#Especially with pans

[stonebutchery]

it's kind of baffling to me that entire sub-groups of queer folks endured a decade of being singled out and targeted for being asexual, aromantic, bisexual, pansexual, nonbinary, polyamorous, etc. and i have yet to see any substantial apologies from people who were directly responsible for causing genuine harm. i find it completely bizarre that there are so many people who want to sweep their past contributions to widespread lateral aggression toward specific queer groups under the rug like it didn't happen so they can wash their hands of it... there are people who are irreversibly traumatized because of this. there are people who took their lives because of it.

i'm wording the post like despite the fact that exclusionism targeting these groups (and more) continues to persist partly because it was a really frighteningly common trend to harass people just because they were ace, aro, bi, pan, nonbinary, poly, etc... and it's crazy to me that many of the people who were affected by this massive multi-pronged public online bullying campaign against the 'unacceptable types of queers' are the ones still receiving messages like "my url got put on an aphobe blocklist in 2016 because apparently a post i made making fun of asexuals got some teenage asexuals harassed and i still distrust asexuals to this day because of that" ...are you fucking kidding me?

we will never achieve any kind of unity as a queer community while we are insisting upon ignoring the hurt that lateral aggression has caused, and acting like the burden lies on the shoulders of the people who were harmed to forgive the people who harmed them and 'just move on', many of whom are not sorry for what they did! or they don't consider what they did to be wrong! how is that not deeply disturbing and troubling to more of you?

03/06/2024 edit: i’m putting a complete moratorium on this post because i am really sick and tired of having my point not only completely misconstrued and distorted entirely but also weaponized against transfems (particularly in replies i have decided to delete about how “ugh yes, exclusionism, and now transfems are bullying transmascs”) i find that really sickening and i’m demanding that it stop, and i can make it stop by turning off reblogs. so i have.

my objective in writing this post was never to request an apology from people who have been laterally-aggressive exclusionists in the past. i don’t think we’ll ever get more than a handful of apologies from those people, anyway. my point was that it was pretty terrifying to witness and experience a lot of lateral aggression that transferred from the real, in-person world to the deeply online spaces back into the real, in-person world in a really fucked up feedback loop and being a young queer person during this time and having that shape me, snd shape the experiences of my queer friends who have been traumatized by it.

however, it is absolutely unacceptable to me that the issue of transmisogyny is so blatantly overlooked by our entire community. for decades, transfems have experienced oppression and exclusion from transmisogyny-exempt women and queers. their exclusion from political queer liberation movements has caused many of the major schisms within our community we are still having arguments about to this day. if you want collective queer liberation, you must uplift transfems. there is no other option. you don’t get to write off all transfems just because one person who happened to be transfem was mean to you online or something.

i have answered and responded to way too many conspiracy-brained transmisogynist reactionaries to allow this post to keep fucking snowballing with people writing paragraphs in the tags about “transmisandry” or “transandrophobia.” please get your heads out of your asses.

this absolutely is the transmisogyny website, as always, and the place where all basic textual comprehension skills go to die, apparently.

[hedgehog-moss]

Took the bus to the big city yesterday and it only stops near where I live in the early morning and late at night, so I left a bowl for Pandolf with enough food for his 2 meals of the day. He didn’t start eating because it was too early for breakfast and he’s punctilious about mealtimes, but I told him “Bon appétit” to Authorise The Kibble, then left. When I came home at night it was long past his normal dinner time yet I found the bowl half-full—he had eaten the breakfast portion but since he only got 1 bon appétit he didn’t dare to eat the rest for dinner. I don’t think if I had said it twice in a row he would have understood that one of them was a Bon Appétit voucher for his next meal unfortunately. But I’m always amazed by his scruples, he is the most principled animal I know. When he was a puppy he would try to stick his head in his bowl while I poured the food so I taught him to wait until he heard ‘bon appétit’ before going anywhere near it—and very quickly in his mind the words became an incantation that turns the contents of his bowl from a miasma of forbidden unthinkableness into edible food that belongs to him.

This is Pandolf waiting for me to cast the Legal Food spell:

[pokimoko]

If ur still doin the pride flag animals- could you make a Komodo dragon or parrot with the pan and asexual flags?

Absolutely! Here are some komodo dragons for ya!

[front-facing-pokemon]

[sukibenders]

Okay so apparently Luke Thompson views Benedict's sexuality as pansexual rather than bisexual, so, from now on I will do the same. Either way, as a fellow queer, I'm still winning!

[skitskatdacat63]

Actually speechless at this right now oh my god....

[elbiotipo]

"danos hoy nuestro pan de cada día" es una fórmula interesante porque realmente, todas las culturas tienen un "pan nuestro de cada día" aunque no sea literalmente pan.

[littlenaughtygarden]

I love you bi/pan men. I love you transmasculine and masc nonbinary folks who aren't perceived as "visibly queer." You belong in queer spaces. You deserve safety and love. You are not a nuisance. You are not a threat to the community. I love you I love you I love you I love you I lov-

[cripplepunkbarbarian]

Buddy isn’t here because I couldn’t decide if it’s funnier that he’s deeply repressed gayace, religiously motivated homophobe, or just a hashtag ally. Also because the layout doesn’t work with 7 characters.

flags under the cut o7

Kipperlilly: lesbian

Oisin: gay

Lucy: aroace lesbian & transfem

Ivy: transfem

Mary Ann: aromantic

Ruben: transmasc & pansexual

[my-name-is-apollo]

Btw, you guys should totally check out Sophocles' Ichneutae, even though it remains in fragments. Besides being a comedy, it also has Apollo being really sad over his lost cows and wandering all over Greece in search of them

(Trans. Richard Johnson Walker)

Just...Apollo and his cows 🥹

[ruvviks]

Following the chilling conclusion of All That's Left's first season, Mac and Layla and their friends find themselves scattered across a divided Los Angeles a year after their successful return to town. Matrix Corp has taken control— "With humanity's best interest in mind"— but with our protagonists' knowledge of Opportunity's destruction and Houston's unexpected fall, they know better than to trust the corporation and its near military-sized security force. Closed district gates separate them from one another and a new threat lurks just outside the city's walls— but resistance is on the rise, and it is only a matter of time before truth comes out. [SEASON ONE HERE]

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[soleminisanction]

I know that certain Jason fans have a real bone to pick with the take from "The Adventures Continue" since they went with him being a violent Robin who went rogue because he was one of those people who care more about vengeance than justice (ironically making him act quite a bit like Steph did as Robin), but I really appreciate that they took a moment to call out this part of the issue, which most Jason stories pretend isn't a factor.

Bruce's no-kill rule isn't just about his personal code it's about maintaining a good reputation and a good relationship with the people he needs to support his cause. The more unhinged and aggressive he (and his associates) get, the less Gordon can justify keeping him around.

I just, appreciate that acknowledgement.

[sodomy-enabler]

Honestly the mspec gay/lesbian discourse is so stupid. I'm bi and I don't like being referred to as gay even as a joke, and monosexual q slur taggers loooove to call me and anything/anyone bi gay all the fucking time even after I state this boundary. But suddenly when a couple of bis actually go "wait yeah I am gay and bi, sure why not" (which we have been doing for decades btw) you people react like they're personally trying to put you into conversion therapy

So mspec gays calling themselves that do so because of internalized biphobia, but monosexual gays erasing our bisexuality by constantly calling our explicitly bisexual experiences "gay" ISN'T biphobia? can't have it both ways guys cmon

[eulaties]

they really like messing up his hair LMAO

[musclesandhammering]

Queer women are the main culprits of fetishising mlm relationships (both real and nonexistent ones), and I think we’re all scared to admit that.

[sprnklersplashes]

me whenever someone compares ruby to rose tyler: oh my god shut up shut up SHUT UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUP me whenever someone compares ruby to amy or clara: OH HOHOHOHO *rubs hands together gleefully* YES YEEEEEEESSSSS YEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSS