#asepc things

[the-siren-in-your-fridge]

For anyone who’s aspec and doesn’t know what term to use for someone they like because “I don’t know if it’s a crush or a squish or something else” then worry not and use my chosen term: POI which stands for Person Of Interest. It’s literally just someone you’re interested in in some way and I generally don’t specify which way I find them interesting because eh sometimes I don’t know and it’s easier to say POI. It also makes them sound like a murder suspect or something if you’re into that lol

[merely-a-caricature]

Ace rings and Aro rings. What are they?

An ace ring is a black ring, usually worn on the middle finger of the right hand, that indicates you are on the asexual spectrum. An aro ring is the basically the same thing just white and worn on your left hand on the middle finger. Placement is important since other communities us rings to identify themselves. Many people on the spectrum don’t know about the rings, so it is often times a more personal symbol. Even if you never meet another ace or someone who knows about the rings, I still think it’s a nice step of personal acceptance and way to display yourself! It’s just a really neat way to embrace your ace-ness and/or aro-ness!

Some people go with plain black and plain white., but others like their rings with a little bit more to them. Some people might go out even further and get rings that are dragon-like. The meaning of this is explained in this post of mine. There are even rings out there with the ace of spades (and other suits) which the meaning of that is explained in one of my previous posts. There are also cool rings out there that are less subtle that have the aro flag colors, ace flag, colors, and the sunset aroace flag. Overall, just the normal ace ring, a black ring with embellishments, and any other ace symbols are used by people! People have all sorts of different rings that fit within the aro/ace ring vibe.

Feel free to reblog and get this info out there! ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ

[duaghterofstories]

You know, me being aromantic would explain why I never understood any of the relationship drama, even when I know I should.

[astrangerthatlovesyou]

If I coined an AVPD specific recipro romantic/sexual/platonic (I’d coin all) would anyone be interested in using it?

[house-of-slayterr]

Happy Valentines Day! 🫀

As someone who somewhere on the Asepc spectrum (still figuring out), a reminder that Valentines is the holiday of “Love” and that means something different to everyone.

You can still enjoy today if you don’t feel romantic or sexual or any other type of love for that manner. You can use today to spend time with family, friends, caregivers, queer platonic partners…

As much as media makes it seem, this holiday doesn’t have to be just about Shagging and snogging. Go out there and cuddle your mates, but yourself a treat or go do some selfcare.

Self love is just as important on this holiday too! You’re not broken if you don’t want to have a partner. Or do stereotypical “couple” things. Love is what you make of it, so make it work for you, not the other way around!

Shout out to all my other Aspecs struggling with this holiday! You’re not alone and we’re in this together! Go out and be nice people today! I love each and everyone one of you!

[thatlittlegendergremlin]

I adore aspecs that experience attraction without a labels

I adore aspecs that experience no attraction in any form

I adore aspecs that experience attraction to a very small amount of others

I adore asepcs that use the word love

I adore aspecs that get creative when expressing fondness or attraction

I adore aspecs that get excited about being aspec

I adore aspecs that are confused by attraction and/or the lack of it

I adore aspecs that redefine what things mean

I adore aspecs

[murphs-laptop]

relationships

Zenigata: Very much a father figure. They help him out on cases especially with the computer side of things, and they are rather close. Yata: Sibling rivalry vibes. Competing on who can solve cases, minor pranks and lot of casual making fun of eachother. But the two of them are always watching eachother's backs, and get pretty protective. Lupin: Online friends, text a lot back and forth. Lupin is a pretty bad influence, sometimes a little irritating to Murphy but fun and exciting to be around. Jigen: They have a mutual understanding of eachother. asepc solidarity. Very chill and laid back. Sometimes on truces they work on cars together. But sometimes Murphy will just call Jigen up late at night and talk things out. Goemon: Murphy feels very comfortable with Goemon. Enjoying hanging out and showing him things he probably has never seen before. They help him with tech and Goemon teaches them about traditional things. Fujiko: Murphy finds her slightly intimating at times, and is not always sure what to say to her. So out of all of them they are the least close. But occasionally they do get along over common interests.

[angel-cakies]

Alas, the apopsies may consider your argument “much like” against aros and aces that utterly despise the fact that they are male, female, asepcs bi, asepcs pan, poly aspecs, and so on. Me. a homophobic controversy. argument. What's up? You say with a loving wife loving her boyfriend, he is not "not lgbtq +" even though he is an ace? Have you heard yourself say these things? Anyone can continue like this to hide, he forbids.

~🍊capy🍊

[a-grayscale-galaxy]

Favorite lgbt+ books?

On the list for favorite question ever asked of me? Perhaps?

Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Sañez (mlm gay, set in Texas in the 70s, happy ending, it’s a classic babey)

Heartstopper by Alice Oseman (mlm with background wlw and trans characters!!! Set in the UK) ((it’s an ongoing webcomic, with can be read on tumblr or webtoon, but the first three volumes can be bought in physical copies))

Leah on the Offbeat (and Love, Simon, ofc) by Becky Albertalli (wlw sequel to love Simon!! It’s so good and I adore it!! Bi girls in love as well as fat protagonist!!!)

They Both Die at the End by Adam Silvera (mlm tragedy with a little bit of Future Technology Magic, so ambiguously in the future)

Autoboyography by Christina Lauren (mlm with hopeful ending! Exploration of religion and the LDS church, if that’s not you’re thing, set in Utah)

Radio Silence by Alice Oseman (asepc gay-bi friendship, but mlm background romance as demi ace gay / gay! This is one of my favorites on this list)

I Wish You All The Best by Mason Deaver (nblm, happy ending, it is so good and I cried reading it)

Annie on my Mind by Nancy Garden (wlw set in around the 50s-60s? Maybe? Ambiguously unmodern but very lovely)

The Gentleman’s Guide to Vice and Virtue and The Lady’s Guide to Petticoats and Piracy by Mackenzi Lee (historical mlm and aroace respectively, set in 1800s Europe, I Hate This Abusive Family so I’m leaving)

How to Make a Wish by Ashley Herring Blake (all Ashley Herring Blake novels are icons, but this one is Very Good. wlw, set in the early 2000s or around there?)

I have more but I have to go to dinner! LGBTQ fiction wins though!!

[corelliaxdreaming]

pride month questionnaire!! 1, 2, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 12, 13, 14, 16, 17, 18, 24, 26, 28, 29, and 30

1. what is your sexuality? Asexual, specifically gray ace 2. what do you identify as? Aroace/gray aroace 4. do you have any preferences? You said I could say preferences on literally anything, but I’m gonna do something pride-realted. So, aspec headcanons! I’ve noticed that I tend to more often write Tycho and arospec and Wedge as acespec, though I’m totally open to either being either/both. 5. share a positive memory about coming out! Gotta be when I finally wrote out a long email explaining everything and sent it to my grandma, and when we talked after, she told me she’d discussed it with my grandpa and he said “not everybody feels that sort of thing.” So just, shocking grandpa coming in with the understanding!! 6. how do you feel about pride month? I’m having kind of a hard time with it currently becuase there’s so much going on in the world, but I think it’s great overall, and I look forward to celebrating many more. 7. do you participate in pride related events? any other events? I guess not a lot? I’ve been to an ace group a couple of times, but that’s about it. I definitely want to do actual pride events in the future, y’know, when everything isn’t cancelled. 8. how do you feel about lgbtqa roles in media? There needs to be more of them! Especially more aspec stuff, especially more aro stuff. And please please textual qprs! 9. do you feel pride in who you are? Pride is still a bit hard, but I think I’m pretty well along the road of acceptance, at least. :) 10. who has been your supportive idols in your self discovery? @aphorisnt @aphorisnt @aphorisnt best queer mentor!!! It was her asking me “do you think you might be on the asexual spectrum?” that got the ball rolling for me at all. 12. what sort of advice to have you lgbtqa teens? Something like don’t feel pressured to fit into a certain group. You don’t have to be straight or cis or allo just because it seems like “everyone” else is. There are people out there like you, and though the journey may be hard, you will find happiness and acceptance. 13. have you come out to friends and family? I’m out to my closest friends and family, so a handful of people. All the ones who really matter to me. 14. how do you feel about the term “coming out”? I don’t mind it. 16. any tips on coming out? If I could advise my past self, I’d say don’t put it off because you’re afraid of how it might go. I was lucky enough that it went very well, and I spend a lot of extra time agonizing over it that I didn’t need to. 17. what’s your biggest pet peeve when it comes to lgbtqa characterization in media? Aromantic people basically not existing. Ace people not existing outside of books. 18. what’s your favorite parts of lgbtqa characterization in media? When actual identity words are used (asexual, aromantic, bi, pan, etc). I respect that some real people prefer not to use labels, but especially in the case of asepc identities, a lot of readers/viewers aren’t going to know that’s what’s going on unless it’s spelled out. And it makes it impossible for bigots to insist it isn’t there to begin with. 24. how do you feel about the term “queer”? I like it and freely use it for myself. 26. favorite lgbtqa actor/actress? Can I say IDK about actors and replace it with every aspec author to ever write an own voices book? 28. what’s the most annoying question you have ever gotten? Dear jesus. I mentioned aromanticism to a coworker today (at the time in the context of a character rather than myself) and got both “is that like objectophilia?” and “is it because they love themselves too much?” *massive eyeroll* 29. how do you feel about receiving questions about your sexuality/idenity? I don’t mind them all as long as they’re respectful and well-intentioned. 30. what is your romantic affiliation? I’ve been assuming heteroromantic (and heterosexual), but the longer I identify as aspec, the more I wonder if I’m really just not attracted to anyone at all of any gender.

[ace-and-aro-wlw-positivity]

Hello, hello! We’d like to announce the start of a new project! We here dedicate ourselves to posting positivity for all things aro/ace/aspec/wlw (and more tbh). But what creates more positivity than seeing actual creative content supporting/showcasing these orientations? So, we have decided to start sharing and supporting just that!

If you make creative content that supports/shows/is aspec/wlw or any combination of that, please submit it to us or tag #aspecwlwspotlight! We will post/reblog it!

Ideas of what you could create and submit/tag Art (traditional and digital) Poetry Aesthetics/Moodboards Stories (personal or fictional) Playlists/Songs And so so much more

Rules Aspec and/or wlw related Tag any triggering content No hate or exclusion It doesn’t have to be positive in nature!

The muns ourselves will create similar content along with you all! We want this to build a supportive community and to showcase others lovely works. Please have as much fun and joy as possible making these things! I know we will enjoy seeing them.

tl;dr: We have opened up our submit box and started the tag  #aspecwlwspotlight for people to send creative content that's asepc/wlw related. Because we all need more of it in the world!

-Mod Peachie

[melodylamb]

Why do people not consider ace to be a part of LGBTQ? I understand if you don't answer, if you want to avoid discourse on your blog

i would say it’s for two main reasons, one they don’t believe that asexuality/aromanticism is an orientation, but rather a modifier, and two they don’t believe that aspecs face oppression/discrimination for being aspec.

that’s not true at all though. people argue that asexuality isn’t a sexual orientation because it describes how one experiences attraction, not to whom. however, asexuality at its core, with no use of the split attraction model, means to not experience any attraction to anyone regardless of gender, kind of like a reverse pan. people also have the misconception that asexuality is just “not wanting to have sex” which is just ridiculous.

aspecs also do face oppression for being aspec, experiencing much of the same experiences that other lgbtq+ people do. asexuality was considered a disorder until only recently, and if one comes out as asexual there’s still a high possibility they’ll be thought of as having something physically or mentally wrong with them. asepcs can be kicked out of their homes for being aspec, can experience conversion therapy, can face abuse and assault for being aspec, can experience corrective rape/assault, as well as other nasty things. 

[pancaeleste-moving]

🌌 hi! i'm rune! welcome to space gender hell™ 🌌

this is a blog for collecting genders and other identity terms related to space, stars, night, aliens, etc. in one place!

i'm probably going to do a lot of searching at the beginning of this blog to get older posts on here and then i'll also reblog new genders and maybe try to make some.

you can also send me stuff and tag me! i don't bite, promise.

🌌 about 🌌

• rune, 19, white, tyke

• im a system (median, i think) and i'm working on setting up a thing for that.

• they/them or xe/xem overall

• all nonbinary in general.

• mostly aro, varying ace-specness. "aceflux" to the unknowing eye. ply gay in nonromantic attraction/s.

• a lot of us are elven among some other things.

• i got that wack adhd

• im an astrophysics student!

🌌 don't interact if 🌌

ofc, i can't stop you reading this blog, or using the genders on here. your gender is your gender, even if you are a dick. but don't put yourself in my notifications if you're:

• a terf, "gender critical", or use/support the term vixenamoric

• a transmed, trumed, or truscum

• an aspec or mspec exclusionist, conditional exclusionist, or do any kind of asepc or mspec gatekeeping

• anti-mogai, anti-neopronouns, anti-neolabels, etc.

• against pronoun nonconformity (i.e. anti-he/him lesbian etc.) or gender nonconformity in general

• think censoring queer identity is okay, or are gonna tag my posts with #\q slur or similar (for reference, i'm tagging it as #\queer)

• are a pedo / map / nomap (piss off u nonces)

• write/draw/animate etc. porn of children/incest/abuse (real OR fictional)

• enjoy/get off to porn of children/incest/abuse (real OR fictional)

• support people who do any of the above three

• are against non-traumagenic or non-did/osdd systems just living their lives and existing. 1. descartes would like a word with you and 2. get off my blog or i'll rub my filthy praesigen hands on all your socks

• (not really dni but) if you use "gay" on it's own to mean only mlm, make posts with lesbian and "gay" (mlm) flags only, use the rainbow as an mlm only flag, or otherwise shut any non mlm gay people out of our own damn word. signed, a very gay nblw/nblnb. y'all are trash.

that said, this blog will be (hopefully) entirely discourse free

🌌 have a good time! 🌌