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“A TRUE CHRISTIAN-FILIPINO”

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“The Emotion Challenge”

”Don’t compare yourself with others, you may became vain and bitter.“                                                                                        --desiderata “ Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.” ----William James “The real opportunity for success lies within the person and not in the job.” “Be aware of yourself.” “If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.” “Everything that happens in your life, you should not forget that GOD is always there for you.” “Always pray, for you to feel better.”  “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart” ― Helen Keller  “Don’t let your emotions distract you from doing what needs to be done. Control your emotions or your emotions will control you.”

Emotion is important because your emotions, your thoughts, and your beliefs creates your happiness. According to Sheri Van Dijk , a Psychiatrist states that “Emotions serve important functions and are very necessary, even though they can be really painful at times. Think of your emotions as another sense, just like your vision, hearing, touch, taste, and smell, because they provide information just like any of those other senses. Here are some of the roles your emotions play:

    Motivation -- Some emotions are prompts for action. For example, anger arises when something is occurring that you don't like, motivating you to act to change the situation. Another example is fear, which motivates you to flee, fight, freeze, or faint in order to survive when you are being threatened. In these situations, your emotions not only motivate you; they also prepare you to act by causing physiological changes in your body.

Information -- Emotions provide you with information about a situation that you want to change in some way to make it suit your needs better. For example, anger arises to help you see that there is something you think is unfair about a situation; guilt may arise to inform you that you have done something that doesn't match your morals and values. Your emotions may also act as a form of self-communication, providing you with emotional information before your brain has had time to rationally process the concrete information it's receiving from your senses.

Communication -- Emotions help you communicate with others more effectively. First, because of the universal facial expressions and body language associated with emotions, we instinctively recognize these emotions in others. This means that someone will be able to guess that you're feeling sad if you're crying or that you're feeling angry if you're frowning and your hands are clenched into fists. When someone recognizes how you feel (or you recognize how someone else feels), that person can empathize with you and act in an emotionally appropriate way, such as consoling you when you're feeling sad.

In dealing your emotions, don’t forget to pray always, ask guidance from the holy spirit and always look for others not just for yourself. 

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“This works for me”

This works for me because i feel better when i play my guitar and listen to a music, and also sing sometimes. I feel relieve when heard music, especially those songs that I like.

Three Phases of Stress Response (according to Hans Selye)

Hans Selye explained his stress model based on physiology and psychobiology as General Adaptation Syndrome (GAS). The General Adaptation Syndrome is a model that is comprised of three elements or phases which describe the body’s response to stress:

1. Alarm Stage

In this phase, the initial reaction of the body to stress is that it labels the stressor as a threat or danger to balance,that is why it immediately activates its fight or flight response system, and releases the “stress” hormones such as adrenaline, noradrenaline and cortisol. These hormones enable you to perform activities that you don’t usually do.

For instance, when one’s house is on fire, his body shifts to the alarm stage, his stress hormones released (particularly adrenaline) and then he lifts a very heavy appliance outside the burning house. But there’s a catch – your blood pressure starts to rise after a minute or less, which can predispose you to damage of the brain and heart’s blood vessels, putting you at risk to stroke or heart attack. The muscles you’ve utilized might also become painful due to tissue damage.

2. Resistance Stage

After the body has responded to the stressor, it is more likely that the stress level has been eradicated, or simply reduced. What happens next to the fight or flight response is that you body’s defences become weaker, as it needs to allocate energy to the repair of damaged muscle tissues and lower the production of the stress hormones.

Although the body has shifted to this second phase of stress response, it remains on-guard, particularly when the stressors persist and the body is required to fight them continuously, although not as stronger as it could during the initial response.

3. Exhaustion Stage

During this phase, the stress has been persistent for a longer period. The body starts to lose its ability to combat the stressors and reduce their harmful impact because the adaptive energy is all drained out. The exhaustion stage can be referred to as the gate towards burnout or stress overload, which can lead to health problems if not resolved immediately.

If you are stress, your emotions reacts because they are connected to each other. When you encounter stress, your emotions feels better when you do such things that changes your mood to a good and better and it helps your stress’ relieve. And you’ll feel better anyway.

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“A GOOD LEADER IS A GOOD FOLLOWER”

A leader was once a good follower. A leader is a person who influences a group of people towards the achievement of a goal. A leader encourage participation and contributions from group members and help group members feel more relevant and committed to the decision-making process. A leader is  one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way. a leader motivates its members. A leader leads the way and helps you disc over your potentials.A good leader is a good listener and obedient. 

One must know how to follow, for you to become a good follower and become a good leader in the future.

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“MY KIND OF LOVE”

v  STANDARD OF A GUY

  Ø  Gentleman

Ø  Respectful

Ø  Has a good manner and right conduct

Ø  Joker/sense of humor

Ø  Adventurous

Ø  Clever/witty

Ø  Has a good dreams and goals in life

Ø  Has a good perception about/in life

Ø  Humble

Ø  Hopeful

Ø  Thrifty

Ø  Brave

Ø  God-fearing

Ø  Responsible

Ø  Has a good self-control and patience

      Girls also must have a standard of a guy because it help us to be more safe and happy when the time comes that we make our family. Because of the standard that you want, it makes your life better, you feel satisfaction, your definition of love is consummate. Psychologist Robert Sternberg proposed a triangular theory suggesting that there are three components of love:

Intimacy

Passion

Commitment

Different combinations of these three components result in different types of love. For example, combining intimacy and commitment results in compassionate love, while combining passion and intimacy leads to passionate love.

According to Sternberg, relationships built on two or more elements are more enduring that those based upon a single component. Sternberg uses the term consummate love to describe combining intimacy, passion, and commitment. While this type of love is the strongest and most enduring, Sternberg suggests that this type of love is rare.

      Acts of Service, this represents a love for me according to the 5 languages of love.  And it states that, “Can helping with homework really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. When others serve you out of love (and not obligation), you feel truly valued and loved.”

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Unicorn by Ruth Morehead  

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What i feel on my parents,relatives and friends expectations from me?

I feel motivated, inspired, and glad cause they expect something on me and i feel like they really care for me and to my future. I am really striving hard to my studies and make my life worth living for them to be happy also and proud. I see their expectations positively and wholeheartedly so that i can feel their presence and their support for me that makes me more inspired and motivated...

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I’ve always wanted to be a good teacher someday. because i wanted to teach children especially those street children that can’t afford to go to school.. 

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Hi Phoebe-sshi!! Uhm. I know we weren't in the the same class when we were in the junior high but I find I you as a friend. Keep believing in yourself and focus on the things that you enjoy the most. Make your family proud. Achieve more I know you can do well in your own capabilities. Don't forget to pray to the Lord always.. God bless!! Take care!! --Janil Pepito (classmate)

Hi Phoebe, We were classmates since grade 7, until now you never changed! Always keep smiling and always seek God's guidance in everything you do. God bless! --Gracyl Mae Dela Cerna (friend)

Dear Phoebe,    Salamat kaayo kay nag friend ta. Salamat kay ginahatag nimu imung oras sa akoa bahalag usahay kay busy ka. Don't let problems ruin your life. They may either put you down, but remember that those challenges will make you strong. Just face all those problems and never lose hope. Always remember nga naa rako diri whenever you need me. Godbless --Alliah Ghouse (friend)

    hi phoebe, ur so funny in our squad. i know u have ur goals and i know u can achieve it. pursue ur dreams and never give up haha - -Hannah cute (friend)

Dear self,  i know your cute, and yes you are ^_^.....stay who you are, having self control and patience is very hard but you really, you have that in yourself..stay humble if you think that you are..practice of being independent cause you know sometimes you’re not...keep up the good works...i hope that you will start studying right now, learn how to habit reading and studying....don’t you ever give up on your dreams and aspirations.....stay god-fearing,,,focus on your study and enjoy your teenage life while you’re still young....do good things cause we can’t predict life situations/problems...in other words, you’re not a soothsayer.....do not brood bad happenings in your life and to other people who judge you easily,, you know yourself better than others....stay who you are and god bless you always.. i love you forever and always <3<3 :) ^_^  ----myself ^_^

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Phoebe N. Reble Bem-Bem 16 years old February 11, 2000 Roman Catholic Zone 1-A Del Carmen Iligan City I like playing outdoor games,watching T.V. & movies,an also playing board games I don’t have any dislikes ‘cause God gave this life to me and it’s a gift from Him and all things has  its purpose  I love playing guitar,i love pets,nature,swimming pools,adventures,making friends and many more. Motto: “Do not compare yourself with others,you may became vain and bitter.”  -Desiderata-

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  This mandala represents my personality, because just like the leaves, i go where the wind blows or just sway and go with it. Like the branches and fruits, i take pathways, make decisions that has a good product sometimes and a bad/no product at all or being unuseful,useless decisions or works. As you can see, the mandala is blur so just bare with me on my descriptions. The mandala has a small circle at the center, that signifies or describes my inner feelings, my goals, my personality and my inspirations in life. that circle is like the main brain of mine, the one who controls/holds everything, every actions. And the six leaves around the circle or the first leaf that grows in each branches, represents my strength and weaknesses. Weaknesses that i must exceed or surpass and strengths that makes me more motivated and set my works/goals to a good product/ good one.

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Phoebe N. Reble Bem-Bem 16 years old February 11, 2000 Roman Catholic Zone 1-A Del Carmen Iligan City I like playing outdoor games,watching T.V. & movies,an also playing board games I don’t have any dislikes ‘cause God gave this life to me and it’s a gift from Him and all things has  its purpose  I love playing guitar,i love pets,nature,swimming pools,adventures,making friends and many more. Motto: “Do not compare yourself with others,you may became vain and bitter.”  -Desiderata-

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JOB CAREER GOAL

·          In the future, I will be a great teacher or  maybe a good teacher someday.

Steps I will take to  accomplish this goal:

Ø  I  need to strive hard

Ø  Improve  my study habit

Ø  Improve  my reading habit

Ø  Focus  on my goal/s

Ø  Be  hopeful and learn to love everything

EDUCATION/TRAINING GOAL

·          To graduate in secondary and college

·          Learn a lot from the different subjects that I  can bring/apply to myself & to my family

Steps I will take to  accomplish this goal:

Ø  Strive  hard

Ø  Focus  on studies

Ø  Learn  to listen, listen to learn

Ø  Reflect  and realize or connect your life/real life situation to the topics.

PERSONAL HEALTH/WELLNESS  HEALTH

·          Healthy in the inside and healthy on the  outside.

·          Have a good body structure

·          Emotionally healthy

Steps I will take to  accomplish this goal:

Ø  Eat  nutritious food

Ø  Good  proper diet

Ø  Drink  a lot of water

Ø  Exercise  daily

Ø  Learn  to accept others

Ø  don't  brood others negative saying

v  Goal statement:

·         My goal is to achieve most of my dreams, goals, and aspirations.

 v  What do you need to reach your goal?

·         I need to reach my goal to be a successful woman someday. To have a better life and wonderful life.

Things that are stopping you from achieving your  goals:

Ø   Being lazy at school performance task

Ø   Don’t know how to manage time

Ø   Less motivated

Solutions to your obstacles:

Ø   I must have a calendar schedule, for me to  maximize or manage my time properly.

Ø   I must learn to stand on my own (independent  & being mature enough).

Ø   I must think of my inspirations in life to be  more confident (in a good manner) and inspired (such as, god and my family).

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