#About the conversations I can't really participate in and I sit there awkwardly knowing they find it weird that I'm not opening up.

[arowitharrows]

The duality of "If you even imply that being aro or ace condemns someone to a sad and lonely life I will fucking fight you"

and

"being aro and ace is the most isolating thing I will ever experience"

Edit: adding my tags directly to keep things accessible:

#The thing is that when other people imply that being aro and ace must condemn someone to a sad and lonely life #they are seeing aromanticism and asexuality as the root of the problem. #They think that not having that 'special someone' in your life means it's not worth living.#they're showing pity for something they think you're missing out on

#When I talk about feelings of isolation caused by being aroace‚ I'm talking about the way our (western) society is structured #about how people drift off into their bubble #about how the older you get the less and less time everyone has in their day #and how your role as a friend automatically becomes lesser compared to other relationships.

#I'm thinking about how certain emotional and physical connections are suddenly reserved for romantic relationships. #About the conversations I can't really participate in and I sit there awkwardly knowing they find it weird that I'm not opening up. #I'm thinking about all the times I get hit out of nowhere with a throwaway line #reminding me that people think there's something wrong with your soul if you don't love like they do. #That they think a life like yours isn't worth living. That's the kind of isolation I'm thinking about. #Not me missing out on having a romantic partner.

[lovequinn]

mushy shit about some recent events

open the cut if you dare bc it's just me crying and rambling and being very sentimental over things but y'all asked so

over the past week and a half i was lucky enough to do two things that meant the world to me: i saw harry styles in concert (harryween n2 supremacy!) and i had the chance to meet/speak to anna kendrick.

i will start with harry bc i feel like that is the one that surprises people more lmao and to save myself the effort of typing this all twice, i will copy and paste my blubbering from instagram:

in 2012 i made it my mission to become as involved with one direction as possible. i was a closeted teenager in a hostile, primarily republican town who didn't know how to deal with the feelings i was feeling, and the obvious solution to me was to blend. so like every straight girl i knew, i bought all the albums, i went to the concerts, i even waited 5 hours on line to meet them and have them sign my cd (in the stone ages when people still did mall tours). not to say i didn't enjoy myself, because i really did find a lot of fun in being a part of that era, but for me it was never exactly the same as it was for everyone else. i often sat with the discomfort of knowing i was using this band to hide a large part of my own self.

watching harry styles, whose solo music did end up reaching me in a place one direction's never could, unabashedly ignore the norms of gender and sexuality has felt personal in a way i can't describe. the other night i got to watch him sing about confidence and kindness on a stage littered with pride flags, back to back with the song that was ever present when i was hiding all those years ago (wmyb) as if he were acknowledging how much things have changed. i watched the entire arena glow with a rainbow of lights. and while the me of 9 years ago was someone very different, that poor kid's heart would have been bursting the same way it is right now. in 2021, this feels right.

and now ANNA.

at the same time in 2012 that i was pulling my "yes haha i totally want to date the 1d guys i'm being so convincing" act, i also watched pitch perfect for the first time. and like any good blossoming gay, i saw beca and chloe together and went oh...oh. i had a tumblr already because of (surprise surprise) one direction, and i had already made my first forays into reading fanfiction (thank you degrassi), but i had never really experienced fandom before. much less lgbt fandom. i remember sitting one night and searching the pitch perfect tag, just out of curiosity. and i found the bechloe fandom, and these wonderful, friendly people of all kinds, most importantly other people like me. bechloe was my very first time participating in a community with other lgbt people in a time when i needed it most. i remember feeling lonely and ostracized at school each day, but being able to come home and find myself among a group of people who understood. i have never shyed away from saying that the bechloe fandom raised me, and i mean it; alex, cole, cam, hanna, so many others (some of you who are still mutuals with me here, some of you who became off-tumblr and irl friends, some of you who are out there somewhere even though we lost touch) were my family in so many of the ways that mattered. this fandom listened to me when i needed an ear, watched me try (and often fail) at my first attempts at writing, eased me through crushes, helped pay for my textbooks when i got older. even if your interests changed, or if you drifted away from social media altogether, i've never forgotten a single name or a single conversation. and it was all because we couldn't shut up about two girls awkwardly in a shower singing acapella who were OBVIOUSLY in love while having embarrassing urls like "tonerforsnow" (guilty as charged).

i've always felt like i owe that community to anna kendrick and brittany snow. despite every show or movie or whatever i jump to focus on next, they will always hold that special place in my heart. they didn't shy away from their lgbt fans, they played along with us and weren't afraid to talk about a wlw ship and in turn strengthened that little circle of family i'd found. over the years their other projects, onscreen or off (i.e. scrappy little nobody and love is louder) and even just their general attitude has brought much needed light into my life and given me many a smile when nothing else could. i am well-known in all my irl circles as the connossieur of all things anna and brittany and i wear that title with pride lol

i've never met brittany, and while i got to ask anna a question at her book tour a little over four years ago (still embarrassed over how nervous i sounded rip), i'd never spoken to her face to face. i was lucky enough to attend the season 2 premiere of love life last sunday (a great example of one of anna's projects that has touched my rotted heart) and by a stroke of luck had the chance to talk to anna and briefly thank her for how much her work has meant to me over the past 9 years. and whew nothing really compares to the feeling of finally telling someone "hey, what you've done and what you've put out there has changed me in a really profound way."

she could not have been kinder to me (suck it tiktok weirdos), which i'm super grateful for because i was admittedly shaking like a wet dog and didn't want to impede on her space at her event. i also had been having a really rough couple of weeks and didn't realize how much i just needed someone to say something nice or give me a casual compliment, and i especially didn't realize the person to give me that compliment would end up being anna kendrick.

anyway this was a lot of words that no one will read and it was mostly all for me to get it out but idk the past week and a half has been super cathartic for my inner child and my spirits are super high. i am the first person to criticize celebrity culture and toxic standom but i also have my fair share of good experiences with it all and i'm happy i had the chance to do some time travel of sorts lately. ok i'm gonna go watch anna on corden now ❤️

[depressed-andobsessed]

YoonKook/SugaKookie (ft NamJin + ChaeHope)

British wizards are still feeling the aftereffects of war, but they continue to move on having learned from their past. At least, most of them do. The Hogwarts halls are once again to fall victim to terrible conflict, and a group of young wizards and witches will find themselves at the centre of it. It won't be easy, but at least they have eachother.

Alohamora - BTS + BLACKPINK Hogwarts AU

Part 4/??

Yoongi was lying back on the grass enjoying the end of the daylight and allowing himself to drift slightly from his friends' conversation when his interest was perked at the mention of a familiar name.

"Jungkookie! Over here!" Jisoo called excitedly, and the voices hushed as everyone turned to watch him approach. Even Yoongi propped himself up on his elbows to get a better view.

"Hi." Jungkook greeted awkwardly, sitting in the empty spot between Jisoo and Hoseok.

"Okay, Kookie! Let me introduce you to everyone." Jisoo started, leaning onto his shoulder and raising her arm to point at her friends. "Seokjin, the big brother; Taehyung, my least favourite cousin; Yoongi, Slyth keeper; Chaeyoung, left-handed; and Lalisa, our youngest. Got that?" She smiled up at her best friend. Jungkook took a moment, a slightly lost look on his face, before nodding.

"We've heard so much about you." Lalisa smiled, lying on her stomach and using her arm as a pillow. "What's it like being friends with the Grey Lady? I heard it's very difficult."

"Well, Helena's lovely if she trusts you." Jungkook answered. "She started talking to me because I would sit alone in common room after hours." The few questioning glances he received from that explanation did not go unnoticed by Jungkook.

"Oh, are you alright? We never got a chance to ask you about what happened in Hogsmeade on Saturday." Jimin asked, friendly concern in his voice as he momentarily took his attention away from the ginger cat in his lap. Jungkook was slightly taken aback by the fact someone other than Jisoo was showing any concern for him, but just nodded in response.

"It was, um, just a really sudden migraine." He answered.

The group fell back into casual conversation, but Jungkook found it difficult to properly participate. For one, he had never been in a group of this many people, but he also felt as if people were judging him; especially since Yoongi kept looking at him. He would answer the questions he was asked, but avoided going into much detail. After a while, it started getting more difficult for him to block out the thoughts of ten people and he started feeling a lot more uncomfortable.

"You all think I'm weird, don't you?" Jungkook asked abruptly at a lull in the conversation.

'Is he in my head!?' He heard Taehyung think, and was hurt by his low standards of him.

"No, I didn't have read your mind to know that. But if you're so afraid that I will then maybe you should try thinking a little quieter." He snapped at Taehyung, before quickly getting up and walking away.

"Kookie!" Jisoo called after him. "Thanks a lot Tae." She groaned.

"What!? He actually was in my head!" Taehyung defended.

"He can't help it you asshole." Jisoo almost shouted. It was clear that the two were angry with eachother.

"Calm down, no fighting." Seokjin stepped in to diffuse the situation.

Meanwhile, Yoongi got up and started walking after Jungkook, not bothering to answer Jennie when she asked where he was going. He followed Jungkook out of the courtyard and back into the castle.

"Hey!" He called out to him, and the younger boy froze and quickly turned around, but his face fell when he saw Yoongi. "Don't worry, I come as a friend." Yoongi chuckled. Jungkook scoffed slightly and turned to continue onwards, but walked slowly so Yoongi could catch up with him, which he did quickly.

"So, a legilimens." He said. Jungkook sighed and nodded, almost embarrassed. "That's pretty cool."

"Really?" Jungkook seemed shocked.

"Yeah. I always wanted to be one when I was a kid." Yoongi answered. "Though I guess it's not as great as I always thought."

"No, not really." Jungkook replied. "I always found it difficult to make friends."

"Well, I'll be your friend." Yoongi said, offering a small smile. The boys made short eye contact before they both looked away, somewhat awkward.

"You know, Jisoo called Taehyung an asshole right after you left." Yoongi chuckled.

"Oh no, did I make them fight?" Jungkook asked, worried.

"Don't worry, they'll be back to happy families before curfew." Yoongi informed him, and Jungkook let out a relieved sigh. "I hope you'll ignore him and hang out with us more often from now on. You seem like you'd fit right in." The younger shrugged in response.

"I doubt Jisoo would let it go that easily anyway." He laughed lightly.

[sissytobitch10seconds]

Hey! I really love your work "Love is Magical" on AO3 and I was wondering if I could request a Remus Lupin x James Potter x Sirius Black where Sirius and James are dating and Remus approaches them sometime (I dont really know how, sorry) and he confesses and they kinda confess too and then it all leads up to some smut? (Where Sirius is bottom, James is a switch, and Remus is a top maybe?) I dont mean to bother so it's ok if you can't lmao (also this is like after Hogwarts maybe? No Voldemort)😅

Thank you for the request! You can find this on Archive as well!

The conversation had pittered out a while ago, leaving them in a comfortable silence. The fireplace crackled with life and warmth, spreading it throughout the cozy living space. James and Sirius owned the house, despite the money coming from James’ parents. All three ex-Marauders were crowded around the fire as they finished off their tea and just enjoyed each other’s company. 

Remus set his mug down on the coffee table in front of them, clearing his throat slightly. His face was flush with shyness as he spoke up, “James, Sirius… there’s something that I’ve been meaning to tell you.”

“Uh oh, first names? We’re not in trouble, are we?” Sirius asked, ignoring how his stomach flipped in excitement as his best friend said his name. He really shouldn’t have had feelings like that in the first place, since he had known Remus since they had been in their first year at school, but that didn’t stop the feelings.

“No, no, you’re not in trouble,” he laughed, the smile melting both of the other men.

“You can tell us anything, Moony,” James said softly into his cup of tea.

Remus nodded slowly. He looked down at his hands for a moment as he collected himself, and then he spoke up. “I think I’m in love with you. I know that probably isn’t what you wanted to hear from your werewolf friend, but I am. I completely understand if you don’t want to pursue anything with me, or even want to stop being friends with me. I’m surprised that we made it this far, if I’m being honest-”

James’ hand darted out from where it had been resting around his mug and he grasped his friend’s hand to stop his rambling. “Moony! Come on, have a little faith in us, would you?” he chuckled softly.

“What?” the wizard asked, slightly startled.

“You were going on and on about how we wouldn’t even want to hear that you liked us like that and how you were lucky to have us as friends,” James began. “While, I mean, you are lucky to have us as friends, because we’re just that great, we don’t mind hearing that you’re in love with us.”

“Mainly because we’re in love with you too,” Sirius cast a sideways glance at his boyfriend and got a wide grin in return. 

No other words were exchanged between the three of them as Remus quickly surged forward and brought his lips to lay over James’. James removed his hand from the other man’s and instead cupped Remus’ cheek. He ended up moving out of his chair so that he was kneeling in front of his newfound lover. Remus carefully slid down onto the ground so that he was sitting with his back pressed against the chair and his legs straddling James’ hips.

The kiss was passionate and full of tongue and teeth, nipping and pushing as they fought for dominance. When they pulled apart, both participants were flush and kiss-swollen. 

“I think we’re going to have to claim him as ours tonight, James,” Sirius murmured. His cock was so hard in his pants that he could barely stand the feeling of the fabric constraining it. 

Remus let out a strangled moan at the thought, biting his lip. 

“I think so too,” James smirked. He wrapped his arms around the waist of the smaller man, both of his hands going to hold the ass of his newfound lover. He picked the other man up and then placed him directly onto the lap of his boyfriend. Sirius responded by wrapping his arms where James’ had been, though in the other direction. Remus turned his head to the side and kissed him just as passionately and dramatically as he had done with the other. 

James focused on removing his clothing as quickly as he could as he racked his mind for the charms that they would need. He let his clothing fall into a heap just out of the semicircle that their chairs formed. When he had fully unclothed himself, he set to work on the other men in front of him. His hands wandered underneath the large jumper that Remus was wearing, feeling the smooth material of his undershirt for just a moment before his fingertips brushed against skin. 

“H-how are we going to do this?” Remus breathed out, his mind hazy and uncoordinated with his arousal.

“I was thinking that I’d suck you off and give Sirius a handjob,” James replied like it was the most normal thing in the world. The werewolf had to remind himself that casual sex, and polyamory, were a normal thing for wizards. 

Remus nodded his consent and then let out another startled moan as he felt his best friend undo the belt that kept his pants up and yank them down. His cock sprang up from the cloth prison that it had been trapped in and stung slightly as it hit the cold air in the room. He bucked his hips upward as his body desperately tried to get some kind of pleasure. 

James left the other two for just a moment as he got a chair and moved it closer to them. He picked Remus up, their naked bodies rubbing together pleasurably as James set his newfound lover down in the second chair. As soon as the body had been removed from him, he began to remove his own clothing with remarkable speed. 

The deer animagus placed the werewolf down into the second chair and then got onto his knees. He made sure that his hand would reach his boyfriend while his mouth was still focused on Remus. He wrapped his nimble fingers around the thick cock in front of his face. James opened his mouth and placed his lips on the top of the head in what was almost a kiss. He quickly sucked more and more of the member into his mouth until the base sat heavy on his tongue. 

“Merlin, James, you look so hot,” Sirius whispered. In his impatience, he wrapped his hand around his cock and began to pump to get pleasure.

The aforementioned wizard swallowed around the member in his mouth and then batted Sirius’ hand away from his own cock. James replaced his boyfriend’s fingers with his own, giving him quickly motions as he focused most of his attention on Remus. He bobbed his head up and down fervently while swirling his tongue around the base in a zigzag pattern.

“James! James!” Remus began to chant as his fingers wove through the long, dark locks of the other man. He bucked his hips upward as he felt the knot in his stomach begin to tighten more and more. “Merlin, James, I’m going to cum,” he warned.

“Do it, James likes the taste,” Sirius said, his voice low and gravely as he stared over at the other two men. 

His words seemed to set Remus off as the werewolf cummed deep into the animagus’ mouth, pearly white material filling his cheeks. James swallowed down as much of it as he could, gulping as each wave of cum filled his mouth. Sirius was quick to orgasm after watching the scene unfold in front of him, spilling onto his boyfriend’s hand. James sucked the cock in his mouth dry before he pulled off and began to lick the cum off of his fingers as well.

Sirius and Remus watched, transfixed by their lover’s actions. When he had finished, they all spelled themselves completely clean and then began to re-clothe themselves.

“So, does this mean that you like me back?” he asked with another small flush to his cheeks.

“What do you think?” James laughed. “I don’t suck just anyone off like that.”

“Do you want to date us?” Sirius asked as his arms wound around the other man’s waist. He was only wearing his pants and underwear, so Remus could feel the heat of his skin soaking through his thin undershirt.

“There’s not enough yes in the world for me to agree to you with,” he said awkwardly, laughing slightly. Both of the ther men kissed him briefly before they settled down to talk about what the relationship would entail.