#assigned gender

[phantasm-masquerade]

Stop fucking erasing intersex people to make your arguments. Stop perpetuating the colonialist, intersexist, exorsexist, transphobic sex binary by replacing traditional "male" and "female" with "AMAB" and "AFAB".

Here's some facts that you should not ignore:

not all people AMAB have (or were born with) a penis, testicles, or prostate.

not all people AFAB have (or were born with) a vagina, clitoris, or uterus.

not all people were either AMAB or AFAB.

there are trans women and transfeminine people who were AFAB but still undergo a feminizing transition.

there are trans men and transmasculine people who were AMAB but still undergo a masculinizing transition.

there are trans and cis people AFAB who need and/or use estrogen (and related) hormone therapy.

there are trans and cis people AMAB who need and/or use testosterone hormone therapy.

the reason that intersex people don't fit into the TMA/TME framework is that this framework was built by people who hate us.

the way AGAB framework is used by perisex people is fundamentally intersexist.

Stop fucking calling people (C)AMAB(s) or (C)AFAB(s) as a noun. AGAB is not a noun.

[enderdrive]

an overwelming majority of women that commit crimes are cis, that should explain my views on cis "people".

[achronichome]

Almost seven months ago, the topic of my granddaughter's first birthday came up. I said, offhand, to my daughter-in-law, "Yeah, and when she's digging up handfuls of cake and shoving them into her face, you'll be heavily pregnant with her brother."

A couple months after that, my daughter-in-law and son announced they were having another baby.

Yesterday, my daughter-in-law brought home the latest ultrasound pictures.

Guess who's psychic. *ahem*

[drmajalis]

Hypothetical question: In a society where babies are not arbitrarily assigned gender and just left to develop whatever gender they fit into, would terms like "trans" and "cis" lost all relevant meaning? If there are no "assigned genders" then nobody transitions, and, nobody stays the gender they were assigned, because they weren't assigned one?

[soong-type-notinuse]

throwback to episode 13 where i talk about agab language.

[n0thingiscool]

I was just talking to my coworker about this. Spending all that time, money, and sometimes risking lives to throw an identity on your kid they might not agree with. I feel like anyone who throws gender reveal parties at this point in time is just being openly transphobic.

[astraltrickster]

ngl I'm not a fan of how the very necessary discussion of how autistic girls (and many poc for that matter, not that we usually remember this) often end up masking hard due to the pressure to "be ladylike" or "not be too angry" and therefore end up being seen as "very polite" and "mature for your age" and so on and so forth is morphing into being less about how social pressures may impact how autism presents and more about saying "so there's Girl Autism and there's Boy Autism and Girl Autism makes you nice and polite and pleasant but Boy Autism makes you gross and annoying and rude and offputting and no it's not ableist at all to say that being overly excitable or trying to get a turn to talk when you don't know when your turn is or struggling with arbitrary rules is rude and annoying because Girl Autism exists uwu"

[awildtei]

Kevin is my lil wildcard. He's aroace. He's gay and in love with Aaron. He's gay and in love with Andrew. He's gay and in love with Neil. He's gay and in love with Jean. He's gay and in love with Jeremy. He's gay and in love with Andrew and Neil. He's gay and in love with Jean and Jeremy. He’s straight and in love with Allison. He's bi and in love with any of the above. He's bi and aro but it takes him a long time to realize it because he's with Thea and they seem to feel the same way about each other so clearly that is what being in love feels like. He’s only into casual sex. He’s incapable of being casual about sex. He's genderqueer. He's cis but likes being called princess. He’s straight but has such intense relationships with men (Andrew, Neil, Jean, Riko) that he spends years questioning his sexuality. He's ace and biromantic. He’s queer but his head hurts if he tries to figure out exactly what that means. He’s a shapeshifter that changes depending on my mood, but every version of him makes complete sense to me.

[transvarmint]

Also, on the topic of AGAB.

AGAB is intended to be a verb in the past tense. "Assigned" is a verb (action), "at birth" is a time period (past-tense). It is something that was done to you, not something you currently are.*

I am not, currently, "assigned female at birth". I was assigned female at birth. I am currently a man. I am no longer AFAB. That was something that was done to me in the past, against my will. It is not part of who I am, and it says absolutely nothing about me.

And I sure as hell am not "an AFAB". If you use someone's assigned gender as a noun**, that is no different than just calling someone "a male" or "a female" directly. Yes this includes calling someone a "theyfab". It makes you a transphobe and bioessentialist, full stop.

*If you want to consider yourself, personally, as still currently being "assigned [gender] at birth", that's your prerogative. That's a personal choice. We personally distinguish identifying as your assigned gender as different from using AGAB terms as an identity label, but that's a semantic thing and I don't really care how you choose to label yourself. The "you" here is a general you.

**Obviously we know not everyone's first language is english and that acronyms can be very confusing in their usage. The point of this post is not to be the grammar police. The point is to make the case that we should not be using AGAB terms to label and categorize people. AGAB terms were intended to be a shorthand way to explain whatever gender was assigned to you when you were born. To use them to categorize people in the present is ironically repeating the process of arbitrarily assigning someone a label against their will.

[miraclemaya]

i feel like idk do people think being transgender is like an innate quality. like transness exists in relation to transphobia. if transphobia did not exist un anyway shape or form transness wouldn't be like a real thing. because there would be no structures in place to enforce assigned gender hell gender would not be assigned. like it wouldn't exist.

[theeretblr]

hi, i saw your recent ask and i was wondering. how do you build an androgynous/femme outfit? especially for AMAB people who tend to have a more rectangular body shape.

thanks in advance!!

I think being able to separate clothing from gender is an important part of being able to present how you want to present.

Of course, there is a lot of cultural pressure around certain pieces of clothing being associated with certain gender presentations. However, I find that clothing is not the main thing that helps me with androgyneity. For me, that would be shapewear in the form of hip pads, butt pads (these are basically boxer shorts with inserts for specifically shaped pads), and breast forms.

Here is how I present most days I go out compared with a more masc look:

The main differences between these are the makeup and the shapewear for the femme look. Otherwise, the cargo pants are the same, and the vneck t-shirts are the same brand.

[sapphsorrows]

trans is an inherently spiritual belief. you believe that somehow, in an unfalsifiable way, you were born the wrong gender. i don't have to believe that. i have freedom of religion, and therefore freedom from religion. i am an atheist. i don't believe in god. i don't believe in weird spiritual gender woo. expecting me to refer to your spiritual gender instead of your biological sex is like expecting me to pray to your god and getting mad when i don't. sorry not sorry <3 i only care about material reality.

[mayasaura]

so fucking funny to me when people talk about tlt setting like everyone in the whole society is sorted into being either a necromancer or a cavalier. like yes necromancy is an inborn trait. but cavalier? that's a wholeass job. that's a career. assigned butler at birth

[runespoor7]

I feel like JC has some weird gender shit going on. Not even in the normal sense; in the ‘assigned ruined woman by the narrative’ sense. Like. Wow. JC, you really gonna get called childhood sweethearts with your rogueish evil shixiong? JC, you really gonna be left alone with naught but a single child, a widow in all but name? Wangji is out there trying to assign himself widower vibes but JC is getting constant woman scorned and wronged wife energies forced upon him from get-go.

Even his father was like *looking at an eight year old* “I see my nagging wife in you”

THAT'S WHAT I'VE BEEN SAYING

his parents really took a glance at that toddler and decided to project the most unhinged gender possible on him. JC, assigned neglected wife at birth.

JC performs it so conscientiously too! It's so so so important to how he is with WWX and how he views himself. 9yo JC after he's known WWX: "there he is. the cad that will break my heart." and can't ever everrrrrr stop loving WWX or break away from the utter grip WWX has on him. JC has known since before WWX came into his life that he was made to be neglected/scorned, by the person supposed to stand by his side and to whom he's supposed to be loyal.

Also lmao at the left with a child thing. It's totally that, except JC WISHES he was a widow!!! He's not even granted that dignity by society! But nah he's the ruined woman who was seduced and abandoned by someone who promised her marriage and then went off and died after making her look for a fool, while she was making excuses for him, and everyone knows what a chump JC was for it! Was WWX lying all along? Was is ever even real ?

(JC gets the answer to that question when WWX breaks it off at the temple by telling him nah, it was only duty to JC's family that made stick by JC's side. Probably not how WWX meant it! But wow, way to put it the least personal possible way. WWX's most intimate organ in JC's body had nothing to do with feelings for JC or JC as a person. Way to make sure JC never, ever reaches out for fear of being that nagging, clingy, shrewish, needy embarrassment of a person)

[scrawnytreedemon]

some picked-mins i doodled, alone in a server vc :}

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

watched Grease the other night with my buddy and. well. obviously i Had To