#actually aromantic

[acewhowantsspace]

you want me to have romance in my life? the thing that killed my friendships?

[radios-universe]

oh no… diagnosis is loneliness… my heart is breaking… i need a non-dating dating app to find aroace people in my area NOW STAT

[canonically47]

why is every song romantic somehow. fuck you

[rayfa-padma-khurain]

tldr; i don't like how even within the aspec community we still associate validity/humanity with ability to feel love

i love being part of the aspec community for the most part . but one thing that always frustrates me is how we tend to throw each other under the bus when trying to claim that our lack of attraction is valid,,

like. a common sentiments i see are "aces are valid cause we still feel romantic love :D we aren't heartless!!" or "aros are valid cause we still feel platonic love :D we aren't heartless !!" and i understand where they come from but it frustrates the hell out of me! for 2 reasons:

1) why do we have to defend our humanity!! what the hell!! terfs aren't gonna see this and be like "oh yeah that makes sense i respect aspec people now !" they're gonna scroll past!! or worse, argue it!! who are you trying to convince!!!

2) why. do we tie our humanity to love..?? like. yayy positivity but why are we excluding ppl from our own damn community???? ive seen SO many posts that wholly exclude me & many others bc apparently love makes people human. like even if it's temporary & even if it's not, loveless / aplatonic people are valid!!

sorry for the rant & i understand that ppl just want to spread positivity but i don't think we should do it by excluding others ^_^

[thisvegetabledoesntfallinlove]

there is, in fact, a "platonic explanation for this" if you're not a coward

[amalgamezz]

ALT

[siriusly-remu]

the aromantic agenda

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[iceeericeee]

"aros and aces can still love and have sex!" yeah but do you really mean that? can you accept the fact that some aroaces don’t want sex and dont do romance? or do you just want to use that as an excuse when you want two people to date despite one or both of them being actively repulsed by romance, or when you want two people to have sex despite one or both of them being actively sex repulsed? are you only saying that for your own benefit?

[arodescence]

[spacedykez]

genuinely think everyone would benefit from learning about aromanticism and relationship anarchy. even straight, allosexual, alloromantics. because amatonormativity affects everyone, and learning about relationship anarchy and redefining how you think about relationships is so freeing. youcan do whatever you want 4ever.

[arowitharrows]

You say you accept aromanticism but do you only accept it as long as it fits your expectations? Do you only accept it as long as I keep my options open, as long as I don’t 100% settle on this label, as long as I allow you a small amount of hope that one day I’ll tell you I’ve changed, I’ve seen the light, I’ve found the One?

You say you accept aromanticism, but is your acceptance conditional on my redemption through platonic love? Do I have to prove to you that I am likable, that I am lovable, that I am human? Do I have to be touch starved, do I have to be lonely, do I have to feel like I am missing out?

You say you accept aromanticism, but do you believe me when I speak about dehumanization, about my anger at being pitied? Do you put yourself in my shoes and imagine the effort it takes to shape a future that looks like most people's worst fear? Do you understand that my life is not sad for not following your rigid guideline to happiness?

You say you accept aromanticism, but do you accept the changes I demand of society? Do you accept that relationship hierarchies are not inherent but learned? Do you accept that community is more meaningful in fighting the loneliness epidemic than finding the One? Do you notice that society is predisposed to benefit couples over singles? Do you realize that this is wrong?

If you say you accept aromanticism but only do so as long as I am quiet about it, as long as I make no demands, offer no criticism, draw no attention to myself, then I do not care for your acceptance because your acceptance isn't real.

[dam-bluecookies]

"that's not very aromantic of you" "that's not very asexual of you" WELL that's not very minding your own business of you

[canonically47]

i hate amatonormativity.

i hate how being single is considered bad. i hate how the older you get, the worse society treats you if you lack a partner, especially as a woman. i hate how i am not believed when i say i don’t have a crush. i hate how a romantic relationship is seen as the best relationship there is. i hate the relationship hierarchy. i hate how sexualized everything is. i hate how people would just never get it if they knew the true reason i rejected them. i hate being aromantic in a hetero- and amatonormative society, not because i hate my identity, but because i hate the way it is treated. i hate how i am not taken seriously. i hate how i am told i can, or will, be fixed. i hate how i am treated as a broken half rather than a content whole. and i hate romance, by god, how i hate it. i hate seeing a couple on the street knowing i will never have what they do. i hate unnecessarry romance in media. i hate that romance in itself is a plotline. i hate kissing. i hate hand-holding. i hate dates. i hate that i can’t do any of those without it being considered romantic. i hate that romance and sex seem to go hand in hand. i hate the insistence that i will have that one day. i hate that i am ‘too young to know’ and i hate soulmates and i hate those stupid fucking tropes.

i hate amatonormativity.

[jupiter-nwn]

yeag

[arofulboyfriend]

"if you tell all your friends you love them all the time, then the word love becomes meaningless" well for one yeah i sure hope it does, and for two, if hearing me tell you i love you every day becomes meaningless to you because i say it too often, then you don't believe my love is valuable and also skill issue

[amalgamezz]

HAPPY LOVE LOSES WEDNESDAY TO ALL WHO CELEBRATE