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I think you're right about most of them except the Franky scene, i think Twilight was just upset that Franky was wasting his time there.

That's fair, especially because Twilight did go on to try and help Franky in the rest of that chapter. I personally just found the face he made hilarious, especially in comparison to some of the ones other Aromantics I know have made at the mention of romance

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So I've been experiencing a lot of aphobia against grey and demi aroaces recently about how they don't think these identities could exist. The thing is that most of it has come from people not even within the ace or aro communities, so I thought I'd post some positivy instead.

The Asexual and Aromantic spectrums are just that, spectrums.

If you are demisexual or demiromantic you're not under the Ace and Aro umbrellas because you have standards, you're under there because the way you experience sexual attraction and romantic attraction is different from allos, and that's ok.

If you are Greysexual or Grey romantic you're under the Ace and Aro umbrellas because you experience sexual and romantic attraction in ways that make you feel not fully allosexual and alloromantic but also not fully Asexual or Aromantic. You experience attraction in the grey areas, and that's ok.

People are not definitions, and labels are a tool not a standard.

If you experience sexual or romantic attraction to others after forming a close emotional bond to them and you feel the need to express that to others then congratulations, the Demisexual and the Demiromantic labels are free for you to use.

If you sometimes experience attraction to others regularly/commonly but then other times in your life even with the same people you no longer do and you need a tool to express that then congratulations, Aceflux and Aroflux are identities you're free to pick up.

If you don't know where you are on the spectrum but you feel you're not experiencing attraction in a way most people around you seem to be, then congratulations, you're free to use the tools Greysexual, Greyromantic, Acespec, Arospec, or even just Asexual and Aromantic.

If you find any of the labels under the Asexual or Aromantic spectrums useful, then congratulations, they are tools you are free to pick up, try on, and even put down no judgement if you don't find them helpful anymore.

People are not definitions, and labels are a tool not a standard.

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Exactly. Demiromantic and Demisexual are under the aspec umbrellas not because it's impossible for us to experience sexual or romantic attraction, but because we experience it differently than allos do.

What I've found the more I discuss my identity with others the more I find I give people that "but doesn't everyone feel that way?" moment, or the "but the way people fall in love in media is just all obviously made up". The Aromantic and Asexual umbrellas are large and an unfortunate truth of our identities is due to the society we live in until most of us do research or hear about asexuality we don't know why we're different than others or how we're different, we just know that it is different.

That's the point of using identities and labels. Not to be special, not to be exclusionists, etc. But because our whole lives we've been told to want things we seem to be incapable of and to be handed an identity that tells us no, we don't feel that the way they do, because we are different and that's ok, it's, it means a lot.

I hate the stereotype that demiromantic and/or demisexual people just experience attraction normally and want to be special. No, it's not typical to feel not a single ounce of romantic/sexual attraction until you form a bond. People (allosexuals/alloromantics) will say someone is attractive or not talk to someone at all and want to date/marry them and/or tap it. I don't work like that. I've felt broken thinking that I won't find someone. Been told that I'm being "too picky" when I say I want love but don't throw myself at the first person to show interest. I've had damaged friendships from the few times I've shown attraction.

My identity is real.

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And see I head cannon them as somewhere on the Aromantic and Asexual spectrums but like I wouldn't have any problems if they ever did develop romantic feelings for each other. There are many people on the Aroace spectrum who do develop romantic and sexual attraction for others, it's simply that it's in a way that's considered different or even more difficult to do so from most people, and I see that taking place.

They might eventually develop feelings for each other, that'd be cute and lovely, but the point is that if they never do, they're still cute and lovely just as they are. They're still just as much a family.

All the Times Loid and Yor Showed They Were Aroace

Everytime they were ever told to kiss

This completely alloromantic reaction to being asked on a date

The refusal to fall under the "they were roommates" trope

Loid's romance repulsion

When a woman tried to break up their platonic marriage

The time Yor thought Loid was gonna kiss her so she knocked him out

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One of the main premises of the Spy x Family manga is that Loid needs to get married because society tells him you can't raise a kid alone and Yor needs to get married because the government will literally consider her a suspicious person for not showing romantic intentions towards others and so they both, willingly, and with full honesty about what kind of relationship they're entering, decide to get platonically married.

Like that's one of the main premises, that they are both in a marriage that they have to pretend to others around them is romantic. And they are constantly shown to talk and act as if they are fronting to the rest of the world what kind of relationship they're in, because it's platonic. It's always been platonic. It started with both of them needing a cover story.

The fact that people somehow miss the entire beginning premise behind a manga as context for why some people might head cannon them as aroace is baffling to me

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I didn't know that assigning two characters who are platonically married in canon the identity of aroace would be such a confusing and frustrating thing but apparently people really don't like it when you head cannon people as aroace

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And We Can't Forget Their Probably Aromantic Daughter Too

With Her Absolute Denial of Any and All Crushes

Her Understanding Of The Conventional Romance Genre

And Her Refusal To Play By Amatonormative Societal Rules

All the Times Loid and Yor Showed They Were Aroace

Everytime they were ever told to kiss

This completely alloromantic reaction to being asked on a date

The refusal to fall under the "they were roommates" trope

Loid's romance repulsion

When a woman tried to break up their platonic marriage

The time Yor thought Loid was gonna kiss her so she knocked him out

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All the Times Loid and Yor Showed They Were Aroace

Everytime they were ever told to kiss

This completely alloromantic reaction to being asked on a date

The refusal to fall under the "they were roommates" trope

Loid's romance repulsion

When a woman tried to break up their platonic marriage

The time Yor thought Loid was gonna kiss her so she knocked him out

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Have I ever explained how much I loved the take they had on true loves kiss in the maleficent movie?

Because the fact that her mother, her found mother at that, was the one to wake her up, that familial love was shown to not only be equal to romantic, but that it showed that it was just important if not more so than romantic love, that hit deep in my aro heart.

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I just remembered that I wanted to play the song "We Don't Have To Take Our Clothes Off" for my husband at our wedding if I ever got married when I was younger and I still doubt whether I'm asexual sometimes.

If that isn't imposter syndrome idk what is

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My qpp keeps calling me cute and it's fucking with my ability to act like a tsundere

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Cupioromanticism is like being hungry and trying to order a sandwich, but you open the menu and all you see are pictures of smoothies. Confused you turn to your friend and make a remark about how there's no sandwiches and they turn to you and say "I see three on that page alone". Frantically you read the menu backwards and forwards but all you see are smoothies and the occasional pie slice. You're hungry but there's no sandwiches and at this point you'd settle for a salad.

Overwhelmed you sit there sweating until your waitress drops off a bowl of soup. It's still not a sandwich and you're not drawn to eat the soup but you're still hungry and the only other option is pie so you settle feeling out of place because you thought this was a sandwich shop. The soup tells you it loves you. You don't know what to say so you politely push it aside and avoid eye contact.

Meanwhile your friend has ordered one sandwich, had two sent to them without asking by the waitress, and is glancing at three others from afar and commenting on how if they weren't already committed to the sandwich in front of them they'd definitely go for those ones.

You look to where they point and see two more smoothies. You cry softly into your soup.

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As both a sex and a romance favorable aroace this was the concept that eventually cause me to realize both my aromanticism and my asexuality

everyday I wake up and am surprised that people don't actually choose their crushes. it "just happens" for everyone else 🤡

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Sometimes I feel like I'm jumping on trends because the more and more I dive into the queer community and learn about different labels the more and more I just, find more to apply to myself. I have to remember though that a lot of these things are things I've always experienced.

If I cut my hair short I've always felt I looked like a guy even if everyone else around me felt I looked more like a female. (Demigirl)

I've always felt disconnected from other girls and how I kind of always wanted to know what it was like to be a guy but also fully believed myself to be a girl and was frustrated to fit a mold that was the wrong shape (trans umbrella)

I've never been one to crush on others. (Aromantic)

Unless it was that one person I knew for years. (Demiromantic)

But I've always, and still somewhat to this day, been interested in the possibility of a romantic relationship even though it feels like there's no one available around me because I'm not drawn to anyone (Cupioromantic)

I've always found people, just, people aesthetically, platonically, queer platonically, etc attractive. (Pan)

I've never been distracted by people's looks, you could get fully naked in front of me and the most I'd want to do is look at you (asexual)

But I've always been interested in having sex with someone, anyone really, because no one in particular made me want to have sex (cupiosexual)

Even when I'm in a romantic/sexual relationship with someone I've had previous sexual/romantic attraction for a lot of the times I don't feel the need to go further than making out(aceflux/acespec)

I've always been incredibly drawn to people though in an artistic, stare at you way, but again, just people, doesn't matter who you are (Pan oriented aroace)

So like, I've got a lot of terms to use now, and honestly it can get overwhelming, but these are just pieces of who I've always been