#wrote it as a stream of thoughts with many interruptions inbetween so sorry if it's messy

[sztefa001]

Putting you tags here because yes. If we have a sex repulsed ace with someone to whom bodily intimacy is an important part of the relationship it's abviously a recipe for disaster. Unless they're not monogamus and the sex-liking person outsorces those needs to another partner(s). But for that convo y'all have to be normal about poly relationships.

But even if we cast aside the far ends of the spectrum and focus on what's inbetween - there are aces who don't mind sex or even like it. Sex for them is just not the most important thing and if it just so happened that they end up with another ace and not have any sex for the rest of their lives they'll just be content with other things not even realizing that the last sexual situation they experienced was decades ago.

Then again the same person can do very well with an allo partner because they're still ok with sex. Is it sex with just this person? Or some kind of preson in general? Are feelings more important than general preferences? Doesn't matter, can be different for everyone. Point is they can ttly be compatibile with someone who not only needs sex in their life (= could have another partner for that) but in this exact realtionship relationship (= they agree to stay monogamous).

In the end it all boils down to clearly communicating one's boundaries. If you're horny on main (not a bad thing in itself!) but I'm sex repulsed and at least one of us wants us to stay monogamous then it won't work. If I can live just fine without sex as long as I can pleasure myself in privacy but it's still too much for you to handle then it won't work either.

But if both people agree what they're ok with the others' boundaries and how they want to handle their needs then it's non issue.

I know it may be shocking to some but sex and love are two very separte things where one can exist without the other or they can exist next to each other or together with one another.

TL;DR stop trying to paint the world with that one 6-color paintset you have and claim that this is how it looks irl. The reality has much more colors, hues, shades and textures and to some colors even have sounds. You may not see all the subtle vibes but they're there. Get on the shrimp level.

one of my fandom litmus tests is whether or not ppl think asexual characters can be in relationships because some of y’all would rather write five paragraph essays explaining why you can’t ship them with anyone than redefine the way you view love (aka acknowledge rather than invalidate relationships that have no sexual physicality)

[ythmir-writes]

Hello!

It's me again rising from the ashes after like what a few months of silence haha I'm sorry imso bad at being a constant online presence wow

Since i’m about to post Day 20, I just wanted to interrupt the fanfic-posting with this THANK YOU to everyone who's left a like, reblog, and/or tag dumped on my fics for Fictober!

I'm happy you've taken a moment to do these things. It makes me happy that I've written something that gets even one(1) person's attention.

For the new followers, my warmest welcome! I've given some thought on how to introduce myself whenever I get new followers and I thought it would be best to start with the fact that:

I'm your regular internet cryptid who has sporadic posting schedules. I've got two jobs because living is hard and i have no sense of self-preservation other than drinking copious amounts of caffeine and bubble tea because chewing on tapioca is therapeutic. I've been here since before the glory days of Midnight Cinderella, and if there is anything I am proud of it's my tenacity to come back every once in a while to terrorize fandoms with whatever it was that i was crafting while i was inbetween court hearings and agonizing over affidavits and client meetings that could have been best done through texting with emojis. And then disappearing again because ohboy does writing make me anxious

it may seem like i don't talk much (it's true) but know that i am always looking at tags and screaming my heart out whenever someone so much as tells me they like what i wrote. i am also really shy so if you need a sign to hmu and talk otome to me, this is it

i mostly write for MidCin, IkeSen, and IkeVamp. I dabble in SLBP (because some lords are well not really my type) and IkeRev (there's a limit to the otome this heart/wallet can handle. I have no romantic feelings towards anyone in IkeRev, theyre colleagues for now). One day, i’ll pluck up the courage to post something for utapri and hypmic.

I wrote smut once and I don't think i have the skills to do it again. So, if pain, war, action, urban fantasy, fluff, stream of consciousness, and whatever along those lines is your cup of tea, i'm here to serve it. Sometimes i manage to write something amazing. Usually it's just these.

i will also shamelessly say any help to my finances via Ko-Fi are very much appreciated but more than anything, the fact that my works are noticed is enough for me. write to create, is what I say to myself, and also because there's always a specific itch we all gotta scratch. After spending this much time (think how many annivs MidCin has), i think it's safe to say that this - whatever this blog is - is probably mine.