#comhet

[endgameinthenorth]

Tom and Shiv business relationship moving forward imo, with marriage being part of that front. Shiv doesn't like to admit defeat and Tom needs a beard. That weak hand touching despite Shiv voting Tom through was like next level dead bedroom.

Tom and Greg bathroom scene I was shaking. I honest to god thought we'd get some angry Judas kiss. Matsson even called Greg Judas for God's sake.

The should have gone there, but like with Kendall and Stewy, they talk around it. Stewy says he's into weird sex and Kendall says Stewy kisses guys on molly and then Shiv's look?! All in one scene?!?! Excuse me while I scream!! The general audience? It's all words, forgotten without being explicitly seen on screen.

I have a lot of thoughts on how things should have properly played out, Tom and Greg have been one of the most endeared and talked about potential will they/won't they queer coded relationships in, maybe, almost ever... as representation in a show that isn't just about gay people and that aren't explicitly queer from near the get go, it would have been amazing. But we don't get nice things.

The ending for tomgreg?

Tom always knew Greg was a piece of shit. Despite their charged punch out in the bathroom he still wants him.

Tom claimed Greg as an "item" he wanted. That is just. I do love it, but it's subtle. As stated earlier he may need to "castrate" his pay, but he will be able to keep him. That was very important to Tom. I'm disappointed again at the callbacks to Nero's castration of Sporus but it's never explicitly stated, would have been so easy for either of them to actually draw the connection again by calling the other Nero/Sporus at the end of the series but the wider audience will simply never make the connection.

I want the next level CEO Tom and Greg fics, and more of Matsson calling them both sexy.

The show maybe could just continue without Kendall and Roman and I'd be fine, almost felt it set up with the old guard discussion on the moves to come...

[horrorsweetie]

You know figuring out sexuality is a Rollercoaster.

I'm a woman who was comfortable with the idea of being bisexual but still questioning.. but then a woman I haven't seen in like 9 years messages me about seeing each other and spending time together. Possibly helping me figure out if I am indeed attracted to women. I'm falling all over myself like I'm in a dumb romantic movie.

Then over the past 3 days I'm realizing I've never felt this strongly about a man. I don't think I've ever felt anything with men the more I think about it.

My first boyfriend was just the first guy to show my 15 year old self attention. He turned out to be a mistake but I was naive

My second was nice but I never felt a rush of excitement. I was just kina existing in it.

I've been single now for about 5 or 6 years and I've never really saw a guy. If one tried to show interest I got weird and ended up pushing them away. Then at the same time I'd lament about being lonely and possibly never marrying despite wanting to and wanting to have a family.

Now I'm still questioning but maybe I'm not bi. Maybe I'm a lesbian? Maybe I've been confusing platonic love for romantic with men.

[soft-cristobalite]

The most girlfriends to ever girlfriend

[applebees4prez]

he went to divalicious university to get a masters in slayage while majoring in cuntology with a minor in mothering

[zainmalik]

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[jianqzai]

A little one-shot I wrote for ace week <3

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Sizhui didn't remember when was the last time he felt this nervous while making his way towards the Jingshi. Maybe it was last year, when he went in an unauthorized night hunt with Jingyi. Upon their return, they had been screamed at by the elders, and then they were sent to his father to ask for punishment.

They had been scared for nothing, since it turned out Hanguang-Jun had only been worried about their well-being because they hadn't informed anyone of their whereabouts. Sizhui was crushed into a hug, and Jingyi, much to his delight, also got to be fussed over.

His father had assigned them a light punishment only for not asking for his assistance, but congratulated them for taking the initiative of helping those in need, even the ones the sect might not think worthy enough.

Now, he was walking towards the Jingshi out of his own volition, as it was his habit every time he returned from a night hunt. His nervousness had a more personal cause. Despite being a grown up, Sizhui always went to his father when something was bothering him — there was something about his calm countenance that made you feel cared for as he listened to you intently — he also gave good advice, and if there was nothing to do, he knew how to provide comfort.

So, as experience had taught him, he was certain his father wasn’t going to judge him for what he wanted to tell him, and still…

"Come in," came a reply from the other side of the door. Sizhui did as instructed, bowing upon entrance and removing his boots. "A-Yuan" To others, his father might have looked the same, but years of living with him had made Sizhui a great Hanguang-Jun interpreter and translator. He could hear the warmth in his voice and see the almost there smile directed at him, showing how pleased he was to see him.

"Baba."

"How was your trip?"

"We managed to subdue the spirits without much fight, we even had time to explore a bit." He produced out of his sleeve the sweets he had bought for them to share. His father's eyes lit up. "I hadn't seen these ones before, I thought we could try them together."

His father took one, inspected it, and then ate it. He looked at him in approval, Sizhui beamed and took one for himself, closing his eyes in pleasure at how good it tasted. It was citrusy, but not at the point of making it unbearable.

“I'll definitely buy more if we ever go back to that region.”

"Hm, good idea" His father said, while popping another treat into his mouth.

They kept talking about the hunt, about Sizhui’s studies and the composition he was trying to complete for one of his classes. It was normal, but he knew it was noticeable how not into the conversation he was.

"A-Yuan, everything alright?" His father asked, after the third time he missed one of his questions.

"Yes!" He replied, too quick and high-pitched to be genuine. He winced. "I mean no? It's not really a big deal, I just…"

His father waited patiently for him to gather his thoughts. This is why he loved talking to him, there was no pressure. Despite that, Sizhui dropped his gaze to his hands, it was easier that way.

"I saw by mistake, a few months ago, a letter about a marriage proposal for me. I was not snooping! I just came to drop something for you, but you weren't here, and when I walked to leave it at your desk, I saw my name so I got curious and—”

"It's alright,” came the calm reply, stopping his ramblings. He nodded and took a deep breath.

"Right. I know you will never pressure me into anything, that’s not— that’s not the problem. I was just shocked because before that day, I hadn't considered marriage as a real thing. As something I will need to eventually do, to fulfill my duty and have children. It also made me notice more how others act, flirting and eager to be in relationships and I—"

He paused again. Should he tell him how some of his peers talk explicitly about the things they do with their partners when they are unsupervised, and how uncomfortable that makes him feel? Or how he witnessed, for the first time ever, the way Jingyi was flirting with the girl that sold him the food they just ate and how that made his whole world come crashing down?

He really wanted to, but the more he thought about it, the more the words didn’t come. All the while he was fidgeting with his fingers, the tea cup, the candy wrappers. A big, warm hand came to rest on top of his, halting his movements and making him relax immediately. His father was looking at him in that intense way of his that meant, ‘You can tell me anything, it’s alright’

Sizhui had been the recipient of that look many times before: when the other kids were calling him names, and he came home crying, when the elders were mean to him and to stop listening to them, he had stopped going to the main hall to eat, or when he had sneakily acquired more rabbits from a trip he made with his uncle, trying his best to explain to his father why they needed more.

And each and every time, he knew he was not going to be screamed at, or be unfairly scolded. Instead, he was going to be listened with rapt attention.

"I think .... I think I'm not like everyone else.” He settled at last. “I don't want those things. I don't want to fall in love and marry, or have to produce heirs. I have Jingyi, and for me that's enough". Or at least, he will have him until he also decided to start courting and then marrying.

The thought made something bitter curl in his stomach. It was not jealousy, he noted, only sadness, a deep-bone sorrow at the thought of being left behind. The more he grew up, the more it felt like that, as if he and everyone else were in a race, but with different pacing and goals, moving apart with each step they took.

“I see. Have you talked to Jingyi about this?

“What? No, why would I, I don’t want to hold him back from finding someone he likes. Someone that could love him back the way normal people do.”

His father frowned slightly at his words.

“Not wanting what everyone else desires, does not make you abnormal, A-Yuan. It only makes you different. And that’s not a bad thing.”

“I suppose not,” he said, looking down, trying very hard to not cry, “but it does make you feel alone.” A small intake of breath made him look up again, his father’s eyes were so full of sadness, he felt bad for putting it there.

“It is difficult, but you don’t have to be alone. Talk with Jingyi, I am sure he will understand.”

“And what should I tell him. ‘Jingyi, I don’t want you to marry anyone, because I want us to be together all the time, but not in a couple kind of way, just like friends!’” He was desperately  trying to keep the conversation lighter, but the reminder of losing his friend made the tears finally fall down. “What if he wants to marry, I can’t hold onto him forever.”

His father let go of his hand, which worked for him, because he was openly crying and he needed his two sleeves to dry his tears. He felt him settle next to him moments later, and then arms were pulling him into an embrace. He cried angry tears, at the injustice of everything and at himself, for making it a big deal.

Finally, his sobs turned into hiccups, but his father didn’t release him. He kept him enveloped in his arms, like he used to do when he was smaller. Sizhui was grateful he hadn’t had to ask for this small comfort.

“A marriage is nothing more than a partnership between two people, or more, if that's what the ones involved wish. Only they can decide how to honor that vow. Just as there are loveless unhappy marriages, with children involved, there could also be happy ones with none. Marriages where romantic love is not the binding force.”

Could he truly do that? Wait. Was he—?

“Are you suggesting I propose to Jingyi? I’m only 15.”

His father’s chest moved in silent laughter, rocking him gently in place.

“Hm, you’re too young, maybe when you’re my age.”

This time he was the one laughing. He finally dislodged himself from their embrace, accepting the cloth provided to wipe his nose and face.

“Thank you for telling me. I will always support and love you, no matter what.” Before Sizhui had any time to start tearing up again, he continued. “I believe my brother could be of more assistance than myself in this regard, since he is of your same mind.” It was true his uncle had not married yet, despite being the Sect Leader and had the bigger responsibility to provide heirs, but it had never occurred to Sizhui that it could have been because he didn’t want to. “Do you want me to talk to him?”

“Hm, yes, I would like that. And afterward, I will talk to Jingyi, I promise”

“Do you want to stay here tonight? I can ask for dinner and prepare your room.”

“Yes please, thank you baba.”

[ozymandiasdirge]

minor story spoilers for ttok

i can forgive so fucking many of nintendo’s crimes but straightwashing sidon is crossing the rubicon im about to start fucking biting

[confusedamphibian]

What if… lesbian ix elizabetta with comhet...

[mushroominlove]

It was kinda weird to like,, age out of some of my f/os but now I think it's rlly funny bc like- thats my ex!! that's my best friend!! ! I set them up with their current s/o and I know all their secrets !!!! it's so fun and silly I think

[spacehero-23]

tsc sexuality headcanons (+ canon sexualities) the lightwood family

gabriel and cecily being the only straight lightwoods is really funny to me ok?

and I feel like robert suffered from a major case of comhet (give me the circle novella cassie!!)

[loopscereal]

Día 6: Ship con flores/hojas

Toddy, eres el caso más grave de comhet que he visto en toda mi vida explicación debajo del corte

Malva (usagi/bonbon) se ve tan mal en esto srgsth lmao pero ya que? lo hecho esta hecho Las flores que puse alrededor de Malva (usagi/bonbon) se llaman malvas lol. Uh creo que fue multi quien me dijo he existian esas flores ¡Así que muchas gracias por la ayuda inderecta! Okeyyy en nuestro au (Pia e yo) Malva y Bon son hermanos, gemelos. Ambos son trans (que sorptesa. casi todos son lmao trans highschool) y solo "cambearon de lugar" en su niñes para poder ser si mismos. Toddy los conocia a los dos desde la infancia (como originamente conocia a Bon.) Y le gustaba estar con "Bon" y en un punto se volveo romantico pero no lo reconocia haci xq la nena no entiende nada (dicho con amor) . Bon y Malva no le han dicho a nadie esto xq riezga sus seguridades y xq "en serio no importa tanto". Esto incluye Toddy, quien sigue pensando que el "Bon" que le gustaba pasar el tiempo con, es el Bon de ahorita, cuando en verdad es Malva.

[askthebutch]

Im kind of like, new to lesbian culture and butch culture. Im 15, I've known I liked girl since I was like, 9 or 10. And I spent most of that time convinced I was bi or pan because of comhet or whatever. Anyway, I wanna know if you have any advice on how to start dressing more butch? And just like more butch media I can interact with and go through to learn more about it

Be cautious in online spaces that are geared towards lesbians and butches, since most of the folks on there are adults and will be discussing adult themes.

Dressing butch, and butch media. When you try on a new gender expression, most folks start with undergarments. That way it's private and you can decide if you feel more confident before you start changing stuff people will notice. Most butches I know wear sports bras, boxer briefs, and ugly ass crew socks. Sports bras weren't an option for me until after my breast reduction, so I wore minimizing bras. I likes Hanes womens' boxer briefs and their white crew socks (ugly I know but trust they are so comfy you'll never go back).

For clothing, it's all about the fit and hem lines. You'll have to try on a bunch of clothes to find what really works for you.

For shorts, try women's soccer shorts because they have a lower hem line than shit like nike shorts, but they won't swallow you like men's basketball shorts. For pants and jeans, tighter is going to read as feminine but that doesn't mean you should wear parachute pants. (google mc hammer and don't tell me you've never hear U Can't Touch This) Go for bootcut or straightcut jeans. You might have formals or dances or something in which case I recommend getting a women's tuxedo.

For shirts, get you a multipack of t shirts from the men's section. Great place to start. Men's t shirts aren't as clingy as women's, they're cheaper, they have pockets, and they're a little longer in the torso. Pair a t-shirt with a casual open button up (like a flannel) and you've got yourself a look that killed it back when I was in school with my fellow dinosaurs. I tuck the t shirt into my jeans and wear a leather or recycled bike tire belt with a buckle I found at an antique store.

Ultimately, it's more about what makes you confident than what aligns with the gender expression you're aiming for.

If you saw me at a coffee shop, I'd be wearing crocs or beat up work sneakers, Levi 401 jeans, a big hoodie, and maybe a baseball cap. I also like to paint my nails black and wear the same two necklaces I've worn since I was like 12. That's what makes me confident.

[chiefbeifongcanrailme]

2, 8 and 15 for violence 😈

2) a compelling argument for why your fave would never top or bottom You guys see Lin Beifong, right? She's always in charge. She's always commanding the room. She fights through the day and into the nigh. SO WHEN SHE'S IN BED SHE JUST WANTS TO BE TAKEN CARE OF, OKAY? I DON'T TAKE CRITICISM.

8) common fandom opinion that everyone is wrong about Lin Beifong is a gruff masc lesbian who only loves Kya and dated Tenzin because she was comhet? SHUT UP.

15) that one thing you see in fanart all the time Mmmmm, Lin? lol. I don't particularly have complaints: but I guess I get peeved when Lin isn't represented properly in fanart?

I woke up this morning and chose violence.

[wonderr-skyy]

I was extemely lucky that I didn't get the comphet from media (tho I was extremely unlucky that I got the comphet from my family...) because I grew up with anime: I read & watched Card Captor Sakura as a 9 year old and onwards, so I wasn't exposed to comhet western shows at all! I only grew up with mangas & animes as a kid. So when I learned about queer people in real life I never had this phase of thinking it's weird. Tho I still had to deal with homophobic familes and stuff... that's another issue lol. But in terms of media influence I was very lucky I never had that issue <3

[rhfffas]

PLZ stop comparing heartstopper with c dramas

This is so upsetting to read, before you defend chinese danmei dramas I urge you at least do some research abt real queer experience in China. 

China is a totalitarian state and anti-lgbtq, the government do not allow actual queer content showing in tv or even in web series. So even if the mangas the books are abt actual queer characters, the live action tv adaptation is QUEER ERASURE. It’s not even queerbaiting cuz queerbaiting shows usually do acknowledge queer ppl existence. BUT Chinese censorship do not acknowledge queer ppl existence. Queerness is NOT allowed appear in tv. So the danmei/yuri c dramas are strictly “brotherhood””sisterhood”, with comhet. Yes, the Compulsory Heterosexuality is everything to China officials cuz they believe its the root of the family and the country. Also, you know China is a place where multiple ethnic group exist right? BUT those tv shows (well not just danmei/yaoi) almost exclusively showing Han Chinese characters, I wonder why.  (re: the Uyghur genocide) Don’t even get me start with the whitewashing of actors/characters in both canon and fandom. And the homophbia&biphobia in fandom is crazy too. Many fans even do not support lgbtq rights, in fact they actively anti-lgbtq cuz they only love those imaginary danmei stories, but do not care abt real queer ppl. Ccp anti lgbtq propaganda is worsening it, so fans prefer cut themselves off from lgbtq community. The homophbia comments are everywhere. Not that diversed and progressive. 

As an opressed chinese queer, I’d say I HATE those danmei/yaoi chinese dramas. They never are my representation and they never will be. They are Cultural Appropriation. They mock at my existence. They are not made by queer ppl they are just money maker for those who have the power to make the show. If you find yourself enjoying those media, suit yourself, just do not say they are more progressive than western media, they are NOT. They are even weaponized against chinese queers who just want to fight for a chance to live, cuz conservatives be like, YOU QUEERS LITERALLY HAVE SO MANY DANMEI/YAOI SHOWS HOW COME YOU SAY YOU ARE OPPRESSED?! But those shows just rly are not queer representation. We chinese queers are still fighting for BEING SEEN. 

Plus, the only Pride event used to held in Shanghai is now banned in China, and just recently China closed the last LGBT center in China. Ppl can get arrested or killed for being trans but media will not report it. Judging ppl by if they go to Pride events or not are so wild, and also, it’s not like danmei/yaoi writers are queers. So many of them are cis straight women. So thats the reason why I dont like chinese danmei/yaoi works cuz they are not realistic. But again, if you enjoy them thats not my business. Just dont say they are real chinese queer experience on my behave.

The point is, if you dont even know anything abt real chinese queer struggles, stop comparing Heartstopper with chinese danmei/yaoi shows and think heartstopper is less than them or just arrgantly say danmei/yaoi authors dont go to pride events! I know so many chinese queers and me included who feel so happy while watching Heartstopper!

Platforms like netflix favor cis white mlm but put zero effects in promoting poc queer shows and queer women shows and cancelling queer women shows is NOT abt c dramas. Dont be that whataboutism. AND dont romanticize c dramas.

[blye-flower]

Stop!!!! Trying!!! To family coded characters with clear romantic interests!!!!!! I don’t give two rats asses about your headcanon, I don’t care that you headcanon the female character as a lesbian with comhet!! I don’t really care that you don’t like the ship and I definitely don’t care that you think they’re better as friends!! Putting that familial spin on a character who’s clearly romantically invested in another character is WEIRD!! Even trying to force your headcanon on people who clearly don’t feel the same without the canonical context is WEIRD!! That is weirdo behavior!!! You’re being a WEIRDO!!!

And before anyone gets their fingers in a twist, no I’m not saying that you can’t headcanon a female character as a lesbian with comhet even with romantic interest for a male character, I’m saying trying to push a FAMILIAL lens onto the character despite her canonically interest being romantic is weird. Y’all say y’all want healthy portrayals of female-male friendships and yet y’all push them into family relations every single time. If you don’t ship them that’s fine, but that doesn’t make them family. Damn.