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I want my brain melted sooooo bad. Just being so deeply hypnotized that my brain just absolutely melts. Being so deep, drooly, empty and happy. Mind completely gone as the Dom/Tist's words swirl around my head like a mind-melting spiral as I completely break 💕

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Librarians like to break the 4th wall

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Always a delight to find out that a silly guy is also a horny slut

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It’s so uncreative and cowardly when designers refuse to make clothes for fat people. Sorry you’re bad at your job I guess.

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when will someone bounce me on their cock until i can’t think anymore and all i can do is drool and make happy little sounds for them like a good toy

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Bad habits

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i need a soft dom that whispers how good i feel and kisses all over my body before fucking me senseless until i’m drooling with my eyes rolled back

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just to be clear, if you’re anti-trans, anti-drag, anti-abortion, this isn’t a space for you, leave.

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it ok to not be ready

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redraw i did of a picture i drew 2½ years ago ♥

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How To Not Accidentally Be An Abusive Arsehole Of A Hypnotist

The problem with offering submissives tips to avoid predators is that predators can also read and, I believe, sometimes even access the internet. You know, like the rest of Western humanity. Take it slow, establish a rapport, establish trust before the first trance - these are good rules from both sides of the spiral.

However, something I can do is reduce the chance of this happening accidentally. So, I present some things to think about, based on slips I have to regretfully own up to having made, things I spotted, and things I’ve heard.

This will not be a complete list and everyone is encouraged to add to it.

If the reason you’re happy with the subject setting a limit is that you’re pretty sure that limit will move as the relationship progresses, you need to figure out which are hard and which are soft limits. (Maybe they’re gonna be malleable. Maybe not.)

Talk through what you’re going to do until and unless you’ve established that your subject both likes surprises and trusts you to give them.

Talk through what you did afterward. Do not brush off objections, complaints, or even apparently minor issues raised by the subject. It’s their head, not yours.

Lock your damn triggers. Without their express request, triggers should be locked in some way. At minimum, they should expressly work only when the subject is comfortable with that. Possibly they should work only with nobody else around depending on the subject’s particular situation. II recommend that they work only for the hypnotist giving them unless otherwise discussed.

Mark Twain said that the difference between the nearly-right word and the really-right word is the difference between the lightning bug and the lightning. Think through how you want to phrase your suggestions, how you want to limit them for safety. What will be safe? For that matter, what will generate the effect you’re playing with most effectively?

If it’s a one-off session or intended to be, even if you hope to get another chance later, your triggers and suggestions should be cleared out before you go.

Their consent within trance is not consent. In a long-term relationship where both or all parties understand the dynamic, there may be indicators both sides can use to determine consent without explicit discussions. You shouldn’t be doing that at all at the start, and you should always discuss any attempt at that afterward and be prepared to have been in the wrong.

Suggestions to temporarily enhance their enjoyment are totally fine. Suggestions to develop a stronger dom/sub dynamic are fine. Suggestions which are designed over the long term to make them less able to decide yes or no for themselves are the height of fuckery and should be stamped out.

Every altered state suggestion should have two limits on it; one you can use to end it if needed, and one that will shut it off anyway before it causes trouble should you forget.

If at any time you’re doing something that isn’t on this list and you wonder whether it should be on this list, stop fucking doing it. Maybe you can talk it through and see if it’s right for that partnership later. But you shouldn’t keep going if you think it’s unethical.

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autistic women call me a train the way i rail them

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Yes ma'am

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Just to be clear, subs who don’t enjoy penetration, can’t/won’t bottom, and/or have some sort of condition that makes penetration painful are not “failed subs”. You are not any less of a sub if anal, vaginal, or even oral sex isn’t for you. If having something inserted into you is too painful, overwhelming, or discomforting, there are other things that you can absolutely do to participate in scenes and BD/SM.

Wax play, stimulant toys, performing humiliating tasks, handjobs, clit play, impact play, frotting, scissoring, mutual masturbation, humping… There are so many other things that you can do to both create that stimulation or just rile up one another without any penetration being needed. If your dom can’t work around your needs and discomforts, they aren’t worth anything. It is never on you if someone refuses to meet you midway for something so important to you, so don’t take on the guilt for that.

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hehe this bikini was struggling~