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I really think the “it’s ok to be cringe because being cringe is being authentic” philosophy is so important right now. Like in a world where so much is online and so many people make money off of being marketable, it is a radical act to be cringe

#I don't know how many more "He gets it" I have left in me

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Forever begging people to read these books

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scythe by neal shusterman headers

- credits on twitter: @/tearsrichochetx

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Especially stay focused on causes you can do something about. It’s ok to pick certain issues to try and make a difference, you can’t help with every problem. Always pay attention to your local community and how you can help!

I’ve seen quite a few people this past week ask something along the lines of ‘how to be up-to-date and properly informed about current events and politics and also not get super depressed?’

While most of these were phrased in a joking matter, it actually is a really good question. Being able to balance awareness of the shitty things happening in the world, but not letting that shittiness destroy you is a skill.

Being well informed is vital. However, if you become so informed that it’s starting to effect your life, you’ve gone too far.

The point of being aware of current events, especially bad ones, is so you can do something about it. Read about it, post about it, donate to charity, volunteer, etc. Something you can’t do if your overwhelmed with (rightful) anger and sadness.

So the answer to the original question is that you become informed enough that you want to do something about it, but do not overload yourself to the point where you feel too depressed to take any action.

Burying your head in the sand isn’t good. But neither is doomscrolling into oblivion. Find that middle where you are actively interested in what is happening in the world, but not to the point where it becomes a hinderance to regular life.

Being aware of the world around you is super interesting, but don’t spiral. Misery loves company. Stay informed, stay active, stay hopeful.

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I really don’t think people who aren’t Autistic or who don’t struggle with sensory issues understand that when it comes to certain stimuli, those things provoke actual feelings of pain, nausea, disgust, discomfort, etc for people that are Autistic/have sensory processing disorder.

Take “picky eating.” I was labelled a “picky eater” even as a little toddler. I couldn’t eat sauce, tomatoes, or have my food touching other foods. People said stuff like “She’ll grow out of it” or “She’ll eat it if she’s actually hungry” or “Tastebuds change; she’ll like it when she’s older!" 

But the fact was, if it was a food I couldn’t eat, I literally couldn’t eat it. I’d try to eat lasagna and start crying, and gagging, and I’d have to spit it out. Guess what? I didn’t "eat when I was hungry” if it was one of those foods, I just didn’t eat. This was especially an issue when I started going to school and daycare (I eventually got a note from my doctors that detailed my Autism diagnosis and sensory problems, so that the local kids center would provide me with alternative meals. They treated it the same way they did with kids with allergies, basically.) 

Also, I didn’t “grow out of it.” I still cannot eat tomatos, sauces, and most mixed food dishes. Because I just can’t even make my mouth chew and swallow without gagging and spitting the food out. Just a couple months ago I went to grab some chicken wraps from the local taco place, and I asked specifically that they hold the sauce. But they didn’t, so when I took a bite I got a mouthful of pain and chucked it right into my napkin (gross, I know. I’m making a point here though.)

So when Autistic people, or anyone with a sensory processing related disorder, tells you that they cannot handle something-whether that means being touched, wearing certain clothes, being around noise, or eating certain foods-remember what I just said. That’s how it feels, when people willfully ignore our reminders and warnings about our stimuli and triggers. That’s what you’re doing when you touch someone when they tell you it hurts them, or make them wear that suit or outfit, or put sauce on their food when they politely ask you not to. Granted, overload is different and presents differently in everyone, but bottom line-you’re choosing to disrespect someone’s boundaries, and their medical issues, and you are hurting them when you force certain stimuli on them after they’ve asked you to stop. Just respect people, and don’t shame people for not being able to handle or do the same stuff other people can. 

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I want this

I travel the world with my boyfriend

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Basically we’re all nocturnal

It’d be nice if you could be as tired as you are in the morning at night, and as awake as you are at night in the morning.

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☁ Tips on Surviving 8 a.m Classes

 so i am probably one of the few people that enjoy an 8 a.m class (7:40 am to exact) no, i am not crazy. i already survived 2 semesters (fall and summer) , MTWHF, of 7:40 a.m classes so i will share some tips for these classes.

sleep the night before/nap

even though this might be obvious, sleep the night before. coffee will only give you so much energy and too much coffee means crashing. if sleep before is not possible, nap between classes or in the library after your classes.

drink coffee periodically 

as tempting as it is to wake up in the morning and drink a whole cup of coffee and hope to survive the day, it usually doesn’t work. my tip is to bring a mug/thermos of coffee with you. (i bring two)  20 minutes or however long takes to caffeine to kick starts for you before class starts, drink ¼ or ½ of the thermos and during class, whenever you feel tired during class, drink some sips. 

if you don’t drink coffee, drink cold water

choose a class that you like (if you can)

for my first semester of 8 am classes, i had to choose the class because there was no place in my schedule for it. the class was something that I really liked and it kept me motivated to stay awake. so if you can, choose a class that you like or interest you.

keep active

even for me, there were some days that the professors voice was literally a lullaby to me. so stay active. actively take notes. force your hand to write whatever it is that the professors’s slides or writing on the board. doodle what your prof is saying. the minute you start passively listening your professor, everything will go downhill from there.

keep a positive attitude 

8 am class might not be the class that you want or like, but this is your life and your grades. if you think the class will be hell, it will hell for you. don’t let one class bring your gpa and your self worth. this might be a struggle, but once you are over it and did well, you can pat yourself on the back

have back-up

there is bound to be a day that you might oversleep, so make sure to have at least 2-3 people in your morning class that you have their number. (you will never know who else has over slept so it is good to have a couple numbers)

reward yourself afterward

IF YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND SOMETHING OR DOZE THROUGH SOMETHING, ASK RIGHT AWAY.

we are not superhuman. there is going to be a time that you doze through something or are so sleepy that you miss something. the minute you discover you missed something, ask. don’t wait. the more you wait, the more you are less likely to ask and you will probably forgot about it until you see it on the test and then it hits you that you haven’t don’t know 

i hope this is helpful for you. if you want any more tips on 8 am classes, don’t hesitate to message me. good luck < 3

- sky

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weird study tip:

if u don’t feel motivated, pretend ur in a movie or tv show. you know the scenes where they’re on their bed with their feet tucked up and crossed at the ankle, and they’re cracking open highlighters with their teeth and poring over a textbook with smooth rock music playing? that. bonus points for a perfect messy bun and spencer hastings outfit.

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Back to school time is coming fast, and for a lot of us that means moving into dorms!! My first year I brought all the wrong things, so here are some tips and a lil packing list to help you guys figure out what you need and what you don’t.

tip #1 You don’t need as much as you think you need. Throw out those bed bath and beyond packing lists because they’re only trying to take all your money. If you don’t use it when you’re at home, you won’t use it at school.

tip #2 Think through a typical school day – what do you do? What do you need?

tip #3 Pack in things that will be staying in your dorm as much as possible – laundry baskets, trunks, those plastic drawers, etc. It’s way easier than carrying down 500 boxes to the recycling bin. 

tip #4 Don’t shove too much into one bin, especially if there’s no elevator. Keep it light!

tip #5 See if there are things you can wait and buy there – snacks, school supplies, etc to save room in your car. But drive an extra half an hour instead of going to the Target right by campus that’s inevitably packed and sold out of everything.

tip #6 Pack cleaning supplies last so you can clean everything (especially your bed!!) before you start unpacking. 

tip #7 Bring some snacks and a bottle of water for moving day, and dress comfy. It will inevitably be 100 degrees and you + your fam will get hangry fast.

what to bring:

bedding 

A comfy mattress pad!! Dorm mattresses are brutal. Mine was around $25 from bed bath and beyond and was just as comfy as the expensive tempuredic ones

An extra set of (cheap) twin xl sheets for laundry day 

An easy to clean duvet/quilt (twin is fine)

Double check on bedding sizes! Twin xl is standard, but it may be different at your school.

Extra blankets for movies nights/when friends stay over

bath

A sturdy shower caddy! I got one for $5 and had to replace it by fall break

A robe for the walk to and from the bathroom

Shower shoes!!!!! Dorm bathrooms are nasty

Towels (3) and bath cloths (however often you use them)

Whatever soaps/shampoos/etc you use

Stock up on pads/tampons/hand soap before your parents leave so you don’t have to walk to the store when you need it

study

Get a good desk lamp!!

Don’t buy notebooks until after the first day of class! Some may be better suited for laptop notes, and for some you may not take notes at all. 

A bulletin board is a lifesaver!!

A small white board (not hung up on the wall) is nice for making notes/working on problems without wasting paper

Find a good planner!!

And a wall calendar 

Have those random things on hand that you never think about until you need them: tape (masking, duct!!!!, scotch), tape measure, etc

Bring lots of lil drawer organizer/pen cups to organize

Pack all of your favorite pens/journals/sticky notes, but leave a few at home for when you’re studying on break

clothes

Research your school’s weather and pack accordingly, ofc

Pack lots that’s easy to layer (old buildings have temperamental heating)

Comfy shoes are so important!! You’ll be walking everywhere 

Leave most winter clothing at home to pick up on break, but bring a coat and sweater in case there’s some early cold weather

Same goes for spring semester! Packing shorts in January seems weird, but you’ll be glad

Pack an outfit or two for nice events/interviews

Bring all the clothes that make you feel great and confident, and leave the rest at home

Some cozy clothes for lazy days/camping out at the library

Rain boots and a rain coat! I never used them before, but rainy days are 10x worse when you have to walk to class

Try not to over pack – you’ll be getting new clothes (especially free t shirts) and dorm storage is limited

misc

Bring a floor lamp! Dorm lighting is so depressing, you’ll want one in addition to your desk lamp. 

Duct tape!! Seriously you’ll use it all the time

A sleeping bag is great to have on hand; you’ll use it more than you think (weekend trips, for friends who stay over, etc)

A trash can!

Some cleaning supplies: clorox wipes, a broom, etc

HDMI cord for watching pirated movies on your tv

Medicine – pain killers, cold/stomach/allergy medicine, cough drops, etc

A small duffle bag, plus a toiletry case for weekend trips

Your insurance card!!! + other important papers in case of emergency

Tupperware for sneaking food out of the dining hall

what not to bring: 

here are a few things commonly listed on packing lists that you’ll never use.

A bed skirt – so many suggested it, but there’s no need

A fan – most dorms have a/c units, and if it turns out to be too hot it’s easier to go out and buy one for $10 than to store one you don’t use

Printer – you’ll most likely get free printing money to use at the library

A laundry drying rack – you have bed posts for a reason

Travel sized toiletries – just bring the full size. You live there, after all

Bed risers – you’ll most likely have an adjustable bed already

Step ladder – I cannot think of a reason you would need this (other than move in day) when a chair would not suffice

Iron/ironing board – I promise ironing will not cross your mind, and if you really need to just throw it in the dryer with a wet bath cloth. The extra space will be worth the fifty cents.

Pots/pans – you’ll rarely be cooking if you have a meal plan, and if you are most schools allow you to rent them for the night

This is far from an exhaustive list, but it should help you get an idea of what you need and what you don’t! Be sure to check out your school’s housing website to find the details of your dorm before you leave. Good luck and happy packing!

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I’m not a “woman engineer.” I’m an engineer.

Mina Hess (via incorrect-cloakanddagger-quotes)

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A New Hope + Onion Headlines

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I’m so confident that he’s my soulmate,” She says, and her voice shakes. “But, that’s what makes me wonder if he’s really not. And that’s kind of terrifying.

r.a. / untitled (via coffeesghosts)

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or you’re an introvert

You know you are an adult when you get excited to just go home.

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You gotta have a plan…

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Rules? Nope, not listening. I’m not following them. Never have, never will.

Ravenclaw (via shitthehousessay)

hmmm wow never in my life have I seen anything more accurate. The other day I told my friend that I wasn’t ever going to do anything that was mandatory.

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Trains are basically boring roller coasters