#always prioritize life and health

[myfairkatiecat]

SOS CHAPTER 29???

@nobodysdaydreams YOU GET BACK HERE OH MY GOSH THIS CHAPTER AGFKFAKFHSLAHALFHSLAJ

[suffercerebral]

me having gone to bed at 6 am every day for the past week and generally spiraling mentally while rotting in bed waking up this morning: a 4 mile hike in the heat is a really good idea right now, and while we're at it let's start like 3 art projects

[atomiclace]

who knew that some agere people would be the worst type of people to exist (talking about you spinny)

[mutalune]

hey siri how do I stop feeling gutwrenchingly anxious in the guilt way for using the treatment methods available to me to not be in constant misery

[heyitslapis]

I don't have time for people who don't have time for me

I don't have time for people who don't have time for me

I don't have time for people who don't have time for me

[anonymolly]

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[carbonateddelusion]

FAMILY, am I right?

[hag-lad]

Lmfao one bonus point to being estranged from my wife’s family is that I don’t have to participate in Christmas, which is very nice. But I did stop by my mother-in-law’s house to pick up her old TV today, and she and I are basically cool. We just don’t see each other much. Anyway, she lost her shit at how different I look since we last saw each other. I’ve lost like 30 pounds in six months; I didn’t even realize I’d gone that long without seeing her. But she was very impressed and complimentary, which felt great, I won’t even lie. That fuckin dopamine hit was POWERFUL, man holy shit!

Nothing quite like admiration and compliments from someone who has heavily scrutinized and criticized you for years, huehuehuehue

[scentedpeachlandcreator]

You want to manifest your dream life?

I gotcha! This post is right here to make you stop over-consuming content about LOA and finally be able to manifest your dream reality!

Decide:

Okay, so you first need to decide what you want to manifest.

You want to live in a penthouse and in a Big mansion with your family or sp? you Can! You want to wake up in a magical world you created Guess what? Yes, you Can!

Do you want to wake up with your desired appearance from head to toe? Yes, you Can. And when I say you Can that means you're fucking limitless don't let anybody limit you, 'cause you’re the creator of your own reality, not theirs but yours, and you create the rules here!

throw logic out the window! cause it won’t get you anywhere if you still ask “if i can manifest that and that..”

Okay, so when you decide what you want to manifest you might wonder what will you do next?

Well, it's simple really. just decide that you already have it.

But how?

By simply deciding that you already have your desires/dream life in your 4D/imagination.

using methods:

Now you might need to use methods and by methods that means techniques that will help you achieve your desires and that make you fulfilled, you Can Also create your own method that suits you well.

Note: you don't need to do a certain method that everyone uses and that doesn’t resonate with you.

You Can click here and here you will find all the methods that were used in the LOA community.

my favorite: affirming and this method (click here!).

Then when you start affirming for your Desires or use methods to manifest your Desires you might encounter some issues with the 3d.

Things start going the opposite and you’ll start giving up and doubting yourself and the law.

And that when it comes to the important thing to do and it is called persisting.

Persist:

when you see things start going up the opposite way (in the 3d) and that is when you need to do your job by persisting in the idea of already having your desires in the 4d, by being consistent and stubborn in your assumption.

that it! easy right?

you might have some questions about all of this and how to react in certain situations with the 3d I advice you to read these posts and documents:

This one , this , this , this , this one, this, this.

and lastly, stop it like really stop consuming info and not applying the law, you can stay on this app but just don’t be obsessively always here, always waiting for a new post to make you realize what method or technique or what it is will make you manifest your desires.

remember the key is self, and yes you, the reader who is reading my post, you have such infinite power inside you that could change your whole world 360 degree.

remember to trust yourself and to have faith in the unseen, you can do it I have my trust in you, and always remember that some people were in extremely difficult circumstances and they did what? yes succeed, by having faith in the unseen and persisting in their imagination and now they’re living their best life.

be gentle with yourself, take care of yourself, and prioritize your mental health.

Summary:

: ̗̀➛ decide what you want to manifest.

: ̗̀➛ affirm (or use any methods).

: ̗̀➛persist.

chao chao!

xoxo, Eli.

[harmoonix]

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Astrology Observations by harmoonix

🦢 - Mars in Leo/Cancer/Gemini/Virgo can easily feel under pressure when they're stressed, they can feel like the world is ending!!

🦢 - Mars in Libra/Mars in the 7H are so complicated. Finding the peace and the harmony within your romantic relationships can be stressful

🦢 - Gemini Saturn/Virgo Saturn/3H Saturn/6H Saturn are possible anxious places for Saturn! They're so heart-warming, though!! At some point every anxiety attack will end

🦢 - If you have malefics in your 11H like Saturn, Pluto, or Mars, if you have friends that talk bad/shit about their other friends, be sure they talk the same to them about you!! Is so predictable!

🦢 - Cher has a Gemini Venus that makes her look young even though she is 78. DO YOU BELIEVE IN LIFE AFTER LOVE ???

🦢 - Your 2H can talk about your metabolism!! Since it is heavily associated with food! For example, a fire sign in the 2H can talk about a fast metabolism

🦢 - Having Sagittarius in your 2H or 2H ruler in the 9H, it can make you proud of your traditional/cultural food!!

🦢 - Leo Placements have a dark side like all of the other zodiac signs, because they're always in the spotlight. It is quite hard to know how they feel or if they fake their feelings. Not everyone knows how they feel behind close doors

🦢 - Sagittarius/Scorpio and Aries Mars can have a bad temper at times, some even anger issues, and is because Mars gets crazy in those placements

🦢 - If you have your south node in the 9H/Sagittarius, the school or some educational institution can get stuck in your memories/past forerver

🦢 - Jupiter aspecting Moon makes someone to radiate kindness! That person you wanna protect from bad people

🦢 Pluto - Mercury aspects can make someone have a deep voice indeed, which is also that typo of person to their voice hoarse most times

🦢 - Venus in Cancer/4° 16° 28°/4H Venus will make someone love you so passionately! They will build a castle inside your heart

🦢 - I feel like Capricorn Placements are always the ones to stress/overthink about the future 🙁, there is always something 'What if that will happen'

🦢 - Venus/Moon in your 9H can make your relationships/marriages blessed! Is a very beneficial house for those planets

🦢 - Mercury in air signs have a specific way of communicating! It can be a fast reply to your messages, instant calling, using a lot of gestures while talking!

🦢 - If you have Sagittarius Mercury/Mercury in the 9H, you probably have a very good type of humor! Makes everyone to laugh

🦢 - Pisces Mercury and the 12H mercury are also people with good humor! I honestly appreciate their energy

🦢 - Can someone tell me why like Cancer and Capricorn Saturn BOTH give a very nurturing energy?? Is like I connect with mother nature

🦢 - Libra Placements are honestly precious! They appreciate the beauty of everything! They can find beauty even in bad things

🦢 - I have no major Saturn - Venus aspects, but I have quincunx instead, which can be manifested as such sad energy because you basically don't feel anything at times

🦢 - Lilith and Sun aspects are the symbol of a black diamond! Always shining after all they have been through

🦢 - If you have major 6H placements especially Pluto in the 6H, your health both mentally and physically is VITAL. Always prioritize that!!

Replying to your ex: No

Prioritizing your mental health: Yes

🦢 - If one of your parents have their sun in the same sign as your rising you can look a lot alike! Is honestly one one if the best combos to share with your parents

🦢 - Venus conjunct south node but also Libra south node gives me the vibe of a widow in a past life, someone who could've have suffered in love

🦢 - If your 3H is connected with the 11H you can be best friends with your siblings, if your 3H is connected with the 9H you tend to be best friends with your cousins

🦢 - Saturn/Neptune/Mars and Pluto in the 12H need proper sleeping if they're usually tired is a sign to just relax and take a nap

🦢 - Venus in the same house as your Mars can make you addicted to topics like art, music, sex, history, and even culture

🦢 - Mars in harsh aspects with Venus tend to flirt more than the good aspects, because Mars here is looking for competition

🦢 - Virgo Venus and Venus at 6° 18° can be picky with their partners, they can also have multiple types of people as their crush

🦢 - If you have got your 4H connected to the 7H your family can help you with getting into a relationship

🦢 - Jupiter in harsh aspects to Pluto tend to force their beliefs/religion/habits into others, something even without realizing

🦢 - Uranus in your 4H or Aquarius in the 4H can talk about your family can have quite unique habits, is like your family is different from the rest of the world because something makes them to just stand out

🦢 - People who have Sun in their 4H or IC at 5° 17° or 29° can really be known because of their family, is giving popular family

🦢 - Earth Signs over the 8H can be very private about their intimate lives and their sexual life

🦢 - Mercury aspecting Moon can make the native so empathic emotionally, you can understand everyone's feelings usually they're soft at heart

🦢 - Mercury in the 12H can be attracted into things that seem 'undiscovered, or unknown', they're always curious about things they dont have much info about

🤍🤍🤍🤍 harmoonix

[astrosamara]

Astrology Observations #4

🩵Sun in 8th & 12th house are incredibly talented individuals with unique gifts to share with the world, but a lot of the time this potential is unseen to them and they can struggle a lot with their purpose. These people can also attract a lot of jealousy from people who don't want to see them win in life.

🩵So many Pisces suns I know radiate this effortlessly cool vibe and people naturally want to be around them. Unfortunately for Pisces, their energy gets depleted around people quickly and they require a lot of alone time or their vibe can turn sour fast.

🩵Earth suns, especially Capricorns, unfairly get labeled as being too boring and practical. These people can make great friends who are grounded and reliable though. This energy gets taken for granted in friendships I feel like.

🩵You might find yourself frequently getting crushes on people with their sun or moon in your 5th and 7th houses.

🩵Moon in 6th house are more sensitive than others to their environment and daily routines. They can struggle feeling grounded in their emotions, since their environment is so strongly connected to their inner world.

🩵Saturn in 1st can be insanely critical over their physical appearance. They might not take pictures of themselves very often, but when they do, they can obsess over how they look in them. I have this placement and I don't have that many pictures of myself when I was a teenager because I hated getting my picture taken. My entire day would be ruined if I saw a bad picture of myself.

🩵Venus in 1st is a placement I've always been jealous of, they just radiate feminine beauty and can have a strong interest and understanding of fashion. I've also noticed that there can be something unique about their beauty that really makes people notice them.

🩵Scorpio Venus can struggle a lot with limerence. They frequently mistake obsession for love. They might not even be interested in someone unless they feel like they're obsessed with them. Crushes in general can feel all consuming for them.

🩵Scorpio's are also great at hiding things from people and will only show a side of themselves that they want to portray. They understand the importance of keeping things private and will truly take their secrets to the grave.

🩵Pisces mercuries will blurt out the most random things in a group conversation that will leave everyone speechless and confused. I swear their minds are just tapped into a different dimension lol. Also incredibly funny.

🩵If you have any planets conjunct your chiron, there can be a great source of pain within the themes of this planet, but if you focus on healing this energy it can become a great source of power for you. I have chiron conjunct my mercury and I grew up extremely shy and afraid to use my voice. Now, I've found that journaling and writing about my pain has become incredibly therapeutic for me and it's strengthened my ability to communicate about my emotions.

🩵Mars in 6th house tend to be really passionate about trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle. They feel great when they prioritize their health and when they follow a schedule. I have this placement in Virgo and I can get so grouchy and irritable if I don't eat well and get some sort of movement in for the day.

🩵North node in 6th house can really struggle with being an active participant in their life. With their south node in the 12th house, they feel most comfortable observing other people's lives and blending into the background. Learning to embrace the spotlight and be seen by others will be very important for them in being on the right path.

🩵Sun in 1st house people can literally or metaphorically have a shine or glow to them. They radiate this light, warm, welcoming energy that makes people just want to look at them and be around them. Also, natural entertainers. They're meant for the spotlight in some way or another.

🩵Mars in 3rd house are constantly traveling and seeking adventure. They're always down to try new things or go somewhere new. I have a friend with this placement that is seemingly always traveling, in a new place, or trying a new hobby every time I talk to them. They don't like being stagnant.

[akirathedramaqueen]

Do you think this is the moment he fell in love?

Okie, it's time to shitpost speculate a bit on my favorite moment in the whole show: the end of the Truth Seekers episode.

Do you think this was the first time Blitzø was protected? Taken care of? Saved?

Just look at how in awe he is, eyes wide open, jaw dropped. I doubt we've ever seen a face like this before or after. Of course, it might also have something to do with seeing Stolas in his true form for the first time. It was eerie and terrifying, but also sublime and exalting. Oddly attractive even, maybe?

This owl demon, with eldritch ancient powers and two dozen legions, was there just for him. Stopped in his tracks of whatever royal deeds he was attending to and came to stand up for Blitzø, to scare the shit out of his... well, fuckbuddy's (or not really?) perpetrators. Stolas watched after him, knew he was in trouble! So he... cared?

I am going to repeat my starting statement - he is not used to being worried about. Here, Moxxie clearly prioritizes Millie (no blame here, it's completely valid!), and helps Blitzø to get up only after the latter sarcastically sneered, "Oh, yeah, thanks, I am fine!"

And Loona, at least until the Queen Bee episode, which happens later, was very hesitant to show even a grain of affection toward Blitzø. We know she cares, but it's not always enough to just have it in mind and not demonstrate it.

And here is Stolas, caressing Blitzø, asking if he is alright, calling him 'darling' - another first in their relationship, at least on screen. Look how confused he is for a moment; he looks away and up (defensive? scared? annoyed?) - has he ever been asked things like that before? Notice how his face relaxes after Stolas strokes his forehead. Our guy is tough, no doubt, but I bet he just realized how nice it is when there's someone who cares.

Hell knows, these five seconds are a single thread holding my mental health together after the shitshow in the Full Moon and Apology Tour episodes.

Of course, there's the second part where Stolas tones down the grandiosity of his gesture. He scolds the crew for not being careful and jeopardizing him along with them, implying that the book exchange should remain a secret. Then he negates it himself - luckily for them, demon-obsessed lunatics are not taken seriously in the human world.

I don't think this changes anything. The first thing he did was to ask if Blitzø is okay. Only after he was reassured Blitzø is fine did he begin to rant, and even then his concern addressed both the crew letting themselves into trouble and his own safety. Again, why wouldn't it be valid? However I look at it, I don't think the book is his primary interest here.

And is this the first time we see Blitzø blushing?

This blush! I bet my life that Mister Blitzø 'boring-as-fuck-monogamy' Buckzo hasn't even internalized it yet, but oh, did his heart just do a big somersault.

Listen to my voice: This is the moment he fell, even though he didn't know it himself yet. Poor boy has a lot of work to do to unlearn his coping mechanisms and let his walls down.

Thank you for coming to my sappy stand-up, don't forget your coats on your way out. *drops mic*

P.S. Oh, I lied to you. There's a bonus "Blitzø just fell so hard" face in the Seeing Stars episode, haha. Apparently Stolas's human form is just as hot as his true demonic one lol.

[astrolovecosmos]

Moon in the Houses: Your Mother/Parent

What House your Moon is in can give some insight into the environment around you and your mother or parent.

Moon in the 1st House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most likely highly valued their independence and individuality. They could have nurtured your individuality intentionally or unintentionally by being a role model. Was VERY present in your infancy and early childhood. Might have to work through a lot of their childhood trauma within the relationship with you. At times could act selfishly or put their needs first. Might be the first in the family to do something or break a cycle. Parent can have a lot of specific expectations for you.

Moon in the 2nd House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most may have been highly materialistic and/or focused on finances. This parent tried hard to build up your self-esteem or may have done things to harm it. Usually associated with being a stable parent or trying to build a stable environment for you. May have loved to take you shopping. Puts an emphasis on family values or their own values and teaching them to you. A lot of parenting or family struggles may revolve around wealth, property, and security. This parent can be incredibly resourceful.

Moon in the 3rd House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most was likely an intelligent, social, inquisitive, and maybe youthful or energetic person. Focused a lot on your education and learning as you grew up. Potentially an aunt or uncle or family friend may be very apparent in your childhood somehow or close to your parent. You and your siblings may have a strong connection due to this parent somehow. Taking care of siblings is associated in general with Moon in the 3rd. Your parent was likely a busy individual frequently attending to errands, social and family gatherings, your extracurricular activities, etc. Your parent at times may have given too much into gossip, rivalry, and keeping up with the neighbors. They could have been a major community member and might have cared a lot about what their community thought of you and their parenting. Moving around a lot could be apparent in your childhood too.

Moon in the 4th House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most was/is very family focused. Tried hard to be the "perfect" mother or what a mother/parent "should be". Can prioritize maintaining family traditions. Is highly influenced by other family members in their parenting. Might be a private or introverted person or a homebody. Likely to have a nurturing, affectionate, and providing side. But may also be plagued by family cycles, behaviors, and traumas and could pass these on in their parenting. Could also be a big cycle breaker! The 4th House is the house of roots, ancestors, the past, what is hereditary, and cycles. This is going to be the stage set for your mother/parent.

Moon in the 5th House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most might have a big personality, was/is the life of the party or fun-loving, or was/is very creative and talented. They may approach parenting in a big, passionate, generous, and vibrant way. Could be brave, playful, inspiring, and positive. They try to not let their parental responsibilities get in the way of what they enjoy. May try to get their child to enjoy or indulge in what they like. Can have a selfish side and may be intense, dramatic, or immature. May have always dreamed of being a parent OR find that being one interrupts their dream. Can get distracted by romance or their partner. Their romantic relationships could also have to revolve around them being a parent, putting their children first.

Moon in the 6th House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most could be very health-conscious, may have health struggles, or maybe even work in healthcare. Might have worked a lot or focused on their job more so than family. Can be a big planner, very organized, and has their habits or routine. Might have concentrated on you getting a good education and getting into a good college or career. May have tried to influence your career choices. Might be good at networking and help you in that way. Could have been very critical of you, may have lacked in reassurance or affection, can be judgmental, and might have also been a materialistic parent. Could have been a huge animal lover or had a lot of animals around the house. Can be a very caring and supportive parent.

Moon in the 7th House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most could have a very active social or dating life. May have done a good job of preparing your manners and social skills. This could indicate a parent that puts friendships and romantic partners over you. Could also indicate a parent that highly focuses on family relationships and dynamics in a one-on-one sense. For example they always made extra time to be with you, carved out date nights for them and their partner, or tried to make play dates for you or create bonding time for you and a sibling. With this they can also be a big fan of having family quality time, maybe game nights or always eating dinner together. Could have been an artistic parent or a parent that kept the house looking nice or well decorated. May have been a parent that focused on teaching peace, empathy, relating to others, and/or being nice. May have a shallow, vain, materialistic, and even selfish side.

Moon in the 8th House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most may have had a hard life or you two may have gone through a lot of trauma together. This could be shared trauma or trauma they caused. May have a parent that is insightful, perceptive, potentially secretive or private, very self-aware, maybe empathetic or compassionate, self-sacrificing, but also manipulative or haunted. Can support your passions, feelings, and questions. Could have an intense bond with this parent in some way. Can be a parent that knows how to navigate darker elements of life and self and can be wise in this way. Might be a protective or controlling parent. May be an oversharer type of parent, despite any private or introverted tendencies.

Moon in the 9th House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most could have been highly educated, career-oriented, worldly, or engrained in a religious community. Your parent could have come from a different country than you were born and/or raised in. Can prioritize your education, especially higher education. You two may travel a lot together. May make certain beliefs a major focus in their life, family, and parenting. Can promote spirituality, very specific morals, skepticism or questioning things, having faith in the self or something else, might share sacred or old wisdom from their family or heritage. Can struggle with a closed-mind, dogma, pride, impulsiveness, or recklessness. Can have a sharp tongue, be a scolder, or condescending. Can also be playful, funny, a little youthful or mischievous themselves, uses and encourages intuition, and is open minded.

Moon in the 10th House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most may have been a workaholic, easily stressed, had a lot of responsibilities, and/or was in the public eye. Could have been a strict, controlling, or authoritative parent. Could have put a lot of pressure on a child to succeed by their standards or society's standards. This parent can be a great provider or aim to be one, can be protective, gives their kids plenty of recognition, and tries to respect their children but also teach respect. Can be very in tune on how to survive in their current world and society. Might have to do a lot on their own. Grandparents may be a big part of your life or your parent's life. Is likely a decisive, confident, and practical parent.

Moon in the 11th House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most may have followed parenting trends or raised you in an unconventional way. Tends to encourage independence, curiosity, education, and dancing to the beat of your own drum. There can also be some who give into their peers and societal expectations of parenting, they might value being part of a community or society over what is best for their kids. Could have been emotionally detached, unaffectionate, and/or needed a lot of alone time. May have a lot of friends and still keep them a major priority even with children. Can help their child network. May play a big part in a community, or the opposite - be alienated from a community. Is associated with adoption. Is similar to the 5th House where having a child could have been their dream or interrupted their aspirations.

Moon in the 12th House: Your mother/parent/guardian who impacted your inner and emotional self the most was likely sensitive, empathetic, imaginative, easygoing, comforting, receptive, and intuitive. There was always something elusive or vague about them and their presence. This parent could have been involved in spirituality, religion, or mental health in someway. Their mental health could also be of great significance in your relationship with them and how they impacted you. Child may feel as if they have to take care of this parent somehow. This parent could have been institutionalized, a mystery, or passed away. Can have a sweet side but also a stormy one. Encourages child's emotional expression, sensitivity, intuition, spirituality, and creativity. May also be an enabler. Is associated with keeping family secrets or dealing with a lot of family karma somehow. Parent may reconnect with their own childhood or roots via their child. Could be a cycle breaker or make new family traditions.

[universalitgirlsblog2]

🎀💖Y/N IS THAT YOU ? 🎀💖

-Kill your old self & create a better version who is free from negativity

🎀The old me who relied on others for validation is gone forever . The old me with self-destructive habits and negative thoughts will never be seen again

💖I love myself way too much , I'm immune to self-hatred or self-doubts . Being insecure is impossible for me

🎀I am not a victim of circumstances or 3D . I control them , not the other way around

💖 I prioritize myself . I put myself always .

🎀Im independent and don't depend on anyone or anything .

💖The old me is gone now ..and I will never go back to the toxic and unhealthy cycle of negativity

🎀I don't dwell on negativity

💖I don't spiral coz the circumstances or the 3d anymore

.🎀Jennie kim , wonyoung , Alexa , Zendaya , Jia , IU , nayeon ?????? Who are they ??? I'm the only IT girl .

💖I am always chosen no matter what . I'm loved and precious .

🎀I have healed from my past experiences .

💖I am capable of everything and anything

🎀I am a girls girl , I'm a boss in a man's world ( credits to destiny Rogers >3 )

💖I am so hot , I'm so cool

🎀I am a complete new person with a perfect self concept. I know what I want , I'm the girl / guy who has it all .

💖My subconscious has been reprogrammed

🎀I only entertain favorable thoughts

💖I am consistent with persisting.

🎀I don't get easily influenced by others and don't allow anything or anyone to get to me

💖I am not miserable or jealous, why would I be ?? I'm living my dream life and have everything that I want or need .

🎀No one can block my manifestations

💖My mental health is perfect just like me >33

🎀I don't settle for less .

💖I am the best of the best , I'm Y /N

🎀 Being the best at what I do , that's sounding on brand ( credits to typagirl )

💖I am completely renewed as a person . I let go of my old self

[fairuzfan]

Something that always confused me with doctors refusing life saving medical care if it involved abortions is that aren't doctors breaking the hippocratic oath by allowing harm to happen to pregnant people. Even if we assume that a fetus is legally a person as some people want to say and the hippocratic oath applies to them, then wouldn't the pregnant persons health also matter for the safety of the fetus? And in the case where people prioritize the fetus in a pregnancy, how can the fetus survive without the pregnant person anyways? If the pregnant person dies then the fetus dies.

[theambitiouswoman]

Do you really love yourself?

Many times in the past, I believed I was operating out of self-love. However, it was only when I began focusing on personal growth and engaging in shadow work and inner healing that I came to understand that my previous perception was not accurate.

Sometimes, we believe we're being kind to ourselves because we do things that feel good or seem helpful at first. We might do these things because we want to feel better or think they're good for us.

To become aware that something might not be truly self loving, we need to pay attention to how things make us feel in the long run. If something we're doing ends up making us feel unhappy, stressed, or even harms us over time, that's a sign that it might not be coming from genuine self love. So, it's important to regularly check in with our feelings and reflect on whether our actions are bringing us real and lasting happiness and well-being.

These are some examples you may relate to, where we might think we're operating out of self-love, but it may not truly be the case:

Self-Care:

Binge watching TV shows for hours, thinking it's self-care, but it leads to neglecting other responsibilities.

Regularly indulging in unhealthy foods as a form of self-care, but it negatively impacts physical well-being.

Spending excessive amounts on shopping to feel better momentarily, mistaking it for self-care, when it strains finances.

Oversleeping every day, believing it's self-care, but it disrupts daily routines and productivity.

Isolating yourself from others under the guise of self-care, but it can worsen feelings of loneliness.

Skipping regular exercise, thinking you're prioritizing relaxation, but it affects overall health in the long run.

Using substances like alcohol to cope with stress, thinking it's self-care, when it may lead to dependency.

Personality:

Constantly seeking validation from others to feel worthy, assuming it's part of your personality, but it indicates low self-esteem.

Always being the peacemaker in conflicts, believing it's your personality, but it might be suppressing your true feelings.

Refusing to ask for help in any situation, thinking it's part of your personality, but it can hinder growth.

Being overly competitive and comparing yourself to others, thinking it's just your personality, but it can lead to dissatisfaction.

Being excessively introverted to the point of avoiding social interactions, thinking it's part of your personality, but it may contribute to isolation.

Always putting others' needs before your own, assuming it's your personality, but it could be detrimental to your well-being.

Constantly seeking new experiences and never committing to anything, believing it's your personality, but it might hinder progress.

Career:

Overworking and not taking breaks, assuming it's necessary for career success, but it leads to burnout.

Staying in a job you hate because it's what you're used to, thinking it's for the sake of career stability, but it prevents growth.

Avoiding asking for promotions or raises, assuming it's humility, but it might hold you back professionally.

Pursuing a career path solely for financial gain, thinking it's practical, but it can result in dissatisfaction.

Accepting workplace mistreatment in the name of job commitment, thinking it's dedication, but it's detrimental to mental health.

Focusing solely on climbing the corporate ladder, believing it's the key to success, but it may lead to neglecting other important aspects of life.

Not pursuing opportunities for skill development, thinking it's contentment, but it can hinder career advancement.

Romantic Relationships:

Ignoring your own needs to constantly please your partner, believing it's love, but it leads to codependency.

Staying in a toxic relationship because you're afraid of being alone, thinking it's love, but it harms your well-being.

Sacrificing your own dreams and goals for your partner's aspirations, mistaking it for love, when it hinders personal growth.

Avoiding conflicts at all costs, assuming it's love for peace, but it prevents healthy communication.

Idealizing your partner and overlooking their flaws, thinking it's love, but it prevents realistic understanding.

Rushing into a new relationship immediately after a breakup, thinking it's moving on, but it might be avoiding emotions.

Disregarding your own values to align with your partner's, believing it's love, when it compromises your authenticity.

Friendships:

Going along with friends' decisions even when you disagree, assuming it's loyalty, but it might lead to resentment.

Pretending to enjoy activities you dislike to fit in, thinking it's maintaining friendships, but it's not authentic.

Ignoring your own needs to help friends excessively, believing it's friendship, when it impacts your own well-being.

Staying friends with people who consistently bring you down, thinking it's loyalty, but it negatively affects your self-esteem.

Avoiding confrontation with friends, assuming it's maintaining harmony, but it might lead to unresolved issues.

Letting others take advantage of your kindness, thinking it's friendship, when it's actually being taken for granted.

Faking interest in others' conversations to avoid feeling left out, thinking it's friendship, but it prevents genuine connections.

Personal Growth:

Staying in your comfort zone and avoiding challenges, thinking it's self-preservation, when it hinders progress.

Setting unrealistic goals for personal development, believing it's ambition, but it can lead to disappointment.

Constantly seeking external validation for your progress, assuming it's self-improvement, when it should come from within.

Overloading your schedule with self-help activities, thinking it's maximizing growth, but it might cause overwhelm.

Avoiding reflection on your mistakes and shortcomings, thinking it's self-compassion, when it prevents learning.

Perpetually focusing on your flaws without celebrating achievements, thinking it's humility, but it can lead to low self-esteem.

Ignoring your emotional needs in favor of pushing through challenges, assuming it's resilience, when it might hinder emotional well-being.

Physical Health:

Skipping Meals to Lose Weight: You might think that skipping meals will help you lose weight quickly, but it can lead to nutritional deficiencies and harm your body's energy levels.

Overexercising: Working out excessively with no rest can seem like a way to get fit, but it can lead to injuries, exhaustion, and even weakened immunity.

Crash Diets: Trying extreme diets that drastically cut out food groups might seem like a fast way to lose weight, but they often lack important nutrients and can be harmful to your body.

Ignoring Sleep: Prioritizing work or entertainment over sleep might seem productive, but sleep is crucial for your body to recover and function well.

Relying on Supplements Alone: Thinking that supplements can replace a balanced diet might seem convenient, but they're meant to complement, not replace, healthy eating.

Ignoring Pain: Believing that toughing it out through pain or discomfort is a sign of strength, but it's important to listen to your body and seek medical attention when needed.

Not Staying Hydrated: Forgetting to drink enough water might not seem like a big deal, but proper hydration is vital for many bodily functions and overall well-being.