#destigmatize mental health

[schizospecdreams]

The world is stressful and can be painful but it can be wonderful and light as well. It’s not one or the other, it’s both. Even if it feels like total darkness right now, the good will find you again. In some small way, very soon, you will find the good. I’m sorry you’re in pain. I’m sorry people aren’t always the best at not hurting each other. I’m sorry if you feel alone. You’re really not going to be forever. There’s a billion other people that feel alone and would give anything for a friend like you. Find the good.

I love you, sleep well, have a coffee and take a shower in the morning. Slow down. Don’t worry about anything if you can help it. You’re going to survive this.

[sentanixiv]

I'm 36 hours from when I ran out of my ADHD, depression, and anxiety meds. I get more in two hours, thank fuck.

Good news! My mental health challenges are now unequivocally proven to be 90% brain chemistry.

Bad news! My mental health challenges are unequivocally proven to be 90% brain chemistry AND I have two hours until I can start the correction.

Tip: Never downplay yourself. Meds don't dull, they help (where brain chemistry imbalances are at fault).

[audhdnight]

The first comment is what I said under a video talking about how a certain tv show was “such a good example of how narcissistic abuse and manipulation are overlooked by society”. As if abuse from a narcissist is a special kind that nobody would ever understand if they’d only experienced “regular” abuse. As if only narcissists are abusive to partners. As if the patterns of abuse the creator of the video described were some special kind of abuse that only comes from narcissists, rather than being very common patterns that can be (and are!!!) perpetuated by anyone.

NPD is a (highly stigmatized) disorder. It does not automatically make people abusive. It does not automatically make them bad people. “Narcissistic abuse” DOES NOT EXIST. Just like “autistic abuse” doesn’t exist. If you are being abused by someone who happens to be a narcissist, I truly am sorry for you, but that is just abuse. It’s not a special kind because your abuser has a personality disorder.

Furthermore, you can not be a narcissist if you do not have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Stop calling people narcissists just because they behave in a shitty way to those around them. “Okay but you know what I mean, they’re selfish/an asshole.” SO CALL THEM SELFISH. CALL THEM AN ASSHOLE. Say what you mean rather than contributing to the stigmatization of an already incredibly stigmatized condition.

[laurentlemonke]

I hate how stigmatized schizophrenia is :(

[dodgeryy]

Cluster B: *infighting about which of them needs traction on social media for education and destigmatization*

Cluster C: God they really don't even know we're here, do they.

Cluster A: Oh absolutely fucking not.

HPD: *walking into the room in pajamas* Wait are we doing a thing? I swear to god if they "forget" to tell me ONE MORE GOD DAMN TIME.

[nonbinarymlm]

We Need to Accept that Silly Things Can Hurt People

Please allow me to ruminate a bit more on mental health on this blog. I have ADHD and OCD, both disorders commonly stereotyped and conflated with minor, silly behaviors like yelling SQUIRREL when you see a squirrel and organizing things by color. These stereotypes can often minimize and erase the genuine difficulties and harm that these conditions can cause. That’s very true, and it often causes intense sensitively and knee-jerk denial around stereotypes around this. I don’t think that’s necessarily the best reaction, because sometimes people can have symptoms very similar to these stereotypes.

I think we need to accept that silly things can hurt people. Silly, ridiculous symptoms can devastate people’s lives. People shouldn’t have to react into their painful past and trauma to get people to take their symptoms seriously when those symptoms are silly on their face, because that turns things into a pain competition and can result in gatekeeping how much people must suffer before their seemingly ridiculous symptoms get taken seriously.

I think we just need to, as a society and culture and social norm, accept that silly things can genuinely, sometimes intensely, hurt people. Yes, I do have the impulse to tell an animal’s name when I see that animal, and yes it’s part of my symptoms that makes it harder to me to drive and hold conversations and do basic functioning. Yes, I do worry about incredibly tiny and silly things, that the world’s tiniest cut means I’m literally dying, and this has at times been incredibly miserable to live with and severely inhibited my functioning and nearly lost me a job. Also I’m going to joke about it sometimes because it’s funny. I’m not going to find a joke about it from a stranger with no OCD funny, because they have no idea how much pain it can cause me.

Sometimes these conditions are absurd in ways that are funny. That’s true and people with the conditions should be able to joke about it. But everyone needs to understand, just because a symptom is absurd doesn’t mean it can’t also devastate you and ruin your life. So if you don’t have these conditions and aren’t super close to someone who has them, I think you should be sensitive and avoid joking even if it seems silly and funny. I think there is where true destigmatization lies: accepting that the silly brain can also really hurt.

[uncanny-tranny]

One of the hardest things to actually accept, in my experience, is that you eventually have to forgive yourself for the harm you did to yourself. A good way to move on from that is just being able to let your past self rest in peace. Don't stomp on their resting spot, they need to be at peace. They deserve to be at peace, and so do you.

[sappy-sabbath]

as a society can we stop making mental illness/neurodivergency trendy and romanticized. i know more mf who faked claim than ppl who actually had the condition. at the end it just makes the people who are diagnosed with the condition the butt of the joke or look disingenuous.

ALSO IF I MAY be real for a sec!!! it’s because of the “destigmatizing XYZ 🥺” tiktoks and self diagnosing that make this happen, i know they are good intent and not all people have resources but its one thing to be concerned about your mental health and another to claim to have a disorder that you haven’t been diagnosed with!

autism, ADHD, schizophrenia, BPD, bipolar disorder, psychosis, OCD have all became quirks than serious debilitating condition and as someone with ADHD and psychotic depression IM SICK OF ITTTT, it’s different with things like depression and anxiety bc you experience that at least once in your life but it’s getting out of hand

[fascistsarefreefood]

Maybe we should all start trying to be compassionate to people who fake disorders for attention, you've got to be in a pretty bad headspace to wake up and think to yourself "today I'm going to put hours into faking an illness so people will pay attention to me" and Munchausen syndrome is a real thing that affects real peoples lives

[schizospecdreams]

Not to be dramatic but I literally feel like this changed my whole life. Highly recommend. Hope today is a good one :)

Tw: hey it’s not super clear at the beginning but this is about her life story living with schizophrenia and (what she refers to as) voices. As well as about the stigmatization of certain mental health experiences. Topic will be decently heavy & I felt it painfully relatable at moments, though it’s positive overall. Consume safely!

[entity56]

"mental health symptoms are not an excuse to be a shitty person" and "dehumanizing someone for having struggles you don't understand is inherently a shitty thing to do" are both statements that can go hand in hand btw

[matchalovertrait]

Earlier today at work, Noemí got a call from Dulce's teacher. Apparently, she was being disrespectful in class and didn't do her work as she was told.

Dulce is well-behaved at school, so Noemí was concerned.

Noemí found Dulce watching television and sat down next to her. She turned off the television and held Dulce gently against her. "I heard about what happened today... do you want to talk about it?" Noemi asked. "No..." Dulce mumbled. She knows what she did wrong and she was not proud of it. "Dulce, I know you know better. You need to tell me what happened so I can understand." However, Dulce stayed quiet. After a couple of seconds, Noemí told her, "Remember we said that if you ever need extra help, you just need to speak up." Dulce shot up immediately. "I do! I promise," she exclaimed.

"So what happened, then?" Noemi remained soft-spoken. She tries to model well-guided behavior for her kids. Honestly, it was a little difficult sometimes. Noemi has been known to make dramatic decisions here and there. "Ms. Brusco is mean," Dulce spoke quietly again. "She gets mad when I don't understand and ask questions." Esta vieja.... y es maestra? Noemi sighed deeply. "How about we get you extra help in school? We switch you over to the nice class that has more teachers who can spend more time with you." It was probably time to make that choice. Dulce had been struggling since the beginning of the school year. "I don't want to. I want to be in the same class as Guillermo and Matthew." "You can still play with them at recess, Mija. Also, you see them all the time outside of school. Think about it, please. For me and for yourself."

Dulce looked up at her mom's face. She felt so overwhelmed but she trusted her mom. Dulce then sat on her mom's lap and snuggled against her. "I guess I can try it?" she said in a lighter tone. Noemi smiled. "That's my girl. I'll take care of everything, okay?" "Okay... thank you, Mami."

[this-is-ali]

Y'all, it's 2023. Can we please stop pretending it's cool to hate on Dear Evan Hansen?

[queeresthellhound]

(Image Description: Top Image: A search where someone has typed “how to deal with ASPD”, the search engine suggestion below says the same.

Bottom image: a preview of an article from psychcentral.com titled “Coping With Sociopaths (Antisocial Personality Disorder)”. The preview says “Going no contact is a “game changer” when it comes to relationships with sociopaths. The manipulative input can longer come your way when you stop…”. End of Image Description)

[dodgeryy]

Having a PD means never being able to express your support needs without being sen as evil and manipulative. Even when other mental illnesses require the same support.

Example: You are going to a big and your friend expresses that they have anxiety and they ask you to check up on them throughout the night and not leave them alone with these people they don't know to quell their anxiety and avoid a panic attack.

Generally not frowned upon! If you're in a space to help, help!

Uh oh... here comes the plot twist the anxiety is manifesting as a symptom of their NPD. They want to enjoy this party with you but their emotional dysregulation and reaction to external stimuli means that depending on who's at this party they could have a really bad time. And they don't know! And that's anxiety inducing. Suddenly, even though this is a real anxiety and a stressor for them because the anxiety is rooted NPD they're more likely to be met with adverse response instead of support.

This goes for basically all other personality disorders. Persotypicals have this weird fucking idea that PD brains simply cannot experience life without praying on other people. Sometimes support is just support yall. You're not being vampired. Be nice.

PWPDs also struggle to ask for support bc they've been told that they're support needs are predatory and manipulative and either don't think they deserve support, or are scared of the response.

[wetforestrat]

I’m just so fucking tired of seeing and having to block mental health accounts on instagram because they believe in narc abuse😭😭 like come on everything else you were saying was mad helpful until you opened your fat mouth hating on traumatized individuals my golly!