#avoidingpain

[aicollider]

Deities of Sami Mythology discuss Brave New World (Aldous Huxley)

Title: Mythical Book Club: A Discussion on Brave New World Setting: A cozy room with a table adorned with a teapot, tea cups, and cakes. The Deities of Sami Mythology gather around the table, all eager to discuss Brave New World by Aldous Huxley. Characters: 1. Thor – The mighty god of thunder and strength. 2. Freya – The goddess of love, beauty, and fertility. 3. Máttaráhkká – The goddess of…

[zenwords]

[troubledontlast1]

Life does not get better so long as we avoid the pain that spurs us to evolve. We do not develop emotionally, because we block out our feelings rather than bear them. We cannot become fluent in intimacy, because we keep ourselves hidden. We do not become confident, because we duck challenges rather than do the kind of work that instills self-worth. There are no shortcuts to life's bounty.🔥Follow my 29K Twitter account👉🏾@troubledontlast👈🏾for more🔥There are no shortcuts to any place worth going. ・・・ You can't expect to grow stronger when you avoid hard stuff. I have never met someone who has said, "I'm thankful I took all those shortcuts in my life. Best move I ever met." #takingshortcuts Quick fixes may be useful in the short term, the hard work pays for a life worth living. #quickfixes The situations in your life that cause you pain will not go away. They only come back in new and improved packaging until you deal with them. #noquickfixes In life, what you really want will never come easy. #shortcuts Don't sacrifice your future dreams at the altar of instant gratification. ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ 🔥Follow my IG/Twitter/Snap👉🏾@troubledontlast👈🏾for more🔥 Turn On Post Notification Like/Comment/Share/Save Comment what you think is missing . . Follow: YouTube👉🏾@my_daily_bible👈🏾 Podcast👉🏾@upliftpastcrossroads👈🏾 YouTube👉🏾@upliftwithdrj👈🏾 . . 👤 Tag a friend who would like this page ⬇️ ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ Avoiding your triggers isn't healing. Healing happens when you're triggered and you're able to move through the pain, the pattern, and the story and walk your way to a different ending. #faceyourwounds Pretending to be savage won't heal that hole in your heart baby! #confrontyourwounds There are no quick fixes in your life. If you want to live a happier life you have to make your actions happier every day. You need to be determined to make your life better if you want it to be so. #avoidingpain Maybe you're not healing because you're trying to be who you were before the trauma, that person doesn't exist anymore, because there's a new you trying to be born. Breathe life into that person. #healfromyourwounds (at Mount Juliet, Tennessee) https://www.instagram.com/p/B_XuAOcl1yg/?igshid=1runts7c1rvk7

[thementalmisfit]

Late

Sometimes I forget how long it’s taken to shift and twirl my mind around the fact that I am not alone. I forgot - somewhere along the ride - that I am capable of loving, of being loved, of just being happy. I am late to me. Late to understand who I can become, who I was and why I no longer am that person. 

[zenrosegarden]

[VIDEO OF THE MOMENT] If So Many People Are Spiritual, How Come They're So Messed Up?

How To Be Spiritual By Avoiding Pain & Suppressing Emotions, Spiritual Bypassing

http://zenrosegarden.com/bBvvrdx0Gxw

In this video we discuss spiritual bypassing and how to be spiritual. We often try to be spiritual by avoiding pain and suppressing emotions, suppressing anger and other suppressed feelings that don’t FEEL spiritual. Unfortunately, this causes a cognitive dissonance within our minds that is not conducive to living an authentic life. To be authentic we need to stop the habit of escapism, stop suppressing anger symptoms, start dealing with emotions and finally unearth our authentic self.

By the time you are done with this video you will know the best steps to achieve authenticity in your life!

BE SURE TO watch to the end for the companion meditation to this video to keep you grounded and centered: GUIDED MEDITATION FOR HEALING SELF DOUBT & FINDING COURAGE IN BEING AUTHENTIC.

Watch This Video If You Want To Learn About:

* Spiritual Bypassing, Cognitive Dissonance

* Suppressing Emotions, Suppressing Anger, Suppressing Anger Symptoms, Avoiding Pain, Suppressed Feelings

* Dealing With Emotions, Avoiding Escapism

* How To Be Spiritual Without Religion

* How To Be Authentic, Living An Authentic Life, Authentic Self, Authenticity

[thementalmisfit]

Unavailable for love

I´ve learned to be happy on my own. For a long while it´s been me, my pets and sometimes my family. At some point I just stopped relating to falling in love and feeling loved as part of a couple. I gave up and embraced loneliness, it felt good and comfy. 

It´s been two years and a half since I´ve been in a relationship, the last time I even got close one was last year during May. It didn´t happen. He said he didn´t want to hurt me and felt he would over time. I think that´s bs. Next month he got back together with his heartbreaker exgirlfriend. 

Now, almost a year after no interest in love or relationships comes along this one guy. Smart, polite, a good listener, considered and caring. I know I like him and I have a certain amount of interest in him. One day, out of nowhere after a long conversation about how he felt a lot of love related stuff for this misterious girl, he sends me a poem written by himself and tells me I am the mistery girl. Excited, nervous and giggly, I admit to have feelings for him too. We start dating, sword of, because... duh, quarantine.

But there´s this enormous amount of information about me that he has never gotten access to. This information is basically my past, my love incapacity, fears and desires. I know that before this grows into a-bigger-more-serious-thing, he needs to know, because it´s part of his freedom to have access to information about his partner. It wouldn´t be fair not to give him this information. I know that, everyone does. You know it too.

And so, I question his loving capacity. It is no longer my incapacity the one keeping me from opening up to him. It´s that I don´t know if he´ll be able to love me in the future if he gets to know every part of me. Good, bad and soso. Excellent, faulty or meh. Maybe I´ll become unlovable once he knows. Maybe I wasn´t made for love...

[thementalmisfit]

First Impressions (tips if you need them)

Today my classes started. I am an anxious person and not too sociable. I am nice, kind, polite, talkative... but I don´t get people. I get frustrated easily when I start a new relationship of any kind, but I do like having friends. I am aware of my social distancing, I´ve been aware since I first started interacting with people. 

However, I try really hard to relate to everyone´s experiences in order to stablish things in common. Today, I am proud. I got through my entire schedule trying to make friends and even succeeding at times. I even got to be the class´s delegate. This means that the group chose to trust me and chose me as a helping hand. I really want to make friends, even though it´s difficult for me and this means a lot of effort, I know I can do it if I try. 

As I was saying, trying is part of succeeding. So I wanted to give you some tips on how I try to make my social anxiety go away and let myself connect to people.

1. Don´t make assumptions, they can blind you. Give people a chance, don´t judge the book by it´s cover. I know it´s easy to say it but difficut to do it. Takes practice!! Whenever you get judgy thoughts on people yoou just met, breathe and try to get to know them a bit better brfore making a decision.

2. Breathe deeply, don´t let your stress get the better of you. Four seconds in, 6 seconds out... Cheesy, but actually helps.

3. Smile, use a nice voice tone to achieve efficient communication. Don´t lock yourself out of the group. Ask some stuff (Do you like coffee? Are you reading something interesting?). Maybe you´ll get a date or a hang out in this very simple way!

4. Be approachable. Going back to the third tip, smiling and talking makes you look sociable and interested, so it may help a lot. Also your gestures say a lot of ourselves. Try not to cross your arms, to stand tall with your chin up, moving your hands while speaking, laughing a little. The more *chill* you look, the more you´ll be approachable.

Love.

[thementalmisfit]

... because that is an area in Paris where the sky is more valuable than the earth.

Julio Cortazar, Hopscotch, (1996)