#apology

[hoagsobject]

Googles advice on how to write an apology

“Show empathy”

[0ddoblivion]

I’m sorry for giving the king of England cancer

[haleyincarnate]

If there is no change there is no progress. Stop allowing people to walk over you after expressing your needs. You are worth so much more than their inability to try, to compromise.

Remember this for yourself, as well.

[blue-inferno]

"Can you ever forgive me?"

He just wants to be loved again, be a pal, a buddy....like old times...

Daily drawing no.1 :Ill be making a daily little sketch every day or few days time pending just to break away from my normal longer art.

[guiltyidealist]

"I'm sorry I vented and took up your time with my bullshit" ❌

feeds abandonment fears, implies having needs and being helped with them are wrong, makes it all about you

"Thank you for being patient with me through that, I appreciate that you took the time" ✅

shows your gratitude, affirms your affinity, no "using up" anybody's effort, makes it about you both as equals

"I'm sorry I dumped without checking consent first. I need to act respectfully and ask for your permission before I vent" ✅

"I'm sorry I said x, that was inappropriate of me to put on you" ✅

"Was it okay when I said x the way I did?" ✅

"Would you like to place a boundary around that?" ✅

"What could I do/say instead that's healthier for us both?" ✅

correct an actual wrong, seize due accountability, consider their rights as much as yours, make amends, work to correct missteps going forward

[derangedrhythms]

⁠— but how I wanted you.

⁠Mary Szybist, Granted; from 'Apology'

[aterimber]

Just a little PSA: I'm deleting every reblog I have talking about Israel and Palestine.

I knew I didn't know very much about what was going on, but seeing the horrors of what was happening, I felt compelled to try and help. One way I thought I was helping was by reblogging things I thought seemed important/worth sharing as a way to spread the word.

It's since been pointed out to me that this wasn't actually helpful and was actually quite the opposite. What was actually happening, unfortunately is that I was spreading misinformation and hate. That was definitely not my intention and I want to sincerely apologize for doing so.

Until I've completed the much needed research I need to do on the subject, I'll remain quiet and on the sidelines. Reading posts by Jewish people and learning real ways to be helpful.

I am so genuinely sorry for my ignorance, and I cannot believe my actions may have contributed to getting people killed. That's not my intention and it never will be. ❤

If anyone would like to chat privately - whether to vent or whatever - please feel free! I want Jewish people (and other minorities) to feel nothing but safe talking to me/on my blog. I'm here to listen, if needed.

[plasticbag23457]

🎶One way ticket to manipulation station🎶

[remanence-of-love]

[youcallyourselfafilmcritic]

A Measured Response

-James Somerton, 2024

[thevampirechr0nicler]

Made a reuploaded version of the James somerton apology video because the cunt deleted his/couldn't stomach the thought of leaving it up

It is sped up to around 1.5x and I think I cut some of the pauses out in the beginning

Also the normal/non sped up version if necessary

[holistichealingg]

[haleyincarnate]

[princesssarisa]

I was just reading an article from Psychology Today about apologies, and how too many people just use them to gain instant forgiveness without making any effort afterwards to change their behavior.

But then the author wrote that whenever his short-tempered teenage son apologizes after an outburst of rage, he always responds "I don't want you to be sorry. I want your behavior to change."

That made me feel slightly uncomfortable, because my dad sometimes responded to my apologies in much the same way when I was growing up. And it hurt. I know he meant well, and maybe he was in the right to respond that way, but it hurt.

Some kids – and adults – aren't just trying to use "I'm sorry" as an instant-forgiveness, get-away-with-everything card. Some of us, especially on the autism spectrum and/or with ADHD, have rejection sensitive dysphoria, and to have an apology rejected, especially by a parent, can truly feel like the end of the world.

But maybe that's the point. It's supposed to hurt. It's supposed to be devastating, because that's what inspires change.

Still, might there be some different way to approach it? Instead of "I don't want you to be sorry..." would it be so bad to say "I accept your apology, but I also want your behavior to change"? Isn't it possible to teach kids that just saying "I'm sorry" doesn't fix everything without rejecting their apologies?

I'm curious what other people think.

[whoskeida]

“I’m not a groomer, just a loser 🥺”

[soapdispensersalesman]

Same