butches can do whatever the hell we want. butches can wear pink. butches can wear makeup. butches can wear dresses and skirts. butches can like traditionally feminine things. butches can have traditionally feminine hobbies. butches can carry a purse or stuffed animals. butches can be drag queens. each butch defines the butch experience, whether you just found out you were butch yesterday or 45 years ago, if you're a butch, you can do whatever the hell you want with your presentation, identity, and body.
I died at 100 years old and I saw Avatar Roku who died at 110 years old. We decided to be gay (both of us were men) but we were actually gay (both of us were somehow women) and I didn’t see anything wrong with this. For some reason I also hid a large gaming TV in a hole under a giant rock.
"i just want non-queers to just see me as a normal person just like them" cool good for you. meanwhile ive been a weird little freak since i was a kid and the world is gonna have to learn to accept me like i am or ill start burning shit
you can be down for simple assimilation for yourself but many of us just want to be respected as is because theres nothing wrong with being different. especially those of us who are also neurodivergent on top of queer or many other things people often ostracize in society.
if you want other queers to water themselves down or just completely close off parts of their identity and self expression so that you wont be associated with those ~freaks~ and can be more easily accepted by The Normies, then you are not caring about your fellow queers at all.
we arent doing any harm, and we should be pushing for people to accept others no matter how HARMLESSLY strange and unusual they may come across. challenging the norm is the only way to get more people accepted across all communities.