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The reason why I get so worked up over the whole "not all doms are service doms" thing is that the common assumption that all doms are service doms leads to some dire miscommunication around scenes. I always tell subs I'm about to play with that I am not a service dom because it means that they will, often for the first time in their lives, ask me what my desires, needs, and fantasies are as a dom, rather than assume that my fantasy is whatever makes them happy. Doms are not pez dispensers of whatever it is a sub finds sexiest. Even service doms aren't; they have boundaries, too.

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I hope you don't mind me sending you this ask, I saw your post about describing all the different d/s dynamics and I thought it was so interesting and informative. Could you recommend any resources? Places that would make meeting other people easier?

No, I don't mind at all! I don't know about places to meet people because I don't know where you live, and that's just gonna be a really local matter. But I can definitely recommend resources you can access from anywhere.

To me, the most important BDSM book I ever read was SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman. It is written by a straight cis guy and it shows, but Jay Wiseman is, importantly, an experienced EMT, and puts safety above all. If you want to do anything risky, which all BDSM is in one way or another, I really recommend that book. I think about and draw on safety lessons from that book to this day, 15 years after I first read it.

Mistress Matisse's column Control Tower is awesome and covers a cool range of kink-related topics.

Other resources will depend on what kind of kink you're getting into. If you like rope, I definitely recommend the books of the Two Knotty Boys, which are easy to follow and have very useful ties in them. If you're interested in hypno kink, you have to check out Mind Play by Mark Wiseman. It can be hard to give general advice sometimes.

I have an anti-rec for a commonly recommended BDSM resource, The Topping Book by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton (there's a corresponding The Bottoming Book by the same authors but I haven't read it.) That book makes an attempt to get into the mindsets of D/s like I did in my post but I think it exhibits a dire lack of imagination on that front (overly fixated on the service dom motivation to the exclusion of others, a common vice) and I find its cisheteronormativity harder to overlook given that the authors are both queer.

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I wonder what People Who Really Like Trains liked best before trains. the first sights of the first trains in history must’ve hit those brains like a galaxy going off.

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there's so many layers to the whole "he's like a woman to me (read: submissive man)" thing. the misogyny of using womanhood as shorthand for weak/emotional/submissive. the sort of fetishized object of the effite man. the most damning thing to me is the way these people so clearly refuse to cross the line of actually making this character transfeminine.

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*smirking* you couldn't waterboard that out of me, but even if torture was an effective method of information extraction and not a futile display of state-sanctioned sadism, the high percentage of false confessions it produces would mean that even if you could waterboard it out of me, could you even trust the veracity of my statement?

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applegrant will just make up a guy for a one-off filler book and they will be more interesting than the main character of another series

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I haven't draw my boy hubert von fire emblem in ages 😩. So here is a compilation of hubert and the boys and girls 🖤

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Finding out that Frances Dana Barker Gage, a white woman, rewrote Sojourner Truth’s famous speech to be more stereotypically “Southern slave” (complete with slurs and misspellings like dat, dere, dey) when Sojourner Truth was actually from New York and spoke only Dutch until she was almost ten and wouldn’t have actually sounded that way linguistically and decidedly did not use the phrase “Ain’t I A Woman?” at all is…whew. And on top of everything, she embellished details about Sojourner Truth’s life (like the number of children she had/how many of them were sold into slavery), wrote that ST said that she could take beatings like a man, and the reception of the speech in the room (she claims ST was called a n*gg*r, earlier accounts say the room was welcoming).

Lmaooo peak white feminist antics.

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I really like your Daemorphing worldbuilding and have been playing with it as a character exercise, but I got stumped at one particular antagonist. She’s deliberately delusional (for lack of a better word), telling herself that of course she’s justified and doing the right thing. Having her daemon as the voice of reason feels wrong, but I’m not sure what else to do.

The question is really what's interesting. Is it interesting for there to be a voice of paranoia, saying "not only are you doing the right thing, but XYZ people will stop at anything to keep you from doing it"? Is it interesting for there to be a voice of care for whoever the antagonist's in-group is, "you're doing the right thing to protect XYZ people on your side / who you love"? Only you can say what additional viewpoint in the mix will make the story more interesting.

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Do you have any thoughts on the orthography of each alien species' language(s), as a person who expanded on the known vocabulary? What do you think are the "hallmarks" of Andalite transliteration?

The Andalite stuff is honestly pretty easy. I'm aware of the fact that Applegrant were strongly influenced by Lord of the Rings, so for Andalite names I'd just crack open a Quenya dictionary, pick something cool, and maybe tweak a letter or two. So.... yeah, just Quenya, lol. Though I did elaborate in my drabble Five Things That Never Happened to Eva that I believe that how you hear Andalite "words" depends on the language you think in. If you don't think in English and nobody has told you what name to expect from an Andalite, you might hear the name or word totally differently as the thought-speech hits your brain.

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Women of Sinners - Sinners (2025) dir. Ryan Coogler

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shes singing pictures ;_;

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Ship request for Amy!

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the fact that Reylo discourse is now almost entirely 'is this ship toxic :)' always throws me off so much because I genuinely think the MUCH bigger issue with Reylo was that it pushed a black man to the side as Not Love Interest Material in favor of a white nazi. Like the issue is that shipping Reylo arrived transparently because people did not care about the black man – which I know, because the ship became popular before we even had The Last Jedi! When they'd barely interacted! If Kylo were black and Finn were white, Reylo would not be popular and it would never have become canon in any way, and I do think a refusal to grapple with that is honestly very embarrassing.

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here's something pertinent to current events

RIP to a real one

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I don't entirely remember but the others know that elfangor was tobais's father yes? I really want to know how you think that conversation would have gone down

I know other fic writers have tackled this one before, but so much was lost in FFN purges and the Livejournal collapse. Does anyone have a fic or a fic rec for this?