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World Boxing protects women and female sport: Imane Khelif ineligible for female category without completing genetic sex screening

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Trying to convert everyone I meet into becoming a firefox believer. Break your google-bound chains.

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"sex sells," and no-one is surprised. but women's chief or entire value being tied to our bodies is not a good thing, it is not an empowering, "fun & funny" thing--it is dehumanizing and abusive

this is a real headline. i hate it here.

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this is a real headline. i hate it here.

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Oh season one episode ten... you astound me

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your job is not more important than media from 2005. never forget this.

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I used to think that male friendships were uncomplicated and easy and straightforward - contrasted with female friendships which seemed complex and intricate and sometimes difficult to navigate. But that's not at all true. Any friendship, male or female, that is on the shallower (not meant negatively at all, just...realistically) end of the friendship closeness spectrum is going to seem easy and uncomplicated and any friendship on the deep end is going to take a lot more effort to maintain at that level as well as be much more complicated. Reading about close male friendships I have been struck by how much its like looking at a whole different world compared to my female friendships, which now seem surprisingly simple because I know so well how to navigate them (even if I don't always live up to that knowledge). Male friendships aren't simple or easy, they are just something I haven't actually experienced in any depth, you know?

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real life walrus vs fairy situation

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99% of ramblers quit right before they conceive of a coherent thought. KEEP TALKING

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30+ year old women are the backbone of fandom in general

30+ year old women are the backbone of this website

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getting big 45 minute vibes from this 15 minute recipe

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some fascinating sibling research for the sibling website:

When we think about the forces that shape us, we inevitably turn to parents. The parent-child relationship is the basis of probably half a millennium’s worth of psychoanalytic conversation and intellectual discourse; parenting books are perennial best sellers, with advice that fluctuates as often as the health advice on what to eat or drink and how much. Their whiplashing instructions don’t stop many parents from reading them, and who can blame those mothers and fathers: Children are baffling, variable, not that verbal — and parents also know that if they get it wrong, their kids will blame them for just about everything. And yet researchers, after analyzing thousands of twin studies, have come to the conclusion that the shared environment — the environment that siblings have in common, which includes parents — seems to do precious little to make fraternal twins particularly alike in many ways. They can be exposed to the same rules of oboe practice, dinnertime rituals, punishments, family values and parental harmony or discord, and none of it really matters in many key regards — siblings’ personalities may very well end up as different as those of any two strangers on the street. No one would argue that parenting doesn’t matter; it’s just that the choices so many loving parents agonize over — whether to co-sleep or not, whether to enforce the rules rigidly or sometimes let them go — don’t matter nearly as much as we imagine they do. Nor does that mean that genes are all-powerful; it’s just that nurture comprises so much more than parenting — the environmental effects a child is exposed to are vast, and include (just to start) the media they consume and the friends and teachers in whose company they spend most of the day. And then there are siblings. “I think the influence of siblings on each other is an area in psychology that has not nearly received the attention it deserves,” says Lisa Damour, a psychologist and author who writes about adolescence. “When we look at child development, our main frameworks have been around the influence of parents on children, and that’s the established tradition that we’ve had a hard time moving past.” Anyone raising more than one child, Damour says, or who has a sibling, intuitively knows that sibling relationships play a powerful role in affecting who we become. “If parents are the fixed stars in the child’s universe, the vaguely understood, distant but constant celestial spheres, siblings are the dazzling, sometimes scorching comets nearby,” wrote Alison Gopnik, a developmental psychologist, in a review of a book about siblings in 2011. A body of research has been growing in recent years that adds clarity and depth to our understanding of how significant the impact of siblings can be. Researchers have studied how siblings influence one another’s choices and life trajectories through competition; they have uncovered deeper knowledge of so-called spillover effects, the ripple effects of how one sibling’s experiences affect another’s; and they have brought rigor to bear on popular ideas about birth order. New tools of genetic research may challenge or sharpen previously held conceptions about siblings. The data set of families whose stories might shed light on some of these interactions is limitless, but one place to look is at siblings who have long fascinated me: those in families in which a surprising number of brothers and sisters have found their way to the top of the ladder of success. Some of the dynamics described in the research, in those families, might be borne out in the extreme. Siblings, at their best, can urge one another on; competing and collaborating — whether intentionally or not — they help chart the course of one another’s lives.

Full article without the paywall:

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you will also never convince me anything good comes from ~childfree spaces~. for years we had to fight for the rights of mothers to exist in public spaces continue their social lives and education/careers. and of children to be recognised as human members of society instead of property. there's no progressive language that covers what the closed bars of "family life belongs to the private domestic sphere" idea signify to women and children

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avoiding online politics for the last two months has cured me of the need to post about my political opinions. i mean, i still will though, don't worry about that

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ma'am, I'm going to place you on a brief hold while I look for a reaction image