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jelicoxoxo · 1 day
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i havent posted my usual content in sooo long and im sorry for inactivity, my body’s health just seems to be on a continuous decline :(
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jelicoxoxo · 1 month
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one aspect of disability that people don't often talk about is grief. grief plays a massive part in my life.
before becoming disabled, i had so many dreams that i know now aren't feasible. i would have loved to go to uni and pursue a degree in psychology and go on to become a therapist, but i know i wouldn't be able to go to uni now.
i'm grieving the could-have-beens and what my body used to be like.
i used to like running short distance and i loved dungeons & dragons. now, i wouldn't be able to be present long enough to actually play a campaign, and the last time i raced my mate down the road, i ended up in bed for the week in a flare up. (i'm an idiot i know)
grief is such a big part of being disabled that people don't talk about enough.
i'm proud of my disabled identity. i never fully recovered from an illness and gained multiple chronic illnesses/lifelong disabilities from it, so damn right i'm going to embrace the changes, but i will always think about the what-ifs.
my disability is a part of me as a person and my identity but that doesn't mean that i still don't grieve for who i was or could have been.
i am not less worthy because i am disabled and i can still grieve and be proud of my disabled identity simultaneously.
thanks for listening to my TEDtalk now i'm probably going to take a nap because writing all that really hurt my arms and i'm tired.
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jelicoxoxo · 1 month
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I think a big reason why "children are an oppressed group" gets (wrongly!) read as a "pedophile talking point" is that everyone treats children so terribly that actual child molesters can speedrun winning a kid's trust by like, actually respecting their needs and perspective, at least at first. Which means that the only way out of this mess is for all of us adults to treat children with respect, so that abusers can't use the rareness of that respect as a weapon.
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jelicoxoxo · 1 month
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I think some of us ambulatory wheelchair users are getting pretty close to (or already are) throwing full time users and higher support needs disableds under the bus. And that shit needs to be shut down NOW.
It's the problem of: "how dare they treat us like those people!"
The problem with ableists isn't that they assume we can't walk The problem is they assume we don't need our wheelchairs if we can. That we don't need our handicapped placards or transport vehicles. That we are taking advantage of other "actually" disabled people, that the ableists also don't give a shit about unless they're using them as an excuse to be ableist.
The problem with ableists isn't that they assume we are intellectually and/or developmentally disabled. The problem is they assume that every intellectually/developmentally disabled person needs to be treated with baby talk, dismissal, and ignorance. That they don't see them as people and refuse to listen to intellectually and developmentally disabled voices without making fun of them.
Stop throwing people with higher support needs under the bus. Stop doing what the abled neurodivergent community did to all physically disabled people. Us cripples gotta stick together and fight for one another, not push one down to make ourselves somehow look better to ableist fucks.
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jelicoxoxo · 1 month
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Reblog this post if you are professionally diagnosed and you support informed self diagnosis and you hate people accusing others of faking disorders when they have no evidence to support that
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jelicoxoxo · 1 month
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I found an extremely dope disability survival guide for those who are homebound, bedbound, in need of disability accommodations, or would otherwise like resources for how to manage your life as a disabled person. (Link is safe)
It has some great articles and resources and while written by people with ME/CFS, it keeps all disabilities in mind. A lot of it is specific to the USA but even if you're from somewhere else, there are many guides that can still help you. Some really good ones are:
How to live a great disabled life- A guide full of resources to make your life easier and probably the best place to start (including links to some of the below resources). Everything from applying for good quality affordable housing to getting free transportation, affordable medication, how to get enough food stamps, how to get a free phone that doesn't suck, how to find housemates and caregivers, how to be homebound, support groups and Facebook pages (including for specific illnesses), how to help with social change from home, and so many more.
Turning a "no" into a "yes"- A guide on what to say when denied for disability aid/accommodations of many types, particularly over the phone. "Never take no for an answer over the phone. If you have not been turned down in writing, you have not been turned down. Period."
How to be poor in America- A very expansive and helpful guide including things from a directory to find your nearest food bank to resources for getting free home modifications, how to get cheap or free eye and dental care, extremely cheap internet, and financial assistance with vet bills
How to be homebound- This is pretty helpful even if you're not homebound. It includes guides on how to save spoons, getting free and low cost transportation, disability resources in your area, home meals, how to have fun/keep busy while in bed, and a severe bedbound activity master list which includes a link to an audio version of the list on Soundcloud
Master List of Disability Accommodation Letters For Housing- Guides on how to request accommodations and housing as well as your rights, laws, and prewritten sample letters to help you get whatever you need. Includes information on how to request additional bedrooms, stop evictions, request meetings via phone, mail, and email if you can't in person, what you can do if a request is denied, and many other helpful guides
Special Laws to Help Domestic Violence Survivors (Vouchers & Low Income Housing)- Protections, laws, and housing rights for survivors of DV (any gender), and how to get support and protection under the VAWA laws to help you and/or loved ones receive housing and assistance
Dealing With Debt & Disability- Information to assist with debt including student loans, medical debt, how to deal with debt collectors as well as an article with a step by step guide that helped the author cut her overwhelming medical bills by 80%!
There are so many more articles, guides, and tools here that have helped a lot of people. And there are a lot of rights, resources, and protections that people don't know they have and guides that can help you manage your life as a disabled person regardless of income, energy levels, and other factors.
Please boost!
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jelicoxoxo · 1 month
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When a chronically ill or disabled person gets their lab tests back as “normal” or all clear, we aren’t sad because we WANT to be sick.
We’re sad because we *know* there’s something wrong with us, yet the scans still stay clear.
Before you kill the monster you gotta know its name.
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jelicoxoxo · 2 months
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why are roleplay servers on discord so dogshit now? Its like every time I look at them they’re 1) mainly for porn 2) creepy middle aged men and women claiming a fictional 17 year old is their “husband/wife” 3) they expect you to be active 24/7 as if you dont have a life outside of roleplaying, 4) nitpicks the fuck out of your ocs literally just searching for problems.
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jelicoxoxo · 2 months
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me when i disappear after getting a BOYFRIEND😵‍💫
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jelicoxoxo · 3 months
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my block list is so long because people feel like because they say “everything consensual ‼️‼️” at the top of their fics it suddenly erases the overwhelming SA culture in their fic (or just straight up SA overall)
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jelicoxoxo · 3 months
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A well informed autism self diagnosis is just as valid as a psychiatric diagnosis. Additionally, under the given circumstances it is safer, most probably less expensive and you don't need to wait for any appointment.
10 screenshots from a twitter thread by @drdemonprince with white text on black background.
The thread reads as follows:
I hear from many trans & nonbinary people who are actively seeking an Autism diagnosis. My advice is RETHINK THIS. Restricting Autistic people's access to gender affirming care is a major TERF talking point. As legal attacks on trans healthcare mounts, a psychiatric dx is a risk
The high overlap between Autism & transness was one of the main "concerns" JK Rowling rose in her "TERF Wars" blog post. Numerous fearmongering anti-trans articles influenced by TERFs have raised the issue since. if youre trans now is not a good time to seek a formal Autism dx.
An Autism dx does not unlock access to any beneficial therapeutic treatment, bc there is no "treating" Autism. Formal diagnosis makes us vulnerable to legal & psychiatric control and gets our competence challenged -- you dont need to subject yourself to this. diagnose yourself
I am close with dozens and dozens of Autistic people, and I have no idea who has a diagnosis and who does not. It does not matter. There is no reason to ask, no reason for others to care how someone identifies and how they arrived there -- all that matters is community support.
also if you cannot afford to pursue a lengthy & expensive lawsuit, it's unlikely a formal diagnosis will actually protect you from discrimination at work, in school or in housing. if you have the means great, but most don't. disclosing disability can be more risk than its worth.
if you need a dx to access resources such as disability benefits or extra test time, by all means go for it, but be cognizant of the potential costs. you could be denied for surgery, lose control of your assets, be found legally incompetent, lose custody of your kids...
Tweet replies to this thread:
By Greysquirrel @/treerat93
My autism dx was forced on me at age 2 and kept me out of the military in my 20s. It’s been nothing but destructive. I was beat up in sped and believed myself to be stupid my entire life because of it. I can’t even buy life insurance.
By Emily Johnson @/emily_rj
In some states, people with autism face being denied organ transplants, are at higher risk for forced sterilization and/or denied contraceptive and reproductive care, and have a higher risk of police brutality I considered this and decided informal diagnosis was best for me
By AK Faulkner is sweet and...
In the UK, an autism diagnosis is already a significant barrier to gender-affirming care. The GICs automatically try to discount dysphoria as autism during your initial assessments with them. If you arrive pre-diagnosed with autism they write your dysphoria off as that.
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jelicoxoxo · 3 months
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Please stop Sterotyping Hispanics/Chicano's hollywood.
I am tired of the media representing chicanos as pot heads, immigrants, gangsters, low class, and no manners. We're also portrayed as lazy. And that we're stealing people's jobs or we're criminals. I've also noticed that every time they make a show about mexico it's usually about narcos, and cartels. Not every hispanic is affiliated with a criminal organization or a gangster. Literally pushes the sterotype that we are m*rders and r*pists and this gives people the opportunity to eat up that sterotype because they think we all act like this.
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jelicoxoxo · 3 months
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‼️‼️‼️ and its a bigger problem outside of fanfics too.
it is a disgustingly common fantasy to where its something I literally have to ask *before* getting into relationships. My ex had a “cnc” kink along with the fact that he enjoyed my smaller size and bubbly personality, and that wasn’t the first time it happened.
please stop normalizing these p*dophilic and r*pist fantasy ass kinks, especially cause we miss REAL p*dos and r*psts because of how normalized it is.
Is it just me or is it weird when people make y/n with child like characteristics.. like it’s giving pedophila no matter how much they scream “The character is 18! And over” it’s still weird. Cause they're saying "Daddy" 25 times and the description usually is "petite" when they're describing y/n and they're "Soft". I also like to mention the fact they add really r*pey scenes and try to sugarcoat it like it's no big deal. I know that some people may enjoy this genre as a form of fantasy or role-play, but I don’t understand how they can ignore the implications of pedophilia or infantilization and r3pe.
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jelicoxoxo · 3 months
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the atsv fandom is kind of dead now but it still pisses me off how hobie was reduced to a black stereotype in most his fanfics (and written by our OWN people???)
the amount of fics where he 1) spikes the readers drink 2) is a drug dealer 3) the whole fic mentions weed in every other sentence or 4) literally any other black stereotype you can think of, someones written it using hobie.
why cant black people have normal shit like white centered fics do?? why do y’all HAVE to include some kind of stereotype the literal second a black character or reader is involved.
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jelicoxoxo · 4 months
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I WILL GET TO REQUESTS SOON I FORGET SOMETIMES
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jelicoxoxo · 4 months
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oh my GODDDDD period cramps are EATING ME UP
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jelicoxoxo · 4 months
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we need more disabled reader fics so i am making it known that i do take requests for disabled reader fics
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