#it's a lot of like paying lip service to transfeminism without actually thinking about it and engaging with it

[vamptastic]

it's so frustrating when somebody makes a really good point about misogyny but has to go out of their way to exclude transgender men from the discussion when discussing things that very explicitly include us. i don't mean just forgetting we exist or using cissexist language i mean specifically going out of your way to say that obviously we must somehow be exempt from, say, abortion bans, for no real reason other than to be exclusionary.

and like i know the answer from most people is lol whatever suck it up that's how it is being a minority but you know, i've been doing that, and it gets a bit tiring to be told that problems that directly affect you and others like you aren't worth caring about and that you wanting people to remember you exist is like, asserting your toxic masculine energy or whatever.

i just want people to remember that trans men can get pregnant and might be perceived as women and discriminated against for without explicitly misgendering us in the process. especially since that misgendering is often not accidental cissexism but can in fact be a deliberate attempt to force us to detransition if we want to benefit from feminism in terms of abortion rights or hate crime laws or workplace discrimination.

like it's not me being sensitive about language it's not wanting a movement that concerns me and my rights to forget i exist or deliberately exclude me. because when well meaning cis woman feminists forget about trans men you open the door for people that are not well-meaning to deliberately fuck us over. that's all.