#*squishes

[midnight-soulless-system]

Just told my friend we had a squish on her, but it wasn't a crush because we're aroace and she was like. "Cool, and same on both fronts"

I'm so fucking happy y'all, is this what the allos feel when someone else reciprocates a crush? Cause this is fucking awesome.

[strawberry-s0ap]

grey cat stimboard with plushies and squishy things for anon!

x x x / x x x / x x x

[aroaceconfessions]

gonna give up on telling anyone who isn't apsec about my squishes. can't fucking trust anyone anymore to just shut up and believe me. I'm sick of being treated as if I'm delusional or stuck in that stupid trope of "person insists it's just platonic but later realises they're in love romantically".

I'm a human being, not a character from some fiction story.

I know what I feel. I spent years questioning it, I don't need my own friends to start fucking questioning me too.

fuck arophobes.

Submitted April 16, 2023

[eclipseisokaywiththiswebsite]

I just want to tell everyone who's aromantic and gets squishes instead of crushes. A squish can have the same feelings as a crush, you can get nervous and get butterflies around your squish(butterflies in your stomach aren't a crush exclusive thing, I get them when I'm around extremely steep roads for instance).

There are two differentiators from a squish and a crush. The first one is what do you want with that person. Do you want to be friends with them, or do you want to be romantically involved with them? The former is a squish, the latter is a crush. The second one is that a squish usually goes away when you've become friends with that person or best friends, or whatever level of emotional intimacy you want with that person. A crush... doesn't? Or at least doesn't until you've finally reached the level of romantic involvement you want? As an aro person I'm not super familiar with crushes, please help me here.

So those are the differences, hope this helps someone.

[fallenrain40]

random aro thoughts again,, i really love the term for friend crushes- "squishes". my only problem is being afraid people will interpret it as an "inbetween" romance and friendship when no... for me it's not even queerplatonic or anything like that... it's literally just wanting to know someone and thinking they are cool, or maybe admiring them in some other form. but no level of romantic attraction is ever involved and i hate to think people will misinterpret that.

im almost afraid to even call it PLATONIC attraction cause... platonic can be really strong too. idk. its like some mysterious fourth option (just like my gender pfft-),

[shinekittenace]

do you ever have a squish so intense that you're like "i would blow up the moon for you if you asked" or do I just have no chill

[frickityfrackityfuckingshit]

Being abro, crushes can be really complicated as my feelings and attractions flux and change.

I don’t really connect with all the memes that are like “wow all I think about is you”, they feel pretty all consuming and honestly kinda worry me?

For me it’s more like- there’s a special part of me where you reside, and I can’t get you out. Sometimes it pulses with warmth, sometimes it just sits there, and it’s nice either way. The bigger my crush grows, the bigger that section grows.

But you aren’t taking me over. It’s it’s own thing, and when it grows it doesn’t reduce the size of the rest of me.

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

questioning aspec culture is not being sure if you're fully aromantic or not, because the only "crushes" you had before were when you were much younger, too young to really tell if it was crushes or squishes or some kind of tertiary attraction. Like I can't tell anymore since as I'm getting older and older I don't feel attracted to anyone anymore, or tell what romantic attraction even really is.

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[highvern]

coups brain rot, wonwoo brain rot, seok brain rot, mingyu brain rot, HOSHI BRAIN ROT

Maybe the problem is me

[but-i-was-b4by]

I got two new squishes today!

And took a small trip.. to the ground...with my face

[depollutingshosz]

stuff

Pocket sal

[black-salt-cage]

ଘ(੭*ˊᵕˋ)੭* ੈ♡‧₊˚

[strawberry-s0ap]

ozzie (animal crossing) stimboard with pastel kidocore themes for anon!

x x x / x x x / x x x

[aroaceconfessions]

Mild rant about my squishes and stuff, kinda just needed somewhere to vent a bit, feel free to keep scrolling.

While I am aro/ace, I do occasionally get really intense squishes on people who I’m around a lot as friends. It’s not romantic and *definitely* not sexual, but wow, it’s kinda ridiculous sometimes. The last couple times it’s happened the person has either made it very clear that they don’t want to be that emotionally close with someone who doesn’t feel romantic attraction or they’re annoyingly vague about it. The most recent person, (who I had nearly worked up the courage to ask about a queerplatonic relationship since I believed that they were aro as well based on some things they had said about not liking the entire concept of romance in relation to them) just came to me to ask if I could be a wingperson to help them confess to a crush. I have no idea how allo people feel in that kind of situation, but I just feel kind of annoyed. Like- I thought this time maybe it wouldn’t be weird if I asked and then WHAM. Ugh- feels bad man.

Submitted April 17, 2023

[greyro-problems]

oh god it looks like im greyro and i think im falling in love and lads oh it is not worth it. what are these feelings please take them away??? romance?? no thank you please put it back¿??

like i've felt love. i love my friends. i love my family. it's like lying by a warm fireplace in the winter, or like the morning sun glowing on your skin. this shit? I AM THE FIRE. I AM ON FIRE. I AMI NSIDE THE SUN. so much energy and heat and intensity but uh randomly all at once? and its very nice somehow for a while but fuck IM STILL ON FIRE please someone come PUT ME OUT

I understand why allo ppl cant describe this shit its so fuckng odd, like, id like control of my emotions back please thank you

does anyone else feel like this or am i the only one losing their own mind

i seriously feel i might spontaneously combust

This may be one of the most relatable asks that I've ever gotten. 100% this. Why is romance and can it go away and let me feel my feelings at my own time pls

[a-tad-bit-acearo]

being aro ace is rlly weird sometimes. i totally accept it tho (some don’t), but im angled aroace, meaning i have platonic crushes (squishes), and sometimes romantic AND platonic crushes (alterous squish) but i have a squish on my aroace bsf and he has a squish on his other….straight….bsf. and feelings are really complex when your aro ace…so sometimes it isnt great yall