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manincaffeine · 7 months
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you replied so fast” my fault i’ve developed an emotional attachment to you
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theambitiouswoman · 7 months
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Emotionally healthy people are quitters ✨
Emotionally healthy people are quitters. They make choices that align with their well being. Quitting a relationship, partnership or job that makes you unhappy is a sign of self awareness. If someone stays in something bad for too long, it's not because they're strong, but because they're afraid or have low self esteem. Being emotionally healthy means having awareness, setting boundaries, and knowing when it's time to move on from situations that no longer serve you. It's about prioritizing your mental and emotional health over sticking with something that's causing you harm or making you unhappy.
Emotionally healthy people also tend to have good communication skills. They express their feelings and needs calmly, openly and honestly. They also look for guidance and enlightenment because they understand that seeking help is a sign of strength not weakness.
They make decisions out of self love rather than attachment or fear. When you prioritize loving yourself, you make choices that align with your happiness and growth, rather than staying in situations out of comfort or insecurity.
Recognizing when you have an unhealthy attachment or that your feelings may not be conducive to your well being is important. It allows you to take a step back, evaluate the situation objectively, and make choices that are in line with your best interests.
Sometimes holding on can lead to more pain and struggle than necessary. It's a sign of emotional maturity to recognize when a situation is no longer good for you and to have the strength to let it go.
Things that are genuinely right for you should not cause you harm or emotional pain. Choosing pain is a sign of a lack of self love. Recognizing the need for change, prioritizing self love, and making healthier choices is how you begin to change your life.
Reframe your mindset from “this is hurting me because I love it” to “this is hurting me because I do not love me.”
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piendoll · 27 days
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It is hard resisting being so clingy and begging for constant attention. But I know it is wrong. But. I still yearn so badly for their complete attention. It is so hard not talking to them and giving them space. All I do is wait for their attention.
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hamoodmood · 2 months
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shamebats · 10 months
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My brain doesn’t work the way capitalism wants it to. I crave a ton of closeness and quality time. I cook more and eat better when I have a partner to feed. I’m happier and more functional when there’s someone around to remind me to go on a walk and take a shower. My deepest, most abiding fantasies involve weaving my own life into a partner’s to a non-normative degree.[...] My longing for closeness borders on the transgressive. And I am disabled by society’s expectation that I do absolutely everything on my own.
- from Thoughts on Jessica Fern’s Polysecure by Devon Price.
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vilea777 · 7 days
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the root of all pain is attachment
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mochixkisses · 22 days
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why do i feel like i need you so much? i really do. i need you. it drives me crazy.
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furiousgoldfish · 1 year
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are you the ‘once I get people close to me I will do everything to keep them happy and to keep them from abandoning me’ or ‘people are temporary and I’m ready to drop them at the moment’s notice or ready to be dropped because this can’t last’ type of neglected kid
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hexamore · 1 month
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doeyedangel · 3 months
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slivincptsd · 11 months
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manincaffeine · 6 months
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i don't know why attachment issues is so normalised. it's honestly one of the worst things to have, craving someones affection so much to the point you feel nothing without them, depending your mood on theirs, or romantising a future with someone you just met just because they start being nice or talking to you. it's so draining and so hard to disattach yourself from them try not to confuse "attachment" with "love." Attachment is about fear and dependency, and has more to do with love of self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love because it isn't about what others can give you because you're empty.
It is about what you can give others because you're already full.
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theambitiouswoman · 8 months
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Attachment Styles in Relationships
Attachment styles are the ways people feel and act in relationships, based on their early experiences with parent or guardian. There are four main types:
Secure Attachment:
Healthy: Feeling comfortable with your partner and being able to share your feelings and needs openly. Trusting them and supporting each other without feeling overly worried about the relationship.
Unhealthy: Becoming overly dependent on your partner, feeling anxious or upset if they spend time away, or constantly seeking reassurance and validation.
Anxious Attachment:
Healthy: Expressing your emotions and needs to your partner, and valuing emotional closeness. Feeling secure when your partner reassures you and staying connected during difficult times.
Unhealthy: Constantly worrying about your partner leaving you, feeling jealous and possessive, or becoming too clingy and demanding in the relationship.
Avoidant Attachment:
Healthy: Valuing your independence and personal space while still being supportive and caring toward your partner. Understanding your emotions and expressing them in a balanced way.
Unhealthy: Pushing your partner away emotionally, avoiding discussions about feelings or conflicts, or being emotionally distant and unavailable.
Disorganized Attachment:
Healthy: Recognizing and addressing past traumas, working on building trust and emotional stability.
Unhealthy: Reacting impulsively or unpredictably in relationships due to unresolved traumas, struggling with forming and maintaining deep emotional connections, or experiencing extreme emotional highs and lows.
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whatsleftofdishaa · 2 months
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Ye jo mujhe bin baat logon se attachment ho jati hai na ek din yehi meri maut ka karn bnegi.
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abusedpixie · 10 months
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“𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐬?“
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𝐖𝐡𝐨’𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫?...𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫𝐬
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7nvk · 1 year
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nothing makes you more thirsty for affection than an emotionally absent father
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