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Trans/Ulter intersex culture is seeing a heartfelt post from another trans intersex person that makes you feel seen and loved, only to go in the notes and see a perisex trans person telling OP that "you don't know the struggles of us REAL transfems, you can't call yourself transfem because you're intersex" (paraphrasing/shortening because it was a huge chunk of exclusionary bs) and immediately remembering why you're slowly starting to use Ultergender more than Transgender 🙃

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trans intersex culture is having two different, contradictory forms of dysphoria, even if you arent nb. "oh no i'm not masculine enough" + "oh no i'm not feminine enough" = i literally cannot win

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intersex culture is wishing the main tag wasn’t filled with pornbots, fanfic, and people tagging posts with as many queer labels as they could

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trans nonbinary intersex culture is feeling less like a trans person after finishing transitioning due to your experiences being so different than non intersex trans people, and choosing nonbinary as a new label because it acts as a conclusive statement to your gender self actualization, a final frontier where anything is possible rather than a fixed journey toward a specific state of being “not a woman”

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trans intersex culture is dilating to make your intersex anatomy more “normal” to enjoy another type of sexual activity but it doesn’t create dysphoria because it’s your body <3

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trans intersex culture is never fitting in with other trans mascs because you never have nor will experience a period

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Intersex culture is being the only one with an intersex pride flag at the local pride event.

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intersex culture is feeling so, so confused when people tell you youre basically cis (afab demigirl whos not visibly intersex)

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intersex culture is being diagnosed with PCOS without even being tested for anything, just based on facial hair growth and weight distribution alone, then treated with estrogen pills without being told what they were, and when you find out as a transmasc it makes you hella dysphoric about your hormones

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intersex culture is feeling like you're not really intersex even though you literally visibly are

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Intersex culture is getting diagnosed with PCOS with absolutely zero testing, because you have high androgen levels. And your doctors refusing to test for anything else because it’s the more common option

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Intersex culture is not realizing your intersex until you go to the gynaecologist.

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Intersex and trans culture is getting put on hrt that goes against your gender but liking it because it does make you feel less tired/chronically ill but not wanting to like it

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questioning intersex culture is looking at 10,000 diagrams of what perisex is supposed to look like and wondering if you’re just an idiot, if there isn’t adequate information on your genitalia, or if you are actually intersex. it shouldn’t be this hard to prove that you’re perisex, right??

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Hi, how are you doing? I have two questions, if you don't mind. (I am perisex and am just trying to educate myself. I don't know if you answer this kind of questions but I don't know who else to ask)

1. Is it okay to refer to intersex people as "both male and female"? (genuine question, I just read it in an article and want to know if that's an acceptable thing to say) (like should I correct other people when they say it or sometimes it's okay?)

2. Similar to the last question, is 'mixed-gendered' a real term for intersex people? (read it in the synopsis of a book with an intersex mc, I had never heard/read that term before)

I'm sorry to bother you, you don't have to answer if you don't wanna. Anyways have a good day.

Long answer below the cut, and tw for h slur used once.

For the first question, this has a bit of layers to it. So, just to make sure we're on the same page, sex doesn't equal gender, and, regardless of what variation an intersex person was born with, their gender could be completely separate from that. (Though some do feel it's connected to their gender.)

With that out of the way. Firstly, some intersex people have variations that aren't a mix of sex characteristics at all. This would include things like Turner's syndrome (1 X chromosome), triple X syndrome, XYY syndrome, and probably others I'm unaware of. So, regardless, it would be inaccurate to use synonymously with intersex. Secondly, even those of us that do have a mix of sex characteristics... most would probably more identify with having a mix rather than being both simultaneously. A lot would probably also feel that it is just one step away from just calling us hermaphrodites.

So, for all of the above reasons, you probably shouldn't call intersex people that. Some might be ok with or even identify as "both male and female", but you can't expect everyone to feel that way about it.

For the second question. I worry that a lot of people using this term are using it specifically because they're scared of the word "intersex". (Not to mention how it also makes the mistake of conflating gender with sex.) I can see in very rare situations it could be important to specify that they have mixed sex characteristics, because as I've said not every intersex person does, but you probably shouldn't use this term to describe that. It feels like it puts more focus on our genitals rather than us as people. Why are we using a term talking about our genitals as an adjective to describe us? But again some might use this word to describe themselves, and that's fine.

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intersex culture is questioning if your condition is 'valid enough' but your facial hair and voice drop still comes through while still taking estrogen

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Intersex culture is being diagnosed with two intersex variations and still questioning whether or not you're really intersex.

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