#come and hug me

[lurkingshan]

The Asian Drama Generational Trauma Challenge List 

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As @waitmyturtles has been making her way through her OGMMTVC I have been continuing to watch way too many dramas and thinking about the ones I want her to watch when she’s done with that project. And because I know Turtles, it’s always the dramas that feature themes around intergenerational trauma, filial piety, and lots of emotionally fraught interactions between parents and children that ping my “Turtles needs to watch this” radar. As I was mentioning the shows I wanted her to watch, Turtles joked that maybe I should make her a new challenge list that is focused on intergenerational trauma.

And if y’all haven’t learned this about me yet, you should know that I have no chill and absolutely will embark on a whole project because you make a stray comment in my direction. So here we are!

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I wanted this list to be inclusive of a broad range of Asian dramas, exploring how it shows up in different Asian countries and through both het and queer lenses, so I consulted quite a few friends. Shoutout to @wen-kexing-apologist, @so-much-yet-to-learn, @bengiyo, @shortpplfedup, @ginnymoonbeam, and @emotionallychargedtowel for helping me refine this list. We landed on the following criteria:

Modern dramas only—not necessarily current but set in a time period recent enough that we don’t have a whole additional set of social mores to layer on top

The drama explores intergenerational trauma, not just intergenerational dynamics (so shows like Reply 1988 that are very much about family but not necessarily trauma are not on the list)

Intergenerational trauma is a primary focus and a major theme of the drama, not a background theme, a surprise reveal, or just part of a character’s backstory to engender sympathy (waves goodbye to most chaebol romcoms)

We are using the word trauma in a broad sense here–a lot of the complex trauma featured in these shows would not meet the formal DSM diagnostic criteria as a Traumatic Event

We did apply a quality filter–the execution of the story needs to be good enough that the intergenerational trauma themes stay intact, even if the drama overall is not a total slam dunk

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Note also that this list is not chronological and there is no suggested watch order. I also do not recommend binging all of these dramas one after the other. Some of these shows are heavy and you’ll want to space them out. This is a challenge to complete over time!

I decided to share this on tumblr in case others are similarly weird and wanted to undertake this challenge with us. If any of you see this and decide to watch some of these, please tag me with your progress and thoughts! I have also linked each show’s MDL page so you can see the synopsis and general warning tags, but if you want specific content warnings for any of these shows, feel free to comment or message me.

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So after a lot of preamble…

Generational Trauma Challenge List

10 Years Ticket (Thailand, YouTube)

180 Degrees Longitude Passes Through Us (Thailand, Gagaoolala)

About Youth (Taiwan, Gagaoolala)

Bad Buddy (Thailand, YouTube)

Come and Hug Me (S Korea, Viki)

Flower of Evil (S Korea, Netflix or Viki)

GAP (Thailand, YouTube)

Go Ahead (China, Viki)

It’s Okay to Not Be Okay (S Korea, Netflix)

Khun Chai (Thailand, YouTube)

My Mister (S Korea, Netflix)

Our Dining Table (Japan, Gagaoolala)

SKY Castle (S Korea, Netflix or Viki)

Something in the Rain (S Korea, Netflix or Viki)

Until We Meet Again (Thailand, Viki or YouTube)

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Good luck, happy crying, stay hydrated, and please pace yourselves!

(Tagging friends @neuroticbookworm, @kyr-kun-chan, and @chickenstrangers who I have already discussed this with.)

[youknowihavenochingu]

Men in uniform kdrama edition 🔥🪖

Woo Do Hwan- The King Eternal Monarch

Ahn Bo Hyun- Military Prosecutor Doberman

Hyun Bin- Crash Landing On You

Kang Daniel- Rookie Cops

Lee Min Ho- Legend Of The Blue Sea

Jung Jinyoung- Police University

Jung Hae In- D.P

Song Joong Ki- Descendants Of The Sun

Jang Ki Yong- Come And Hug Me

Kim Seon Ho- Catch The Ghost

[dailyasiandramas]

[alihi]

You need to share your burdens, to lighten them - Hae Soo ( Moon Lovers: Scarlet Heart Ryeo)

Friday (February 10th) romance is a bonus book 🔖

a set inspired by your favourite quote or lyric [optional: from your favourite kdrama or original soundtrack]

[kdramaxoxo]

So girl ineed an agood kdrama

Hi anon!

These are some of my top favorite K-dramas in no order at all

(this includes older ones and some that are medium good but the OTPs are everything!!!)

Chicago Typewriter

Coffee Prince

Fight my way

Hogu's Love

Two Lights Relumino

Be Melodramatic

Because This is My First Life

Extracurricular

Happiness

Extraordinary You

Glitch

Healer

Oh My Ghost

Just Between Lovers

The Smile Has Left Your Eyes

The Best Hit

Shopping King Louie

Psychopath Diary

Flower of Evil

Come and Hug Me

More recent great K-dramas:

Run On

Glitch

Extraordinary Attorney Woo

Semantic Error

Soundtrack #1

Twenty Five Twenty One

Enjoy!

[whumpily-ever-after]

Whumptober2022 Day 9

No. 9: The Very Noisy Night: Tossing and Turning

✨Bangkok Love Story Plead episode 10

✨Come and Hug Me episode 17

✨Cupid's Last Wish episode 6

✨Hello Dear Ancestors episode 18

✨Killer and Healer episode 26

✨Let's Fight Ghost episode 5

✨Lovers of the Red Sky episode 3

✨Moorim School episode 9

✨Not Me episode 4

✨The Eclipse episode 7

✨The King's Affection episode 8

[grrrlsoverdramas]

grrrlsoverdramas’ GTKM: 10 Dramas to Define My Kdrama Preferences

(1) Cheesy Romance with a sprinkle of scifi/fantasy; (2) Ensemble casts in Heartwarming/Cathartic Workplace/School Slice-of-Life; (3) Case-of-the-Week with limited main-character conflicts; (4) Fun family dramas with popular/trendy actors; (5) Murdery Thriller with lots of crying/childhood trauma; (6) Modern Re-Telling of Traditional Korean Folklore; (7) Rag-tag found family and sentimental Coming-of-Age narratives; (8) Grief Romance with Hurt/Comfort/Codependency; (9) Corruption/Conspiracy-Centered Action-Comedy-Romance; (10) Tropey RomCom with a DASH of Jealousy

[a2whump]

🟠 Come and Hug Me (2018) - Whump List

Yoon Na Moo/Chae Do Jin

Played by: Jang Ki Yong

Episode 1:

Na Moo

Talking to the police. Crying. Shaking.

Do Jin

People afraid/espetikal of him at a job interview.

Cries in the train station.

Episode 3:

Na Moo

Protects Han Jae Yi and her dog (not really a whump, but yeah, he's kind of scared)

Cuts his hand.

Emotional talking about his mother.

Threatened by his father. Scared.

Episode 5:

Na Moo

Apologized on behalf of his brother. Nearly slapped.

Lets Soh Jin and his stepmother go. Crying. Left alone with his dad.

Do Jin

Wakes up crying.

Hurts his wrist training.

Episode 6:

Do jin

Reading his father book brought back memories. Suddenly opens his eyes. Drops the book. Scared.

Na Moo

Hit and pushed. Scared. Threatened. Visible cuts on his face.

Covered in blood. In shock. Crying.

Episode 7:

Na Moo

Pale. Concerned for Jae Yi. Attracts the attention of all the reporters.

Confronts his father to save Jae Yi.

Do Jin

Concerned for Jae Yi.

Angry.

Worried. Almost run by a cars.

Episode 8:

Do Jin

Starts getting looks and avoided by his peers.

Splashes his face with water to clear his mind/calm down.

Hallucinating. Punches a mirror.

Out of himself. More hallucinations.

Bloody bandage.

Na Moo

Covered in blood. In shock. Crying.

Episode 9:

Na Moo

Testifies in court.

Episode 10:

Do Jin

Gets eggs thrown at him. Shocked. Manhandled. Pushed. Scratch on his face.

Difficulty walking. Grabs his abdomen in pain. Heavy breathing. Crying.

Punched. Face bruised.

Angry.

Crying. More like, sobbing.

Covered in blood. Stumbling. Grabbing his abdomen. Bleeding out. Sweating. Difficulty breathing.

Episode 11:

Do Jin

Sweating.

Asleep. Wakes up exalted.

Slashed with a knife. Covered in blood. Stumbling. Pale. Sweating.

Admitts himself to the hospital. Falls asleep/unconscious.

Episode 12:

Do Jin

Wakes up in a hospital bed. Sweating. Stumbles trying to get up. Falls asleep.

Walking around the hospital with an IV. Grabs his abdomen. In pain. Sweating. Pale.

In shock. Distressed looking for Jae Yi. Grabbing his abdomen. In pain. Worried.

Hit with a stretcher. Fell down.

In pain. Supporting himself with a pillar. Bleeding out. Sweating. Heavy breathing.

Tearing up.

Peers concerned for him. Gets taken care of.

Asks his mom for a hug. Crying in his mom's arms.

Episode 13:

Na Moo

Throwing up. Pale. Nose bleeding.

Shaking. Tearing up.

Crying.

Cuts on his face. Pinned against the wall.

Do Jin

In pain. Difficulty standing.

Having traumatic flashbacks upon seeing a picture.

Urge someone to stab him.

Hand bandaged.

Episode 14:

Do Jin

Kinda jealous (not whump, but it was cute).

Concerned for Jae Yi.

Tearing up.

Shaking. Emotional.

Episode 15:

Do Jin

Worried for Jae Yi. Distressed. Crying.

Pale looking. Seems emotionally tired, probably for the way his trauma was brought up.

Sleeping. Waked up startled. Trying to hold his tears, but couldn't.

Emotional. Crying.

Na Moo

Begging his father not to hurt Jae Yi. Hit in the head by him.

Episode 16:

Do Jin

Received a call from his brother. Angry.

His brother tries to hit him with a hammer. Defends himself.

Episode 17:

Do Jin

Fights with his brother while trying to defend himself and Jae Yi. Sweating. Crying.

Stabbed. Weak. Bleeding out. Collapsed. Difficulty breathing.

Losing consciousness.

In surgery. Bleeding out. Falshback/dream: getting hit in the head by his father.

Unconscious in a hospital bed.

Waking up. Weak. Falling asleep again.

Running a fever. Sweating. Heavy breathing. Troubled.

Na Moo

Hit in the head by his father.

Episode 18:

Do Jin

Sleeping in a hospital bed.

Hand scratched.

Emotional while talking with his mom. Tearing up.

Angry.

Walking with an IV. Struggling. Heavy breathing. Supports himself with a door.

Tearing up while talking with Jae Yi.

Episode 19:

Do Jin

Still in the hospital. Tearing up while talking with Jae Yi.

Getting up while still injured. Grabbing his abdomen. Taking his IV out.

Heavy breathing. Supporting himself with the door frame. Pale. Sweating.

Walking around with his IV.

Episode 20:

Do Jin

Nervous. Thisty.

Worried for Jae Yi.

Episode 21:

Na Moo

Heavy breathing. Blood on his face.

Do Jin

Worried.

Episode 22:

Do Jin

Zoning out. Traumatic memories upon inspecting a crime scene.

Worried. Running towards Jae Yi to hug her. Anxious. Pacing around her house to check it.

Someone came at him with a hammer. Fought.

Episode 23:

Do Jin

Someone came at him with a hammer. Fought.

Hit in the shoulder with a hammer. Stumbling. Pretending to be fine.

Wincing. Hiding the pain. Saying he's ok.

Episode 24:

Do Jin

Annoyed. Jealous.

Concerned.

Na Mo

Tries to stop his father. Scared.

Episode 25:

Do Jin

Traumatic flashbacks. Zoning out. In shock. Tearing up.

Na Moo

Scared. Trying to protect Jae Yi. Kinda threatened.

[kactors-kpop-kdrama]

[aylinaliens]

Top five angst-with-a-happy-ending K-dramas!

angst with a happy ending is my FAVORITE i love it when a drama emotionally breaks me and then give me cute fluff at the end 🥰

1. Come and Hug Me

this drama truly has one of the most messed up plots out there. the FLs parents/brother were murdered by the MLs parents. i know what you’re thinking: how could this ever be a happy ending? well, there is. these two characters who went through literal hell together gets their happy ending and it’s WELL deserved. the journey is long and difficult and angsty. despite all of that the bond between the leads is actually the the sweetest thing ever. na mu and na moo were dealt the worst cards out there but they remained kind, loving, sweet, and caring. watching come & hug me felt like being punched and hugged at the same time.

2. Flower of Evil

this d r a m a. it’s so angsty and painful and intense. the FL and ML are already married & parents so the angst it delivers hits way harder. the FL is a homicide detective who, unbeknownst to her, marries a man with a dark dark past. she starts to investigate a string of murders that took place 15 years ago and starts to think that maybe her husband was the killer. the ML acts like perfect husband and father (his relationship with his daughter is so wholesome) but…is it real? or is it all pretend? flower of evil is full of pain and betrayal but it still manages to have a happy ending.

3. When the Camellia Blooms

the angst that WTCB gave us was unreal and so bittersweet but the ending was *chefs kiss*. dongbaek is a single mother who honestly is just trying to survive in a small town. she has to deal with prejudice and judgement at every turn. she ends up meeting youngshik, a police officer, who immediately falls head over heels. he’s so enchanted and amazed by dongbaek & is willing to raise her son. youngshik is a literal golden retriever so when things get angsty it HURTS. be aware that this does have a big side plot about a serial killer. it takes a lot of fighting and work for these two (three if you count her son). some of the side characters were infuriating but these two were cuties.

4. Just Between Lovers

yet another drama that feels like a punch to the face and a hug at the same time. this drama deals heavily with trauma and grief and survivors guilt. the FL and ML were both there as teens when the accident happened and lost people they loved. years later they cross paths and have to learn to navigate their feelings and trauma together. it’s angsty and a tearjerker but it’s also so sweet.

5. Thirty but Seventeen

Miss Shin Hyesun is the queen of angst with a happy ending trope (for the most part idk what happened with mr. queen). 30 but 17 is criminally underrated. when the FL is 17 she gets into an accident and is in a coma. the ML feels responsible for it so he closes himself off emotionally. 13 years later, the FL wakes up and crosses paths with the ML. neither remember each other though which leads to ✨angst✨. this drama is so heartwarming but also sad. it’s not as painful as the others but it certainly hurts. not only is it angsty but it also uses the cohabitation trope. it’s so cute GO WATCH THIS DRAMA EVERYONE.

Ask me my TOP FIVE anything

[youknowihavenochingu]

Most tragic couples in dramas

Hae Soo & Wang So- Moon Lovers Scarlet Heart Ryeo

Moo Young & Jin Kang- The Smile Has Left Your Eyes

Shin Joon Young & Noh Eul- Uncontrollably Fond

Grim Reaper & Sunny- Goblin The Lonely And Great God

Chae Do Jin & Han Jae Yi- Come And Hug Me

Seo Dan & Seung Joon- Crash Landing On You

Myung Hee & Hee Tae- Youth Of May

Lim Soo Hoo & Eun Yeong Ro- Snowdrop

Yi San & Deok Im- The Red Sleeve

Son Ogong & Jin Sun Mi- A Korean Odyssey

[yourann]

KDrama lines that made me go “🥲 and 😆” pt. 2

if you haven’t watch any of them, go ahead and check them out! :D

Come and Hug Me (2018) | 이리와 안아줘 Summer Strike (2022) | 아무것도 하고 싶지 않아 Welcome to Samdal-ri (2023) | 웰컴투 삼달리 My Dearest (2023) | 연인 The One and Only (2021) | 한 사람만 Celebrity (2023) | 셀러브리티 A Good Day to be a Dog (2023) | 오늘도 사랑스럽개

[psalm40speakstome]

many series/characters are good.

Some are absolute time in a bottle own a piece of your soul magic.

[kdramaxoxo]

Please let me go back in time and experience Fight My Way for the first time again

[whumpily-ever-after]

Whumptober2022 Day 12

No. 12: What Could Go Wrong? Alt Prompt: Protective

✨All of Us are Dead episode 6

✨Big Mouth episode 12

✨Come and Hug Me episode 23

✨Descendants of the Sun episode 3

✨Love Between Fairy and Devil episode 12

✨Lovers of the Red Sky episode 12

✨Mad Dog episode 6

✨The Blue Whisper episode 7

✨The King's Affection episode 8

✨The Romance of Tiger and Rose episode 6

[namjhyun]

Chae Jong Hyeop for DAZED Korea October 2022