psychicsean

[psychicsean]

This is something to remember for both sides, someone who has been emotionally abused and someone who cares for someone who has been emotionally abused.

Someone who has been emotionally abused will:

• Constantly apologize • Hide their feelings in fear of upsetting you • Break down during small disagreements thinking it will explode • Need a lot of reassurance Please be patient, we are trying.

[psychicsean]

Some OC questions

1. Your first OC ever?

2. Do you have a personal favourite among your OCs?

3. Have you ever adopted a character or gotten a character from someone else?

4. A character you rarely talk about?

5. If you could make only one of your OCs popular/known, who would it be?

6. Two OCs of yours that look alike despite not being related?

7. Are your OCs part of any story or stories?

8. Do you RP as any of your OCs? If you do, introduce one of your RP OCs here!

9. Would you ever be willing to give any of your OCs to someone else?

10. Introduce an OC with a complicated design?

11. Is there any OC of yours you could describe as a "sunshine"?

12. Name an OC that isn't yours but who you like a lot

13. Do you have any troublemaker OCs?

14. Introduce an OC with a tragic backstory

15. Do you like to talk about your OCs with other people?

16. Which one of your OCs would be the best at biology (school subject)?

17. Any OC OTPs?

18. Any OC crackships?

19. Introduce an OC that means a lot to you (and explain why)

20. Do any of your OCs sing? If they sing, care to share more details (headcanon voice, what kind of songs they like etc)?

21. Your most artistic OC

22. Is there any OC of yours people tend to mischaracterize? If yes, how?

23. Introduce OC that has changed from your first idea concerning what the character would be like?

24. If you could meet one OC of yours, who would it be and why?

25. The OC that resembles you the most (same hobby, height, shared like/dislike for something etc?)

26. Have you ever had to change your OC's design or something else about them against your will?

27. Any OCs that were inspired by a certain song?

28. Your most dangerous OC?

29. Which one of your OCs would go investigate an abandoned house at night without telling anyone they're going?

30. Which one of your OCs would most likely have a secret stuffed animal collection?

31. Pick one OC of yours and explain what their tumblr blog would be like (what they reblog, layout, anything really)

32. Which one of your OCs would be the most suitable horror game protagonist and why?

33. Your shyest OC?

34. Do you have any twin characters?

35. Any sibling characters?

36. Do you have OC pairs where the other part belongs to someone else (siblings, lovers, friends etc)?

37. Introduce an OC who is not quite human

38. Which one of your OCs would be the best dancer?

39. Introduce any character you want

40. Any fond memories linked to your characters? Feel free to share!

41. Has anyone drawn fanart of your OCs? If yes, maybe show a picture or two here (remember sources & permissions!)

42. Which one of your OCs would be the most interested in Greek gods?

43. Do you have any certain type when you create your OCs? Do you tend to favour some certain traits or looks? It's time to confess

44. Something you like about your OCs in general

45. A character you no longer use?

46. Has anyone ever told you that you treat your OCs badly?

47. Has anyone ever (friendly) claimed any of your OCs as their child?

48. OC who is a perfect cinnamon roll, too good for this world, too pure

49. Which one of your OCs would most likely enjoy memes

50. Give me the good ol' OC talk here. Talk about anything you want

If you want, you can tag your ask answers with #yetanotherOCmeme so I can check them out too `v´9

[psychicsean]

I have a number of thoughts about this but would need time to compile them.

While we’re talking about abusive RPers...

…don’t forget that some of the flags of an abusive roleplayer are identical to the ones for abusive RL relationships.

The Idolize > Isolate > Devalue > Discard cycle that we see in a lot of abusive RL relationships is actually creepily common online and devastating to the victim, despite the lack of physical damage in most cases (I say “most” because I have seen people driven to self-harm or suicide attempts by online abuse of this type).

Idolize: the abuser is desperate to roleplay with the target. They lavish them with attention, gifts, plots, writing, and/or art. The abuser will do anything to become the target’s new best friend.  Some abusers will become irrationally angry if rejected at this stage and transition into stalking and/or harassment.

Isolate: the abuser begins peeling the target away from any existing friends or RP partners. They’ll attempt to occupy all their online time and suggest they do a lot of one-on-one roleplay in private with them. When in multi-person scenes, they will deliberately alienate the target’s other friends either by acting out, attacking them, or intentionally making RP awkward or impossible for everyone but their target. Gaslighting starts. They may complain the target’s friends are “mean” or “jealous” and attempt to instigate arguments where the target will feel the need to defend them and further alienate their friends. Lavishing with gifts continues in this phase.

Devalue: when their target is cut off from everyone else, the honeymoon ends. Gaslighting ramps up massively. They still want to roleplay with the target, but the target suddenly can’t seem to do anything right.  The target’s self-esteem is systematically degraded. Plots revolve increasingly around the abuser’s character with the target’s being an expendable, breakable prop. They attempt to push their target into roleplay they don’t enjoy or are actively afraid of, and respond to objections or refusals with manipulative behavior like crying, insults, or threatening abandonment.  In extreme cases, the abuser may feign self-harm or suicidal impulses and present them to the target as the target’s fault, i.e. “LOOK WHAT YOU MADE ME DO.”  Gifts only come as “makeup” presents after a fight and are generally presented in public so that all seems well to anyone not involved. They are now the target’s only major roleplay partner and use that as a weapon. 

Discard: the abuser finds a new idol. Gaslighting hits maximum, convincing the target that they’re the reason the abuser doesn’t want to play with them anymore and that no one will ever want to play with them. Finally, they drop their current target and ignore them or harass them, often resorting to scorched-earth tactics and spreading rumors to make sure their victim has difficulty reconnecting with others. The target and their character are usually badly damaged, possibly irreparably.

Abusive roleplayers like this usually leave a trail of shattered guilds and broken people behind and often move games or servers when chasing a new target. Due to their habit of giving gifts in public and abusing in private, they may even have a good reputation in the community and staunch defenders (especially if they’re well-known for their writing, art, or crafts). 

In other words, good fucking luck catching them before they hurt someone.

Since this kind of abuse is hard to see from the inside until it’s already too late, the biggest thing you can do is watch out for your friends and guildies.  We’re all weirdos here, and we need to keep each other safe.  If you feel like somebody’s new RP partner is trying to separate them from their support system, don’t be afraid to speak up.  I don’t care if they write like the next Hemingway or their art appears to have been shat right out of Da Vinci’s asshole, they don’t get a pass.

If you feel like or know that this type of abuse is happening to you, remember that no plot or friendship is worth your mental health.  Walk away if you can, get someone you trust to help you if you can’t (yes, even the old friends you told to fuck off and leave you alone - they probably have a strong suspicion of why).  Take screenshots or chatlogs so you have some defense against gaslighting or malicious rumors.  You’re not alone, no matter what they tell you.

[psychicsean]

Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”

and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”

and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.

[psychicsean]

The writer's blessing:

May you write 1,500 words with ease.May your characters be lively and not cardboard.May you need little editing.May your muse visit you as soon as you sit.May the Internet not distract you much.May your phone lie dormant while you write.

[psychicsean]

Me: *hears random love song on radio*

Me: This is my OTP!

Me: *hears another random love song*

Me: This is my OTP!

Me: *hears yet another random love song*

Me: This is my OT--

[psychicsean]

How Calicos Give Birth. Based on a dream my girlfriend had.

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if you ever feel bad about yourself just remember that if you were a fictional character people would probably love you for all your flaws and quirks and mannerisms that you probably hate so just remember that okay ilu

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You: What’s your favorite video game genre?

Me: Character creation screen.

[psychicsean]

“I have read my OTP fall in love a thousand times, and I shall read my OTP fall in love a thousand times more”

— Me (via anihanki)

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it might seem like my whole life revolves around fictional characters but yes it does

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there’s shipping and then there’s PRIORITY SHIPPING 

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shit son if wanting a ship to have a good, respectful dynamic and a healthy, loving relationship is ‘boring’ and ~*vanilla*~ then call me buttercream and slap me on a cupcake because I am the most vanilla of them all.

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Excited for this one too

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