#Comfort or attractiveness? I don't know.

[stardustedknuckles]

It's 2023 can we please figure out that asexuality isn't synonymous with sex repulsion already. Lack of attraction and lack of libido are not the same thing, aces can be "hell yes" about sex itself, and a lack of "hell yes" is not the same as active repulsion. I'm not a big movie watcher, but if someone I care about wants to share a movie with me I'll do it for them and very likely enjoy myself even if it doesn't turn me into someone who actively likes movies. It's not difficult.

[silver-stargazing]

aggressively arospec week: canon arospec characters

◦ Sophie Chi and Jo Ephron from Dear Wendy are aroace.

I just finished this book (incredibly charming read btw) and I've got to say: I am really digging this trend in YA aro representation of having characters already know they are aro before the start of the book. They've already been through the whole self-discovery journey and have come out the other side confidently aro. Obviously, aro discovery and coming out stories are incredibly important but they shouldn't have to be the only kind of story told about aros.

[Image ID: Book cover for Dear Wendy by Ann Zhao. The cover consists of two people, Jo and Sophie, lounging on a green carpet while happily chatting. The color scheme of the cover is predominately green and purple. /end ID]

[chirpsythismorning]

this has been on my mind recently...

[gen-is-gone]

my for some reason unpopular opinion is that it's boring when Fitz remains unhinged levels of self-deluded and closeted actually. Why does he have to be doctor who's answer to dean winchester, huh? why would this man in his mid-thirties who has spent at least a decade traveling in time and space still have weird insane hangups about being attracted to dudes? why does that need to be the thing about the text that we all collectively think is worth taking at face value? it's boring and fucking depressing and honestly doesn't make sense when the future of humanity in doctor who is that bisexuality is the cultural default and completely unremarkable.

[hooved]

i really hate when cis men call me handsome. you do NOT fucking mean that

[commsroom]

i honestly do feel that eiffel's disrespect for authority and willingness to complain are positive traits. in terms of 'these are things i value in real people', but also for what it represents and what he's resisting within the narrative of wolf 359.

it's notable in the face of cutter's personal philosophy and goddard's corporate culture (pryce & carter #5, etc.) ... eiffel won't just accept anything, he won't do his job with a smile (he might not do his job at all, but either way, he reserves the right to be upset about it), he won't learn to compartmentalize. he will complain. he will keep on complaining. he values emotional honesty, and actively encourages others to express their feelings, especially the ones that aren't goddard-approved.

no matter what happens, or how long they've been up there, he never gets desensitized, and i think there's really something about someone who will keep saying 'this isn't normal, it isn't okay, i'm not okay with it, and i ask you to also not be okay with it,' even when he seems alone in saying it. their situation is horrible, and he feels everything so strongly. being able to express that is healthy, and it's human. i find it reassuring.

[star-burrow]

So fucking pissed at people who say that hyperspecific labels “make the queer community look bad” or “is just pure attention seeking”, NO MF I JUST LIKE HAVING A NAME FOR THINGS I FEEL.

Like, my situation with gender is so fucking complicated that having a person coin something such as “dazegender” was so good to me, and I still have a complicated relationship with gender !! I’m so glad for whoever coined the term “Omnisexual/romantic” because it would've been a living nightmare to do mental gymnastics to feel like I fitted pan or bi.

“But those are spectrums” do people treat them as such ? Do they really ? Plus it's just difficult to my head to grasp the concept of “spectrum” it either is or is not, that's how my brain works personally. (My brain needs to be able to name things, basically. And also to know exactly what to do, if we're talking about chores, per say).

In today's generation so many people (me included) just find it SO HARD to put their feelings into words that it is genuinely a blessing to have labels that can label what we feel so precisely (to us, at least), “but you're overcomplicating something that should be simple” feelings are so far from being simple, honestly, and what is simple to you may not be to me, and that's okay, just don't call me attention seeking or whatever.

Also, also !! Hyperspecific labels/flags just make me (at least) feel more validated, since it makes it clear to me that I'm not alone in the way I feel and it kinda validates me (in a good way) :] And it's the Queer Community after all, so I think it's past the time we start actually acting like that.

[hood-ex]

Having a crisis over whether Joshua Hong is prettier than Dick. With this hair and outfit I—😩.

[asinglesock]

so uh

[tei-to-tei]

hey i notice you mention posting zelda donnie yesterday and u didn't :( not trying to rush you, just hoping u are okay! stay healthy thank u very much

??? oh wow well- thank you for your concern, i think? ;u; honestly, i really did want to post him yesterday but i ended up sketching dozens of different poses and all of them kept turning out way more.... uhhhh... seductive(?) than i intended and it was just a nightmare so... sigh if you're okay with the messy WIP i have in the meantime while i clean him up? sorry it's not completed yet, but i promise he'll be done at some point this week T_T

[mossydecadence]

really feeling insane about fatphobia these days

[queerstudiesnatural]

i'm in such a girlie phase i've started wearing makeup again, i've bought some new dresses, and now i'm applying hair extensions. i'm going full rachel berry season 4 😬

[mean-vampyre]

The kind of a pathetic levels people will reach for a tv that is not even good 🥱

[peoplegettingreallymadatfurries]

What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

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I'm a furry blog, not a queer epistemologist.

[chipped-chimera]

Realising I was lesbian does surreal things like making my whole appearance look different despite changing jack shit.

Like the other night where I was sleepy af, ready to go to bed in my kind of too-big gothy house shirt, no make up, go to brush my teeth in the mirror and go: oh wait I'm kind of hot-masc-vibes rn

I have done nothing. LITERALLY NOTHING I'M JUST 🧍‍♀️

[adore-gregor]

soooo