#actually cluster b

[autopsyfreak]

tired of people on tiktok acting like BPD and HPD are the ‘good cluster b disorders’ or the ‘victim cluster b’s’ meanwhile NPD and ASPD are the ‘evil mean abusive cluster b’s’

stfu.

we’re in the same cluster for a reason, you can’t support some whilst demonising the others.

[holierthanth0u]

the npd urge to be cool and mysterious vs the npd urge to flaunt all of your difficulties for pity and validation

[thecatspasta]

Im just going to start headcanoning that empaths hate narcissists bc they can use their epic empath powers to sense the mix of our extreme self hatred and our superiority complexes and they got so intimidated by the sheer power that is this weird emotional cocktail any bone that supports mental health became magnetically attracted to the narcissist and then flew out of their body and attached itself to us

[deceiver-of-god]

Honestly, I think apologizing is just a form of manipulation. It bothers you that the other person doesn't have a good attitude towards you, so you explain the situation, make any excuse, try to make them understand your perspective, and in the end you manage to soften them and change their attitude.

I don't think I've ever honestly apologized. When someone is upset with me, all I want is for them to stop being upset, because their attitude is inconvenient, and the only thing on my mind is "how can I talk my way out of this situation?".

[corvinarc]

idk if its okay to dm so i will ask here. im trying to educate my self on NPD be cause my father is diagnosed with it.

he is also my childhood abuser. so my mom and a lot of people call him a narcissistic abuser.

but im wondering , if that isnt real, is he just a shitty persons? or is something else used for the term. sorrry if this comes off as like mean or rude im not trying to be im just trying to understand.

please educate me. what would be a better term to use for him ? so i can correct my mom and others when they fuel the narcissistic abuse bullshit. 

I appreciate you asking!

So to put it bluntly, narcissistic abuse doesn't exist. It's an ableist misnaming of other abuses. Someone doesn't abuse others because of their disorder. It's a choice they make, which can be influenced by other factors.

What happened to you is really unfortunate. I'm sorry your dad chose to be shitty to you. I've reposted another post about abuse and the power that enables abuse. You can read it here.

In my opinion, the better term to use is to just call him abusive (because he is). When others try saying narc abuse truther rhetoric, you can educate them on how it's a misnaming. An example I'll use is describing the naming system for abuse. The names describe victim (child, animal, domestic), type of action (sexual, verbal, physical, emotional), or if substances are involved (substance abuse). Notice how none of these center around disorders? And they're very specific to describe the situation.

Hopefully this helps!

[flashy-mf]

When are therapists gonna understand we can be self aware? Are they really gonna die on the hill that states it’s impossible for a narcissist to know and accept what they are? I lack empathy, not basic cognitive skills. Even intellectually disabled people can know they’re intellectually disabled.

This awareness they think we’re incapable of is the type of awareness living beings have intrinsically. It’s fucking basic awareness of information and the ability to compare. This red strawberry looks just like the other red strawberry, so 4-year-old-you matches them together on your little tablet game.

Yes, I can comprehend why I would be labeled as a narcissist. I’m mentally capable of understanding how I fit the description, and I’m mentally and emotionally capable of accepting new information I learn about myself.

What I don’t understand is how the psychiatric industry can be messed up enough for a LICENSED PSYCHIATRIST to believe someone can lack an intrinsic skill that LITERALLY COMES WITH BEING CONSCIOUS like what the actual hell?!?!??!!?

[chronicallyqueercoining2]

"We need more mental health acceptance and awareness!" Y'all still call ppl with cluster b disorders evil 💀

"We need more weird people!" Y'all COMBUST when someone is xenic 💀

"Healthy coping mechanisms are important!" When someone age regresses, you call them creepy 😭

"More people need to be proud of who they are!" When you see a furry, you cry 😭

(U should totes follow me if ur a supporter of these so I can b on the good side of tumblr XD /nf!)

[sin-esthezia]

the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other more well understood mental illness, you can be patient with us.

[npdemu]

thank you for your constructive criticism. unfortunately, i have been sent into a rage which i will not mentally recover from for three years

[happyherringbonkpickle]

[3amclothesmonster]

Society when the mentally ill person shows symptoms of their diagnoses

[autopsyfreak]

seeing NPD + ASPD positivity posts on any other platform being met with literal thousands of people flooding the comments to try and justify their ableism and discriminatory behaviour towards us is so fucking gut wrenching

[villain-disorder]

Unfortunately, I think stigmatised disorder (personality disorders, psychotic disorders, etc) culture is realising something you experience has a name and finally feeling seen, but you go to google it for more resources and only find people talking about how horrible and morally evil you are for daring to have that symptom you never chose in the first place.

[ragehund]

FATHER'S DAUGHTER

[drifting-bones]

i love when i warn people over and over and over again that i have "ugly" symptoms of my mental disorders and that i won't always be easy to deal with and they assure me it's okay and it can't be that bad and say all these nice things then fuck off and leave when things start to get tough. cute.

[lyingnarc]

dear npd people with manipulative tendencies that theyre working on, i love you

dear npd people with manipulative tendencies that they can't work on, i love you

dear npd people with intrusive thoughts, i love you

dear npd people with a billion different blogs for all the possible attention, i love you

dear npd people with low or no empathy who dont try to mask it, i love you

dear npd people with low or no empathy who DO try to mask it, i love you

dear npd people who have been told they're wrong their whole lives, i love you

dear npd people, i love you