I am about to head off on a long awaited honeymoon across the pond so posting will be sporadic for the next few weeks! Bookshops are a large part of our plans though, so stay tuned 🥰
Sometimes my brain just hands me unprompted (or very minimally prompted) information about something.
I was doing a Sudoku and singing idly to myself when I realized that the narrator of Leaving on a Jet Plane is a jerk. I've known that song my entire life and listened to it countless times. Why did I figure this out now?
The lines I specifically noticed were:
There's so many times I've let you down
So many times I've played around
I tell you now: they don't mean a thing.
And... no. Your partner gets to have their own emotions about that. You don't get to paper them over with "I'm super going to miss you and that is the only relevant emotion between us". Maybe your partner actually doesn't care, but they get to drive that, not you.
Even if the line means "they don't mean a thing to me", that's still not great. The song isn't saying "I hurt you and I'm sorry" or "I hurt you and here's how I'm changing my behavior to not do it again". It's just saying "I hurt you and I'm lonely because you won't be around for a while". It's a very self-centered view of the relationship.
I still like hearing and singing the song, and plan to continue both, but ugh, the narrator's a jerk.
i have to catch the bus for an early flight this morning. my default settling for all alarms is 15 minute snooze. i don't want to have to change my default setting and change it back. this is my elegant solution.