My sister puts glasses away upside down.
Because our mother does,
Because her mother did,
Because her mother lived through the Dust Bowl.
One day my father sat me down and told me about epigenetics.
How the trauma he went through
As a child in an abusive home
Wrote itself into his DNA
And, in turn, into mine.
How he and his brothers,
In various ways,
Are all sick from it.
How I might be too, someday,
And I’m not sure I’m not.
I hear people say,
When will we get back to normal?
And I think of a woman born in the twenty-first century
Who puts her glasses away differently
Because of what her great-grandmother endured
Ninety years before.
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My therapist was so real for saying the meaning of life is found in connection.
People hug their friends when they meet up and hug them a little tighter when it comes time to say goodbye. My grandfather rebuilt the broken rocking horse my grandmother had as a child, a gift from her father. There's an indescribable ache that goes along with seeing someone you used to know intimately, the becoming of a common stranger. Coincidences that bind, one time I got an uber and the driver used to live in my home before me. It was the last place he saw his father alive as a child and he nearly cried when I told him the walls were still the same colour.
Has anyone ever gotten over their childhood best friend? Is that alone not a testament to the fact we are more than blood and bones.
It's all about connection, friends.
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This post is for everyone with trauma that is that is difficult to explain to people who haven't lived it.
It's for everyone who has ever talked about their trauma and had to explain why their experience was traumatizing.
It's for everyone who has ever talked about their trauma and had it compared to something normal, because people don't get that what happened to you was not normal.
This post is for everyone traumatized by:
growing up in dysfunctional families
sibling abuse
hoarding or growing up in an unsafe/unsanitary environment
parents struggling with mental illness or addiction who were abusive or neglectful despite their good intentions or best efforts
not getting support to deal with things like grief or disasters
parentification or emotional enmeshment with a parent
anything else not included on this short list of examples
Your trauma is real. You deserve to be heard and understood. You deserve compassion and kindness as you recover.
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Brennan tearing up at this part was so heartwrenching. I don't think I've ever seen him break like this. As someone who's been in the unfair position of having to comfort my parents, this scene cut to my soul.
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girls be like “fighting demons😤🤪” and the demons be their moms
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