#and no questions from mum

[eccentricverbicide]

what do I gotta do to get one of those chocolate gift baskets on valentines day? get a man??? ew

[lucielovekj]

I love how Nimona portrays Ballister’s curiosity as not inherently bad, and that when he’s respectful and gentle and acknowledges the sensitivity of the question Nimona is completely willing to explain and to show him. Because no matter what you use that as an allegory for it’s so often the case irl, if a stranger asks something invasive disrespectfully that’s completely different from a supportive loved one asking out of concern or a desire to understand you better, and that in close personal relationships asking questions, even if there’s a risk of stepping out of line or saying something insensitive, is usually good and healthy so long as it’s done properly.

Most of us (just like Nimona) are actively excited to talk about this stuff with those we care about, are happy for people we love to want to know us better, but it’s (obviously) stigmatised by strangers doing so rudely making people think they can’t ask any questions ever, which only increases the ignorance and stigma surrounding whatever the topic is. If someone knows they can tell you when a question is too much, when they trust you and understand what you’re intentions are, it’s good and natural to be inquisitive.

[shehzadi]

imagining a world where indians recognised that the struggle palestinians are experiencing right now is a result of the same force (britain) that destroyed our own country and where indian muslims specifically were not so ‘secular’ and ‘neutral’ and generally willingly ignorant to gain approval/safety from people who would happily see them genocided too (the west and their hindutva peers) that they actually spoke up for their brothers and sisters in palestine

[spiderwarden]

So I was singing along to this song. And I half wondered if all the clerics can sing. Music is part of religion no matter what religion you’re in, and it’s been confirmed Minthara can sing. So like, does this apply to all clerics?? Can Shadowheart sing??

[dairyfreenugget]

The second hand gender euphoria from talking about my blobro's gender and self-expression is so real

[qvietspvce]

long post under the cut. i'm writing out a somewhat redacted transcript of the utter BULLSHIT i put up with yesterday

warnings for transphobia, transphobia EVERYWHERE. also, i show my arse here. i'm not a perfect person and my temper got the better of me in a BIG way.

messages in a group chat between sister, mum and me.

[screenshot of a facebook post, posted by [sister]. tagged [deadname]. post reads: I will always cherish these memories of my twin sister and I. Losing my twin sister was the worst pain imaginable, and I'm still very much grieving this. I'm working hard to rebuild a brand new relationship with a brand new person [blue love heart emoji]]

Me (7.16pm): what the fuck is this?

Me (7.19pm): I haven't died. I am still very much alive. I'd appreciate it if you didn't say you were "working hard to rebuild a brand new relationship with a brand new person" and out me to people as transgender without my permission. It shows a flagrant disregard to my privacy and safety.

Me (7.23pm): I am deeply hurt that you are sharing memories from a facebook account I no longer have access to. I'm just completely shocked that you would think this is a kind and fair thing to do to me. Take it down.

Me (7.23pm): Now.

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Sister (9.02pm): Wtf is wrong with you

Sister (9.05pm): I've not said you've died, I've said I'll always cherish there's (sic) memories. [Deadname] is gone and is never coming back, don't be so selfish and put yourself in someone else's shoes for a change. Out you as transgender? I've not tagged Parker anywhere. You've changed yourself as male legally and have been someone else for years - it's public information

Sister (9.07pm): Look, you have all the time in the world to sit there and argue and be a snowflake

Sister (9.08pm): Fuck off, I want nothing to do with you - you completely selfish cunt

Sister (9.08pm): I just want MY [DEADNAME] back

Me (9.09pm): Are you aware that people are reacting to that post as if I have died? Interesting that you call it selfish to want a modicum of privacy and respect from you. How dare you. How very dare you. I'm aware you haven't tagged me as Parker. I'm aware that for whatever reason you refuse to see me as Parker. You'd rather make up a fuss over [Deadname] than respect me as I am and lash out when you're called out on poor behaviour. I, my personality, hasn't changed. I am still who I have always been except I now use a name, pronouns and body I am comfortable in.

Sister (9.09pm): You have changed

Sister (9.09pm): I'm allowed to grieve

Me (9.10pm): I AM STILL ALIVE

Sister (9.10pm): [Deadname] isn't

Sister (9.10pm): Doesn't exist anymore

Sister (9.11pm): I'm not "[sister's name] the youngest of 5 girls"

Me (9.11pm): YOU NEVER FUCKING WERE

Me (9.11pm): I just didn't have the language to say it!

Sister (9.11pm): It's no longer "I have a twin" "boy or girl"

Sister (9.12pm): You did for 26 years

Me (9.12pm): Are you kidding me? Is this a joke?

Sister (9.12pm): I'm allowed to grieve. I've supported you best I can why don't you try and do the same

Sister (9.13pm): I've had a rough fucking time

Sister (9.13pm): And I'm always there for you when I (sic) need me

Me (9.13pm): You made your fucking bed, now lay in it.

Sister (9.13pm): Just try to be understanding and not offensive

Me (9.13pm): Are you?

Sister (9.13pm): Okay we're done

Me (9.13pm): Are you there for me?

Sister (9.13pm): When you need money?

Sister (9.13pm): Calling you brother

Sister (9.14pm): Me and [ex-boyfriend] have split up and I'm struggling. [Deadname] would've been nice

Sister (9.14pm): You're being a twat

Sister (9.15pm): You spend too much time on the internet

Sister (9.15pm): I don't have time to waste on this

Sister (9.15pm): Dead to me

Me (9.15pm): You don't call me your brother unless you want something. I asked you to help me with Mango in an emergency that was never needed. You ask me to look after your dog when you're getting too drunk you don't even know how you got home. You broke up with [ex-boyfriend] because you couldn't cope with the guilt of emotionally cheating on him. That's on you, not me.

Sister (9.16pm): Not completely accurate

Sister (9.17pm): You're dead to me

Sister (9.18pm): Hope mum is kind enough to keep funding your mentally ill "lifestyle"

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Sister (9.54pm): You outer (sic) yourself as transgender on my page [5 laughing emojis]

Sister (9.54pm): And turned the blame to me

Sister (9.54pm): Brilliant

Mum (9.56pm): GO WALK

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Sister (10.04pm): [Person] sent you a screenshot of my Facebook, you accepted my friend request 2 hours ago which I sent to you months if not a year ago just to have a go at me

Sister (10.04pm): And then has been gossiping about me inaccurately

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Me (10.25pm): I'm only going to say this once. It wasn't [Person] who sent me a screenshot and there's absolutely no way I'm going to tell you who it is. As you happily informed me, it's public information.

Sister (10.26pm): 1) absolute bullshit

Sister (10.26pm): It's her background on the screenshot

Me (10.29pm): So the reason you're angry at [Person] is because the person who sent me the screenshot uses Dark Mode...which is a function that all modern smartphones can use... Okay. I'm not going to have this conversation with you because you sound unwell. Get better, [sister].

Sister (10.30pm): I'm grieving the loss of my twin sister and I'm grieving the end of a relationship. Other than that I'm fine. I've not taken a single day off work, I run a home and business, I eat clean, train, pay my way and contribute to society

Sister (10.31pm): You're the one with every mental illness going

Sister (10.31pm): You are dead to me

Sister (10.31pm): You are done

Sister (10.32pm): I loved [Deadname] more than anything and I will cherish and share my memories

Sister (10.32pm): I hate Parker

-- --- ---- ----- ---- --- -- messages in a private chat between sister and me (note the timestamps!)

Sister (11.36pm): Goodbye

Sister (11.36pm): I've said goodbye to [Deadname] she's gone and never coming back

Sister (11.36pm): Now I'm saying goodbye to you

Sister (11.36pm): Don't every (sic) contact me again

Sister (11.36pm): Ever *

[section-69]

Yk it's not that I think Beverly Wouldn't choose to carry an accidental pregnancy to term, but I really wish Star Trek (and TV generally tbh) would just... raise abortion as an option? Could even do an emotional conversation about why she wanted to have another baby, I don't care, I'd just really like someone to at least ask "what made you decide to become a single mother again at this time in your life?" rather than continue the whole "woops we forgot to wear/inject/swallow/implant any birth control, guess the only choice is to have a baby!"

[i-am-just-a-skeleton]

for the past few days i've had the same few lines of Strange Frontier by roger taylor stuck in my head, which is mostly fine except for those lines being, y'know, the ones about an ever present threat of nuclear annihilation, and the fact that i often switch between humming the melody and singing the words quite at random. so i'll just be sitting here, absently humming to myself, and then "but there's nowhere you can run" *back to humming again*

[crystal-mouse]

making my non trekkie family play star trek trivia <3

[hella1975]

ough

[degenezijde]

The kittens love hide and seek!

They also got the vaccinations today, and are over one kilo which means it's snip snip time next week ✂️

And also two of them might already have a home! One of my colleagues is coming over to meet them and wants to adopt a pair.

[echoes-lighthouse]

Christ alive, just woke up to someone picking a fight with me over the concept of adopting fictional kids, in a very aggressive way: someone who didn't even follow me and thought my fictional f/os were OCs despite their clear sources in my bio.

If anyone actually wants to have a productive and private discussion about how that's handled in my familial selfships and my personal feelings on adoption as a kid who spent years getting bounced around other families (and as a person who's considering being a foster parent in a financially stable future), then that's cool and fine.

For the moment, if I accidentally blocked that person's sideblog and they're still interacting with my blog with a different username but I can't see them anymore, please let me know. I've had that happen before and I'm not 100% sure if tumblr has fixed that ridiculous feature but I would appreciate the help from anyone who sees this post <3

[iristial]

Dropping one of many festering Geats thoughts on the table:

Ace has a thing where he regresses into his apathetic, aloof persona. It's almost like he catches himself getting more attached than he'd like because it might distract him from his desire of 2000+ years, he can't afford to show weaknesses, and he's - scared. The first person he ever cared for left him forever, and it drove him to such grief and despair he ended his first life. Now he lives like a ghost with unfinished business. Trapped in the DGP that feeds on people's misery. And if he were to get attached, who says they won't leave him too? Either during his life or they all die, old and full of years, and he wakes up with a new face and name, still cursed to keep living. Remembering. Ace may have accepted partings are inevitable, but he knows they leave wounds that never heal, scars that itch, and he'd rather not experience it again. Much like any other person. Hence why he keeps everyone at arm's length. Why he could tell Gene about his cycle of suffering but not Keiwa and Neon. Why he tests Keiwa, as if to prepare him for disappointment, and envies him deep down. Why he related to Neon more than anyone else regarding the pain of existing yet didn't say any of that to her face, and instead pushed Kyuun to comfort Neon. Why he doesn't explain the true nature of wish making to Keiwa and Neon because that way, he can take down the DGP by himself and they can keep dreaming

[jules-van-hering]

ok it was so fun scrolling and looking at all of those beautiful quilts!!! are you a fiber arts person? if you were to design a quilt, what kind of design would you choose?

aaaaw thank you 🥰 great to hear someone enjoyed my moment of enthusiastic madness :D

I am a bit of a fiber arts person, indeed :) currently mostly knitting socks tho, working on a neon green pair for my dad's birthday right now. but I've also started crocheting this year. I have a fancy fern scarf project that I haven't touched in months :D I usually take a small project to my lectures at uni to keep myself focused and distracted at the same time. really helps a lot and by the time I have my degree, I'll have so many socks as well. maybe even a bigger piece like a sweater at some point. I have also started a makramee project, but completely underestimated the scope of it (: took out my bedroom door to put a self made makramee curtain in there instead and so far I only have the loose threads hanging there. also like doing some embroidery, mostly silly stuff or something motivational like affirmations that resonate (a red feel your feelings fool stop sign, a reminder that actually life is beautiful and I have time, but also TEETH I know you have them for a friend)

If I made a quilt I would probably do sth maritime or cowboy or plant themed. OH! actually! I might try to quilt what I picture when I imagine my safe place: a lush greenhouse hidden in soft hilly north sea dunes with all the dune grasses, sand piper birds running along the shore, lil crab buddies and that beautiful light shimmering on soft waves and between the clouds. and I'd like to make it so dynamic that you can basically feel the wind on your face and smell the salty air when you look at it. yes, that would be my masterpiece :)

[pierregaslays]

i got asked if i wanted to be back on my work’s pub quiz team tonight bc “the bonus round is man city in the 2010s and you like football, don’t you” and i’m like??? why are you setting me up for failure???

[incomingalbatross]

On the one hand I want to watch Amphibia S3 all together, especially since I have a WIP I've made good progress on.

On the other hand, the Sarah Jane Adventures ♥️