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delphiniumjoy · 3 months
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Friends with benefits? Yes. The benefit is I have a friend.
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spacedykez · 9 months
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genuinely think everyone would benefit from learning about aromanticism and relationship anarchy. even straight, allosexual, alloromantics. because amatonormativity affects everyone, and learning about relationship anarchy and redefining how you think about relationships is so freeing. youcan do whatever you want 4ever.
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lemonycranberries · 1 month
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HEY IT'S THE 14TH. YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS. IT MEANS IT'S TIME TO GET ARO-ER. TIME FOR ALL ARO TAGS TO GO TRENDING.
AGAIN.
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heartless-aro · 1 year
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When talking about aromanticism there tends to be a lot of emphasis on the basic idea of “you can be happy without romance,” which is a true but underwhelming sentiment. Yes, you can be happy without romance, in the same way you can be happy without liking certain types of foods or certain hobbies and the like.
But being aromantic is beyond that. Aromanticism isn’t just “not bad” or “not lesser” or “not a tragedy.” Being aromantic is beautiful, and joyful, and fun.
Being aromantic means realizing that the life you’re expected to want is not what you ACTUALLY want and so, it is the freedom and exhilaration of figuring out what you want and forging your own path through life. Aromanticism is the deeply personal process of examining your feelings and finding your own priorities in life. It’s looking at your relationships and refusing to label them, instead letting them exist as they are and focusing not on what your relationships “are supposed to look like” but rather, what you WANT them to look like. It’s making your own decisions on what sort of relationships are important to you, refusing to let anyone make that choice on your behalf.
Aromanticism is the rejection of the expectation that you should water yourself down into something more palatable so that others might be attracted to you. It’s knowing that the way you look, the way dress, the way you behave and present yourself are for your own sake, not anyone else’s.
It’s the relief of not having to worry about relationship drama, because you’re single and happy to be single.
It’s the sense of joy and community that comes with slipping a white ring on your left hand middle finger.
It’s existing for yourself. It is knowing that you don’t need any “other half” because you are whole.
It’s whatever you want it to be, because aromanticism the journey towards your own form of happiness, whatever that may mean for you.
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aroreanimator · 1 year
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obviously there will always be reactionary exclusionist assholes who refuse to critically examine power structures in their lives, but i have to say...
it really makes me happy that we're now seeing people outside of the aro community deconstructing amatonormativity, and sitting with themselves and truly asking "what do i want my relationships to look like? how do i want to live my life?"
if the idea of traditional, monogamous, romantic, lifelong relationships doesn't sit well with you, and you haven't heard of amatonormativity or relationship anarchy or queerplatonic partnerships before, i encourage you to read about these terms with an open mind.
although a lot of stuff analysing amatonormativity is written by aro people, it's not just for us. it's for you, too. we're here to help each other <π
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ohporcupine · 21 days
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i just finished reading Ending The Pursuit: Asexuality, Aromanticism and Agender Identity by Michael Paramo and am incredibly thankful for it. it's a great exploration of how colonialism and imperialism and Romanticism (capital R) have shaped our modern (western) understanding of gender and sexuality and romance and attraction and it taught me so much about how we got here and how we might be able to disentangle from it.
i'm gonna take some time to reflect on the book and might expand more on my thoughts later but for now i can only highly highly recommend it
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“this character isn’t aro” oh yeah? then why are they wearing green?
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arguablysomaya · 2 years
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for the girlies that don't know wtf is goin on
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roseverdict · 7 months
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songs where the vocalist is declaring their love for somebody and they're not specific about what kind of love it is or for whom, but society as we know it tends to make the love be implied romantically by default so you kinda have that hanging over you whenever you hear it: 😕😕😕
recontextualizing those songs to be about your parental blorbo of choice singing to/about their kids and/or vice versa: 😯‼️❗‼️🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
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saturnspeaks154 · 1 month
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I somehow almost completely forgot about my boy juggie but
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CW straightwashed him so hard 💔
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being aro is so funny like i remember being in junior high and hearing my classmates bragging about being in relationships and just thinking that dating at our age was pointless bc none of us had any money to go places on a date
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t0xicp0sitivity · 6 months
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screeching screeching screeching screeching screechcing screehcign screechigngg schrechring
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spacedykez · 9 months
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THEY HATE ME FOR MY ARO SWAGGER
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alonetogethermp3 · 1 year
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Whoever first said "why fall in love when you can fall out boy" I owe you my life
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hushgore · 8 months
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im aro, i don't want gay romance, i want two men in a shitty old car, they're late 20s and they've seen some shit, they know better than to act on their shared homicidal ideation; they're violent people but they're not stupid. they spent their respective days doing shit they don't like doing and they haven't talked since the driver picked up his passenger. its 11 at night, neither of them know where they're going, and they know it, they don't care. wherever they go they know a gas station will be there. the passenger reaches over and brushes his fingers along the back of the driver's neck, its not love, he just knows he'll get a good noise out of his companion, and he obliges, and it excites them both. they don't engage in affection willingly, but their lives suck and they want to make them better. they do this because they find safety in each other, because they let the other practice and try things on them. the passenger's hand rests on his driver's thigh, squeezing the rough fabric of his work pants. not a word is shared between them, not even a hot glance. the next few hours will be hot breath, teeth, stubble, and groans that sound like they're being pulled from dying men. they're violent men, but they know better than to seek hot wet flesh in the form of a corpse, when the other is so willing to give, but only in exchange for the same back.
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aroreanimator · 2 years
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i like seeing aros who have totally different experiences with attraction and relationships <3 rejoice in a diversity of perspectives and a collaborative and respectful community
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