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My boyfriend says he'll break up with me if I transfer to another college even though it's only 2 hours away. He said he'd be fine with it if we could share an apartment there since he couldn't afford one by himself but I REALLY wanted to live on campus in a dorm. He's also paranoid cause 2 of our friends recently broke up with their boyfriends so they could be free to date at the colleges they're currently attending. He says relationships need compromise but his suggestion doesn't seem fair.
Hey there. Well from what you've described, I can tell that your boyfriend is taking this relationship very seriously. I think you have to tell him calmly that firstly, you love him and that you're not going to break up with him even if you are transferring to another college. You understand how he's feeling now but you promise that this will not separate the both of you no matter what. Secondly, explain to him that you really really want to live in a campus dorm for whatever reasons you have. It will be good if your reasons are really important, such as staying in a campus dorm because you're trying to save up money or something like that. I'm sure he will understand. However, if you think that your boyfriend might not agree to this, what I will advise you to do is to just share an apartment with him, if you really don't want him to break up with you. It might seem like the best choice now because him being paranoid is already bad enough, and the issue of you not agreeing to whatever he wants is just making the situation more difficult to handle for the both of you. Hope this helps, and good luck.
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ok so i dont know if you can give me advice on this but hey here goes. So a week ago me and my dad got into a teeny argument over the fact that he didnt like my opinion on something so i said to him "see this is why i never talk to you, you dont care about my opinions and thoughts and never once in my life have i ever had a conversation with you that has lasted more than 30 seconds"- which is true and now i fear that he hates me for saying it and that ive upset him even though its true :'(
Aw man, it sucks to have an argument with your parents or other family members. I don't know the full situation, but what happened after that? Did your father start giving you the cold shoulder or was there anything that he did that tells you that he hates you? Whatever it is, just remember that you shouldn't be worrying at all. A parent's love towards his or her own child will not disappear just because of a careless remark that his own teenage child said out of anger. I know this myself because I have once gotten into a similar situation with my dad. We ignored each other for a few days before he actually came to talk to me about this and we apologized to each other. I'm sure he won't hate you or stop loving you just because of that quarrel, but if you're really having deep worries about this, why don't you apologize to him? You can always write him a letter telling him that you're sorry for saying such hurtful words, if you feel that it's too awkward to express your feelings face to face with your parent. You can also tell him calmly and politely that you wish he can give you more freedom to express your opinions and to respect your opinions in all situations in the future. Hope this helps, and good luck. :)
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I need some advice.. I’m in love for three years now, and he still doesn’t know it.. Now he has a girlfriend since september and I still can’t get over him :( Do you know something that could help me? I’m really desperate ..
Hey dear, I guess you have to tell yourself that no matter how nice or charming he is to you, there is no way you can get together with him now because he already has a girlfriend; you have to remember that. I will suggest you to head out and expand your social circle, form new friendships, and who knows, you might find just another guy out there whom you truly deserve. Try to stop yourself from thinking about this guy, and the best way you can do so is to delete all "memories" that you have with him. Such as, the photos you and him took, or the messages the both of you sent to each other. Tell yourself that you'll find a nice guy out there who will love you as much as how you had always wanted to be loved by someone. Let me assure you, that day will definitely come, and be prepared for it. Meanwhile, just go out, enjoy your life while making new friends and engaging in new interests, and flick that guy off your mind. I'm sure you will get over him soon. Good luck. (:
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I need advice! My boyfriend is about to break up with me because I was talking to my ex when I promised I wouldnt. My boyfriend says unless I can convince him to give me another chance hes out. What can I do to get his trust back?!
Well I think the only thing you can do now is to have a talk to him about this. Tell him calmly that you will stay true to your promise this time (and that is really important) and that you are never talking to your ex ever again. Try to prove to him that by deleting your ex's phone number from your contacts, or even change your phone number so your ex won't be able to talk to you again. You have to really make him feel convinced that you aren't going to break your promise anymore, and be serious about it. Tell him that you're really sorry about this, you truly love him, and you realize that you've committed a serious mistake by breaking your promise. I don't really know the full situation but I think the most important thing you've to do now is to really, stay true to your words. You must understand that you were the one at fault here because you were the one who broke your promise to him. If you show true sincerity, I'm sure he will forgive you dear. Hope this helps and good luck. :)
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I've liked this guy in my science class for a while now, I try to make eye contact with him to hint to him and today we had this great eye contact after school! Tonight I was thinking about messaging him to (hopefully) get the ball rolling. What's a good way to start a message, should I just say 'Hey :-)'?
Hey there! :)Yeah I think your idea is great. you should just start off with a simple greeting, such as "Hey" or "Hi there" and yeah, I'm sure you get the idea. Don't get all eager or excited about talking to him and end up chatting non-stop. I've seen some of my friends who actually text guys long chunks of texts while the guys only reply with a few words. So try not to do that because it gives the guy a bad impression of you. I'm sure he will reply your message. Hope this helps, and good luck. :)
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Needing advice or just someone to talk to?
I'm always here to help. (my apologies if I don't reply that quickly though, because of our different time zones and stuff.)
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So... I just saw this "disagreement with advice blogs" post on the advice blog tumblr tag. It's this post someone wrote about how advice blogs are really dumb and stuff. Well honestly I don't really see it as a hate post on advice blogs, because I can see that the person was writing out of good intent. Just read that post and you'll understand what I mean, though her words might be a bit harsh. I think I'm just going to voice out my opinion on this issue, in one way or another. Okay so I admit that there're some people who have advice blogs because they just want to seek attention or they just want to know about people's lives or for some other really dumb and silly reason. But I follow a lot of advice blogs (and this is an advice blog too, btw) and I know there are really good people out there who give great advice and genuinely want to help. I guess it wouldn't be good if we give advice to people with serious issues such as depression, eating disorders and so on, because we don't understand their whole situations and we might give useless advice that will just add on to their problems. I had just realized that and I'm sorry that I had try to reach out to this group of people without knowing what I was really doing. But i guess advice blogs are still useful to a certain extent, especially to people who need advice for crush and romance and other issues they find hard to deal with, such as how to be more confident or how to be more positive about life. They need some tips on how to get their crush to notice them, or how to be less shy and awkward. Well, I guess these are issues everyone can help with, even people who aren't good at giving advice and are just friends or loved ones of that person. Also, advice blogs merely give advice. Advice isn't a set of orders, or a set of rules the person must follow. The person can choose if he or she thinks that my advice is useful and helpful or he can just think that the advice I've given are pointless. He has a choice on following them or not. So what I'm trying to say is, I believe advice blogs aren't entirely useless, and advice can still be given to certain groups of people out there. So far I have received quite a few messages from people whom I've given advice to, and though I must say that my advice isn't the best one compared to other tumblr advice blogs out there, these group of people have actually came back to thank me for giving them advice and I remembered one who said that I had actually "saved his life". I get all warm and fuzzy inside when I get these messages, and these people are those who helped me feel more determined about giving more advice to others out there who might need help too. It's the joy of knowing that you have helped someone that allows you to go back and give more help to others. So in conclusion, I am apologizing, again, to people whom I shouldn't have given advice to. But if you guys just need somebody to talk to, somebody to listen to you, I will always be here. I can just publish your rants and well, I won't give advice anymore, if you guys don't want me to. And to others out there who have other issues you're dealing with, if you need a second opinion on what you should do, remember that I'm always here too. And I'm also sure that the other advice blogs and their awesome owners will always be here for you guys. This is just my opinion on what I've read from that post, and I'm definitely not trying to create hate or "war" between the two sides and whatsoever. So, yeah. Have a great day everyone. :)
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Will be taking in messages.
I will most likely reply to them the next day. :)
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For some reason I cant smile in school. But I look like Im a bitch in the hallways because I always have a straight face. But I find it so wierd when kids are walking by themself in the hallway with a huge smile for no reason. today my crush's friend was calling my name & I didnt know he was with them so he saw me with the straight face on and i think got a little turned off.. how can I smile in the hallways without seeming like somethin going on in my head..
Hey there! (:Ah do people in your school smile for no reason as they walk through the hallways? I'm sure they have a reason for smiling, don't they? Maybe they are talking to their friends, or just smiling at somebody they know. If they don't, I think that is really kinda weird. So anyway, you have to understand the importance of a smile. Smiling sort of radiates a positive light for the person, and helps the person forms friendships and know new people easily. Most importantly, guys dislike aloof girls. I was once really aloof and like what you've said, my crush got a little turned off with my usual straight face and quietness. I tried smiling in the mirror to myself every morning, and I think you can try that too. Try to smile as naturally as possible, so you don't look strange when you smile at anyone you know. And try to figure out the smile that makes you look the nicest. It might take a while, but practice makes perfect, so I'm sure you will have a great smile in no time. Secondly, you don't have to smile all the time. You just have to smile at anybody you know. And you don't need a big, bright grin plastered on your face all the time; just a little, shy smile will do. You might be surprised by how many people will be more eager to talk to you after smiling, because the truth is, a smile makes you feel more approachable to everyone. So just practice your perfect smile, try to smile more when you meet anyone in the hallways, and I'm sure you will look more beautiful than ever. (:
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(cont) at her other friend she would see from the corner of her eye that he would like look over at me to see my reaction on things.. A couple other things happened too. But I just don't think he likes me because well I'm me and I suffer with major self-image issues too, so that might be the main reason why.. but all of my friends say I have a chance and everything. I really want to go and try to start talking to him.. but I'm terrified of rejection and I get really shy.. Any advice? xx
For some reason, I can't find the first part to this in my askbox. But I guess I can sort of figure out what you're talking about and I will try to help. :)Firstly, if your friends believe that you have a chance with this guy you like, why not grab the opportunity and go for it? Most of the times, when a guy notices a girl a lot (like what you said about him looking over to see your reaction), then I'm sure he is interested in you. Start doing little things to show that you notice him too. Smile at him when he looks at you, or turn away shyly if you're too shy to really smile at him. I'm sure when he realizes that you notice him too, he will try to come over and talk to you. And oh you can try talking to him online too, maybe through Facebook or tumblr or any other social networking sites. Talking online is definitely more comfortable than talking face to face. You guys might even become friends online first before actually start talking in real life. :)Secondly, try to be more positive about yourself! I'm sure you're beautiful in your own way. (: In fact, you're beautiful in other people's eyes too, just like your friends, that was why they had actually thought that you stood a chance. Try to smile more often and remember that guys like confident girls. I'm sure there's something about you that caused this guy to notice you, so why not start practicing to become more confident about yourself now? (: Hope this helps dear. I'm sorry that I didn't receive the first part of your message, I think there's a problem with my askbox. Good luck (:
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I've liked this guy for two years and he liked me back but he only wants me for my body and sex. He does this with other girls but he has relationships with them and not with me I mean hes says and does THE SAME EXACT THING. So we have this weird friends with benefits thing going on that I never agreed to.. We've hooked up I mean made out a couple times but recently he hooked up with my ex-best friend (not for this) and we didn't talk for a long period of time. So now were sexting again.Help.
Hello there (:Well I think that the first thing you really have to do to solve your problem is to get over this guy. You stated that he only wants you for your body and sex. If he doesn't genuinely return the same feelings of affection for you, then why are you still with him? You have to understand that this guy is a player. He has relationships with other girls, but he doesn't treat them seriously and is only using girls for his own entertainment. I'm very sure he hasn't really like a girl before throughout these relationships. It's good that you haven't gotten into a real relationship with him yet, because I'm afraid you will get hurt. You have to know that you deserve better guys and this guy isn't right for you. I think you have to confront this guy about this, if you really want it to stop. Stop sexting him and tell him straight that you don't want to hook up with him anymore. If he gets mad at you, then just let him be. I'm very sure you can find a better guy out there who will love you and treat you in the right way.Hope this helps, and good luck. (:
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Okay, so I'm 16 going on 17. Im a really horny virgin. I'm not the most attractive girl, so when a guy talks to me it's a really big deal to me. Today in class this guy asked me if i was a freak. I just laughed then said yes. Then he kept looking my way and winking at me for the rest of class.i know that if i start talking to him, things will get sexual very quickly. But should i just give my virginity up that easily? Or should i wait till i find love?
Hey there. I understand how you feel. I wasn't the most attractive girl when I was sixteen, and I get really really nervous when a guy starts to talk to me. My advice to you is that you shouldn't give up your virginity that fast. I mean, you're only sixteen, there's still a long life ahead of you, and you never know what will happen after you have your virginity. And also, you might feel really guilty and horrible if you realize that the guy was just using you or having a fling with you. I'm sure you want true love, so why don't you wait for a few more years? I'm sure you will find the right guy then. But of course, you can always try something out with this guy who flirts with you. Maybe you can get into a relationship with him, and see how things go. But try not to engage in sexual activity with him because, well, I guess you wouldn't want to regret your actions a few years later when you're finally eighteen or something. I usually discourage people to have sex when they're still teenagers because there are a lot of serious consequences to it. Hope this helps. Good luck. (:
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Lately I've been finding myself to be really horny. I don't know why because the thought of sex is a bit frightening to me at this point in my life, Although lately I think every guy I see is attractive and I'm ready to rip his clothes off... I don't know because I have mixed emotions about the whole thing .. this is kind of an awkward question.. do you think this is just hormones or am I just a horny little skank ?
Hey there, I'm sure most teenagers go through this period of yours where they find themselves really horny. It's just a hormones thing, so I guess you don't have to worry too much about it. :) But try to stop yourself from having these horny thoughts as much as possible, because it isn't too good for a teenage girl to have too much of them. One way you can actually do this is try to give yourself as many distractions as possible when these thoughts enter your head. Talk to your friends, do your homework, read, anything. I hope this helps. Good luck!
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hi people! So some people have been telling me that their messages can't fit in my askbox. So I've decided to let people email me their questions if that happens! here's my email: [email protected]. (:
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Are there any more people asking for advice today? Or if you just need someone to talk to, I will always be here to chat to you. :)
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I have a friend, and she's been with this guy for about a year and they are engaged. I love them both, I do, but I sometimes feel forgotten. she's my best friend but whenever we hang out, He's there with us. Once, he went dress shopping with us. I know they're together and all that, but I would like sometime with just my best friend.
Hey there:) I will suggest you to actually have a talk with your best friend about it. Tell your best friend calmly and explain that you will prefer it if you spend individual time with her instead of having her fiancé tagging along all the time. You can also add that maybe her fiancé will want some time alone with his friends too, instead of accompanying your best friend all the time. Or if you actually know her fiancé's friends, you can suggest them to hang out with him, while you hang out alone with your best friend. Hope this helps. :)
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