#ableists dni

[seagroundfloors]

telling ableists to fuck off isn't enough, I want ableists to die of a heart attack the second they first invest in ableism

[samijami]

Make👏things👏 more👏wheelchair👏accessible

[thefoggyforestcollective]

I do think the Endo community should actively stop painting everyone and every sub-group within the anti-endo/Endo critical/endo-neutrals movement with the same brush. There are different levels of harm each subgroup causes and pretending we all believe the same thing or go about syscourse the same way is exhausting.

There are plenty of smaller groups within these communities and I've honestly never seen an Endo acknowledge them or recognize that they are different with different beliefs. Not to mention, now that I think about it, "anti-endo" is a bit nebulous. Not in a literal sense but everyone you ask says something different and holds that view for different reasons. Anti-endos don't even all agree that they don't believe in endos and believing in endos is typically how it's defined. But back to the sub-groups, let's see there are;

Anti-endos that believe endos exist but dislike the community or common communal actions so they disapprove of it.

Anti-endos that don't believe in endogenic systemhood full stop

Anti endos who think endogenisism is a MUD or medically unrecognized disorder like Biid or munchousens by proxy

Anti-endos who were too harmed by the endogenic community and it's allowance of said harm to ever be ok with the community. They could believe they exist or not

Anti-endos who don't believe now but could believe later with sufficient and good evidence.

Anti-endos who think some endos exist but not to the extent shown.

Anti-endos who approve of some system origins and not others.

And so so much more. Why are all these people under the anti-endo umbrella? And! Why are terms like endo-critical, Endo neutral (even those who don't have an opinion, dont care or just don't personally feel comfortable around endos get lumped into the anti-endo label!!) often lumped in when they can mean so much on their own?? Endo-critical could just mean you don't like the bigger Endo community or that you don't believe certain aspects of what endos believe as a whole, not that you discredit the whole thing.

Endo-neutrals and those without opinions, don't care or arnt comfortable due to abuse truely get some of the worst of Endo anger. How are Endo neutrals harmful when they often acknowledge endos exist. How are they harmful when they say they don't have enough information or evidence to form an opinion. So just passively existing without interacting or explicitly supporting the Endo community is an act of aggression against it? That's fucking concerning.

I think part of it is that they are like white American Christians, they claim they are experiencing some sort of oppression and no body else believes them because they arnt. They see themselves (and by extension other "usually only online" identities like therians and other microlabels) as inherently oppressed because they are small, they think that have something similar to a very oppressed mental disorder, they have "antis" and they occationally experience misdirected ablesim because they are assumed to be disordered. It's really concerning when your personal view point sees everyone who doesn't support you as an enemy or a potential enemy.

Why? That's bigot rhetoric. Bigots don't like people who don't acknowledge them, arnt them or explicitly hate them. It's the very simple truth shared by so many forms of bigotry from racism to transphobia to sexism to xenophobia and so many others. Your not the same as me, you don't give me attention (support) and you don't like that im hurting these people therefore you are part of the enemy. That's how alot of fucking endos act. If your not Endogenic(traumagenic or singlet. They themselves constantly admit that they are wary of traumagenics aka the actually disabled due to their system folks) your immediately suspect. If you post system content or did content or anything even remotely system related but don't talk about endos/acknowledge endos or answer questions related to the Endo community or imply you support the Endo community, your suspect. If you are not actively anti-endo, you are suspect.

Of course all these things could make sense when we talk about actually oppressed groups. Disabled (did/Cdds) have every right to be uncomfortable around abled people (endos), It's suspicious for someone to be talking about different cultures and foods but only concerning white cultures and foods, if you arnt actively saying you don't like sexism or have somewhere stating you are a feminist, women might assume the worst of you. Endos, by virtue of not being an oppressed group and not inherently having a disability by virtue of their endogenisism, do not get to act and treat others like they are their oppressors. They do not get to be on guard because no one cares about them. They do not get the benefit of the doubt when they ask offensive questions. They do not have the right to pretend it is an oppression when it fucking isn't.

Its just another offensive part of that community and makes you look dramatic at best and at worst? Just another clear sign that you're pretending to have some form of disability (Cdds) without actually having it but dont want to openly lie about it. We all know your lieing and if your not? Get your shit together and get your ass in therapy so you can stop supporting pseudo science and start supporting your fellow systems in the actual system community.

It's not a shock that endo numbers decline when public visibility of did/Cdds peters out. They have record low numbers right now because it's been years since the public had some media or person with did be in the spotlight. It's not shocking that they suddenly stop talking about it and delete posts when they realize they are going to get ablesim from actual ableists and not just the actually disabled people calling them out. Your a fad. A trend. You can stop pointing to poc's cultures and practices now and offensively comparing them to you, white Endo. You can move along now.

All in all, anti-endo really doesn't mean anything and it gets thrown around with zero nuance or solid definition. Usually it means you don't believe in endos but if you do believe in them and don't like the community or don't think them and Cdds should have shared spaces or dont particularly care about them or don't talk about them or don't consider them oppressed or really just piss one of them off for unrelated reasons and happen to be traumagenic exclusively, your now a certified anti-endo. It's bullshit essentially lmao same as people who call all LGBT people groomers. It means nothing, it's a buzzword and it only matters to their other bigot friends.

So if someone calls you an anti-endo, regardless of if you actually are/identify as one, wear it with pride because it means fuck all other than you pissed off an ablesit.

[entropy-sea-system]

Aromantic narcissists are amazing!! Aro pwnpd are the best!!!

(This post is about aromantics/arospecs with npd, do not derail! Also please do not mention friendship or wanting friends, or use the tone tag /p in any tags or responses added to this post! We're plato repulsed and prefer not to have such responses to this post)

[chuchu-sammika]

I still have trust issues with abled body people. But the only ones I don’t have trust issues with is my partner and my close friends.

I don’t care if you unfollow cuz of that as well. I should be allowed to show my frustration with most able body people

I shouldn’t ask nicely for you to put a ramp down. If you can walk on stairs without asking politely, I should be rolling on ramps without asking nicely

Like if I’m coming over to your house, you should be putting a ramp on your stairs before hand. Not just expect me to be like “pretty please, let me go up your steps 🥺”

Like again, I don’t see you asking for freakin’ stairs.

[inhumanliquid]

Everyone block and report dni-archive. They're cultivating an ableist space and they don't care.

[optimisticfrogcollective]

✨To all the spoonies: I work an office job and so far my only accommodation is being able to always have my headset on.

I am trying to think of more things I need, but a lifetime of masking and ableism is making that difficult.

Please comment or reblog with some of your accommodations at work/school/at home/with friends, I feel like it could be helpful for so many people! ✨

[occultist-romantic]

your 'odd' trauma responses doesn't make you a bad person

i love you. its okay to be angry.

[crazycatsiren]

"Disabled" is not a bad word or a derogatory term.

Disabled is correct and accurate.

Do not call me outdated degrading terms like "handicapped" or BS alternative terms ableists have been pushing like "differently abled".

I am disabled. Call me disabled.

[samijami]

YO MY BROTHER IS DISABLED AND RECIPROSEXUAL, AND IF YOU DON'T RESPECT HIM YOU FUCKERS, THEN FUCK YOU

DISABLED PEOPLE, AND QUEER DISABLED PEOPLE, DESERVE RESPECT AND TO BE TREATED AS EQUALS. THEY DESERVE PLACES TO FEEL COMFORTABLE AND LOVED, THEY DESERVE THEIR OWN SPACES, THEY DESERVE THE MEDICAL HELP THEY NEED, THEY DESERVE MOBILITY AIDS, THEY DESERVE TO FEEL LIKE THEY BELONG HERE AND ARE NOT BURDENS TO ABLED PEOPLE, AND SO MUCH MORE

THEY DESERVE TO LIVE AND NOT HAVE TO LIVE THROUGH HELL TO DO SO, SO MAKE IT EASIER FOR THEM, WITHOUT BELITTLING OR MAKING FUN OF THEM

[npders]

start using the actual words to what you want to say. stop using disorders to mean "worse" than you actually want to mean.

it does not make it worse or more impressive, it makes you look like an ableist prick. start switching your language. us mentally ill, disordered, neurodivergent, etc; people deserve respect as much as any other person.

you say you advocate for mental health, but if you use disorders as descriptors or adjectives, do you really?

your language matters.

[le-petite-ivy]

I'm upset now because I found a blog about transabled people. If you didn't know being transabled is when an abled person just DECIDES that they get to be disabled because they think it's cute or quirky. This is extremely ableist and extremely harmful to people in disabled communities. It can and has caused disabled people to self harm and/or commit suicide.

Any abled person who is PRETENDING to be disabled is really an ableist. Please do not support this harmful representation of disability.

[chuchu-sammika]

I am one lucky prick. But at what what cost?

When I turned 13, all that happened was that I lost more mobility.

Merosin Muscular Dystrophy is the type of muscular dystrophy that I have. It is an autosomal recessive form of muscular dystrophy characterized by muscle weakness apparent at birth or in the first 6 months of life. Patients show hypotonia, poor suck and cry, and delayed motor development; most never achieve independent ambulation.

[carriewhiteislove]

ableism goes down all the way to city STRUCTURE. houses and office buildings on inclines, the destruction of public resting areas, the stigmatization of public water fountains and the lack of public transportation. it all results in disabled people struggling, and no one listening. and if i’m going to be honest, buses with broken/no text on them are frustrating! i often don’t know what the exact location of my bus stop is, and i’ve missed meetings/school/etc. several times because i couldn’t hear the announcement and the text wasn’t there! and the only time i’ve heard about advocating for disabled people was the 504 sit-in. i want to yell to the rooftops about my anger, but i couldn’t even hear the words i’m shouting.

[starry-skies-116]

So:

I've been following NPD discourse and looking at NPD posts... and I just wanna say, as someone who's ND themselves...

If you believe in narc abuse and/or are anti-NPD, DNI.

That includes telling people how to deliberately trigger narc crashes, telling NPD peeps to commit unalive on themselves, using 'narcissistic' as an insult or throwing around the word derogatorily.

NPD is a fucking personality disorder that people suffer from, and even if I don't have NPD myself and am hyperempathetic, I'd like to at least make an effort to defend other Cluster B sheeple and people with low empathy by saying this. People are people whom are deserving of kindness and respect regardless of whether or not they are 'hard' to love (nobody is hard to love unless they are abusive and toxic deliberately), and you don't need high empathy to be a good person.

Also, can we stop the idea of narc abuse? Narcissistic abuse doesn't fucking exist JFC. Abusers are not inherently narcissistic- they're pieces of dogshit who know EXACTLY what they are doing, but they're NOT narcissistic. Treat people with NPD no differently than a person with any disorder.