malsuppet

[malsuppet]

“Through my attachments, I was dependent on my relationships to fulfill my needs. I allowed those relationships to define my happiness or my sadness, my fulfillment or my emptiness, my security, and even my self-worth. And so, like the vase placed where it will inevitably fall, through those dependencies I set myself up for disappointment. I set myself up to be broken. And that’s exactly what I found: one disappointment, one break after another.”

- Reclaim Your heart, by Yasmin Mogahed

[malsuppet]

People aren't homes, they never will be. People are rivers, always changing, forever flowing. They will disappear with everything you put inside them.

~ Nikita Gill

[malsuppet]

-filmythings

[malsuppet]

Fyodor Dostoyevsky // Alanis Morissette

[malsuppet]

[malsuppet]

“Suppose that I had two choices in front of me—a life in which all people like me, and a life in which there are people who dislike me—and I was told to choose one. I would choose the latter without a second thought. Before being concerned with what others think of me, I want to follow through with my own being. That is to say, I want to live in freedom.”

- Ichiro Kishimi

[malsuppet]

- “We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them.”

- “The important thing is not what one is born with, but what use one makes of that equipment”

- “To get rid of one’s problems, all one can do is live in the universe all alone. But one can’t do such a thing.”

- “Those who go so far as to boast about things out loud actually have no confidence in themselves. As Adler clearly indicates, ‘The one who boasts does so only out of a feeling of inferiority.’

- “In our culture weakness can be quite strong and powerful.”

- “The moment one is convinced that ‘I am right’ in an interpersonal relationship, one has already stepped into a power struggle.” “It clouds your judgement, and all you can see is imminent victory or defeat. Then you turn down the wrong path. It’s only when we take away the lenses of competition and winning and losing that we can begin to correct and change ourselves.”

- “Everything is an interpersonal relationship issue.”

- “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.”

- “YOUTH: The counsellor does not change the client’s life?

PHILOSOPHER: You are the only one who can change yourself.”

- “Children who have not been taught to confront challenges will try to avoid all challenges.”

- “freedom is being disliked by other people’.”

- “There may be a person who does not think well of you, but that is not your task.”

The courage to be disliked by Ichiro Kishimi.

[malsuppet]

People who find this exhausting are doing it for the wrong reasons. You should not be improving yourself purely to change other people, but because the ultimate goal is becoming somebody who you like. It isn’t your task to change somebody else, but it is your task to put out the energy you wish to receive.

one thing i need to start living by is “become the thing that you want” if i want friends who throw themed parties maybe i should start throwing those parties. if i want someone who writes me love letters maybe i should start writing letters for the people i love. if i want to hang out at museums and pretty cafes maybe i should invite my friends to these places. and maybe even then i won’t find the kind of people i want to be around. but then i would have become the exact person i want to be around. and maybe that’s good enough.