AT YOU. ARE YOU AN ALTERHUMAN?? GIVE ME YOUR KINTYPES AND I'LL THROW NAMES AT YOU TOO. IM BORED AND I WANNA NAME PEOPLE

[bychertryntheatyr]

Wie bin ich hier eigentlich gelandet? - Das Friedel Tripel!

Wer ist eigentlich so reisefreudig einem Schauspieler, dessen Standartstimme gewöhnungsbedürftig von dem @nicht-ganz-allein-sunny immer erzählt, durch Deutschland hinterherzureisen? Ich! Achtzehn Tage für alle drei großen Stücke von und mit Christian Friedel benötigt? Ich! 24h Zugreisen auf sich nimmt für 7,5h Unterhaltung? Ich! Von jenem, jetzt sogar Oscarpreisträger, angeschrien wird? Die Verlobte meines besten Kumpels! (Ich hab dieses Erlebnis ja schon gehabt.)

Macbeth, Hamlet und Dorian würde ich gerne auch im großen Review auseinandernehmen, aber seit McBee sind schon 3 Wochen rum. Da helfen auch meine Notizen nicht mehr ganz. Zumindest die Vibes, den Mood und die Downs, die werd ich noch hintippen.

Macbeth

Sunnys liebster Zeitvertreib. Warum gehst du über zehn mal in das gleiche Stück? Das muss ich dann doch mal selber sehen. Morgens in den Zug, Abends ins Theater, ungeplant Freunde aufsammeln. Reihe 5.

Die Vibes. Gewaltige Bildsprache. Volle Bühne. Fantastische Livemusik von Woods of Birnam. Der Friedel hat eine grandiose Gesangsstimme.

Der Mood. Dunkel, mystisch, nebelig. Besserer McBee als Kaczmarczyks, aber nicht der Vibe aus Bochum. Wie viele Vorhangderivate zaubert ihr noch her??

Die Downs. Jannik Hinsch kann ich mit Bart nicht ernst nehmen. Hes not a Cis Guy.? Wo seine Gendervibes aus Piaf und 30ct Musical? Die ersten fünf Reihen *nach links reck* sind variabel abbaubar und damit *lehnt sich nach rechts* auf gleicher Höhe. Hab nur große Leute vor mir. Außerdem *Hand vor Stirn* blendet mich jedes Licht mindestens einmal. Das ja mies. Und wo ist überhaupt die Ei Szene??? qwq

Hamlet

Diesmal mit Sunny früh morgens in den Zug, in Düsseldorf dann Berry einsammeln, kurzes Nickerchen im Hotel, abends ab in Reihe 9.

Die Vibes. Ich kannte das Stück ja. War im Dezember mein Zweites und hat mich verwirrt? zurück gelassen. Ohh I know what happens. Yeah, I heard this song. You still sound like ein deutsch synchronisierter US Highscool Tennie Protagonist auf der Suche zwischen Liebe und Football. So many sex and dickjokes. Die kann ich nicht alle mitschreiben!

Der Mood. Christian! Keiner hat gesagt du sollst zu unserer Reihe durchklettern. Ich wollte das Erlebnis bei Berry nur anteasern. Er kann so schön schreien. Sobald seine Stimme sich ändert ist da eine ganz andere Person auf der Bühne. Ich verstehe besser warum da Polarkreis 18 die Band auf der Bühne steht.

Die Downs. Ich verstehe immer noch nicht was Rosencrantz und Güldenstern da genau machen? Die Preise im D'Haus.

Dorian

You know, morgens im Zug, Dresden mal alleine angucken, Freunde einsammeln, Reihe 5.

Die Vibes. Ja. Die sind eindeutig da. Keiner versteht den Plot, falls es denn einen gibt. Aber der Monologabend hat seinen eigenen Vibe.

Der Mood. Es sitzt keiner vor mir! 90 minuten Soloabend ist schon respektabel. Aber vorher noch zwei andere Stücke spielen. How big is his brain? Again, fantastische Singstimme, Herr Friedel.

Die Downs. Yeah, youre a fucking alley cat. We get it. mreoowww... Dont have to tell me for the eleventh time. *grabs another Shot* (Es gab ne kleine Unterbrechung wegen medizinischem Notfall. Naja, passiert.)

Würde ich das nochmal machen? Ich glaube nicht. Will ich alle Stücke nochmal sehen? Sicherlich. War es eine dummgeile Idee? Absolut!

[karekuat]

I feel like people often get confused about my Boyflux GenderVibes/Presentation combo

People assume baggy "masc" clothes = feeling masc and "femme" clothes = feeling agender (cuz I suppose I wouldn't care about misgendering? If I feel I'm lacking gender??)

But when I feel most 'masculine' (as in feel most like a boy, on the gender intensity slider) I prefer to wear feminine things because I enjoy presenting as a femboy or just a cute guy

When I feel more agender I prefer baggy form hiding clothing because I must become an amorphous void. I am the Eldritch creature of the cosmos, you cannot perceive me. Masks also do wonders for this euphoria

[generallygenderless]

The fun/weird thing about being a sorta-minorly-transmasc nonbinary person, at least in my experience, is how it relates to attraction.

If I like a girl, because I know I’m perceived as a girl and I have some small attachment to the gender I pretended to be for years, it feels gay. I’m pretty sure that some of the people in my life view me as essentially a bi girl with they/them pronouns. Hell, to the family I’m half-closeted to I seem like a bi girl (which nothing against bi girls but for me it feels wrong because I know I’m not one).

If I like a guy, because I feel a little more along the masc lines, it’s gay. I don’t know exactly why, and that detail alone makes me wonder if I’m a Trans Guy In Denial (TGID).

And of course, being nonbinary, if I like a nonbinary person that’s technically same gender attraction, which is literally gay.

So either way it’s queer and I guess that’s the best way to explain it. None of my love or attraction has ever been straight, it’s always a queer love and I don’t even know if that makes sense out of my head.

It doesn’t help that I’m also sorta genderfluid I think, and I know that my gender vibes are mildly influenced by attraction (including aesthetic alone).

But even with friends it’s this way to a degree.

With girls, I’m aware of how I’m viewed, and how I just don’t relate to their experience of gender. And those experiences leak into conversation in a lot of different ways, but in a group of girls, especially cishet ones, I just feel like an impostor. Because I look like them but I don’t understand their world and their culture.

With guys, still aware of how I’m viewed, because it can affect my safety in a space. Whether out or not, I’ve had guys I thought were friends who were really just trying to get with me. And being careful is a necessity. But I kinda wanna feel like one of the guys, and I think that’s part of why videogaming with my school friend lately has been so fun. I like that I feel affirmed in my gender identity somehow because I’m bonding with a guy friend in a traditionally masculine way. Or maybe the game itself has nothing to do with it but the vibes do. I’m unsure.

With nonbinary people, it’s generally pretty chill. Sometimes our gendervibes are similar and other times it’s not. Sometimes all I know about them are their pronouns but it just helps somehow. To know that someone else gets it I guess.

I don’t talk much about my gender lately. It shows. I don’t hear my name often during the summer, so my club meetings and game sessions affirm me in a way that home life only sometimes does. My mom has my pronoun-shuffle down in a way that seems natural, but she alternates names too. It’s fine, but it feels like two different identities and I’ve wondered for a few years now if my name discomfort might be trauma related.

In any event, I fuck up my own pronouns lately and stuff. It’s weird because it feels wrong every time but it still happens. I struggle with which name to use and it’s uncomfortable. Kinda dysphoric lately but in a quiet way. Little bits of discomfort that I don’t realize until I reflect on the day.

Earlier today, a friend misgendered me and I caught it the first time. He caught and corrected it the second time. I said it was alright because it is, long-term, but every time I remember it, inevitably part of me wants to laugh while the other part just feels uncomfortable.

The friend meant no harm. I’m just having these issues lately.

[what-if-i-just-did]

So I've been thinking about re-naming myself and..

[yennciri]

buon compleanno! 🎉

Grazieee 😘

[gender-is]

gender is shaking up a glitter jar and watching the sparkles settle

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[d-trashbandicoot]

GENDERVIBE

A gender best described by the phrase "I'm just trying to vibe." It can also be associated with different aesthetics and aesthetic based genders. Such as "goth" vibe, "punk" vibe, or "cutesy" vibe.

[bychertryntheatyr]

Ahhh, ich liebe den Harzer/Simons/Bochum Macbeth! Er hat alles was ich da sehen will! Da sind zwei (okay drei) wunderbare Schauspielys die im Sekundentakt mit sich selbst zwei verschiedene Rollen spielen.

Einen pathetic Jens Harzer als McBee/Duncan/Malcolm. Marina Galic mit absoluten Gendervibes. Stefan Hunstein als grandiosen Requisitengeber und fantastische Hexe!

In den passenden Momenten comedy reinwerfen. Auch mal die Schnauze halten können und das Stück durch Stille und Präsenz fortführen. Und sich mehrmals mit Babypuder bewerfen!

[percabeth4life]

hey so..

I haven't seen anyone other genderfluid people discuss this but.

wtf was Alex fierro? like, I love that bitch but the opening scene was him being like "I thought yall broke me" in reference to the genderfluid. like, can't really solidify a gender? dying anit gonna cause that. if I did in fact die, I wouldn't attack people bc I thought my gender was broken? how does death and gender affect each other? personally I'd like to NOT try to figure out my gender every day so I would see it as a plus but that just me. also, I'd assume magnus sensing gender is a Frey thing bc sadly, I cannot shape-shift to give off whatever gendervibes I want.

but does white man mcrickle know how gender fluidity works at all? did he even Google that? he is so disappointing smh

Yeah I've seen a few discuss it, it's so frustrating. And he definitely did google it because he has Alex basically quote google to people asking what he is lmao.

And yeah, Alex actually is heavily implied by her reaction to Magnus asking if he can't just shape shift to not be able to. Because she gets upset about it and stuff. So he can't and it is totally weird that Magnus can just sense it.

Rick def seems to struggle with understanding how to write minorities, he really could've benefited from talking to more people and getting some sensitivity readers.

[bijoumikhawal]

life times in enemy territory- a garak playlist

Commentary about why each song under the cut!

Better than me- the Brobecks Look at what you've done, now I'm a mess/Today I even thought I'd wear a dress/It's beautiful, so smart/And no good for me/At all

Commentary track: Garak at Ba’amaren. Surrounded mostly by upper class idiots strutting about and looking down on him even though they feel the need to steal the credit for his tactical knowledge, developing emotions for both people who are actually kind and the first man to ever beat him up.

Hallelujah- Leonard Cohen Your faith was strong but you needed proof/You saw her bathing on the roof/Her beauty and the moonlight overthrew her/She tied you to a kitchen chair/She broke your throne, and she cut your hair/And from your lips she drew the Hallelujah

Commentary track: more ASIT references- a poet overthrown by his love of a woman, who he explicitly connects to faith and religion? Fits the vibe pretty hard. A similar vibe is the Lesbian version of Maddy Groves I can't put on this playlist because it's only on bandcamp.

Brutus- the Buttress I always knew I could be the one/Though I feel the endless pain of being/And I am scorched by the sun/Of humble origins and born of the cursed sex/My name is Brutus, but the people will call me Rex

Commentary track: not on this playlist for the gendervibes, more for the utter jealousy and the fact that Garak would fume about a song related to Ceasar being associated with him.

Alligator Teeth- Mother Falcon Things are not like they seem/Things are not like they seem/Things are not like they seem/That’s what I’ve learned of dreams

Commentary track: a song about anxiety and hypervigilance. Not much else to it.

Explode- Patrick Stump They said that they found it in the basement/Enough to just blow that roof to the pavement/And he was the man for the job/A one-man bomb squad/A middle aged mess thinking

Commentary track: Garak whenever anyone goes "hey you, the former spy, we need you to do spy stuff".

Lovesong- Snake River Conspiracy However far away, I will always love you/However long I stay, I will always love you/Whatever words I say, I will always love you/I will always love you

Commentary track: a dark romance song about utter devotion regardless of what someone does to you. Describes far too many of Garak's relationships.

Live by the Sword- Dorian Electra It's cold like the ocean cold like the rain/Show your devotion, show me the pain/Show me the blood, show me you tried/Show me the tears coming down from your eyes

Commentary track: there's a video on YouTube analyzing the Flamboyant album through a trans lens, and this one is read as describing a threat- if you want to live like this (out and proud), you're gonna die like this. It also works as a parallelism between Garak's two fathers- Tolan, warning him to chose a life other than violence, and Tain, urging him to take power through violence.

Father- The Front Bottoms I have this dream that I am hitting my dad with a baseball bat/And he is screaming and crying for help/And maybe halfway through it has more to do with me killing him/Then it ever did protecting myself

Commentary track: Garak has daddy issues... bit of a Garak/Palandine vibe as well, and kind of a gender vibe.

Villainous Thing- Shayfer James Oh dear, let me see those smokey eyes/'Cause you're a villainous thing/And we can't have you living a lie/Oh dear, let's remove those pretty clothes/'Cause you're a villainous thing, oh/And I don't think anyone knows

Commentary track: Garak talking about someone else? Someone talking about Garak? Works either way

Our Word- 36 Questions And as I laid there helplessly/A million different thoughts came to me/I saw my parents hearing the news/"Your only daughter drowned today"/I thought about what they might say

Commentary track: a family that teaches their child to lie to the point where lying is the natural and expected reaction to any complicated emotion or situation.

Hatef--k- the Bravery And there will be no tenderness, no tenderness/There will be no tenderness, no tenderness/I will show no mercy for you/you had no mercy for me/The only thing that I ask, love me mercilessly

Commentary track: Garak's relationship to far too many people, but specifically Barkan. We know Barkan doesn't consider his enjoinment to actually prohibit him from sleeping with other people- he and Garak definitely had bad sex while they were at school together.

The Moss- Cosmo Sheldrake Well, legend has it when the sunbeams come/All the plants, they eat them with their leaves/Well, legend has it that the world spins 'round/On an axis of 23 degrees

Commentary track: this is almost entirely vibes based, at best I can say it's connecting to Garak's relationship with Tolan and Hebitian religion.

The Heroine- Unwoman I go through the motions again and again/But you are not here to see them/I go through the emotions again and again/And this time I actually feel them

Commentary track: Garak's feelings of abandonment on post canon Cardassia, if you buy that Julian wouldn't immediately start triaging people after the bombardment.

Dust and Ashes- Josh Groban How did I live?/I taste every wasted minute/Every time I turned away/From the things that might have healed me/How long have I been sleeping?

Commentary track: credit to @ofhouseadama on this one; I hadn't paid any mind to Great Comet in years, and she's right, it is a REALLY fitting post canon Garak song.

Honorable Madam- Daniel Kahn and Vanya Zhuk Honorable Madam/Queen of Separation/Many years we've been/The very closest of relations/I beg you, do not taunt me/Don't tear my words apart/If Death don't want me/How about your heart?/I beg you, do not taunt me/Don't tear my words apart/If Death don't want me/How about your heart?

Commentary track: it was very hard to chose a lyric selection. This song very much reminds me if my own fucked up relationship to the idea of homelands, borders, and "seperation". Interpret the "honorable madam" who is both "loving and oppressing" and its pretty decent song to describe Garak's relationship to Cardassia.

Circus- Lindsay Mendez Hello kind sir I'm so glad you never met me/You're my first one so forgive me if it's messy/Just to be fair/I admit that I'm scared/And sorry for what I must do

Commentary track: this one's creepy! And fucked up! Just like Garak's relationship to literally everything because of being raised with the expectation of being a spy, torturer, and assassin from a young age- especially if you think he honeypotted. Blending the lines of intimacy and violence.

Writer in the Dark- Lorde I am my mother's child, I'll love you 'til my breathing stops/I'll love you 'til you call the cops on me/But in our darkest hours, I stumbled on a secret power/I'll find a way to be without you, babe

Commentary track: Garak has mommy issues too, it's equality. Also a song about abandonment and learning to move on.

Adam Raised a Cain- Murder by Death (cover) In the darkness of your room/Your mother calls you by your true name/You remember the faces, the places, the names/You know it's never over it's relentless as the rain

Commentary track: the secrets and violence your parents teach you.

Compulsive Liar- Ezra Furman I've got one fatal flaw/I'm a compulsive liar/If I don't love you/I will tell you anything/And even if I love you/I'll always be conniving/I'll always be negotiating with the truth

Commentary track: lying, closets, and queer subtext! About the ways lying and confinement feel safer than the truth and freedom.

A body on the step- American Murder Song Was a mother, was a mother, burning someone's clothes/Was a mother, was a mother, burning someone's clothes/With rope in her apron and black for an eye/A body on the step and lies all about

Commentary Track: yet another song about a family that lies and ruins each others lives, but especially their children's. Also a really good song to write to.

[pie-shenanigans]

~looks like a slug that has been ran over by a double decker bus but puts in a dangly dagger earing for the gendervibes~