#boundary

[thegirlthatcriesacademia]

I began to draw an invisible boundary between myself and other people. No matter who I was dealing with. I maintained a set distance, carefully monitoring the person's attitude so that they wouldn't get any closer. I didn't easily swallow what other people told me. My only passions were books and music.

— Haruki Murakami, Sputnik Sweetheart

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[sysboxes]

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[prettieinpink]

HOW TO START SETTING BOUNDARIES

1. Identify them and the reason why you want this boundary. Usually your boundaries are those that aligns with your needs or values.

e.g my boundary is people constantly swearing, because I’m a Christian and it conflicts with my beliefs

2. You would want to build boundaries in aspects of your life where you feel taken advantage of, tired, bitter etc.

Communicate these boundaries with others. They mean nothing if you fail to tell anyone them.

It is not your fault or responsibility to take care of others feelings if they’ve crossed a boundary. If they don’t accept your boundary, leave them alone.

3. Before you set any boundaries, be aware that the aftermath may not always be expected.

Not everyone is willing to follow your every boundary, even without malicious intentions. Thats okay, you can compromise, or ideally, just leave them alone.

4. There is going to be feelings of guilt after setting a boundary; That is completely normal.

Setting boundaries are uncomfortable, but they are necessary to our well-being. Having said that, not all of your boundaries will remain the same. You may become more hardcore, or more lenient, and that’s okay.

[t-hiswifey]

[positivelypositive]

🌵

setting boundaries...

...is the easy part. what's really difficult is making sure your loved ones respect those boundaries.

sometimes you know that even though a person cares for you deeply and only wants the best for you, they have trouble maintaining the boundaries that you've set.

while you don't need to lower your boundaries for anyone, it's better to remind such people again and again, why that is not ok. if they really care for you, they'll slowly learn to remember.

you can have boundaries and still be kind. you don't have to choose. be kind ✨

[vizthedatum]

If someone is having difficulty empathizing with you after repeated attempts of communicating and showing them how you want to be treated, then a boundary needs to be made.

It doesn't matter if the person is a good person or not.

This boundary can include saying "no" or changing the dynamics of your relationship (including ending the relationship).

You are not being cruel for having boundaries or pulling back your energy.

Do not enable behavior that hurts you, even if there are reasons for that behavior.

[hermajestyimher]

Be careful of those around you who wish to keep you in bondage to your unhealthy habits and toxic life choices. Misery truly does love company and many of the miserable hate nothing more than seeing those around them who used to be in the same low degree of sadness and despair choosing to do better for themselves.

Negging, gaslighting, or purpose sabotage, are all things that the miserable may try to do to keep those looking to get out of that state stagnated alongside them. That's why it's often those closest to us - family, "friends", colleagues - who feel the most attacked when they see us doing better. Our enemies are more often than not those who in theory should be the ones supposed to give us love, support, and who should put our best interests at heart, and not strangers.

Pay close attention to the way those in your circle react to seeing you improve yourself. If you're trying to get fit, do they purposely try to give you unhealthy foods to halt your progress? If you wish to go back to school, do they talk down on you and put limiting beliefs based on your age or past circumstances to keep you from making that choice? If you notice that they all of a sudden resent you because a new opportunity presented itself to you and are acting distant or hostile as result?.

Always look closely at the signs and accept people by the actions they show you, not their words. Remember that trying to sabotage you is also an act of boundary-crossing and a lack of respect. Assert yourself if you have to, and remove the miserable from your life.

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

People are aware of what they do honestly. Don’t be fooled.

[angelsemotes]

don’t copy me!

Unfortunately, someone brought to my attention an account that had blatantly copied my work. without asking for my consent nor crediting me for inspiration in the slightest. The emotes are the exact same color hexes and very clearly inspired. I don’t appreciate this at all, and i need that to be known. I am not and will not ever be okay with it.

if you see someone who is copying me please politely inform them of my boundaries if possible. Do not send hate to or harass them, but do make it known to them and alert me if possible.

[blood-moon-night-coining]

Random thing

Please do NOT, make subterms, alt flags (such as x atypical dysphoria), etc. based off my atypical dysphoria flag(link) or use my symbol(link). (Note using for things for things seen here(link) is fine, so like sexualities, genders, etc. REFERENCING it)

The things I made where made for AWARENESS, they are not something to be used for collection, they aren’t meant to share what types you have. Please use arissomei(link) terms for that type of thing.

I have seen someone on Pinterest do this, I won’t name the user, and I beg for people not to try to find the user. But I beg don’t use my flag or symbol for those types of things.

[PT: Random thing

Please do NOT, make subterms, alt flags (such as x atypical dysphoria), etc. based off my atypical dysphoria flag or use my symbol. (Note using for things for things seen here is fine, so like sexualities, genders, etc. REFERENCING it)

The things I made where made for AWARENESS, they are not something to be used for collection, they aren’t meant to share what types you have. Please use arissomei terms for that type of thing.

I have seen someone on Pinterest do this, I won’t name the user, and I beg for people not to try to find the user. But I beg don’t use my flag or symbol for those types of things. End PT]

[hexalt]

boundaries to consider from this post (you can read them in full there)

Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself, Nedra Glover Tawwab

IG: @punkbruja

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[pencilbrony]

BOUNDARY;

On the topic of games that I've been enjoying recently, Boundary (Agravity space shooting fps) has really nailed the niche of the 0 g, spaceship-esque, FPS that requires you to 360 noscope to do well. Highly recommended.

[skyexrose]

I would rather adjust my life to your absence, than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect. 🤌🏻