I think sometimes we get so bogged in exhaustion and misery that we lose sight of a better life.
I've been in similar places, and I'm really glad I continued taking steps to try to get to a better spot.
I know it's not simple for everyone, but I've found that maintaining this pursuit keeps a bit of hope in my life - which already makes it more enjoyable.
So Fox News ran a story about how they think libraries are turning into drug-infested sex dens and I am shocked, shocked that I was never offered any drugs during my 15+ years working in libraries.
The best piece of advice I ever got was not meant as advice, but as an edict. If I was going to threaten people as a joke, it had to be so far out of proportion with what happened that it would be obvious I was joking. This changed how I expressed frustration with others. It then changed how I expressed frustration with myself.
Not “I’m going to hit you” but “I am going to buy a tuna sub from the gas station and hide it under the seat of your car”
Not “I’m going to kill myself” but “I am going to walk into the desert and let the scarabs take me”
The other side then happened. When I mess something up, instead of saying it’s bad and perpetuating negative thoughts, swing hard the other way.
Not “this art is terrible” but “this shall be framed and mounted on the wall in my museum exhibition as testament to the suffering I had to overcome”
Have been doing this since high school. It was my drama teacher who asked me to please stop scaring the actors. The other half of the edict was that I had to say it in a polite tone, and end it with either please or thank you.
Life changing. 10/10 Mr Muëller. Highly reccomend.
Just conceptualizing a photo book, like I conceptualized my general audience science book Carcass: On the Afterlives of Animal Bodies all those years ago. Carcass should be on shelves by 2025, published by MIT Press.
I thought a photo book would be fun since I have thousands of photos of carcasses with enough fascinating context that I can write detailed captions of them, as well. A photo book of animal remains is, of course, uniquely challenging in comparison to a text-based book because...well, it really is lifting the veil.