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I get so tired of how people get so wishy-washy over neglect being abuse. Neglect is encouraged hand-in-hand with other types of abuse, especially for children and it's important to understand what it is.
A lot of people seem to think since neglect can happen accidently or people can be forced to neglect their children through poverty/abuse/ect, that means it's not necessarily abuse. But that's not how abuse works. Abuse can happen accidently, it can be forced, it is affected by things like poverty or other abuses happening at the same time.
Just because neglect is a complicated issue doesn't mean it's not abuse, it just means you need to understand abuse is also a complicated issue.
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punkstylerecovery 9 days
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if you want to actually materially address child abuse, the single most important thing you can do to start is give children the legally enforceable right to leave any situation they no longer want to be in.
church, extracurriculars, summer camps, school classes, their biological family's houses. notably, these are the places that child abuse is enabled by the child's inability to just fucking leave if they need to. they can't walk out of church if their youth pastor touches them inappropriately; they'll get punished for leaving. if they walk out of their house because their dad hits them, the cops pick them up and give them right back to their dad.
children need the legal autonomy to leave abusive situations in order to even begin to usefully materially address child abuse.
original post by qweerhet because it's unrebloggable but very important
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punkstylerecovery 10 days
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Always. Free Palestine. Here's a link to donate to E-sims for Palestinians or here's another link for a fund to help Gazans with food and other necessities. Any amount helps, y'all.
i think people rarely think of situations like what's happening in Palestine in terms of youth liberation but like. Almost 50% of Gaza's population is under 18. Do know how many kids in Gaza are refugees? Are homeless? Are orphans? Do you know how many of them are starving? Do you know how many of them are dying, are explicitly being targeted because of their families connections to Palestinian resistance? Do you know how many of them are already working? Do you know how many of them are already resistance fighters?
Not to make it all ~intersectional~ or something but I can't imagine believing in youth liberation and ignoring/not believing in a free Palestine. It's a HUGE youth liberation issue.
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punkstylerecovery 10 days
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Take up space . At work. In your relationships. On the train. Don鈥檛 make yourself small for anyone.
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punkstylerecovery 10 days
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I get so tired of how people get so wishy-washy over neglect being abuse. Neglect is encouraged hand-in-hand with other types of abuse, especially for children and it's important to understand what it is.
A lot of people seem to think since neglect can happen accidently or people can be forced to neglect their children through poverty/abuse/ect, that means it's not necessarily abuse. But that's not how abuse works. Abuse can happen accidently, it can be forced, it is affected by things like poverty or other abuses happening at the same time.
Just because neglect is a complicated issue doesn't mean it's not abuse, it just means you need to understand abuse is also a complicated issue.
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punkstylerecovery 11 days
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I get so tired of how people get so wishy-washy over neglect being abuse. Neglect is encouraged hand-in-hand with other types of abuse, especially for children and it's important to understand what it is.
A lot of people seem to think since neglect can happen accidently or people can be forced to neglect their children through poverty/abuse/ect, that means it's not necessarily abuse. But that's not how abuse works. Abuse can happen accidently, it can be forced, it is affected by things like poverty or other abuses happening at the same time.
Just because neglect is a complicated issue doesn't mean it's not abuse, it just means you need to understand abuse is also a complicated issue.
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punkstylerecovery 13 days
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there is no old self to get back to there鈥檚 a new u to create n nurture
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punkstylerecovery 14 days
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Don鈥檛 punish yourself for softness when so often the problem with the world is that it鈥檚 too hard
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punkstylerecovery 14 days
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people have said good things about you behind your back, without your knowledge. people have shared their love for you with others.
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punkstylerecovery 22 days
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Something that a lot of people really don't understand about having OCD or psychosis or just intrusive thoughts is how violent and/or disgusting the inside of your mind can feel and how scary that can be. It can make you want to hide everything about yourself, afraid that somehow some detail could give away what's inside your head or even afraid you might "contaminate" other people because of what your brain does.
That fear can lead to you lying to doctors, which is understandable because doctors can be truly awful to people like us, and that can lead to us not getting mental healthcare for the shame and fear we carry around, not to mention anything else we deal with.
That fear is often reinforced when we try to tell people and they react badly. A lot of the things inside my head aren't things you're "supposed" to think, much less say out loud and people aren't kind about that. People on the internet will even accuse people talking about their intrusive thoughts of being predators or abusers or claim we "should be in jail" just for things we don't even choose to think.
This includes thoughts about attacking people, murder, rape, sex, saying offensive things, ect, ect. Its normal to me, in a way, how violent my thoughts can randomly be but that took a long time and I'm still scared of myself. I'm still scared to tell people. I used to think I was a monster when I was little, somehow evil because I couldn't control my brain.
I wish more people had even basic knowledge about things like this. I think it's something children should be taught about, so that less of us grow up scared of our brains in the way I was, so that less people treat us like shit because they don't understand what we deal with.
We need to kill this ableism/sanism with fire because I am so done with it.
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punkstylerecovery 23 days
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Something that a lot of people really don't understand about having OCD or psychosis or just intrusive thoughts is how violent and/or disgusting the inside of your mind can feel and how scary that can be. It can make you want to hide everything about yourself, afraid that somehow some detail could give away what's inside your head or even afraid you might "contaminate" other people because of what your brain does.
That fear can lead to you lying to doctors, which is understandable because doctors can be truly awful to people like us, and that can lead to us not getting mental healthcare for the shame and fear we carry around, not to mention anything else we deal with.
That fear is often reinforced when we try to tell people and they react badly. A lot of the things inside my head aren't things you're "supposed" to think, much less say out loud and people aren't kind about that. People on the internet will even accuse people talking about their intrusive thoughts of being predators or abusers or claim we "should be in jail" just for things we don't even choose to think.
This includes thoughts about attacking people, murder, rape, sex, saying offensive things, ect, ect. Its normal to me, in a way, how violent my thoughts can randomly be but that took a long time and I'm still scared of myself. I'm still scared to tell people. I used to think I was a monster when I was little, somehow evil because I couldn't control my brain.
I wish more people had even basic knowledge about things like this. I think it's something children should be taught about, so that less of us grow up scared of our brains in the way I was, so that less people treat us like shit because they don't understand what we deal with.
We need to kill this ableism/sanism with fire because I am so done with it.
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punkstylerecovery 24 days
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[shaking myself by the shoulders] i will get better. i will continue. i have no goddamn choice
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punkstylerecovery 24 days
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I think sometimes healing is less patching yourself back together and more wrapping yourself up in a cocoon to safely relax and eat and grow to eventually emerge into whatever environment you want as something you weren't before.
It's growth in a safe space, so slow you maybe don't notice yourself changing until one day you're leaving that safe space and going about and realize you're a different ass person than you were before. And I think that's kinda beautiful.
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punkstylerecovery 25 days
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I think sometimes healing is less patching yourself back together and more wrapping yourself up in a cocoon to safely relax and eat and grow to eventually emerge into whatever environment you want as something you weren't before.
It's growth in a safe space, so slow you maybe don't notice yourself changing until one day you're leaving that safe space and going about and realize you're a different ass person than you were before. And I think that's kinda beautiful.
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punkstylerecovery 25 days
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Actually, I think forgiveness is important in relationships. Like no, you don鈥檛 owe forgiveness to your abusers or ppl who鈥檝e harmed you, but if you鈥檙e not willing to forgive someone, you should not stay in relationship with that person.
Like if someone鈥檚 actions were so unforgivable then they were bad enough to end/distance the relationship. you cant have both. you cant keep the closeness of the relationship when your heart still closed. youre just using the other person at that point.
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punkstylerecovery 25 days
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Good morning, you have to be the thing that saves you
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punkstylerecovery 1 month
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One of my major (minor) brain issues is that my brain lies to me. Sometimes its easy to ignore, especially since it's generally obvious, but when I don't have something else to concentrate on or I'm really anxious, its like trying to ignore a fire alarm going off when you're sitting right beside it. Impossible, at least for me.
See, its one thing to ignore my brain saying "you're an evil person" when I'm in the middle of a book. Its another to ignore my brain claiming I didn't lock the bathroom door (and someone Will come in) when I'm in the shower. But its quite another thing to ignore my brain screaming someone is in my bedroom and they're going to kill me when its the dead of night and I'm trying to sleep.
You might think the logical solution would be to look around my bedroom, put the fears to rest, and go to sleep. But no. You see, my brain wants me to look. But it also never believes I've looked properly.
I can look around and five seconds later, my brain will ask, 'but are you sure you looked right? Look again. If you missed something, you're going to die!" Sometimes I can't remember if I looked or not. Perhaps I did miss something. It doesn't matter. My brain wouldn't be satisfied if I slept with my eyes open (which is what it tries to convince me I will do if I want to stay alive).
Its always something I've struggled with, some times more than others. Its not always as extreme as "you're going to die", but its always extreme in some way, whether its the panic or the amount of times I check something to shut my brain up. And its ridiculous, because its not like I don't know my brain is a liar. Its not like I don't know it likes to fuck with me.
But I also don't really know what else to do. Its not like people go around offering advice for things like that; its not a common dinner conversation. Its not even a common experience, apparently. Some people's brains don't lie to them all the time and they don't have a million panic attacks trying to go to sleep because their brain isn't telling them they're about to die.
I don't know what the fuck I'd advise people like that. Sleep tight, maybe. But I wish there was some kind of guidebook for people with brains like mine. I'm getting kinda tired of winging it.
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