#patriarchy

[f4c4r]

Mansplaining

If a man 'mansplains' something to you, thank him. He has used his valuable time to ensure you understand something better. He is not to know if you already have that information or not and he thought you were worthy enough to at least inform you. It is a complement when a man takes the time to 'mansplain', it is his way of helping you be a better person.

Always welcome mansplaining and always say thank you when he was gracious enough to give you that time - he didn't have to. It's just another example of how men are being helpful toward girls. We need to appreciate it more.

[agentrouka-blog]

Is Nedcat abusive ?

That's a complex problem.

There is an in-built structural inequality of power within the relationship that Ned is not above taking advantage of when it suits him (see: Jon), and we have two known instances where Ned either directly scared Cat (asking about Ashara) or almost unthinkingly manhandled her (gripping her arm roughly out of impatience), so this is not a relationship that you could transplant into the modern day and call unproblematic. Ned holds and uses power over Catelyn in ways that color the whole of their family life. In ways that are traumatizing to basically everyone in the family.

But Ned didn't create this power structure and he is no more consciously aware of the damaging nature of their social structure than Cat herself is. They live in it, they suffer from it, but they don't analyze it. Ned is not deliberately or even unconsciously setting out to cause harm to Catelyn, nor ever transgressing against her beyond what the rules of their society regard as an ideal relationship. He values her opinions, supports her political decisions, goes out of his way to make her look and feel valid in their shared home. Except for when he doesn't.

They live in a society that is inherently abusive by having absurd legal power imbalances, and Ned beautifully shows us how even a generally kind person invitably, unthinkingly, partakes of that injustice simply because nothing is in place to prevent it. GRRM probably specifically wrote them as a loving couple in a corrosive system in order to showcase the corrupting force of this kind of inequality. Patriarchy is giving Ned power he should not have, and it hurts them both.

[redditreceipts]

post-op transwoman feels “inspired by” women having to struggle with vaginismus 🫥 https://www.reddit.com/r/vaginismus/s/FSKpyc5hYA

LMAO that is just too much for me. i can't.

a person mutilates their own body by deciding to get their perfectly healthy and functional sexual organ turned inside out, and then relates themselves with people who are suffering from a genuine medical condition. this can't be true.

I guess it's like when on an autism subreddit, people talk about struggling to make friends, and then someone comes in and says "hey guys, I am neurotypical but I'm an asshole so nobody wants to be my friend as well. I really love your subreddit and it inspires me so much" like WHAT

please give me a break

[babygs-posts]

[squishy-min-mochi]

It’s important to recognise that Barbie (2023) criticises both the patriarchy AND the matriarchy. Yes, the Ken’s are just accessories to the Barbies. Yes, they don’t have any say in the government they live under. That’s the point, you’re supposed to feel awful, you’re supposed to want the Kens to have their own agency, you’re supposed to want equality. The Barbie movie explicitly states that the way Barbie treats Ken is wrong, so much so that once he finds a safe space for his masculinity and individual identity he’s so excited to share it with the other Kens.

But they go overboard and replace a matriarchy with a patriarchy and now the same issue exists but in reverse. That’s the POINT!! THATS THE POINT!!! Barbie is not anti-men it’s pro equality PLEASE understand this

13th Aug 2023 UPDATE:

Heeeeey howdy!!

Due to the IMMENSE comments and discussion on this post (thanks ya’ll!!) I’ve decided to update my post with my recent opinions and hopefully clearer explanations!!

First, my original post only considers a very small and very vague analysis of the film!!

Since making this I've read all your comments and learned quite a bit about the matriarchy as it appears in human civilisation. Originally, I was pitting the patriarchy and the matriarchy against each other as though the results of their implementation were equal in the film.

They were not!! Below is the definition of matriarchy I’ll be working off of.

Matriarchy Simple Definition;

Matriarchy is a social system in which women hold the primary power positions in roles of authority. In a broader sense it can also extend to moral authority, social privilege and control of property.

There's a lot to talk about in the Barbie film that would fit better in an essay, so I'll try and condense it into this;

To me, Barbie (2023) is a film about the female experience and the shared connection between women that persists through childhood and adulthood, support and harassment, suffering and joy, mother and daughter.

It uses Barbie as its figurehead because of the immense societal and political impact the doll has had on women, both good and bad (as explained in the film).

The male experience as seen in Barbie (2023) is not the sole focus of the film- rather, it's an accessory (as the Kens are) to Barbie's story, and a necessary aspect of exploration to truly highlight the importance of individualism and healthy personal exploration.

I want to make clear that I in no way think the treatment of the Kens was just as bad as the treatment of the Barbies. I also still agree that the matriarchy fostered by the Barbies wasn’t good for the Kens.

Additionally, I’m aware that this take on Barbie (2023) works strictly within the assumed heteronormative boundaries of gender. There is a lot of nuance in the Barbie film and I don’t think everything can be covered or explained in on Tumblr post— but I hope this clarification helps!!

I hope you're all coming to your own conclusions and analysis of the film in a way that makes sense to you. And for those of you engaging in online conversations and discourse about it, I hope you're keeping yourself and others happy and safe!!!

Much love to you all!! < 3

[animentality]

[theotherpacman]

OH AND ANOTHER THING ABOUT THE ATLA REBOOT

the sexism thing??? we all know it's fucking stupid and purely performative to take out sokka's feminism arc, but can we talk about the fact that He Is Still Sexist????? he still thinks that what he does (running the village's defenses, which they've never needed) is vastly more important than what she does (wash the clothes, cook, etc). and yk what?? the live action reboot AGREES with him. it doesn't show or even mention katara doing any work around the village. all we see katara doing is practice waterbending - the only interesting thing that original episode 1 sokka seems to think katara ever does.

the live action show depicts sokka "doing all the work", fulfilling his traditionally masculine role of warrior/protector, and COMPLETELY DISMISSES whatever "women's work" katara does, as if she does nothing. seems pretty clear to me that the showrunners would love to absolve themselves of sexism by not talking about sexism, while in actuality being pretty sexist themselves

and don't even get me started on sokka not wearing the dress/makeup of the kyoshi warriors' uniform

[sassinake]

[misogyny4girls]

You wouldn't have fat udders hanging off your chest like you do if they weren't meant to be groped, squeezed, and slapped around after all, would you? Your body is a fucktoy for Men, and there's no reason to try and pretend like it's anything else, especially when you have big hangers like this cow.

[taliabhattwrites]

Understanding Transmisogyny

A lot of people online have a very basic understanding of 'transmisogyny', often conceptualizing it in additive terms ("misogyny+transphobia") or considering it "misogyny experienced by a trans person".

There isn't enough consideration given to the material circumstances of transfems, to grappling with the oppression that arises specifically from refusing to be subsumed into the naturalized construction of the "male sex" and manhood.

Transmisogyny cannot be comprehended by adding together disparate experiences to try and approximate what you think a trans woman might experience. It requires a holistic understanding of how misogyny operates, of the function of patriarchy, and the mechanisms in place that enforce binary sex, and punish us in a specific manner for contravening the imperative to be men.

I broke it down into a three-part essay series, though more are on the way as I approach the topics of 'penetrability' and 'Third-Sexing'. I hope people take the time to peruse them and try to think about transmisogyny from a more transfeminist perspective.

[heterorealism]

[redditreceipts]

how liberal men think they can help women's rights:

how men can actually help women's rights:

source

[patriarchyslut18]

We are nothing without men

Your life's purpose is to satisfy a man. If you haven't done that today, you are a worthless waste of oxygen. Making men happy is the only thing that matters in life.

Feeling sick? Nobody cares. Headache? nobody cares. Depressed? Nobody cares. We as women exist to please men. Nobody cares about you. Bend over, drop to your knees, open your mouth, do whatever it takes to satisfy your man and stop thinking your feelings or 'rights' matter

[decolonize-the-everything]

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carolinejsumlin: White Supremacy is the umbrella system that runs our society. It is the foundation in which our society is built on. It is the machine of our society, but this machine cannot run without each part working seamlessly to do its job. Each part of the white supremacy machine is one of these systems of oppression (and many others I was unable to fit here). Now, this isn't to say that these systems of oppression couldn't operate on their own. They absolutely can and do in other cultures and societies. However, within our modern, western society that was built on and continues to be run by white supremacy, these systems strategically run to ensure white supremacy's goal: a pristine social order of pure whiteness. One we understand the depths of how white supremacy works and just how much it is impacting us from every corner of society, we can begin to dismantle it effectively, while freeing ourselves from falling for its devices.

This concept is something I've seen posted and over and over by different people (usually Black women though). The idea that it's not just that specific groups are consistently targeted but anyone who deviates from the narrow norm of White Supremacy becomes a target, which is why Black women with multiple intersecting identities are the worst treated people in pretty much every society worldwide.

Which is why I listen and follow and share so many perspectives of Black women btw. When the Combahee River Collective said "If Black women were free, it would mean that everyone else would have to be free since our freedom would necessitate the destruction of all the systems of oppression." I didn't see any way that could be false and it's because of white supremacy.

And as for how and where white supremacy exists:

I like this White Supremacy Pyramid, it pretty much encapsulates my understanding and belief of how its perpetuated and builds on itself -ultimately up to the genocide of groups that don't fit into the White Supremacist categories of ideal.

The "Pyramid of White Supremacy" is a component of assistant professor Erin Stutelberg's Diversity and the Self class. It's a one-credit course required for students majoring in elementary education at the Maryland college. Stutelberg said in a Friday statement to Delmarva Now that the violent Charlottesville rally took place as the course was being planned. She felt it needed to be brought up in class, but wanted to carefully do so.

She didn't want her students to think about white supremacy only "as men in robes or hoods or torches marching in streets" because it would give them the impression that it was separate from their lives. "Instead, I want students to explore the ways that race and racism are part of all of our lives," Stutelberg said.

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And while not everyone (including myself) agrees with the placement of absolutely everything, it's still decent enough to use so that's what I'm doing.

That to say white Supremacy exists and is perpetuated anywhere and everywhere, so it's up to us individually and collectively to hold ourselves responsible for where it's growing in ourselves, our communities, and countrymen.

I don't see how liberation or human rights will be won with anything but solidarity for the most marginalized communities there are.

How do you build white supremacist framework for future generations if the people here now refuse to hate each other enough to allow it?

[returning-to-her]

Females are Gods. We should act like it.

[animentality]