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“Do yourself a favor and learn how to walk away. When a connection starts to fade, Learn how to let it go. When a person starts to mistreat you, learn how to move on.. to something and someone better. Don’t waste your energy trying to force something that isn’t meant to be.. Because the truth is.. for every one person who doesn’t value you - there are tons more waiting to love you better. Do better.”

— Reyna Biddy

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1 year later. Still.

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You used to be the love of my life, now you're just the Instagram stories of a stranger I'll never know.

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I've never read anything more accurately depicting what I went through. If anyone is in that dark period of their lives after a breakup, please read this.

“Heartbreak never truly goes away. Eventually, you stop crying yourself to sleep and the self-blame will dim. The questions as to why you weren’t good enough along with all that lost time spent in the shower retracing your last conversation will also stop too. However, it will not be easy. You are still going to wake up with them in your mind for weeks to come and similarly, they will be all you can think about before you sleep. Heartbreak is a bit like love in that respect, you think about them constantly except the thoughts are painful this time around. Indeed, there are moments where you find shelter from these thoughts, a hot chocolate with a friend or an essay that requires your full attention. Your favourite song will come on but then that shuffled sad song will follow and trigger the thoughts all over again. This is inevitable so when it catches you off guard, let it all out. Do all you must to wash away the sadness. Call a friend, bake some cookies, go and lie on the floor with your dog and tell him you’re glad he wouldn’t ever hurt you like this. Your heart will miss them so much it will use any excuse to search for them. The same model car they have will drive by while you are laughing away with your friends and suddenly you cannot breathe. You might see someone with the same curly hair or the way the person sitting in front of you on the bus drums their fingers to a song will remind you of them. This too, is inevitable. Try to appreciate these small quirks because regardless of where you have ended up, these were once pieces of a puzzle that led to you falling in love and that is a beautiful thing. Most importantly of all, you are going to want to run to them. You are going to want to share your day- whether it be good or bad- purely out of habit. You will miss the way they told you terrible jokes or sent you pictures of your favourite breed dog just to bring a smile to your face for the first time that day. You will miss how excited they got when you were excited- how happy they got when you were happy. Allow yourself to grieve this absence but remind yourself that they aren’t the only person who would be willing to devote so much effort to cheering you up. Let your loved ones know you’re sad and soak in the warmth of their kind words. And then, suddenly, a few weeks have passed and you think of them for the first time in three days and you realise that you are healing. You start to fill your time with people and things that make you happy. You suddenly crave adventure and new experiences and anything that makes you feel alive again. You stop beating yourself up and start to defend your corner like you are your own best friend. You put your hands up and admit your contribution to the downfall of it all but the difference is, you refuse to defend them any longer. You validate your pain and tell yourself that it is okay to hurt and that you just need time- the art of healing requires the same patience as a few broken bones. The bond with your friends will strengthen if you let them in- please let them in. Spend time with them and regularly express how much you appreciate them. Feel good about telling loved ones that you love them. Do not shy away from this term because your heart is broken. Please remind yourself that this is not the end for you. Do not console yourself with the whole there are other fish in the sea rubbish because I know that despite how much pain they have caused, you still want them and you will continue to want them for a very long time. Instead, console yourself with the thought that your heart may be in two right now but bones do that sometimes and with a little support, healing is inevitable. My darling, to break may not be beautiful while you’re going through it but it is, don’t you see? Even a glow stick has to crack to shine; think of how proud you will be when one day you can smile at yourself in the mirror and mean it again.”

— Heartbreak 101.

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Memories of days past :)

for me a relationship is ‘goals’ when your partner is at the same time your best friend, your confidant, your counselor, your lover. when with that person you can really be yourself, when you can play like kids and spend most of the time making jokes, taking thousands of pictures, ugly pictures of you which are made fabulous only by her presence in. laughing together, screaming together, caring together, not caring together and occasionally crying together. the most important thing is to be really happy and seeing her eyes shine from joy when she is beside you, I mean that’s pure happiness. a relationship is cute even when there’s jealousy, jealousy of the good, jealousy with motives and not toxic. it’s amazing that your family knows her and your mother asking you all the time how she doing and if you are taking good care of that angel

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No amount of casual sex can fill the void a lost love leaves

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“I admit, I really miss how things used to be. But I can also admit, that I’ve accepted the fact that things have changed.”

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sometimes, when i miss you like crazy, i’ll go back and relive every memory. it invokes every happy and warm emotion there ever was, but it also invokes so much sadness. every. single. memory. of you makes me fall in love all over again and it breaks my heart when i reach the last memory, the day you ended us.

— memories // @bellastephanoff

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“Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it.”

— EXTRAMADNESS.COM