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[miamaimania]

Echoes of the Past: Elena Rebinder's Typewriter Art from 1930's Russia

[thoughtkick]

Someone who truly loves you, sees what a mess you can be, how moody you can get, and how hard you can be to handle, but still wants you.

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[perfectquote]

When you love someone you protect them from the pain, you don’t become the cause of it.

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[perfectfeelings]

Repeat after me: My current situation is not my final destination.

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[wanderlust-in-my-soul]

Evolution of Desperation a hug

for @wen-kexing-apologist 🌹

[ah-bee-blogs]

I have been thinking about the shifting dynamic between Qian and Yuan all week. A ton of people have written really insightful posts about these two, and I can’t get them off my mind.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again and again: the tragic backstory is not used as a shock factor or just to make you sympathetic towards a character. It is ingrained into Qian and Yuan’s thoughts, behaviors, actions, and responses. And it contributes to their compelling relationship.

Qian is hesitant around intimacy of any kind. Yuan is eager to care for the person who saved him.

We’ve seen from the beginning how much of a caretaker Yuan is for Qian. The vast majority of intimate physical contact Qian accepts is from Yuan (and by intimate I don’t mean romantic. I mean familiar, personal, etc.).

Qian rarely ventures beyond surface level relationships with people. His experiences growing up left him in a constant state of survival. He focuses on work as a means of survival and doesn’t consider slowing down as an option.

We see this at work, where he is often separated from his coworkers and rarely interacting with them outside of a professional capacity. He often stays late and arrives early at the expense of his own wellbeing.

It’s Yuan who bridges the gap. Who asks coworkers to take care of his brother. Who makes Qian sleep and eat right. Who is there at work and at home ensuring that Qian won’t overwork and exhaust himself.

But their relationship is not one-sided. Qian takes care of Yuan as well, making sure he’s able to take advantage of academic opportunities and clubs and things that Qian never had a chance to partake in. He gives Yuan a life where survival is a guarantee, not something to earn.

Qian protects Yuan through hard work. Yuan protects Qian through tender care.

When Yuan is sent away to study abroad, the time skip works because it isn’t used at the very end of the series to jump to happily ever after. Too often, time skips force us to miss important character growth and leave us unsatisfied and wanting more. By placing the time skip towards the middle of the series and using it as an actual part of the story and character development, we are able to see how Qian and Yuan live during the separation and the impact it has on their relationship.

And their reunion is more than one scene before the credits roll. There’s still many episodes for them to keep learning and growing together.

Once Yuan returns, the line between them has shifted. Qian actively seeks out Yuan’s care in a way he never did before. He’s always watching Yuan, reaching out for him, and aware of his presence. He had always welcomed it, but the separation forced him to feel what the absence of Yuan’s care was like. He was miserable.

Yuan matured on his own and still knows that he loves Qian. Being away only confirmed what he already knew. And Qian is starting to realize that he loves Yuan too.

Yuan knows exactly where the boundary is between them, but he’ll let Qian be the one to break it down. They have complex relationship, and it is being respected, not rushed. Moments are earned, not pulled randomly from the trope bucket.

[resqectable]

She doesn't say "I love you" like a normal person. Instead, She'll laugh, shake her head, give you a little smile, and say, "You're an idiot." If she tells you you're an idiot, you're a lucky man.

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[quotefeeling]

We often want it so badly that we ruin it before it begins. Overthinking. Fantasizing. Imagining. Expecting. Worrying. Doubting. Just let it naturally evolve.

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[nobrashfestivity]

Unknown, A King of Sambhala early 19th century Tibet Tanka; Full color on cotton panel

[surqrised]

I don't care what your mind says: You deserve to be happy.

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[thehopefulquotes]

you are still learning. you are still changing. you are still growing. breathe. you will find your way.

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[thoughtkick]

You can tell how dangerous a person is by the way they hold their anger inside themselves quietly.

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[quotemadness]

Time always exposes what you mean to someone.

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[perfectquote]

Be strong enough to let go, and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.

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[perfectfeelings]

You are going to be so much more than ‘enough’ for someone someday.

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[stay-close]

One of the hardest parts of life is deciding whether to walk away or try harder

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