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Damn I need to post more

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Absolutely hate being socially burned out

There are so many ppl I wanna talk to rn ;-;

But I'm exhausted and have been for months

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Also, *I* have autism, and I, a cisautistic find it harms me in no way whatsoever that people have atypical dysphoria, and identify as transautistic to alleviate that dysphoria. It's nor that they want autism, or think it's cool, the same way trans women don't just think women are cool, despite facing way more oppression. Would you rather they just told everyone they were cisautistic? Surely that would make stuff WAY worse.

Transautistics don't effect anyone. They're mostly all open about being transautistic and not cisautistic, they don't speak over cisautistic people, and if you don't like them, just block them and move on with your life.

Also, please don't crosstag. You're just inviting hate on both ends. How would you like it if a radqueer tagged their posts with anti rq? It'd upset you, right?

A rant, which I typically don’t do.

You are NOT “transabled”. You are not “transid” or “transx” or whatever. YOU ARE AN ATTENTION SEEKER.

There are REAL people with REAL disabilities that struggle daily with ableism and depression because of their REAL disability, not the fake “UwU I’m so cute and silly! I have transautism transadhd transdepression transosdd transdid transfreckles transthisandthat!”

I get it-you want to feel like part of a group. You want attention, you want friends. But minimizing the struggles of real disabled people, or saying you have whatever when you DON'T is not the way to do it. Essentially, you’re just being ableist.

Tldr: Get off the internet, you’re not disabled.

Also, I HAVE autism, and I, a “cisautistic” person, find it absolutely horrific that people WANT to have autism. Sure, it may give me “superpowers”, but often, it just makes life harder. Disabilities MAKE LIFE HARDER. Be thankful that you have a body that works in the way it should, and a brain that makes life easier, not harder.

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more transplurals, more transdid, more transosdd, more willowgenic systems, more "fake it till you make it" systems

more systems who piss people off

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Dear OtY individuals,

Just because your body is aging doesn't mean you are. You are your desired age.

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transpsychosis tips from a cispsychotic<3

im rly paranoid abt being watched or ig rly j being seen when i dont want 2. im always adjusting my brightnesss and body position and tabs/tab groups 2 avoid it being visible 2 others. (especially in cases of fearing judgement/backlash)

psychotic ppl often have reversed sleep schedules !! im more hyperactive @ nite and dazed during the day, and use caffeine 2 get thru

^^energy drinks also make your thoughts more disorganized and you more hyper.

be picky over a few trivial things. for ex if im writing, there are times where i randomly rly dont like how a few of my letters look i have 2 rewrite them until theyre "fixed" or i stop obsessing

this is pretty similar 2 tha above point, but finding comfort in odd things n honing in on ur weird thought patterns/associations. things like numbers u like more than others, or finding comfort in checking ur work a million times (which can b a result of disorganized thoughts && hyperactivity)

when looking around, try 2 b more alert and oberservant about it (as if checking that ur delusions/paranoia/hallucinations arent actually happening)

check that oddball things arent ur fault, for example i saw my cuzin today 4 the first time this week and am for some reason checking 4 any way i might have caused his random ass allergic reaction

b open (online, irl, wtv u want) abt your weird fears or paranoia !! it could be euphoric 4 others 2 see them or just to have known you said it somewhere

also!! ^_^

if ur sum1 who experiences derealization, u already have psychotic traits ! if ur obsessive or keep a lot of tabs on certain ppl, u already have psychotic traits ! even if its j stalking sum1s blog. if ur an insomniac, u already have psychotic traits ! if u isolate, especiall if u find it v important to isolate urself, u already have psychotic traits !!!!

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Reminder to my transid friends:

There are many, many, many people in real life who will actively accept you as a person. I am an older person, the friends I have who are my age or older don't care about my transid identities. Some have been confused at first, absolutely, but my entire friend group is supportive of my identities. They treat me how I want to be treated, they don't question if I'm valid or if I'm not. Anti-Radqueer's who claim you'll never be accepted in real life are stuck in echo chambers they can't escape, and I truly pity the moral suffering they experience every day. You are loved and the future will be radqueer.

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If you do this, you can make it about a real person in your head, but please don't tell anyone that persons name, or even better, make it about a person who doesn't exist!!!!!

Idk if they were transharmed or not, but someone did this to me, and it ruined my life for a long time!!!

Just make sure to be mindful of nonconsentually hurting other people!!

Tips for Transharmed people!:

You can manipulate yourself into thinking something happened to give you trauma relating to that thing! Try telling people around you that the trauma happened to you. After that you can begin to think of exact details of the trauma. I'd recommend using people you're not around much anymore to base the trauma off of.

Steps!:

Step 1: think of a VERY detailed story of what happened, it's okay if you forget details! Just say it happened a long time ago.

Step 2: tell your friends small details of the trauma during sensitive moments in your life. This will trick your brain into thinking that it happened!

Step 3: talk to yourself/write about your trauma. After a while of doing this, it'll make you believe yourself when you say it happened.

Step 4: stop thinking about it as a transharmed fantasy, instead, think about it as an actual piece in your life.

Step 5: when doubting yourself, tell yourself this: "if I'm doubting myself, then that means it's real. A faker would know they're lying."

Step 6: keep doing this! It'll take a bit to fully convince yourself, but it'll work eventually!

Love: a cisharmed person!

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Its okay to be transharmed and scared of pain

Its okay to be transharmful with lots of empathy

You are as important to this community as anyone else, regardless of where you are in your journey. Just like transitioning individuals, you are deserving of respect, care, and space to grow. Your experiences and the way you navigate the world matter just as much, and your voice has just as much power to shape this space.

Your struggles, your empathy, your humanity are vital threads in this shared tapestry.

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Can we normalize finding some disorders cute.

My BPD is adorable to me.

One of my sons ( @/radicalmapicc) finds his brother ( @/almost-radqueer-zam) fuckin adorable when he's having a narc high.

Normalize this.

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"It's not okay to harass people!"

Yes! Yes, exactly! Leave it at that

"Unless-"

... God dammit

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y did u like an anti-polyam post. being bigoted isnt radqueer.

no clue, i dont even remember

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Went through r/fakedisordercringe and at this point im convinced these people want you to be forever miserable.

Im speaking specifically on how they treat 'fakers' , theres a big focus on DID but what to me is weirdest is their views on Tourettes?

I didnt see anyone in the comments of this post saying that this girl was obviously faking, all of them were mainly talking about how this girl was disrupting class. To me, this is just so utterly weird to say, seeing that, y'know, Tourette's cannot be controlled. They speak about tourettes as if the only symptoms of it are SMALL LITTLE JERKS AND EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE WHISTLES!!!!

Although granted, they also say this

Another thing is it just seems like they want you to permanently suffer, all the time, 24/7. I didnt get a screenshot, but there was a video of a girl crying saying " i hate being autistic", it was stitched with another girl saying "i dont", and proceeded to look at a light up fidget spinner. To me it seems like you can never EVER be a happy person with your disorder in the eyes of these people, you always have to be in pain, you always have to hate yourself, self love is OUT OF THE QUESTION because they will call you a narcissitc

oh but you cant self-diagnose yourself, THEY can diagnose YOU with NPD, Munchausen's, Vanity, Paranoia - but will scream and preach about how to NOT SELF DIAGNOSE !!! DO NOT THROW AROUND MEDICAL TERMS LIKE THAT !!! NO NO !!

in conclusion, the only time people will take you seriously is when you hate yourself, are always crying and/or in pain <3

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★ Do you guys remember rq miku .. you guys loved rq miku ... /lh /nm

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" if you're ____ you can't use this label i coined! "

that's not how shit works. if i identify with a label you made, i'm going to use it and you're going to get the hell over it???? you don't get to nitpick who identifies as what. that's common sense, i fear.