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*thinks about how endos comparing "saying you need trauma to have a trauma disorder" to transmedicalism are comparing being trans to having a mental illness*

i thought you guys were the inclusive ones? lol

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Have you considered that maybe someone who identifies as an endogenous system maybe,,, doesn’t want to be reminded of their trauma,,, when describing what their system type is? I doubt it :/

Honey. You are a system because you have trauma. Not wanting to remember or think about it doesn't make your system or your trauma go away. In fact if you ID as an endo bc you don't want to be reminded of your trauma is blatant internalized ableism.

Also, trauma is a scar that never goes away. Pushing it under the rug makes it worse. You have to confront it and learn to move on from it, not hide it. It's not something to be ashamed of, it's forever a part of you. How long are you planning to hide it?

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Looking for credible sources!!

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reminder to the "but what if they don't remember their trauma" crowd that if the endo community didn't exist, those systems that think they're endogenic because they haven't accepted their trauma?

they would probably accept it faster, without endos fucking telling them "oh don't worry, nothing you're saying means you have to have trauma"

fucking hell

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Hey, question: what's an Endo?

Endo is short for endogenic systems. Endos believe they can have alters without having DID or OSDD-1. They generally spread a lot of misinformation and can be really harmful towards people with DID/OSDD-1.

Systems only happen if there is childhood trauma. Endos are either DID/OSDD-1 systems that can’t remember their trauma, they’re dealing with a different mental illness, or they’re pathologizing regular human experiences.

They also call people with DID/OSDD-1 sysmeds and traumascum because they think leeching off of trans discourse will give them credibility.

Even if it’s possible to have a system without trauma, which I highly doubt, I don’t want interaction from them. I’m a trauma survivor and my blog isn’t for them.

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If you don’t remember your trauma, but have a dissociative or trauma disorder. You are valid, your trauma is real, as is your disorder.

If you feel like your trauma isn’t ‘bad enough’ to cause a dissociative or trauma disorder. You are valid, your trauma is real, as is your disorder.

If you have the disorder, it happened & it was ‘bad enough’.

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Endos seem to think that critical thinking & understanding research is ‘jumping through hoops’ & ‘logic leaps’ because we don’t accept that they’re ✨UWU VaLiD✨ & refuse to let them make a mockery of one of the core symptoms of a legitimate mental illness 👍🏻

They also choose to come to our tags & even search comments of our tags to find people who disagree with them just to start shit.

Please, find valid & reliable, peer reviewed research that a system can form without the presents of trauma. Or stay the fuck far away from us.

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New tumblr is up & running. Using this to post things mostly in the DID community that I’m scared of saying but I feel like will help someone else. There’s a lot of fakeclaimers, as well as self proclaimed experts who will happily send hate your way if you even mention an opinion even slightly different to theirs. Not to mention the endos 😒

Starting a new page. If you would like to come over, msg me & I’ll send you the new user. I’m not sure I’m happy with it.. so it may change a few times. Apologies

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Probably unpopular opinion but that’s why we share it on the hate blog!

Can we please lessen the reliance on the outdated 1a & 1b to describe OSDD.

1a & 1b applied to DDNOS.

It is not in the current DSM. It is just OSDD 1.

By fitting OSDD experiences into two specific boxes, it misses the complexity of the multiplicity experience. Especially for newly diagnosed/discovering systems.

I found it really confronting to feel like I had to fit into one of these two boxes when I was first diagnosed & didn’t know a lot about my system. I had amnesia for my amnesia. So, I didn’t think I fit 1a, but I’m also co-con/blended a lot of the time & have many fragments in my system, so I wasn’t sure our alters were ‘defined enough’ for 1b. It was so much more validating to realise that OSDD doesn’t require one or the other of those experiences. It’s just ‘doesn’t meet the full criteria for DID’.

Turns out, when we were given that space to accept the OSDD diagnosis without the very rigid walls & felt comfortable engaging in the community, we came to realise we actually did meet the criteria for DID. We noticed how seperate some of system members were and that our brain tries to make us forget or ignore periods of amnesia. If the only resources out there said we could only experience OSDD as 1a or 1b, we probably would have continued to deny any systemhood.

The explanation of 1a & 1b can be really helpful for some people. Some people were diagnosed when DDNOS was the standard ‘not full DID’ diagnosis. But it’s not helpful for others.

If you have been given an OSDD diagnosis & you feel like you don’t fit either 1a or 1b. That’s okay & your experience is valid. It’s not that black & white.

This video may give you some more insight into the ways OSDD can present and different ways we may classify DID & OSDD in the future. Of course this is just one approach. But it’s good to listen to many different discussions & research on structural dissociation to understand it better

https://youtu.be/ZV3ToVA5BqQ

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I see a lot of people post on various sites about not wanting an ‘offical’ diagnosis on their ‘record’. But I’m not sure what record they think this is. Confidentiality exists in most places. This means health professionals can’t just disclose your diagnosis because they want to, or have a bias against you. Maybe you should consider a different specialist if they do, anyways. That diagnosis shouldn’t be shared outside their office unless you ask for it to be.

In Australia at least if your psychologist or psychiatrist diagnoses you, that diagnosis doesn’t go anywhere unless you give them permission to share it.

Hospitals can’t share your medical records without your permission.

NDIS can’t share the documents your psychologist or psychiatrist or GP or OT or other health professionals provide to them.

Centrelink can’t share the documents provided to them either.

Unless you are a danger to yourself or others, everyone is bound by confidentiality. Even then, your support person should be limiting what they share to the bare minimum to ensure someone’s safety, & explaining to you what they are going to disclose & to who.

No one can tell your employer, a school, volunteer agency, family, friends.

They can’t tell the road authority, unless you are not safe to be on the road. I have DID & a car license. None of my support think I’m a danger on the road, so it’s not an issue.

You can’t be in the army & I think a police officer with a mental illness. But you can be any kind of health professional, including first responders. You can work any other job. It’s about knowing your own limitations or getting help to work around them.

A friend of mine is a paramedic & she has bipolar. I have a registration as health professional & the regulating board (AHPRA) knows I have DID & it’s fine. Another person I know is a registered psychologist with the same board I am with & has disclosed PTSD with them & it’s fine.

A diagnosis can offer you access to things like the right treatment for your disorder rather than wasting your time on treatments that don’t work. You can get government payments as someone who is unable to work or work enough to survive. You can get disability funding for supports & equipment that may help you in your day to day life.

I’m not saying drop everything & share your medical/psychiatric history everywhere. But don’t take it as a given that having an offical diagnosis or disclosing your illness is detrimental to your wellbeing. Look at the privacy statements of the different places you may disclose to in order to get help. Talk to people who support you about how & what they may need disclose.

Literally the only place I think my previous diagnosis ‘record’ impacts me is at the hospital, because no one wants to provide mental health assistance to someone with BPD who is in crisis. But I didn’t have a choice, the hospital & their community program put that in there based on their own diagnosis. That record stays within that area at least. I got to a hospital out of area, they won’t know.

Health insurance where the is no public system may be an issue but I can’t speak to that. But surely they need to know you have a disorder in order to agree to paying for your treatment?

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Gonna save this blog for things I’m scared someone may crack the shits about as I’m apparently already hated for saying that systems are a mental health experience & not just something you can make up for funnsies ☺️

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Starting a new page. If you would like to come over, msg me & I’ll send you the new user. I’m not sure I’m happy with it.. so it may change a few times. Apologies

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Hey, you. I... I couldn't help but notice you are having a rough day... May I offer you some snuggie rats in consolation?

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“people with uteruses” and “people with ovaries” and “people with testes” and “people with breasts” are completely harmless and useful phrases to use when discussing legislation & medicine I think yalll are just mad at the idea of trans & intersex people having medical & legal autonomy & the ability to describe our experiences without misgendering ourselves