a lot of people reblogged that spoons poll from me with tags along the lines of "i have adhd but I'm not disabled" and i want everyone to know that adhd is in fact legally recognized as a disability in the usa. you have a disability/are disabled if you have adhd. or autism. or ocd. or depression. or anxiety. etc
these are all disorders. they disrupt our lives and make it harder to navigate the neurotypically-built society we live in just like physically disabled people existing in our able bodied-built society. they are disabling to your every day life and therefore are disabilities.
i say this because disability activism is for all disabilities no matter how invisible or "easily dealt with" because it's not a contest to see how disabled one can be. you're not disbarred from calling yourself disabled because "it could be worse" or "i deal with it well enough" or are "low needs" that doesnt make you NOT disabled!!!
don't sell yourself short and think your disability isnt "bad enough" to call it what it is. you deserve the help, recognition, and protection just like anyone else!
This is the rainbow infinity symbol. It’s the symbol for autism, and autism alone, as it was created for AUTISTIC Pride Day!
This is the rainbow butterfly! It’s intended to be an ADHD symbol. It was made by an allistic ADHDer, purely out of spite for autistic people who stated the rainbow infinity symbol was theirs. It’s not just that the creator is anti-autistic; it’s that the design was purposefully created to be similar to the rainbow infinity symbol, making it so that the anti-autistic bias is a key part of its design.
This is the black butterfly! It is also an ADHD symbol. Except this one wasn’t designed to spite autistic people.
The black butterfly is still somewhat similar to the autistic symbol, but that’s a-okay! ADHD and autism are similar! It makes sense that the symbols would be similar, within reason. The difference lies in if it was made similar from a place of negativity, or a place of desired solidarity. And the black butterfly is free from any negative intentions towards autistic people and their symbols.
Please take this information into consideration while using these symbols!
what i don't love, is getting someone's hopes up and then crushing them.
i have rejection sensitive dysphoria so when you pull a prank on me where you promise me something and then don't deliver it, i will hate myself for days because i'm convinced you did it because you didn't like me. the best i can describe it is that it feels like to you, i'm not worth the thing you promised me, even though i know logically, it was just a joke. it hurts even if you're my best friend and even if you tell me it was a prank.
- telling someone their mom died and then yelling "it's a prank", beyond shitty behavior.
- telling someone you can't make it to their birthday party and showing up anyways - that's fun.
- telling someone you got them that one thing they've wanted for years and then showing up with a miniature decor version of it? fuck you.
if you do something like giving them a box of their favorite chocolate but instead of the actual thing it's brussel sprouts covered in chocolate, you better also have a second box of the same thing that you haven't tampered with, to give to them afterwards.
my point is not that you can't prank people, my point is that you don't know how people are doing mentally. yes, even your best friends. so be a little considerate because pranks should be fun for all people involved.
tiktok- 6:26 why wont they explain what we did wrong?
How to uphold good emotional boundaries, when a neurotypical won't explain what you have done wrong yet demand an apology, and you feel you need an explanation, in order to understand the social mishap and not do wrong again in the future.
Putting our emotions in their hands as something for them to regulate is not healthy as we leave ourself vulnerable. Replace this instead with "I'm not going to understand if you don't explain." No one owes us validation. But if they respect you this would be an opportunity to learn that you need explanations for these things.
I saw you mention that you bring up autism to your therapist but they seem to brush you off with "it overlaps symptomatically with ADHD".
Well, this is true, but for anyone else not sure or struggling with this question: What is the difference between autism and ADHD? Do I have one or both?
Firstly: the overlap is huge, so being brushed off as "this is just ADHD" is bad practice in my opinion.
The main thing that seems to be ignored is the why of the overlap. What is the underlying reason behind the trait.
ADHD is a dopamine deficiency neurological disorder that affects attention, focus, executive function and more. The overarching traits can lead to very very similar traits as autism.
Autism is a social and language neurological disorder (or whatever term you wish to call it) that can affect attention, focus, executive function and more.
So, what to bring up to a therapist?
"I do this thing because..."
That sentence means a lot.
Both my husband and I have struggled with friendships our whole lives. From the outside, that is a classic autism trait.
However, I (autistic) struggled because I do not understand social interaction, social rules, or boundaries at a young age, and people ostracised me from groups because I seemed odd.
I learnt to adopt other people's actions in order to look NT.
My husband (combined ADHD) can make friends easily. He understands how to interact. He's charismatic, charming...all of it.
He's also too much. He will get in your face, talk about his hyperfixations for hours, pace mid conversation, can't stay still, will forget birthdays, parties, appointments, he won't call you or interact because he forgets etc.
TRUTH #1: Intense emotions are a hallmark of ADHD.
Few doctors factor in emotional challenges when making a diagnosis. Yet recent research reveals that individuals with ADHD have above-average difficulty with frustration, impatience, and excitability.
TRUTH #2: Emotional challenges begin in the brain.
Brain connectivity networks carrying emotional information are constrained and congested in individuals with ADHD.
TRUTH #3: Individuals with ADHD can be swept away by a single emotion - fast.
Hearing uncertainty in a friend's reaction, for ex-ample, may lead to an outsized display of self-defense - regardless of the words she said.
TRUTH #4: Significant social anxiety is a chronic ADHD difficulty.
More than one third of teens and adults with ADHD live with an exaggerated fear of being perceived as incompetent, unappealing, or uncool.
TRUTH #5: Emotions motivate action.
Brain imaging studies show that people with ADHD are less able to anticipate pleasure or register satisfaction with tasks that promise delayed rewards - meaning you're more likely to favor instant gratification.
TRUTH #6: People with ADHD can suffer from dysthymia, a mild but long-term form of depression.
It is often brought on by living with the frustrations, failures, negative feedback, and stresses of undiagnosed and/or untreated ADHD.
TRUTH #7: The ADHD brain doesn't always distinguish between dangerous threats and minor problems.
As a result, you may struggle to deal rationally and realistically with events that are stressful but not of grave concern.
TRUTH #8: Emotions are tied to memory.
Memory allows us to plan, monitor, and self-regulate.
Many individuals with ADHD, though, have weak working memory - and are often disorganized, quick to anger, or prone to procrastinate as a result.
TRUTH #9: Treating the emotional challenges of ADHD requires a multimodal approach.
ADHD medication may improve the emotional networks in the brain, but supplemental talk therapy is also needed to help a person manage their fear or low self-esteem.